In this episode of Beyond Your Number, Damon and Kelly unpack how silence, quick responses, or even well-intentioned pauses can land painfully with a Type 4. For Fours, depth, authenticity, and connection are everything and when we don’t respond, they can misinterpret it as rejection, abandonment, or being “too much.”
We’ll explore why this happens, share personal stories, and offer practical ways to communicate so Fours feel seen, valued, and understood. If you have a Type 4 in your life (or if you are one) you’ll walk away with simple but powerful tools to strengthen connection and reduce miscommunication.
What Not to Say (or Do) to a Type 4
Silence with no explanation: heard as “You’re not worth responding to.”
Ignoring their message (text or in person): feels like abandonment or rejection.
Moving on too quickly after they share communicates “Your feelings don’t matter.”
No acknowledgment of their depth or creativity feels like invisibility.
Silent treatment experienced as punishment.
What to Say Instead
“I heard what you shared, and I just need a moment to think about it. I’m here with you.”
“This really matters to me. I want to slow down so I can respond thoughtfully.”
“Even though I’m quiet, I want you to know I care.”
“I value your authenticity and creativity, thank you for sharing this with me.”
“Let’s circle back tomorrow so I can give this the attention it deserves.”
Reframe for the 4: Ask yourself, “Is this silence rejection, or is it reflection?”
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