Embracing Feminine Men

In this episode of Bi+ Black Men: The Podcast, we explore what it really means for men to embrace femininity—without apology and without losing themselves.

We unpack how patriarchy created a single, standardized image of manhood that left little room for softness, creativity, or grace. Together, we talk about masculinity as a performance, femininity as energy, and why so many of us are reclaiming balance instead of living in boxes.

We also discuss the value of fem-presenting men, how colonialism erased gender fluidity in African and Indigenous cultures, and gentle ways to lean into feminine energy—through expression, movement, and self-care. This conversation celebrates everyone connected to manhood, masculinity, and male identity in any form.

Referenced in This Episode

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• Oyěwùmí, Oyeronke. The Invention of Women: Making an African Sense of Western Gender Discourses. (1997).

• Way, Niobe. Deep Secrets: Boys’ Friendships and the Crisis of Connection. (2011).

• American Psychological Association (2022). Toxic Masculinity and Emotional Expression. apa.org

• Journal of Men’s Studies (2019). Masculine Gender Role Conflict and Emotional Well-Being.

• Rose, Tricia. The Hip Hop Wars. (2008).