What is the distinction between self-pity and empathy? Luke explores this crucial difference this week with his guest, Alana Gordon (LMFT, betrayal trauma coach, and Director at Choose Recovery Services).
Together they discuss how self-pity, often mistaken for genuine remorse, can actually block authentic connection and prevent real healing. Through their personal story of betrayal and recovery, they reveal why well-intentioned attempts to show remorse can backfire, and they share insights about how to create space for true healing and growth.
Chapters
01:08 The Harm of Self-Pity
04:33 Performative Actions
07:42 Humility vs Self-Pity
08:51 The Drama Triangle
12:58 Accountability
19:08 Unmasked Intensive
Learn more about Alana Gordon and tune in to her podcast Choose To Be.
Watch the episode on YouTube HERE
Coming Up!
Unmasked: Paths to Authentic Masculinity for Men - This is a three-day live intensive designed to help men delve deep into understanding integrity, unveiling layers of shame, and reclaiming their authentic selves. Intensive will be held in Spanish Fork, UT on Jan 15-17, 2025. Learn more and register HERE.
Revive and Thrive: Betrayal Trauma Intensive for Women - This four-day retreat aims to provide a holistic and nurturing environment for women to heal through somatic body work. Learn to reconnect with your body, process your trauma, and build resilience. Join us January 22-25, 2025 in Spanish Fork, Utah. Register HERE.
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Wanting more? Choose Recovery Services offers many courses specifically for men:
Beyond the Facade: Men’s Healing Group - This group helps men move through the pains of addiction, relationship heal
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