Sometimes we’re not horny for the person — we’re horny for the moment.
In this episode, we break down ten situations where arousal, curiosity, and freedom can trick us into choices we might regret later. From being high off validation, to mixing sex and substances, to chasing fantasy instead of connection — this is our honest guide to slowing down before the vibe turns into chaos.
We talk about social arousal, bi panic, party & play, and how being truly seen can feel erotic when you’ve lived life half-hidden. We’re not here to judge desire — we’re here to understand it.
Join us as we learn to recognize when we’re acting from the moment instead of our truth, and how self-control can actually deepen our freedom.
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Referenced in This Episode
Diamond, Lisa M. (2008). Sexual Fluidity: Understanding Women’s Love and Desire.
Journal of Sex Research (2016). Context-Dependent Arousal and Emotional Contagion.
Kleinplatz, Peggy J. (2018). Arousal and Intimacy Beyond Desire Models.
American Psychological Association (2022). The Psychology of Arousal and Identity.
Planned Parenthood (2023). Demisexuality and Emotional Attraction Explained.
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