July 5, 2024 • 53 mins
Ever wondered how TV shows like Bridgerton are reshaping our perceptions of body positivity and sexuality? Join us as we uncover Nicola Coughlin's empowering stance on body image and her witty response to the press, all while debating Hollywood's narrow definition of plus size. We also tackle the evolving portrayal of sex scenes in Bridgerton, noting the community's mixed reactions to the shift away from explicit content. Our admiration for Nicola shines through as we advocate for more diverse body representations on the small screen.
Shifting gears, we celebrate Nicola Coughlin beyond Bridgerton, spotlighting her activism, especially her support for Palestine. We reflect on the latest Bridgerton season, appreciating its character development and feel-good vibes. As we stroll down memory lane remembering TV series with 23-episode seasons, we offer a humorous critique of Bridgerton’s historical liberties and share our excitement for future seasons and deeper character arcs.
In our deep dive into diverse sexualities, we shed light on less-discussed identities like AroAce and demisexuality, explaining their unique nuances. We kicked off our new Unplugged mini-episodes with artist Kat Coulter, sharing her fears of live appearances and insights on balancing engaging content for social media. Wrapping up, we discuss personal experiences with sex toys and the importance of building a supportive fat girl community for open discussions about body positivity and sexuality. Don’t forget to subscribe to BigSexyChat to stay connected with our vibrant community!
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Speaker 1 (00:04):
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(00:25):
Welcome and enjoy.
Hi, welcome back to Big SexyChat.
I'm here with my co-host, Murph, and my name is Crystal.
We're so happy to have you andto be back on track for our fun
and favorite, loving, mostexciting podcast.
Murph, what's going?
Speaker 2 (00:40):
on.
Hey, it's been a while sincewe've done just a standard kind
of format, so we've got somestuff to catch up on.
I am not sure if you have seenBridgerton.
Let's talk about it.
Speaker 1 (00:55):
I've seen four episodes but I want to hear all
about it.
I'm loving it so far, but Ihaven't seen any perfect breasts
yet, but I'm waiting.
Speaker 2 (01:01):
Yes, so Nicola Coughlin, she is the star of
this series and she gotinterviewed, or she was
interviewed by someone on thepress junket and basically they
asked her about her body typeand her response was just
(01:21):
absolutely beautiful.
She said basically like oh, youmean being a member of the
Perfect Breast Club?
Which they are, the PerfectBreast Club.
Like holy, yeah, like fantastic.
Speaker 1 (01:37):
Yeah, and make those assholes explain what they mean
Exactly.
When someone says a racist joke, you're like I'm sorry, I don't
understand what do you mean?
Can you explain it to me?
And they're like oh, I'm afucking idiot.
That's what she did to them,right?
Speaker 2 (01:48):
That's exactly what she did to them.
It was a good like oh, yeah,yeah, no, my type, my body type,
yeah, you mean the perfectbreasts.
Yes, it was so perfectlysarcastic.
Um, you know, that's hasbrought up a lot of conversation
.
Uh, in our community there'sbeen a lot of talk about, um, do
(02:08):
we perceive Nicola as plus size?
First of all, um, there wassomebody actually on the
internet comparing her to likethe Kate Winslet of the Titanic
time and how people were like,oh, kate Winslet is so brave for
you know, and it's like Nicolaand Kate Winslet, both at that
time were what?
Maybe a size 10?
Maybe, I mean, it's really,it's not what I would define as
(02:39):
plus size.
Now, is it something that'svery uncommon that you see in
mainstream media?
A thousand percent, but that'snot in my eyes and I'm curious
what your opinion is.
But I'm hearing all thesepeople be like oh well, you know
, they're not allowing this orthat, or they're doing this or
that because of her size, andit's like well, I mean, we don't
usually see someone that has avery round face, you know, and
(02:59):
so that is very different fromyou.
You know, the standard kind ofstarlet that you see these days,
but nothing about her.
I mean, she wears skims, she'sone of the new representatives
for skims and that's a very well, it's a trash you know thing,
because it's Kardashian as faras I'm concerned, but that's
(03:21):
like they go up to size 12, ifthat you know.
So it's like.
So we're not really talkingabout somebody who's you know
reached some Mecca of quoteunquote, plus size you know
being displayed.
Speaker 1 (03:32):
I was wondering if we knew her size, but that that
does help explain it a littlebit.
So in the fashion world youknow, if you're oversized for
you're considered plus size andthen when you are actually plus
size which I think most peopledefine as 14 and higher then
that's considered plus size andbelow that is considered
straight size.
Don't ask me why straight orplus.
(03:53):
It's so strange, but we allknow Hollywood, you know you're
basically people trying to be azero, a size zero or double zero
, and she definitely is not that.
But she's definitely not fat inmy opinion.
My opinion.
She just is a little bitshorter, on the shorter side of
life.
She has honking boobs and whenyou're shorter it makes you look
sort of fat.
She has a cute cherubic face.
It's very adorable andbeautiful and I have a girl
(04:15):
crush on her.
But I know, like zillions ofpeople do.
And, yeah, maybe she can beconsidered a small fat, but not
as far as fashion is considered.
Speaker 2 (04:32):
The fashion rules, rules, that is anyway.
Yeah, and I I think there'sthere's some, you know, uh up in
arms, uh within the community,especially thinking, you know
terms of like they didn't, um,move forward with.
I guess there were extra scenesthat were filmed, um sex scenes
specifically, and they didn't,you know, those got the cut from
the actual series and so peopleare like they're not showing as
much sex because she's plussize.
I really don't agree with that.
(04:54):
After watching the first seasonof Bridgerton which, hello,
that's the reason all of us gotinto this because every scene
had sex in it, which wasincredible.
All of us got into this becauseevery scene had sex in it,
which was incredible.
But ever since then there hasbeen less and less and less sex.
Just in general, like I felt,like the second episode or the
second series about the brother.
(05:15):
I love the characters, but Iwas like when are they going to
hook up?
And it wasn't until like thevery, very end and it was only
one scene.
So it was just like this wassuch a letdown.
And then, with Queen Charlotte,there wasn't you know as much.
So it's like we get here to thisseason three and it's hyped
like crazy because it's notsomebody you normally see on
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screen in a sexual manner.
Thank you, american public, formaking that happen.
But we're trying to make thosechanges and so we start to see
these options and then peopleget super upset because they're
like, well, you're doing thisbecause she's plus size and you
don't want to show her body, andI don't think that's accurate.
(05:57):
I think they want to reach amore general, broad audience and
have people be into the romanceof the stories for Bridgerton
and not so much the sex.
So I think it's one of thoselike, let's kind of um, play it
down so that we can get a largeraudience.
And then those people that wantto go back and read the books.
That has lots of smut in it andI love the word dirty.
(06:20):
I love it dirty girl murphy yeahright, I'm hoping we're gonna
have someone on here very soontalking about fat girls and
fiction and you know so, um.
But yeah, it's like if you canget this audience, then they'll
go back and read the books theone they're old enough, you know
, or their parents allow them,or whatever.
But I really feel like thisseries has been kind of the
(06:44):
standard of Bridgerton series.
I don't think it's somethingthat they're doing because of
her weight at all.
I think it's just that they wanta broader audience, and you
can't do that with Smut.
Speaker 1 (06:54):
How can I get access to Bridgerton Uncut Like?
Is there a bloopers reel?
I want to see it all.
Speaker 2 (07:01):
Seriously.
I'm like let's put those scenesback in there.
I want to know what's upbridgerton x-rated, r-rated
that's right, the nc-17bridgerton.
Now I will say, this seriesfeatured something I was not
expecting to see but was glad tosee there was some polyamory
themes to it.
Speaker 1 (07:21):
And so that was interesting.
Speaker 2 (07:22):
I was very excited to see that they didn't go into
depth with that either.
You know, it's very much justlike kissing and touching, which
is what you saw a lot ofbetween Nicola and Luke, but you
know, Luke.
(07:49):
But you know it's very much adifferent approach than what
they normally do and it's beenkind of a progressive series, I
would say, like it starts totalk about some things in this
series, especially about likethe patriarchy and just the
plight of women and like havingthe option for freedom and what
does your voice mean, and thosetypes of things.
So I was like all right, I'mliking this.
Speaker 1 (08:08):
you know poly stuff happening and where we're going
with this I want to tellbridgerton people pump the
brakes on this whole idea ofmaking it more generic.
No, go lean into the sacks.
That's what sells.
We all know that.
Uh, also sidebar, our lovelyproducer just confirmed that
nicola's size is size 10.
Size 10,?
Yeah, and she's probably reallyunder tall right.
(08:29):
She's not real super tall.
Speaker 2 (08:31):
She's got to be, yeah , fairly, but she's I love it.
I love that.
You know she's got like somevery round features and features
that you don't see.
But yeah, I'm just, I reallyget stuck on that Like um, but
uh, yeah, I'm just, I really getstuck on that, like we're not
really talking plus size hereand if, if y'all aren't okay
with her, like you're really notgonna be okay with me.
Speaker 1 (08:52):
We're fucked.
We're so screwed.
Yeah, she's adorable, though.
I love her whatever size she is, but I know the world is making
it um a little bit intense, Iguess, about her.
What else has she been in?
Why do I know her already?
What do I know her from?
Speaker 2 (09:06):
just no irish show daryl what's it called, uh darby
girls, or yeah, darby girls,dairy or dary, I forget, it was
so cute though, yeah, I did, Ididn't watch it, uh, but you
know, I think that she's um, Ithink she's a great actress and
she's.
She's kind of like a politicalactivist too.
She just raised a ton of moneyfor palestine, which is amazing.
(09:28):
Um, you know to be on this tourand like wearing the pins so
that people have to see it youknow, and they, because they're
the media is really big on likeoh, we don't want you to, you
know, wear anything that hasthat.
So I think she's done reallygreat.
I think she's got a fantasticcareer ahead of her.
Speaker 1 (09:46):
I love when people use their platform too.
It's like, yeah, get it, you,take advantage of it while you
have it, because we all knowwhen you're in Hollywood, once
you're like over 40, you're done.
But she's doing some reallycool work out there.
I would love to see her as thehost on SNL.
Oh yeah, That'd be fun.
She might this year becauseshe's been, so she's like.
(10:07):
She's like the media darlingright now isn't she, she is yeah
she really is, and so the bookis supposed to be naughtier oh,
they're much naughtier, oh yeahI guess there's a second
carriage scene in the book thatdid not make the cut of the show
.
Oh, yeah, I, yeah, I like them.
Do you ever listen to books ontape or whatever Audiobooks?
Oh yeah, it's my favorite.
(10:29):
Yes, much easier for me and myADHD brain to listen to a book
than read it anymore.
So it's my freakinghysterectomy.
Speaker 2 (10:36):
Seriously, I'll start reading and then I'll be like
wait, what did I just?
Read I got to go back and I goback, and then I go back, and
then I'm already squirrelingagain.
So yeah, audio books are my,are my way to go anymore.
But there definitely going to bea few more episodes of
Bridgerton, I mean seasons ofBridgerton, I think so they
really did put a bow on it,though If they wanted to be like
we're done At least I felt likethat I mean, you could
(10:59):
definitely get more in depthinto the characters.
I've heard a lot of peoplecalling for the Bridgerton mom
to be featured.
Speaker 1 (11:08):
She's a widower.
Speaker 2 (11:10):
And, like in this story, things kind of progress,
and so I don't know.
I think you know there'sdefinitely a lot of opportunity
there, but if they wanted to,they technically could have been
done after this season, Please.
Speaker 1 (11:23):
Sondra, we need you.
You know, shonda, we need you.
And off the air, whatever youwant to call it.
Murph and I were talking aboutat 56, when I was young, tv
shows had 23 episodes.
This eight-episode crap is notfor me.
I don't like it.
I was watching Fallout it wasonly eight episodes.
We're watching Acolyte it'sonly eight episodes.
Like, what is the deal witheight episodes?
(11:46):
I need more.
Oh, the Last of Us, I need more.
I need a whole season, 23episodes, please.
Speaker 2 (11:49):
The good old days, right, exactly when there would
be so much content, we didn'teven know what to do with it.
And now it's like, oh, we'regoing to break it up into two
months, like my into two months.
Like my husband was like, wait,I thought that bridgerton
already came out and I was like,yes, but it was only four
episodes.
And now it's like now it's juneand then they're going to
(12:10):
release the last four.
And he was like this is thedumbest thing ever.
I don't want to hear any moreabout it.
Speaker 1 (12:14):
Yeah, I'm with james.
Is there anything else aboutbridgerton?
We should bring up that.
Speaker 2 (12:18):
We uh, I just love any of the, any of the um scenes
with the modiste and theclothes and stuff it just, I
really enjoyed this season justfor the character development
and like it was very much aredemption story for a lot of
different players in this series, and so it was nice to see that
all come together at the end.
(12:40):
And I think that's why I was sosurprised that there was not a
post-marriage sex scene, becauseI was like we're doing all this
really great characterdevelopment, all right, like
it's going to happen and we'regoing to see like all this, like
amazing, and then it didn'thappen and I was just like wait,
the series is over, wait, wait,nobody.
No, I didn't agree to this,like whoa whoa, whoa, whoa no, I
(13:06):
didn't agree to this.
Speaker 1 (13:06):
Like whoa, whoa, whoa .
How about the two sisters?
They didn't really realize thatthat sex means like penis in
your vagina and they're, youknow in that era for sure that
was like allowed, but theydidn't even know.
Like, yeah, well, we're notdoing it correctly.
Yeah, no, you're not doing itcorrectly.
Where that's so funny.
Yeah, yeah, I love it and yeah,I hope, I hope for more
bridgerton.
One thing I noticed because Ihadn't.
It took me a little while toget caught up.
(13:27):
The first episode just left mesmiling.
I was like, oh, I miss this.
It's nice to watch somethingthat's more fluffy and light and
, just like you know, the worldis so dark right now.
It's just like, oh, I was likesmiling all day the next day.
I was like I have to watch thenext second episode.
So now I'm through the firstfour.
Speaker 2 (13:45):
Now I got to watch the last four, so good, and I
one thing I really appreciatedabout this season was the, the
relationship between the twomain characters, because it, yes
, it, it was very sexy, but itwas very much about like I want
(14:08):
to appreciate and love thisaspect of you in all these
different ways and it was veryvocal, especially coming from a
man like um the the things thatwomen want to hear of.
Like I'm consumed by the thoughtof you like that's fucking sexy
as hell.
Like you know, like that's thekind of stuff that gets girls
charged up, and so it's likeokay, like they spent a lot of
(14:28):
really solid time having thathappen, and so I think that that
really made you want the sexstuff even more, because it was
just like I'm melting over here.
I can only imagine what it'slike having him breathing on
your neck while he's saying thisoh man, put your penis in my
mouth now right, the hock to agirl's uh pretty popular right
(14:52):
now.
Speaker 1 (14:53):
Honestly, it just shows us in bridgerton you're
gonna get the hock to we talkabout our next subject in the
article in the guardian I wantedto say a bridgerton, uh, more
fat sex.
B to the world more fat sex,more fat characters having sex,
because, guess y'all, we have alot of sex too.
And then, c, I wanted to remindpeople that they can also watch
us on YouTube.
(15:13):
We're trying to get our YouTubechannel in shape, so make sure
you check out Big Sexy Chat onYouTube.
But, murph, let's talk aboutthe article in the Guardian
article in the Guardian.
Speaker 2 (15:29):
Yeah, so it's beach day, and it's beach day in New
York which means everybody goesto the beach right, yep?
Well, it is for fat people,because they have fat beach day
where you can go to the go tothe ocean, lay on the sand, play
in the water with a whole groupof fat folk and talk about less
intimidating, talk aboutbuilding community, talk about
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all these amazing things.
And the Guardian has not alwaysbeen a news organization that
puts fat people in any sort ofpositive light, and so I was
very like I'm not clicking onthis article.
Um, cause there's there's thisgorgeous fat girl, jordan Hall.
Uh, who's the model?
She's?
If you see the article, she'slaying out on the um sand in a
(16:13):
two piece and just fuckinggorgeous.
And I'm like this is gonna,they're going to shit all over
this.
Like I'm just in my brain,right, right.
(16:35):
This like I'm just in my brain,right, right.
So I clicked on it and I'mactually reading through and
olivia empson, who wrote it, um,wow, kudos to you.
Like this was a really wellwritten article about the
situations that fat people dealwith in public and like needing
a safe space and having anopportunity.
Like it's a day y'all we'resaying, like we want a day to go
to the beach and feel safe witheach other and just have a nice
time at the beach.
Like I don't think people mostpeople understand what it is
like, as a fat person, to be outin public and not feel like
(17:01):
attacked when you go to dosomething as simple as go to the
beach feel like attacked whenyou go to do something as simple
as go to the beach.
Speaker 1 (17:07):
Yeah, so true.
I want to just shareeverybody's um jordan's ig with
everyone.
If you want to see someone whodoes not get a fuck, you need to
follow her.
It's j.
You know I shouldn't say her, Iactually don't know her
pronouns.
You should follow them, theirtheir instagram is
j-o-r-d-A-L-L-E-N Hall, jordAllen Hall, and yeah, she's
(17:28):
really fun to follow onInstagram and yeah, I love it.
You know that's that when yousee someone like her, that's
when you hear all the people say, oh, you're so brave, you're so
brave.
Speaker 2 (17:40):
Look at you.
Where do you get yourconfidence?
That's exactly it.
I think that was why it was sonice to read this article,
because it was like people areneeding community right now and
people need to feel safe, and sothere's more and more of these
pop-up events happening, likechunky dogs where people go get
together and go to the swimmingpool.
Um, you know, there's lots ofdifferent things that are
starting to happen nationally,um, but for, like new york, this
(18:03):
is like new york is starting tobecome very progressive.
I mean, tigers did all thatwork to make sure that size
acceptance was, you know, notsomething you could get fired
for a protected class exactly so.
It's like there's there'sthings happening and like you
don't really think of that.
When you think of new york, youthink of like high fashion and
like people smoking cigaretteswalking everywhere and just like
(18:23):
, yeah, like everything's supergoing everything's very black.
Yeah, it's so stereotypicalright, but you know it's like to
hear that there's um communityand spaces being created where
people are really um, not onlyencouraged to attend, but um
just like or to celebrate.
It know, like it's very rarethat that sort of thing happens
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and this article talked about.
You know how these differentpop up events are really, you
know, starting to change the waythat people perceive when you
go out.
Most of the time you're goingto get fat shamed in one way or
another, with somemicroaggression or something
very blatant, but it's when yougo out in a large group of
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people it's very unlikely thatsomeone is going to become
aggressive with you or say somesort of thing, and so this
really does create that kind ofsafety in numbers sort of aspect
, which is nice.
Speaker 1 (19:23):
I love that this is happening a lot on the West
Coast and I see I get a lot ofthese people in my feed where
they're like plus bus, they'rehaving another chunky dunk or
whatever they call it and theyall go to the beach together and
all over the West Coast.
I see that happening all thetime in Portland and Seattle and
Nevada.
Las Vegas has quite a few ofthem.
Pool parties, and then we can'tforget about the pool party in
(19:43):
Shrill with Aidy Bryant.
I know it wasn't the beach, butall those beautiful fatties in
their bikinis and bathing suitsdancing and frolicking.
And we don't ever get to frolic, ma'am, we just don't.
Speaker 2 (19:56):
I know, and I love that.
You see that it was very clearin that article.
There were a couple picturesand stuff where it's like, okay,
this is exactly what we shouldbe demonstrating to folks of,
like, we're going to change theculture, then it has to be
something where people feel safeto go out in a two piece and
not be made fun of or, you know,be attacked or that sort of
(20:17):
thing.
And so I really I love thearticle, I loved how the
photography, I just I was, I wasso surprised.
I was like, okay, I'm actuallygoing to share an article from
the Guardian, like, yeah, Wouldyou share the actual title?
Speaker 1 (20:32):
Do you have it with you, or do you have it nearby?
Or we could put it in the shownotes too.
I mean, I have it, let me grabit while we're sitting here
talking.
I'm going to say you know, Idon't know about you, but I find
myself that I'm often thebiggest person in the room or
the biggest person at the event,unless I go to a VAT event, and
it can be a little intimidating.
I've gotten, I got my chops now, but it sucks.
(20:57):
It can be overwhelming.
Speaker 2 (20:59):
Absolutely.
The article is called NewYork's Fat Beach Day.
Gives Plus Size People a Spaceto Be Themselves.
Speaker 1 (21:08):
Love it.
Speaker 2 (21:09):
And it's from the Guardian.
Yeah, so New York, new York'sFat Beach Day.
Speaker 1 (21:16):
Yay, I love it.
We need one in every state,please, please and thank you,
and more than one day, right, orhow about y'all just stop being
mean to us, wouldn't?
Speaker 2 (21:26):
that be ideal.
Speaker 1 (21:27):
How about everybody just stops commenting on other
people's body?
You have no idea.
I should tell you this longerstory.
But someone told me recently atthe airport that I should stop
eating so much and then call mea fat bitch.
And she was a fat bitch too,which really pissed me off.
But I was like I wanted to yellback to her You're like, you
don't know why I'm fat.
You know, and we don't reallyknow why people are fat, you
know, and people are fat for amillion different reasons and,
(21:49):
by the way, who fucking cares?
But you know, she just decidedto yell at me out of the blue
and she was a fellow fat personwho clearly had a lot of
anti-fatness.
You know, internalized.
But just stop commenting onpeople's bodies, anything, I
don't care, it's not ourbusiness to comment.
It's weird when people commenton my body like ew, why are you
looking at that?
Why are you paying attention tothat?
Speaker 2 (22:10):
Can't we just be a society that gets to go out and
experience different things andnot everybody have to have some
sort of comment or opinion aboutit?
Speaker 1 (22:19):
Yeah, Well, thank you for bringing that to our
attention.
That article is really good.
It's nice to see somethingthat's more fat, positive from
the Guardian.
Speaker 2 (22:26):
Yeah, absolutely, speaking of different types of
people and things being allowed,we have some hot topics, and
when we asked our listener base,like what are some sexy topics
that you want us to kind of goover, somebody brought up a
really good topic with us and itwas actually about the types of
(22:49):
sexuality that are rarelydiscussed.
So there are so many differentlabels for different types of
sexuality and there's a hugelist.
We actually found a couple, sothe one that I got some of this
information from was Rainbow andCompany, which is a UK blog.
(23:10):
So they have a pretty solidlist with good explanations and
it shows the flag so that youcan kind of like see the
different types in differenttypes of format.
But there's also a sexualityWikipedia, so you can go on
there and learn more, even aboutyou know specific types of
things.
But the person who reached outto us was like, hey, you guys
(23:32):
talk about sex and you knowthat's great and all, but
there's some fatties out hereand others that don't want any
kind of sex or don't wantanything without a certain type
of element of romance or allthese types of things.
So we figured we'd go over likethe top four that are talked
(23:53):
about that really don't have sexas like the main component,
like some sort of attraction orthat sort of thing, just to give
people some information.
And if it's something you wantto explore further, like I said,
you could go check out thatRainbow and Company blog or the
Sexuality Wikipedia, and thatway you have, you know, more
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information on these topics.
But I had always thought, oh,it's just they're asexual or
they're demisexual, but there'sothers too.
So let's kind of go, let's jumpinto them.
And, crystal, if you have likeexperience or you know somebody,
I would love to you know.
Have more info about that too?
Sure, no problem.
So the first is aroace, and soit's basically short for
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aromantic asexual, and basicallywhat that means is that that
individual experiences little tono romantic or sexual
attraction, so they're notinterested in the romance,
they're not interested in thesexual attraction portion.
Speaker 1 (24:58):
There's a lot of, are those?
No, those are not the ace,those are their.
What's that one called?
This is the aro ace.
Speaker 2 (25:03):
Aro ace, yeah, okay, yeah, I thought that kind of
like always fit into asexual,but not realizing that asexual
is different.
So asexual is someone who doesnot experience sexual attraction
.
They may want to experienceromance or they may have like
aesthetic attraction to somebody, but it's not like sexual in
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nature.
So I had always thought thosetwo things were the same and
they're not.
So aero ace is like I don'thave the sexual component or the
romance component.
The asexual is I don't reallyexperience the sexual attraction
but I may like the romanceportion of it.
I was like, okay, those are twovery different things.
(25:48):
I'm glad that I learned thatthese were very separate.
Speaker 1 (25:51):
Humans are fascinating.
There's always so much more tolearn, I swear.
Speaker 2 (25:55):
Well, and reading through some of these, like I
was like I had no.
Like it gets even more nicheand granular, like into
different types of gender anddifferent types of actions of
sexuality and gender, so likeit'll include both of those
things within that.
So the ones that I was mostfamiliar was asexual and
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demisexual, and so demisexual issomeone who only experiences
sexual attraction to someonethat they have a romantic or a
platonic relationship with, sothey're not like sexually
attracted.
To say, like Ryan Reynolds,like I don't have a relationship
as much as I'd love to have arelationship, right, so if I
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don't have that connection right, like then I'm not going to
have this sexual attraction.
And I, on some levels, I feellike I have an element of that.
Like I really have to feel likeI need to have some sort of
connection with a person beforeI'm like really sexually
attracted to them.
I mean I I think that you knowlike you can look at somebody
(27:02):
and aesthetically be like damn,they look great.
But at the same time, like I'mnot in my head, I'm not like
super charged sexually for them,unless I'm feeling like, oh,
I'm getting these other elementsof like connection through them
right, sure?
Speaker 1 (27:17):
um, megan the stallion oh, did I say that out
loud?
Um, anyway, she's been aroundthe bay area recently.
She's just so stinking hot.
But so I do know a few peoplethat are aces and they just are
not really interested in eitherversion or either any flavor of
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anything that has to do withromance or sex.
Is that an ace?
Speaker 2 (27:41):
Yes, yeah it's fascinating, it's both.
Speaker 1 (27:44):
And I know for me personally.
I have had that one night standkind of thing before and I'm
glad I had it, but I didn't findit that great.
I like it a little more.
First of all, the sex is somuch better when you have a
connection with somebody, and ifyou have the sex of the same
person for a long time it getsbetter and better and better if
you work at it.
And some people just don't wantto do that ever.
(28:06):
I think they just find thatdisgusting.
But, like I said, I'm glad Itried it.
Speaker 2 (28:10):
Right, yeah, and I think some of these things that
you may not really know untilyou've been in those experiences
or like, gotten close to thatand been like, this isn't
hitting for me.
You know, like, and all thosethings are okay.
Yeah, it really the DemiSec onewas like oh, okay, this makes
sense, like we're getting moreinto like the personality and
like the connection that youhave with that person, um.
(28:32):
But then I ran across onecalled lethal, lethal sexual, l
I T H O sexual, and this refersto a person who, um may
experience sexual attraction butdoes not want it reciprocated.
Speaker 1 (28:47):
And.
Speaker 2 (28:48):
Yeah, so like they mention in there, it's very much
.
There's a different name for itas well.
It's I'm going to probablybutcher it, but it's a
kiyosexual and basically thatwas like before they had changed
.
They've kind of changed thename, but it's referring to the
same thing.
But basically they mentionedthe aspect of like it may be
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someone who likes to go down ontheir partner but does not want
anything in return.
Like it turns them off to eventhink that their partner is
sexually attracted to them.
They just want to be the giverand that sort of scenario.
Speaker 1 (29:28):
Wow, fascinating.
Speaker 2 (29:29):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (29:31):
I like things to feel very fair.
What does that make me?
I think in the our firstepisode I did I identified as
omnisexual and did you identifyas pansexual?
And yeah, there's yeah, I know.
Speaker 2 (29:42):
And I was like, well, what, maybe I am more
omnisexual.
And then I was reading it.
I was like, no, I really fit inthat pan um aspect, because
they were talking about how itgoes into gender and like the
fluidity of gender, and so it'sreally interesting.
Like, as I was reading throughall these different types and
there were some that I was justlike, okay, this is, this is
(30:02):
talking about guy on guy, thisis talking about girl on girl,
this is talking about, you know,non-binary, like it wasn't.
They get that specific.
And so I had no idea.
Like I mean, I knew there werelots, but I never knew that they
were that specific.
And I was just like, wow, Ireally I need to spend some time
like sitting here and likegoing through these and really
(30:22):
getting familiar with thedifferent types, because it's
just so fascinating.
And I love to hear, like theperson who mentioned this on our
page or on your page, I wouldlove to know their experience
with this.
Like it makes sense, likethere's lots of things that are
fulfilling in life that youdon't need to have sex to
(30:45):
participate in or feel sexy, oryou know, there's lots of things
that bring fulfillment and joythat don't involve that.
But I'd be very interested tojust kind of know more about how
that person kind of learnedthat about themselves and how
they kind of figured out like,oh, this isn't really doing it
for me, or I really realized Ihave to have you know, I have to
(31:08):
be the one to give, not the oneto receive, or it's just it was
really.
It was exciting and interesting.
So I was glad that somebodyasked that question.
Speaker 1 (31:17):
Yeah, I'll go back to her post on my page and just
tell her that we talked about ittoday and would she want to
give us any feedback via emailor leave us a voicemail on Big
Sexy Home website?
Or maybe she'd like to beinterviewed sometime, even for,
like my smaller, shorter versionof our podcast called Big Sexy
Chat Unplugged, maybe she'd liketo come there, who knows?
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (31:38):
So, speaking of Big Sexy Chat Unplugged, let's give
some updates.
Speaker 1 (31:42):
Absolutely Sure.
So I am taking a littlesplinter version of Big Sexy
Chat it's called Big Sexy Chat,Unplugged and they're going to
be basically, most of them, liveinterviews of people who are
more involved in fat politics,fat liberation, the art, fat art
, fat music, fat creators Alittle less on the sexy side and
(32:06):
a little more on the I don'twant to say unsexy side, but
just more like things that haveto do with everyday life and not
to do with our sex life.
Not that sex will.
I'm sure sex will come upbecause I'm involved, but that's
what happens when I'm around.
But yeah, I'm really excited.
So there'll be more lives.
It'll be on Facebook andInstagram and then they'll live
on YouTube and I'm reallyexcited to try it out.
(32:28):
I did my first interview with myfriend and artist, Kat Coulter,
but she didn't want to do it.
She was too afraid to do itlive because she's been in a
hideout since the pandemic andshe wasn't ready.
So I said, okay, let's just doit, We'll record it and we'll
share it.
It was really lovely half anhour interview.
I'm going to try to keep themdown to 20 minutes, but you know
how it is.
It gets hard to keep them short, but I know people don't want
(32:48):
to watch a huge long video, morethan 20 minutes on Facebook or
Instagram most likely, but maybeon YouTube.
But I'm excited it's going tobe fun.
Speaker 2 (32:57):
Yeah, no, I thought it was a fantastic interview and
I'm looking forward to the listof people that you've shared
thus far.
I think there will be somefolks in there that people will
like oh, I didn't realize or Ididn't know.
So I think it'll be a goodsource of information of things
outside of our niche.
Speaker 1 (33:18):
Yeah, exactly, I think so too.
It'll be a fun compliment toBig Sexy Chat.
Of course, Big Sexy Chat's notgoing anywhere.
We're just adding a littleextra element to it.
So I'm thrilled to get itstarted, and we have some fun
interviews coming up and I can'twait to share them with
everybody.
We'll definitely put the liveon Instagram and on Facebook so
people can maybe catch them intheir feed or go back and watch
it in their feed later.
Speaker 2 (33:39):
Yeah, and we're going to try to make Big Sexy Chat
the format to really kind ofhave the sexy element.
You know we've had a lot offeedback and recognize that.
You know there's some topicsthat we really want to cover and
really want to do like deepdives into sexuality and stuff,
(33:59):
and sometimes when we interviewpeople that's not really their
jam but what they have isimportant and important to our
culture and all those types ofthings too.
So we've come up with some newsexy questions to ask people
when we do bring them on forinterviews, which is going to be
fun, and then we have somereally great topics just at hand
(34:19):
.
So I think you know there'sgoing to be you're going to get
the elements of a lot of sextalk and things that are in that
realm, and then a lot of likethe fat liberation talk and
things that are in that realm,and then a lot of like the fat
liberation um, just kind of likedaily life stuff too.
So, um, yeah, I'm lookingforward to the format and, uh,
I'm excited to see, like Ashleydid, the um, the artwork for it
(34:40):
and it looks fun and good, soI'm like all right, we're going,
man, yeah, let's do thisExactly.
Yeah, so, um, another update Iwant to give you is um, we did
in january all of the differenttypes of sex toys that were
given to us, from womanizer andum, we vibe.
(35:02):
And, oh man, I have an updateon the duo premium, too sweet
remind me which one that is.
Speaker 1 (35:10):
It has the G-spot, I mean, it has the suction on the
clitoris and a little bit ofpenetration.
Speaker 2 (35:19):
No, that's the one that.
So the one I'm talking about isjust the one with the dual
motor on the clitoris Right,right, right Okay.
So no insertion, but what Ihave?
First of all, I'm now obsessedwith this, right, right straight
, yeah yeah.
But I just turned 42 years oldand I am squirting like crazy
with this thing Right on.
(35:40):
It's wild, like I have to like.
(36:03):
We have the liberator sexblanket.
You know that you can lay out.
Speaker 1 (36:07):
What do they call it?
Speaker 2 (36:08):
They call it the throw.
I think sex throw the throw.
Yeah, sex blanket.
You know that you can lay out.
What do they call it?
They call it the throw.
I think sex sir the throw.
Yeah, so, because otherwise,like it's soaking through towels
kind of thing, like it is, it'swild, like I and people.
I have so many things that I'mlike exploring and looking at.
Speaker 1 (36:23):
Now, like you sound, you sound like so excited and
like uh, what Twitter page.
Speaker 2 (36:28):
Like wait, what Wait, whoa, whoa, yeah.
So I have learned that I willsquirt regardless.
I will squirt regardless of ifI've peed right beforehand.
Speaker 1 (36:39):
Sure, me too.
Speaker 2 (36:40):
I'll say that, like it's a mixture of like pee and
other fluids, and so I'm likestill even looking more into
that, because that's all changedfrom time to time.
You know, like who's saying,what it is and all that sort of
thing.
What's triggering it?
Like I noticed that if I'm highand I'm doing it like it's a
(37:01):
million times more than anyother time, like so is it like a
muscle?
I have so many questions now,so I think we're going to have
to do like a whole episode onsporting.
Speaker 1 (37:11):
Yeah, there is a lot of controversy around it, I
guess.
Does it exist?
Does it really happen?
And I'm like y'all it exists.
Okay, don't trust the porn thatyou're watching, but like humans
that are not porn actors, weejaculate.
It's true, I promise you it'sdefinitely true.
(37:32):
But it does come from theurethra, which, of course, is
going even if your bladder isempty.
It's going to mix with the ureain there, so it might sometimes
have a little bit of a yellowtint to it or have the scent a
little bit of urine, but it'snot just pee, it's just not.
And I've tried a thousand times.
Let me try to empty my bladder.
Make sure it doesn't matter ifI'm full bladder or empty
bladder.
It happens and for me I likethe I do prefer, like they call
(37:58):
it, the come hither on my G-spotand if a little bit of
something on my clitoris, maybelike your toy, and then some
fingers from somebody else, notmine.
I have too hard time reachingmy G-spot, yeah, but it feels to
me like a pressure on it and Ilike a little bit of tapping on
it and I'm mixed with collateralstimulation.
Speaker 2 (38:17):
Excellent yeah, man, that's the way I've always
experienced it.
But now, like having noinsertion and like if I'm
sitting, just kind of sitting upa little bit, rather than like
just laying flat, it is wild andI'm like afterwards, like all
of my muscles, like my pelvicmuscles, just feel so, they feel
(38:38):
so good, like I don't know ifit's like you know some sort of
mental thing, or if I'm liketensing and releasing those
muscles, and so it feelsdifferent.
It feels so different for me,which is wild.
Murph, do you know much?
Speaker 1 (38:53):
about the vagus nerve V-A-G-S I think.
Have you ever had your earsmassaged?
No, when you have your earsmassaged, a lot of vagus nerve
stuff going on there your wholehead and neck just feels so
relaxed, kind of like how youdescribe your pelvis.
It's the same energy releasethat gets all the tension out of
my.
My ears are like so tight.
It sounds crazy, but when Itouch my ears I'm like, and when
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I get the massage and like allloose and relax, same thing
happens from a g-spot climax.
It just takes all that tensionout of that area.
Which duh.
If you're born with ovaries, weall carry a lot of tension in
that area so nice to relieve it.
That's my theory anyway it.
Speaker 2 (39:31):
It feels like it like I when it's like I just feel
like a different person.
So now it's like okay, I gottahave this every time, because
this feels amazing, likecongratulations it's a good yeah
no premium too by womanizer.
I love y'all, but you have tomake a longer handle there's a?
Speaker 1 (39:51):
there's a gentleman who keeps uh, emailing me.
He makes handles for toys tomake them longer.
I should, um, I should forwardthat to you.
Maybe we can have him like asin a blog article or something
one time.
It's really interesting.
But yeah, they it makes.
He's basically a device forpeople who have disabilities or,
like me, who can't really reachmy clitoris very well because
(40:11):
of my larger lower tummy, andyeah, it connects all kinds of
different toys and stuff, sothat might work for you.
I like that Thank you, weevibe,and I do sell that one on my
website, bliss Connection, andwe have a code for 20% off,
which is BSC, like Big Sexy Chat.
20% off, which is BSC, like bigsexy chat.
(40:31):
And I'm so thrilled for you,murph.
That's so wonderful, because ifthere's just more orgasms in
the world, there'd be so muchless rage in the world.
We just, we need a lot lessrage in our world right now.
Speaker 2 (40:38):
It's so true, like I, I feel such like not only just
physically, like I just feellike so much nicer after you've
come, like you're just like,yeah, okay's fun, everything,
everything's gonna work out likeit's all good.
Speaker 1 (40:54):
I always say no more road rage.
Keep a, keep a silver bullet inyour glove compartment.
You get stuck in traffic.
You'll be like, yes, trafficawesome I got this it's got to
turn that you gotta just do theparadigm shift on the whole
thing.
So I was gonna tell you, unlessyou have anything more to say
about female ejaculation.
I was going to tell you alittle bit about the event I
went to this week, this pastThursday night.
(41:15):
It was called Girls Uncorkedand Girls Uncorked is like a
almost like a division ofCassidy, which is a website for
dating, but it's for dating forpeople who are a little kinkier
in their dating life, maybeswingers or same room sex with
other people or just kinky andkind of like into kinkier things
.
And one of my friends slashclients, said Crystal, I think
(41:39):
you would love this group ofwomen.
They're all about our age andthey're all talking all the time
about sex and menopause.
I was like, oh sure, I want totry it.
And I did something I haven'tdone since before the pandemic,
which is I went to a party whereI didn't know anybody.
I was nervous for like 10seconds before I walked back to
the door, but then it went awayreally quickly because they were
so warm and welcoming.
I was the largest person in theroom.
I mean, it was a pool party, soI was a large person outside in
(42:01):
their area, but, yeah, theywere so lovely, even though I'm
much larger than most everybodythere.
They didn't seem to even noticeor care, which is cool, but I
know kinky people are so muchmore open-minded than non-kinky
people.
They just, it's like because Iguess they're living in a world
that's a lot less sociallyacceptable, so maybe I don't
(42:23):
know.
I love it, though, and I had somuch fun.
I met all kinds of interestingwomen.
One woman sells sex toys onlineand does home parties, and all
of their partners seem to workin tech.
The interesting thing is, wewent around the room and we did
an introduction, and so what'syour name, what's your partner's
name?
Tell us about you, and they'llbe like oh well, I'm a unicorn,
meaning they like to hook upwith other couples or I have sex
(42:47):
with other people, but myhusband does it.
He likes to watch, or I'm a domor I'm a sub.
It was so fascinating.
I was like, wow, and then howthey met their partner and then
what other parties they like togo to, and it was really good,
and all I could think of is Ineed to start a fat girl chapter
of Girls Uncorked.
Wouldn't that be fun?
(43:07):
I am here for it, yes, and wecould have.
Like it doesn't mean because youcome to my meeting or whatever
this, whatever we call it,doesn't mean you're going to
swing with other people.
It just means you'reopen-minded, you want to talk
about stuff that has to do withsex.
Maybe you have conversationslike we have here on our podcast
and people everyone talkingabout menopause the other night,
because, of course, everybody'sover 40.
Menopause all the things peopleare doing for menopause, like
(43:29):
just adult topics, where youknow maybe you want to ask
something sexual that youwouldn't ask anywhere else.
So it's working around.
I'm marinating in my brain abouthow to do it.
I think that'd be so much funand, yeah, another way to create
community, right?
If you know, everybody else islike-minded and that's all I had
in common with these ladies isthat I know that we're all
like-minded.
(43:49):
I'm not going to judge you.
Whatever you're doing in yourbedroom, as long as you leave
kids and animals out of it, Idon't fucking care.
You do you?
Everybody has consent, andthat's what I had in common with
these people.
So immediately we had somethingin common, even though I was
much, much larger than them, andI had a really good time.
Speaker 2 (44:05):
Awesome.
Yeah, when you sent me thelittle graphic you know kind of
just explaining what it was, Iwas just like what?
Like, oh, I think a fat girl,chapter of Girls Uncorked would
be incredible.
Speaker 1 (44:21):
Me too.
It was a really good time.
It was like a pool party.
Everybody was like naked, halfnaked, not me.
I didn't know it was a poolparty, but I probably still
would have been naked.
Speaker 2 (44:30):
And you shared like they do it at people's homes
instead of like in a public.
Why is that?
Because of the kink nature or Idon't really know.
Speaker 1 (44:40):
I think they're trying not to put financial
pressure on people, because whenI think about maybe doing
something like that, I'mthinking of private rooms.
I know that can be used forlike networking events.
I go to a lot of networkingevents and host a lot of
networking events.
This is kind of like networking, but with kinky people.
Yeah, I'm like why can't I useone of those rooms?
So, like I said, I'm stillmarinating on it, but yeah, it
(45:01):
was really was really fun.
And yeah, lots of naked people,all different body types, some
people who are more, theirbreasts look higher and some
women whose breasts looked lowerand like mine.
Lots of different body, hair,kinds of things going on.
Some had lots, some had none.
It was like this is so fuckingamazing.
Speaker 2 (45:23):
This is how the world should be.
Yes, right, just accepted forwho you are just show up, yeah.
Speaker 1 (45:29):
So yeah, I'm giving myself a little pat on the back
because I went and then myfriend slash client was there.
But you know, I drove myselfthere by myself and I went up
the stairs by myself and thenonce I got through the door I
was like okay, I'm fine, youknow.
And that right away they smiledat me like who's the new girl,
you know.
It's like ooh, it's been awhile, that's fun.
I love it.
Yeah, it was fun.
Speaker 2 (45:50):
And, like you said, it's good.
You know it's the good exerciseof getting out and about before
pre-COVID.
You know, like I'm in a newenvironment I don't know these
people Like it's always feelsgood to kind of test that muscle
every once in a while.
Speaker 1 (46:04):
It was Okay, I still can do this, I can still do this
, right?
I told my boyfriend I was kindof charming.
Actually, too, I felt charming.
They had a lot of questions forme because of what I do the
hair removal, you know, andthat's the sex toys.
And yeah, they had a lot ofquestions about that.
When I go to other networkingevents that are more business
related, it's so funny because Ilike to say I love SEO and SEX
(46:25):
and SEO is search engineoptimization, Sex is sex and you
could see, when I go to thesenetworking events, people's
brains are like she said sex.
But it's cool because peopleremember me, because at this one
, I was like yeah, I'm into SEOand well, yeah, just like all
the rest of you sex, and it wasvery freeing.
I didn't have to feel like Iwas being judged or anything
like that.
I was like, okay, one morefreak.
Speaker 2 (46:47):
Nice, I love it.
That's great.
Yeah, it was cool, so you'regoing to be out for a little bit
.
Speaker 1 (46:54):
Let's talk about that .
Yes, I'm going to have sinussurgery and I wanted to bring it
up for a couple of reasons.
I'm going to be gone for alittle while.
I have to take probably a weekor 10 days off of work maybe
longer, maybe less and basicallyI'm having this called FESS,
f-e-s-s, and I have a lot ofissues with sinusitis.
So that means my nose is alwaysrunning and a lot of post nasal
(47:15):
drip, you know, down my throat,which creates my cough, which
might also exacerbate my asthma.
So I really need this.
I've needed it for five or 10years and then putting it in
alcohol.
I'm going to finally do it.
And of course I was nervous thatthey were going to turn me down
because I'm fat, because thathappens a lot.
So of course I had to start offby asking in my email or the
dashboard at Kaiser hey, I'm fat, is this going to be okay?
(47:40):
I just I worry about is gettingall the way halfway there or
three quarters away there, andthey go oh, no, no, nevermind.
So I learned two things.
One is they mostly decide whoto have surgery on by your BMI.
And I said, oh, my BMI is wayyou know, it's probably over 40
or 50.
I don't know, I don't eventhink the BMI is stupid, but I
know that's how they do it.
And I said, and the lady goesoh, okay, well, mine too.
(48:02):
And I go yeah, I'm really fat,I go, but I need to have my
sinus surgery.
Is that going to keep me fromhaving surgery?
She goes oh, let's not use thatword.
I go oh, no, no, no, I'm coolwith that word.
I said, honestly, fat is just aneutral descriptor that
describes my body and if we takethe hate out of it and we take
ownership of it, then when otherpeople use it, it has no power
(48:22):
over us.
She goes oh, my God, she goes.
Well, I'm a BMI over 40 or 52.
I go, well, hi, sister, nice tomeet you.
I go am I going to be worried?
She goes.
The only thing that's going tohappen is that they'll
definitely want to do yoursurgery in the hospital instead
of the clinic, because they justwant to be prepared in case
something happens.
But she goes.
(48:47):
We do these surgeries on fatpeople all the time.
So I'm like okay, but I'mreally really fat.
She goes.
So am I?
I go, okay, so it was nice tolike not be fat.
Shame for a change.
Things are getting a tiny bitbetter out there.
You know, a tiny bit I do gettired of settling for
breadcrumbs, but I'll take themwhen I can get them.
But yeah, it sounds like I'mgoing to be able to have my
surgery and it's not going tomatter how much I wear, what my
BMI is, just that I have to haveit at a hospital.
Yeah, I need it so bad, murph.
Well, you know, you see medealing with the coffee and
hearing the podcast all the time.
Speaker 2 (49:08):
Yeah Well, and that you've just been needing it for
so long, and I know it's one ofthose things where it's like
having to deal with the medicalfield in general.
Speaker 1 (49:17):
It's just like.
Speaker 2 (49:17):
I'm going to push this off, I'm going to push it
out, and then it's to yourdetriment and it's like the fact
that you even have to ask thequestion of like, can I get this
surgery?
Knowing full and well thateverybody can get the surgery.
It should not be a BMI thingand I'm just glad that you're
(49:39):
finally able to get it and youdidn't have to deal with the
horrible shamey part of that.
Speaker 1 (49:41):
Even with my hysterectomy.
I was worried up until themoment the anesthesiologist came
into my room because I've heardso many horror stories.
My hysterectomy was morerelated to that little bit of
cancer that I got, so I thinkthat made them a little more
flexible.
But I was like shit, they couldjust tell me no at any moment.
And then the anesthesiologistcame in the room.
She goes I keep fat peoplealive all the time that she goes
.
I keep fat people alive all thetime.
That's my job is to keep youalive.
(50:01):
I do that for all kinds ofdifferent people.
I was like okay, but I'm really, really fat.
She goes yeah, she's done thisbefore a few times.
I go oh, okay, that's all Ineeded to hear.
Thank you.
Speaker 2 (50:11):
How many other people have you know been denied that
sort of thing or had that sortof?
Yeah, it's so rough Whileyou're out, asherlee and I said
we'd record an episode and Ithink we're going to have some
time to bank some with you sothat you know you'll have some
unplugs before then too.
So I think we'll have a varietyso that folks can, you know,
(50:32):
jump in and kind of catch.
You know, catch up maybe orhave some other options for
things while you're out.
But I'm just glad that you'reable to get it and that it's
something that hopefully isgoing to be like life-changing
for you.
Speaker 1 (50:46):
It's supposed to be pretty painful for the first few
days and then, like for about aweek, you have to keep it
packed.
Like I said, it's a lot.
So in my day job, you know, I'mleaning over people's faces.
I do wear a mask all the time,but I'm sure it would be
uncomfortable, like pressure.
You you know and you'reprobably not going to fly
anywhere for a couple months andall that kind of stuff.
So, yeah, I'm excited to.
I always love when younaturally get together.
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We're so happy to have you andto be back on track for our fun
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Murph, what's going?
Speaker 2 (00:40):
on.
Hey, it's been a while sincewe've done just a standard kind
of format, so we've got somestuff to catch up on.
I am not sure if you have seenBridgerton.
Let's talk about it.
Speaker 1 (00:55):
I've seen four episodes but I want to hear all
about it.
I'm loving it so far, but Ihaven't seen any perfect breasts
yet, but I'm waiting.
Speaker 2 (01:01):
Yes, so Nicola Coughlin, she is the star of
this series and she gotinterviewed, or she was
interviewed by someone on thepress junket and basically they
asked her about her body typeand her response was just
(01:21):
absolutely beautiful.
She said basically like oh, youmean being a member of the
Perfect Breast Club?
Which they are, the PerfectBreast Club.
Like holy, yeah, like fantastic.
Speaker 1 (01:37):
Yeah, and make those assholes explain what they mean
Exactly.
When someone says a racist joke, you're like I'm sorry, I don't
understand what do you mean?
Can you explain it to me?
And they're like oh, I'm afucking idiot.
That's what she did to them,right?
Speaker 2 (01:48):
That's exactly what she did to them.
It was a good like oh, yeah,yeah, no, my type, my body type,
yeah, you mean the perfectbreasts.
Yes, it was so perfectlysarcastic.
Um, you know, that's hasbrought up a lot of conversation
.
Uh, in our community there'sbeen a lot of talk about, um, do
(02:08):
we perceive Nicola as plus size?
First of all, um, there wassomebody actually on the
internet comparing her to likethe Kate Winslet of the Titanic
time and how people were like,oh, kate Winslet is so brave for
you know, and it's like Nicolaand Kate Winslet, both at that
time were what?
Maybe a size 10?
Maybe, I mean, it's really,it's not what I would define as
(02:39):
plus size.
Now, is it something that'svery uncommon that you see in
mainstream media?
A thousand percent, but that'snot in my eyes and I'm curious
what your opinion is.
But I'm hearing all thesepeople be like oh well, you know
, they're not allowing this orthat, or they're doing this or
that because of her size, andit's like well, I mean, we don't
usually see someone that has avery round face, you know, and
(02:59):
so that is very different fromyou.
You know, the standard kind ofstarlet that you see these days,
but nothing about her.
I mean, she wears skims, she'sone of the new representatives
for skims and that's a very well, it's a trash you know thing,
because it's Kardashian as faras I'm concerned, but that's
(03:21):
like they go up to size 12, ifthat you know.
So it's like.
So we're not really talkingabout somebody who's you know
reached some Mecca of quoteunquote, plus size you know
being displayed.
Speaker 1 (03:32):
I was wondering if we knew her size, but that that
does help explain it a littlebit.
So in the fashion world youknow, if you're oversized for
you're considered plus size andthen when you are actually plus
size which I think most peopledefine as 14 and higher then
that's considered plus size andbelow that is considered
straight size.
Don't ask me why straight orplus.
(03:53):
It's so strange, but we allknow Hollywood, you know you're
basically people trying to be azero, a size zero or double zero
, and she definitely is not that.
But she's definitely not fat inmy opinion.
My opinion.
She just is a little bitshorter, on the shorter side of
life.
She has honking boobs and whenyou're shorter it makes you look
sort of fat.
She has a cute cherubic face.
It's very adorable andbeautiful and I have a girl
(04:15):
crush on her.
But I know, like zillions ofpeople do.
And, yeah, maybe she can beconsidered a small fat, but not
as far as fashion is considered.
Speaker 2 (04:32):
The fashion rules, rules, that is anyway.
Yeah, and I I think there'sthere's some, you know, uh up in
arms, uh within the community,especially thinking, you know
terms of like they didn't, um,move forward with.
I guess there were extra scenesthat were filmed, um sex scenes
specifically, and they didn't,you know, those got the cut from
the actual series and so peopleare like they're not showing as
much sex because she's plussize.
I really don't agree with that.
(04:54):
After watching the first seasonof Bridgerton which, hello,
that's the reason all of us gotinto this because every scene
had sex in it, which wasincredible.
All of us got into this becauseevery scene had sex in it,
which was incredible.
But ever since then there hasbeen less and less and less sex.
Just in general, like I felt,like the second episode or the
second series about the brother.
(05:15):
I love the characters, but Iwas like when are they going to
hook up?
And it wasn't until like thevery, very end and it was only
one scene.
So it was just like this wassuch a letdown.
And then, with Queen Charlotte,there wasn't you know as much.
So it's like we get here to thisseason three and it's hyped
like crazy because it's notsomebody you normally see on
(05:37):
screen in a sexual manner.
Thank you, american public, formaking that happen.
But we're trying to make thosechanges and so we start to see
these options and then peopleget super upset because they're
like, well, you're doing thisbecause she's plus size and you
don't want to show her body, andI don't think that's accurate.
(05:57):
I think they want to reach amore general, broad audience and
have people be into the romanceof the stories for Bridgerton
and not so much the sex.
So I think it's one of thoselike, let's kind of um, play it
down so that we can get a largeraudience.
And then those people that wantto go back and read the books.
That has lots of smut in it andI love the word dirty.
(06:20):
I love it dirty girl murphy yeahright, I'm hoping we're gonna
have someone on here very soontalking about fat girls and
fiction and you know so, um.
But yeah, it's like if you canget this audience, then they'll
go back and read the books theone they're old enough, you know
, or their parents allow them,or whatever.
But I really feel like thisseries has been kind of the
(06:44):
standard of Bridgerton series.
I don't think it's somethingthat they're doing because of
her weight at all.
I think it's just that they wanta broader audience, and you
can't do that with Smut.
Speaker 1 (06:54):
How can I get access to Bridgerton Uncut Like?
Is there a bloopers reel?
I want to see it all.
Speaker 2 (07:01):
Seriously.
I'm like let's put those scenesback in there.
I want to know what's upbridgerton x-rated, r-rated
that's right, the nc-17bridgerton.
Now I will say, this seriesfeatured something I was not
expecting to see but was glad tosee there was some polyamory
themes to it.
Speaker 1 (07:21):
And so that was interesting.
Speaker 2 (07:22):
I was very excited to see that they didn't go into
depth with that either.
You know, it's very much justlike kissing and touching, which
is what you saw a lot ofbetween Nicola and Luke, but you
know, Luke.
(07:49):
But you know it's very much adifferent approach than what
they normally do and it's beenkind of a progressive series, I
would say, like it starts totalk about some things in this
series, especially about likethe patriarchy and just the
plight of women and like havingthe option for freedom and what
does your voice mean, and thosetypes of things.
So I was like all right, I'mliking this.
Speaker 1 (08:08):
you know poly stuff happening and where we're going
with this I want to tellbridgerton people pump the
brakes on this whole idea ofmaking it more generic.
No, go lean into the sacks.
That's what sells.
We all know that.
Uh, also sidebar, our lovelyproducer just confirmed that
nicola's size is size 10.
Size 10,?
Yeah, and she's probably reallyunder tall right.
(08:29):
She's not real super tall.
Speaker 2 (08:31):
She's got to be, yeah , fairly, but she's I love it.
I love that.
You know she's got like somevery round features and features
that you don't see.
But yeah, I'm just, I reallyget stuck on that Like um, but
uh, yeah, I'm just, I really getstuck on that, like we're not
really talking plus size hereand if, if y'all aren't okay
with her, like you're really notgonna be okay with me.
Speaker 1 (08:52):
We're fucked.
We're so screwed.
Yeah, she's adorable, though.
I love her whatever size she is, but I know the world is making
it um a little bit intense, Iguess, about her.
What else has she been in?
Why do I know her already?
What do I know her from?
Speaker 2 (09:06):
just no irish show daryl what's it called, uh darby
girls, or yeah, darby girls,dairy or dary, I forget, it was
so cute though, yeah, I did, Ididn't watch it, uh, but you
know, I think that she's um, Ithink she's a great actress and
she's.
She's kind of like a politicalactivist too.
She just raised a ton of moneyfor palestine, which is amazing.
(09:28):
Um, you know to be on this tourand like wearing the pins so
that people have to see it youknow, and they, because they're
the media is really big on likeoh, we don't want you to, you
know, wear anything that hasthat.
So I think she's done reallygreat.
I think she's got a fantasticcareer ahead of her.
Speaker 1 (09:46):
I love when people use their platform too.
It's like, yeah, get it, you,take advantage of it while you
have it, because we all knowwhen you're in Hollywood, once
you're like over 40, you're done.
But she's doing some reallycool work out there.
I would love to see her as thehost on SNL.
Oh yeah, That'd be fun.
She might this year becauseshe's been, so she's like.
(10:07):
She's like the media darlingright now isn't she, she is yeah
she really is, and so the bookis supposed to be naughtier oh,
they're much naughtier, oh yeahI guess there's a second
carriage scene in the book thatdid not make the cut of the show
.
Oh, yeah, I, yeah, I like them.
Do you ever listen to books ontape or whatever Audiobooks?
Oh yeah, it's my favorite.
(10:29):
Yes, much easier for me and myADHD brain to listen to a book
than read it anymore.
So it's my freakinghysterectomy.
Speaker 2 (10:36):
Seriously, I'll start reading and then I'll be like
wait, what did I just?
Read I got to go back and I goback, and then I go back, and
then I'm already squirrelingagain.
So yeah, audio books are my,are my way to go anymore.
But there definitely going to bea few more episodes of
Bridgerton, I mean seasons ofBridgerton, I think so they
really did put a bow on it,though If they wanted to be like
we're done At least I felt likethat I mean, you could
(10:59):
definitely get more in depthinto the characters.
I've heard a lot of peoplecalling for the Bridgerton mom
to be featured.
Speaker 1 (11:08):
She's a widower.
Speaker 2 (11:10):
And, like in this story, things kind of progress,
and so I don't know.
I think you know there'sdefinitely a lot of opportunity
there, but if they wanted to,they technically could have been
done after this season, Please.
Speaker 1 (11:23):
Sondra, we need you.
You know, shonda, we need you.
And off the air, whatever youwant to call it.
Murph and I were talking aboutat 56, when I was young, tv
shows had 23 episodes.
This eight-episode crap is notfor me.
I don't like it.
I was watching Fallout it wasonly eight episodes.
We're watching Acolyte it'sonly eight episodes.
Like, what is the deal witheight episodes?
(11:46):
I need more.
Oh, the Last of Us, I need more.
I need a whole season, 23episodes, please.
Speaker 2 (11:49):
The good old days, right, exactly when there would
be so much content, we didn'teven know what to do with it.
And now it's like, oh, we'regoing to break it up into two
months, like my into two months.
Like my husband was like, wait,I thought that bridgerton
already came out and I was like,yes, but it was only four
episodes.
And now it's like now it's juneand then they're going to
(12:10):
release the last four.
And he was like this is thedumbest thing ever.
I don't want to hear any moreabout it.
Speaker 1 (12:14):
Yeah, I'm with james.
Is there anything else aboutbridgerton?
We should bring up that.
Speaker 2 (12:18):
We uh, I just love any of the, any of the um scenes
with the modiste and theclothes and stuff it just, I
really enjoyed this season justfor the character development
and like it was very much aredemption story for a lot of
different players in this series, and so it was nice to see that
all come together at the end.
(12:40):
And I think that's why I was sosurprised that there was not a
post-marriage sex scene, becauseI was like we're doing all this
really great characterdevelopment, all right, like
it's going to happen and we'regoing to see like all this, like
amazing, and then it didn'thappen and I was just like wait,
the series is over, wait, wait,nobody.
No, I didn't agree to this,like whoa whoa, whoa, whoa no, I
(13:06):
didn't agree to this.
Speaker 1 (13:06):
Like whoa, whoa, whoa .
How about the two sisters?
They didn't really realize thatthat sex means like penis in
your vagina and they're, youknow in that era for sure that
was like allowed, but theydidn't even know.
Like, yeah, well, we're notdoing it correctly.
Yeah, no, you're not doing itcorrectly.
Where that's so funny.
Yeah, yeah, I love it and yeah,I hope, I hope for more
bridgerton.
One thing I noticed because Ihadn't.
It took me a little while toget caught up.
(13:27):
The first episode just left mesmiling.
I was like, oh, I miss this.
It's nice to watch somethingthat's more fluffy and light and
, just like you know, the worldis so dark right now.
It's just like, oh, I was likesmiling all day the next day.
I was like I have to watch thenext second episode.
So now I'm through the firstfour.
Speaker 2 (13:45):
Now I got to watch the last four, so good, and I
one thing I really appreciatedabout this season was the, the
relationship between the twomain characters, because it, yes
, it, it was very sexy, but itwas very much about like I want
(14:08):
to appreciate and love thisaspect of you in all these
different ways and it was veryvocal, especially coming from a
man like um the the things thatwomen want to hear of.
Like I'm consumed by the thoughtof you like that's fucking sexy
as hell.
Like you know, like that's thekind of stuff that gets girls
charged up, and so it's likeokay, like they spent a lot of
(14:28):
really solid time having thathappen, and so I think that that
really made you want the sexstuff even more, because it was
just like I'm melting over here.
I can only imagine what it'slike having him breathing on
your neck while he's saying thisoh man, put your penis in my
mouth now right, the hock to agirl's uh pretty popular right
(14:52):
now.
Speaker 1 (14:53):
Honestly, it just shows us in bridgerton you're
gonna get the hock to we talkabout our next subject in the
article in the guardian I wantedto say a bridgerton, uh, more
fat sex.
B to the world more fat sex,more fat characters having sex,
because, guess y'all, we have alot of sex too.
And then, c, I wanted to remindpeople that they can also watch
us on YouTube.
(15:13):
We're trying to get our YouTubechannel in shape, so make sure
you check out Big Sexy Chat onYouTube.
But, murph, let's talk aboutthe article in the Guardian
article in the Guardian.
Speaker 2 (15:29):
Yeah, so it's beach day, and it's beach day in New
York which means everybody goesto the beach right, yep?
Well, it is for fat people,because they have fat beach day
where you can go to the go tothe ocean, lay on the sand, play
in the water with a whole groupof fat folk and talk about less
intimidating, talk aboutbuilding community, talk about
(15:49):
all these amazing things.
And the Guardian has not alwaysbeen a news organization that
puts fat people in any sort ofpositive light, and so I was
very like I'm not clicking onthis article.
Um, cause there's there's thisgorgeous fat girl, jordan Hall.
Uh, who's the model?
She's?
If you see the article, she'slaying out on the um sand in a
(16:13):
two piece and just fuckinggorgeous.
And I'm like this is gonna,they're going to shit all over
this.
Like I'm just in my brain,right, right.
(16:35):
This like I'm just in my brain,right, right.
So I clicked on it and I'mactually reading through and
olivia empson, who wrote it, um,wow, kudos to you.
Like this was a really wellwritten article about the
situations that fat people dealwith in public and like needing
a safe space and having anopportunity.
Like it's a day y'all we'resaying, like we want a day to go
to the beach and feel safe witheach other and just have a nice
time at the beach.
Like I don't think people mostpeople understand what it is
like, as a fat person, to be outin public and not feel like
(17:01):
attacked when you go to dosomething as simple as go to the
beach feel like attacked whenyou go to do something as simple
as go to the beach.
Speaker 1 (17:07):
Yeah, so true.
I want to just shareeverybody's um jordan's ig with
everyone.
If you want to see someone whodoes not get a fuck, you need to
follow her.
It's j.
You know I shouldn't say her, Iactually don't know her
pronouns.
You should follow them, theirtheir instagram is
j-o-r-d-A-L-L-E-N Hall, jordAllen Hall, and yeah, she's
(17:28):
really fun to follow onInstagram and yeah, I love it.
You know that's that when yousee someone like her, that's
when you hear all the people say, oh, you're so brave, you're so
brave.
Speaker 2 (17:40):
Look at you.
Where do you get yourconfidence?
That's exactly it.
I think that was why it was sonice to read this article,
because it was like people areneeding community right now and
people need to feel safe, and sothere's more and more of these
pop-up events happening, likechunky dogs where people go get
together and go to the swimmingpool.
Um, you know, there's lots ofdifferent things that are
starting to happen nationally,um, but for, like new york, this
(18:03):
is like new york is starting tobecome very progressive.
I mean, tigers did all thatwork to make sure that size
acceptance was, you know, notsomething you could get fired
for a protected class exactly so.
It's like there's there'sthings happening and like you
don't really think of that.
When you think of new york, youthink of like high fashion and
like people smoking cigaretteswalking everywhere and just like
(18:23):
, yeah, like everything's supergoing everything's very black.
Yeah, it's so stereotypicalright, but you know it's like to
hear that there's um communityand spaces being created where
people are really um, not onlyencouraged to attend, but um
just like or to celebrate.
It know, like it's very rarethat that sort of thing happens
(18:46):
and this article talked about.
You know how these differentpop up events are really, you
know, starting to change the waythat people perceive when you
go out.
Most of the time you're goingto get fat shamed in one way or
another, with somemicroaggression or something
very blatant, but it's when yougo out in a large group of
(19:11):
people it's very unlikely thatsomeone is going to become
aggressive with you or say somesort of thing, and so this
really does create that kind ofsafety in numbers sort of aspect
, which is nice.
Speaker 1 (19:23):
I love that this is happening a lot on the West
Coast and I see I get a lot ofthese people in my feed where
they're like plus bus, they'rehaving another chunky dunk or
whatever they call it and theyall go to the beach together and
all over the West Coast.
I see that happening all thetime in Portland and Seattle and
Nevada.
Las Vegas has quite a few ofthem.
Pool parties, and then we can'tforget about the pool party in
(19:43):
Shrill with Aidy Bryant.
I know it wasn't the beach, butall those beautiful fatties in
their bikinis and bathing suitsdancing and frolicking.
And we don't ever get to frolic, ma'am, we just don't.
Speaker 2 (19:56):
I know, and I love that.
You see that it was very clearin that article.
There were a couple picturesand stuff where it's like, okay,
this is exactly what we shouldbe demonstrating to folks of,
like, we're going to change theculture, then it has to be
something where people feel safeto go out in a two piece and
not be made fun of or, you know,be attacked or that sort of
(20:17):
thing.
And so I really I love thearticle, I loved how the
photography, I just I was, I wasso surprised.
I was like, okay, I'm actuallygoing to share an article from
the Guardian, like, yeah, Wouldyou share the actual title?
Speaker 1 (20:32):
Do you have it with you, or do you have it nearby?
Or we could put it in the shownotes too.
I mean, I have it, let me grabit while we're sitting here
talking.
I'm going to say you know, Idon't know about you, but I find
myself that I'm often thebiggest person in the room or
the biggest person at the event,unless I go to a VAT event, and
it can be a little intimidating.
I've gotten, I got my chops now, but it sucks.
(20:57):
It can be overwhelming.
Speaker 2 (20:59):
Absolutely.
The article is called NewYork's Fat Beach Day.
Gives Plus Size People a Spaceto Be Themselves.
Speaker 1 (21:08):
Love it.
Speaker 2 (21:09):
And it's from the Guardian.
Yeah, so New York, new York'sFat Beach Day.
Speaker 1 (21:16):
Yay, I love it.
We need one in every state,please, please and thank you,
and more than one day, right, orhow about y'all just stop being
mean to us, wouldn't?
Speaker 2 (21:26):
that be ideal.
Speaker 1 (21:27):
How about everybody just stops commenting on other
people's body?
You have no idea.
I should tell you this longerstory.
But someone told me recently atthe airport that I should stop
eating so much and then call mea fat bitch.
And she was a fat bitch too,which really pissed me off.
But I was like I wanted to yellback to her You're like, you
don't know why I'm fat.
You know, and we don't reallyknow why people are fat, you
know, and people are fat for amillion different reasons and,
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by the way, who fucking cares?
But you know, she just decidedto yell at me out of the blue
and she was a fellow fat personwho clearly had a lot of
anti-fatness.
You know, internalized.
But just stop commenting onpeople's bodies, anything, I
don't care, it's not ourbusiness to comment.
It's weird when people commenton my body like ew, why are you
looking at that?
Why are you paying attention tothat?
Speaker 2 (22:10):
Can't we just be a society that gets to go out and
experience different things andnot everybody have to have some
sort of comment or opinion aboutit?
Speaker 1 (22:19):
Yeah, Well, thank you for bringing that to our
attention.
That article is really good.
It's nice to see somethingthat's more fat, positive from
the Guardian.
Speaker 2 (22:26):
Yeah, absolutely, speaking of different types of
people and things being allowed,we have some hot topics, and
when we asked our listener base,like what are some sexy topics
that you want us to kind of goover, somebody brought up a
really good topic with us and itwas actually about the types of
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sexuality that are rarelydiscussed.
So there are so many differentlabels for different types of
sexuality and there's a hugelist.
We actually found a couple, sothe one that I got some of this
information from was Rainbow andCompany, which is a UK blog.
(23:10):
So they have a pretty solidlist with good explanations and
it shows the flag so that youcan kind of like see the
different types in differenttypes of format.
But there's also a sexualityWikipedia, so you can go on
there and learn more, even aboutyou know specific types of
things.
But the person who reached outto us was like, hey, you guys
(23:32):
talk about sex and you knowthat's great and all, but
there's some fatties out hereand others that don't want any
kind of sex or don't wantanything without a certain type
of element of romance or allthese types of things.
So we figured we'd go over likethe top four that are talked
(23:53):
about that really don't have sexas like the main component,
like some sort of attraction orthat sort of thing, just to give
people some information.
And if it's something you wantto explore further, like I said,
you could go check out thatRainbow and Company blog or the
Sexuality Wikipedia, and thatway you have, you know, more
(24:13):
information on these topics.
But I had always thought, oh,it's just they're asexual or
they're demisexual, but there'sothers too.
So let's kind of go, let's jumpinto them.
And, crystal, if you have likeexperience or you know somebody,
I would love to you know.
Have more info about that too?
Sure, no problem.
So the first is aroace, and soit's basically short for
(24:38):
aromantic asexual, and basicallywhat that means is that that
individual experiences little tono romantic or sexual
attraction, so they're notinterested in the romance,
they're not interested in thesexual attraction portion.
Speaker 1 (24:58):
There's a lot of, are those?
No, those are not the ace,those are their.
What's that one called?
This is the aro ace.
Speaker 2 (25:03):
Aro ace, yeah, okay, yeah, I thought that kind of
like always fit into asexual,but not realizing that asexual
is different.
So asexual is someone who doesnot experience sexual attraction
.
They may want to experienceromance or they may have like
aesthetic attraction to somebody, but it's not like sexual in
(25:26):
nature.
So I had always thought thosetwo things were the same and
they're not.
So aero ace is like I don'thave the sexual component or the
romance component.
The asexual is I don't reallyexperience the sexual attraction
but I may like the romanceportion of it.
I was like, okay, those are twovery different things.
(25:48):
I'm glad that I learned thatthese were very separate.
Speaker 1 (25:51):
Humans are fascinating.
There's always so much more tolearn, I swear.
Speaker 2 (25:55):
Well, and reading through some of these, like I
was like I had no.
Like it gets even more nicheand granular, like into
different types of gender anddifferent types of actions of
sexuality and gender, so likeit'll include both of those
things within that.
So the ones that I was mostfamiliar was asexual and
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demisexual, and so demisexual issomeone who only experiences
sexual attraction to someonethat they have a romantic or a
platonic relationship with, sothey're not like sexually
attracted.
To say, like Ryan Reynolds,like I don't have a relationship
as much as I'd love to have arelationship, right, so if I
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don't have that connection right, like then I'm not going to
have this sexual attraction.
And I, on some levels, I feellike I have an element of that.
Like I really have to feel likeI need to have some sort of
connection with a person beforeI'm like really sexually
attracted to them.
I mean I I think that you knowlike you can look at somebody
(27:02):
and aesthetically be like damn,they look great.
But at the same time, like I'mnot in my head, I'm not like
super charged sexually for them,unless I'm feeling like, oh,
I'm getting these other elementsof like connection through them
right, sure?
Speaker 1 (27:17):
um, megan the stallion oh, did I say that out
loud?
Um, anyway, she's been aroundthe bay area recently.
She's just so stinking hot.
But so I do know a few peoplethat are aces and they just are
not really interested in eitherversion or either any flavor of
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anything that has to do withromance or sex.
Is that an ace?
Speaker 2 (27:41):
Yes, yeah it's fascinating, it's both.
Speaker 1 (27:44):
And I know for me personally.
I have had that one night standkind of thing before and I'm
glad I had it, but I didn't findit that great.
I like it a little more.
First of all, the sex is somuch better when you have a
connection with somebody, and ifyou have the sex of the same
person for a long time it getsbetter and better and better if
you work at it.
And some people just don't wantto do that ever.
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I think they just find thatdisgusting.
But, like I said, I'm glad Itried it.
Speaker 2 (28:10):
Right, yeah, and I think some of these things that
you may not really know untilyou've been in those experiences
or like, gotten close to thatand been like, this isn't
hitting for me.
You know, like, and all thosethings are okay.
Yeah, it really the DemiSec onewas like oh, okay, this makes
sense, like we're getting moreinto like the personality and
like the connection that youhave with that person, um.
(28:32):
But then I ran across onecalled lethal, lethal sexual, l
I T H O sexual, and this refersto a person who, um may
experience sexual attraction butdoes not want it reciprocated.
Speaker 1 (28:47):
And.
Speaker 2 (28:48):
Yeah, so like they mention in there, it's very much
.
There's a different name for itas well.
It's I'm going to probablybutcher it, but it's a
kiyosexual and basically thatwas like before they had changed
.
They've kind of changed thename, but it's referring to the
same thing.
But basically they mentionedthe aspect of like it may be
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someone who likes to go down ontheir partner but does not want
anything in return.
Like it turns them off to eventhink that their partner is
sexually attracted to them.
They just want to be the giverand that sort of scenario.
Speaker 1 (29:28):
Wow, fascinating.
Speaker 2 (29:29):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (29:31):
I like things to feel very fair.
What does that make me?
I think in the our firstepisode I did I identified as
omnisexual and did you identifyas pansexual?
And yeah, there's yeah, I know.
Speaker 2 (29:42):
And I was like, well, what, maybe I am more
omnisexual.
And then I was reading it.
I was like, no, I really fit inthat pan um aspect, because
they were talking about how itgoes into gender and like the
fluidity of gender, and so it'sreally interesting.
Like, as I was reading throughall these different types and
there were some that I was justlike, okay, this is, this is
(30:02):
talking about guy on guy, thisis talking about girl on girl,
this is talking about, you know,non-binary, like it wasn't.
They get that specific.
And so I had no idea.
Like I mean, I knew there werelots, but I never knew that they
were that specific.
And I was just like, wow, Ireally I need to spend some time
like sitting here and likegoing through these and really
(30:22):
getting familiar with thedifferent types, because it's
just so fascinating.
And I love to hear, like theperson who mentioned this on our
page or on your page, I wouldlove to know their experience
with this.
Like it makes sense, likethere's lots of things that are
fulfilling in life that youdon't need to have sex to
(30:45):
participate in or feel sexy, oryou know, there's lots of things
that bring fulfillment and joythat don't involve that.
But I'd be very interested tojust kind of know more about how
that person kind of learnedthat about themselves and how
they kind of figured out like,oh, this isn't really doing it
for me, or I really realized Ihave to have you know, I have to
(31:08):
be the one to give, not the oneto receive, or it's just it was
really.
It was exciting and interesting.
So I was glad that somebodyasked that question.
Speaker 1 (31:17):
Yeah, I'll go back to her post on my page and just
tell her that we talked about ittoday and would she want to
give us any feedback via emailor leave us a voicemail on Big
Sexy Home website?
Or maybe she'd like to beinterviewed sometime, even for,
like my smaller, shorter versionof our podcast called Big Sexy
Chat Unplugged, maybe she'd liketo come there, who knows?
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (31:38):
So, speaking of Big Sexy Chat Unplugged, let's give
some updates.
Speaker 1 (31:42):
Absolutely Sure.
So I am taking a littlesplinter version of Big Sexy
Chat it's called Big Sexy Chat,Unplugged and they're going to
be basically, most of them, liveinterviews of people who are
more involved in fat politics,fat liberation, the art, fat art
, fat music, fat creators Alittle less on the sexy side and
(32:06):
a little more on the I don'twant to say unsexy side, but
just more like things that haveto do with everyday life and not
to do with our sex life.
Not that sex will.
I'm sure sex will come upbecause I'm involved, but that's
what happens when I'm around.
But yeah, I'm really excited.
So there'll be more lives.
It'll be on Facebook andInstagram and then they'll live
on YouTube and I'm reallyexcited to try it out.
(32:28):
I did my first interview with myfriend and artist, Kat Coulter,
but she didn't want to do it.
She was too afraid to do itlive because she's been in a
hideout since the pandemic andshe wasn't ready.
So I said, okay, let's just doit, We'll record it and we'll
share it.
It was really lovely half anhour interview.
I'm going to try to keep themdown to 20 minutes, but you know
how it is.
It gets hard to keep them short, but I know people don't want
(32:48):
to watch a huge long video, morethan 20 minutes on Facebook or
Instagram most likely, but maybeon YouTube.
But I'm excited it's going tobe fun.
Speaker 2 (32:57):
Yeah, no, I thought it was a fantastic interview and
I'm looking forward to the listof people that you've shared
thus far.
I think there will be somefolks in there that people will
like oh, I didn't realize or Ididn't know.
So I think it'll be a goodsource of information of things
outside of our niche.
Speaker 1 (33:18):
Yeah, exactly, I think so too.
It'll be a fun compliment toBig Sexy Chat.
Of course, Big Sexy Chat's notgoing anywhere.
We're just adding a littleextra element to it.
So I'm thrilled to get itstarted, and we have some fun
interviews coming up and I can'twait to share them with
everybody.
We'll definitely put the liveon Instagram and on Facebook so
people can maybe catch them intheir feed or go back and watch
it in their feed later.
Speaker 2 (33:39):
Yeah, and we're going to try to make Big Sexy Chat
the format to really kind ofhave the sexy element.
You know we've had a lot offeedback and recognize that.
You know there's some topicsthat we really want to cover and
really want to do like deepdives into sexuality and stuff,
(33:59):
and sometimes when we interviewpeople that's not really their
jam but what they have isimportant and important to our
culture and all those types ofthings too.
So we've come up with some newsexy questions to ask people
when we do bring them on forinterviews, which is going to be
fun, and then we have somereally great topics just at hand
(34:19):
.
So I think you know there'sgoing to be you're going to get
the elements of a lot of sextalk and things that are in that
realm, and then a lot of likethe fat liberation talk and
things that are in that realm,and then a lot of like the fat
liberation um, just kind of likedaily life stuff too.
So, um, yeah, I'm lookingforward to the format and, uh,
I'm excited to see, like Ashleydid, the um, the artwork for it
(34:40):
and it looks fun and good, soI'm like all right, we're going,
man, yeah, let's do thisExactly.
Yeah, so, um, another update Iwant to give you is um, we did
in january all of the differenttypes of sex toys that were
given to us, from womanizer andum, we vibe.
(35:02):
And, oh man, I have an updateon the duo premium, too sweet
remind me which one that is.
Speaker 1 (35:10):
It has the G-spot, I mean, it has the suction on the
clitoris and a little bit ofpenetration.
Speaker 2 (35:19):
No, that's the one that.
So the one I'm talking about isjust the one with the dual
motor on the clitoris Right,right, right Okay.
So no insertion, but what Ihave?
First of all, I'm now obsessedwith this, right, right straight
, yeah yeah.
But I just turned 42 years oldand I am squirting like crazy
with this thing Right on.
(35:40):
It's wild, like I have to like.
(36:03):
We have the liberator sexblanket.
You know that you can lay out.
Speaker 1 (36:07):
What do they call it?
Speaker 2 (36:08):
They call it the throw.
I think sex throw the throw.
Yeah, sex blanket.
You know that you can lay out.
What do they call it?
They call it the throw.
I think sex sir the throw.
Yeah, so, because otherwise,like it's soaking through towels
kind of thing, like it is, it'swild, like I and people.
I have so many things that I'mlike exploring and looking at.
Speaker 1 (36:23):
Now, like you sound, you sound like so excited and
like uh, what Twitter page.
Speaker 2 (36:28):
Like wait, what Wait, whoa, whoa, yeah.
So I have learned that I willsquirt regardless.
I will squirt regardless of ifI've peed right beforehand.
Speaker 1 (36:39):
Sure, me too.
Speaker 2 (36:40):
I'll say that, like it's a mixture of like pee and
other fluids, and so I'm likestill even looking more into
that, because that's all changedfrom time to time.
You know, like who's saying,what it is and all that sort of
thing.
What's triggering it?
Like I noticed that if I'm highand I'm doing it like it's a
(37:01):
million times more than anyother time, like so is it like a
muscle?
I have so many questions now,so I think we're going to have
to do like a whole episode onsporting.
Speaker 1 (37:11):
Yeah, there is a lot of controversy around it, I
guess.
Does it exist?
Does it really happen?
And I'm like y'all it exists.
Okay, don't trust the porn thatyou're watching, but like humans
that are not porn actors, weejaculate.
It's true, I promise you it'sdefinitely true.
(37:32):
But it does come from theurethra, which, of course, is
going even if your bladder isempty.
It's going to mix with the ureain there, so it might sometimes
have a little bit of a yellowtint to it or have the scent a
little bit of urine, but it'snot just pee, it's just not.
And I've tried a thousand times.
Let me try to empty my bladder.
Make sure it doesn't matter ifI'm full bladder or empty
bladder.
It happens and for me I likethe I do prefer, like they call
(37:58):
it, the come hither on my G-spotand if a little bit of
something on my clitoris, maybelike your toy, and then some
fingers from somebody else, notmine.
I have too hard time reachingmy G-spot, yeah, but it feels to
me like a pressure on it and Ilike a little bit of tapping on
it and I'm mixed with collateralstimulation.
Speaker 2 (38:17):
Excellent yeah, man, that's the way I've always
experienced it.
But now, like having noinsertion and like if I'm
sitting, just kind of sitting upa little bit, rather than like
just laying flat, it is wild andI'm like afterwards, like all
of my muscles, like my pelvicmuscles, just feel so, they feel
(38:38):
so good, like I don't know ifit's like you know some sort of
mental thing, or if I'm liketensing and releasing those
muscles, and so it feelsdifferent.
It feels so different for me,which is wild.
Murph, do you know much?
Speaker 1 (38:53):
about the vagus nerve V-A-G-S I think.
Have you ever had your earsmassaged?
No, when you have your earsmassaged, a lot of vagus nerve
stuff going on there your wholehead and neck just feels so
relaxed, kind of like how youdescribe your pelvis.
It's the same energy releasethat gets all the tension out of
my.
My ears are like so tight.
It sounds crazy, but when Itouch my ears I'm like, and when
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I get the massage and like allloose and relax, same thing
happens from a g-spot climax.
It just takes all that tensionout of that area.
Which duh.
If you're born with ovaries, weall carry a lot of tension in
that area so nice to relieve it.
That's my theory anyway it.
Speaker 2 (39:31):
It feels like it like I when it's like I just feel
like a different person.
So now it's like okay, I gottahave this every time, because
this feels amazing, likecongratulations it's a good yeah
no premium too by womanizer.
I love y'all, but you have tomake a longer handle there's a?
Speaker 1 (39:51):
there's a gentleman who keeps uh, emailing me.
He makes handles for toys tomake them longer.
I should, um, I should forwardthat to you.
Maybe we can have him like asin a blog article or something
one time.
It's really interesting.
But yeah, they it makes.
He's basically a device forpeople who have disabilities or,
like me, who can't really reachmy clitoris very well because
(40:11):
of my larger lower tummy, andyeah, it connects all kinds of
different toys and stuff, sothat might work for you.
I like that Thank you, weevibe,and I do sell that one on my
website, bliss Connection, andwe have a code for 20% off,
which is BSC, like Big Sexy Chat.
20% off, which is BSC, like bigsexy chat.
(40:31):
And I'm so thrilled for you,murph.
That's so wonderful, because ifthere's just more orgasms in
the world, there'd be so muchless rage in the world.
We just, we need a lot lessrage in our world right now.
Speaker 2 (40:38):
It's so true, like I, I feel such like not only just
physically, like I just feellike so much nicer after you've
come, like you're just like,yeah, okay's fun, everything,
everything's gonna work out likeit's all good.
Speaker 1 (40:54):
I always say no more road rage.
Keep a, keep a silver bullet inyour glove compartment.
You get stuck in traffic.
You'll be like, yes, trafficawesome I got this it's got to
turn that you gotta just do theparadigm shift on the whole
thing.
So I was gonna tell you, unlessyou have anything more to say
about female ejaculation.
I was going to tell you alittle bit about the event I
went to this week, this pastThursday night.
(41:15):
It was called Girls Uncorkedand Girls Uncorked is like a
almost like a division ofCassidy, which is a website for
dating, but it's for dating forpeople who are a little kinkier
in their dating life, maybeswingers or same room sex with
other people or just kinky andkind of like into kinkier things
.
And one of my friends slashclients, said Crystal, I think
(41:39):
you would love this group ofwomen.
They're all about our age andthey're all talking all the time
about sex and menopause.
I was like, oh sure, I want totry it.
And I did something I haven'tdone since before the pandemic,
which is I went to a party whereI didn't know anybody.
I was nervous for like 10seconds before I walked back to
the door, but then it went awayreally quickly because they were
so warm and welcoming.
I was the largest person in theroom.
I mean, it was a pool party, soI was a large person outside in
(42:01):
their area, but, yeah, theywere so lovely, even though I'm
much larger than most everybodythere.
They didn't seem to even noticeor care, which is cool, but I
know kinky people are so muchmore open-minded than non-kinky
people.
They just, it's like because Iguess they're living in a world
that's a lot less sociallyacceptable, so maybe I don't
(42:23):
know.
I love it, though, and I had somuch fun.
I met all kinds of interestingwomen.
One woman sells sex toys onlineand does home parties, and all
of their partners seem to workin tech.
The interesting thing is, wewent around the room and we did
an introduction, and so what'syour name, what's your partner's
name?
Tell us about you, and they'llbe like oh well, I'm a unicorn,
meaning they like to hook upwith other couples or I have sex
(42:47):
with other people, but myhusband does it.
He likes to watch, or I'm a domor I'm a sub.
It was so fascinating.
I was like, wow, and then howthey met their partner and then
what other parties they like togo to, and it was really good,
and all I could think of is Ineed to start a fat girl chapter
of Girls Uncorked.
Wouldn't that be fun?
(43:07):
I am here for it, yes, and wecould have.
Like it doesn't mean because youcome to my meeting or whatever
this, whatever we call it,doesn't mean you're going to
swing with other people.
It just means you'reopen-minded, you want to talk
about stuff that has to do withsex.
Maybe you have conversationslike we have here on our podcast
and people everyone talkingabout menopause the other night,
because, of course, everybody'sover 40.
Menopause all the things peopleare doing for menopause, like
(43:29):
just adult topics, where youknow maybe you want to ask
something sexual that youwouldn't ask anywhere else.
So it's working around.
I'm marinating in my brain abouthow to do it.
I think that'd be so much funand, yeah, another way to create
community, right?
If you know, everybody else islike-minded and that's all I had
in common with these ladies isthat I know that we're all
like-minded.
(43:49):
I'm not going to judge you.
Whatever you're doing in yourbedroom, as long as you leave
kids and animals out of it, Idon't fucking care.
You do you?
Everybody has consent, andthat's what I had in common with
these people.
So immediately we had somethingin common, even though I was
much, much larger than them, andI had a really good time.
Speaker 2 (44:05):
Awesome.
Yeah, when you sent me thelittle graphic you know kind of
just explaining what it was, Iwas just like what?
Like, oh, I think a fat girl,chapter of Girls Uncorked would
be incredible.
Speaker 1 (44:21):
Me too.
It was a really good time.
It was like a pool party.
Everybody was like naked, halfnaked, not me.
I didn't know it was a poolparty, but I probably still
would have been naked.
Speaker 2 (44:30):
And you shared like they do it at people's homes
instead of like in a public.
Why is that?
Because of the kink nature or Idon't really know.
Speaker 1 (44:40):
I think they're trying not to put financial
pressure on people, because whenI think about maybe doing
something like that, I'mthinking of private rooms.
I know that can be used forlike networking events.
I go to a lot of networkingevents and host a lot of
networking events.
This is kind of like networking, but with kinky people.
Yeah, I'm like why can't I useone of those rooms?
So, like I said, I'm stillmarinating on it, but yeah, it
(45:01):
was really was really fun.
And yeah, lots of naked people,all different body types, some
people who are more, theirbreasts look higher and some
women whose breasts looked lowerand like mine.
Lots of different body, hair,kinds of things going on.
Some had lots, some had none.
It was like this is so fuckingamazing.
Speaker 2 (45:23):
This is how the world should be.
Yes, right, just accepted forwho you are just show up, yeah.
Speaker 1 (45:29):
So yeah, I'm giving myself a little pat on the back
because I went and then myfriend slash client was there.
But you know, I drove myselfthere by myself and I went up
the stairs by myself and thenonce I got through the door I
was like okay, I'm fine, youknow.
And that right away they smiledat me like who's the new girl,
you know.
It's like ooh, it's been awhile, that's fun.
I love it.
Yeah, it was fun.
Speaker 2 (45:50):
And, like you said, it's good.
You know it's the good exerciseof getting out and about before
pre-COVID.
You know, like I'm in a newenvironment I don't know these
people Like it's always feelsgood to kind of test that muscle
every once in a while.
Speaker 1 (46:04):
It was Okay, I still can do this, I can still do this
, right?
I told my boyfriend I was kindof charming.
Actually, too, I felt charming.
They had a lot of questions forme because of what I do the
hair removal, you know, andthat's the sex toys.
And yeah, they had a lot ofquestions about that.
When I go to other networkingevents that are more business
related, it's so funny because Ilike to say I love SEO and SEX
(46:25):
and SEO is search engineoptimization, Sex is sex and you
could see, when I go to thesenetworking events, people's
brains are like she said sex.
But it's cool because peopleremember me, because at this one
, I was like yeah, I'm into SEOand well, yeah, just like all
the rest of you sex, and it wasvery freeing.
I didn't have to feel like Iwas being judged or anything
like that.
I was like, okay, one morefreak.
Speaker 2 (46:47):
Nice, I love it.
That's great.
Yeah, it was cool, so you'regoing to be out for a little bit
.
Speaker 1 (46:54):
Let's talk about that .
Yes, I'm going to have sinussurgery and I wanted to bring it
up for a couple of reasons.
I'm going to be gone for alittle while.
I have to take probably a weekor 10 days off of work maybe
longer, maybe less and basicallyI'm having this called FESS,
f-e-s-s, and I have a lot ofissues with sinusitis.
So that means my nose is alwaysrunning and a lot of post nasal
(47:15):
drip, you know, down my throat,which creates my cough, which
might also exacerbate my asthma.
So I really need this.
I've needed it for five or 10years and then putting it in
alcohol.
I'm going to finally do it.
And of course I was nervous thatthey were going to turn me down
because I'm fat, because thathappens a lot.
So of course I had to start offby asking in my email or the
dashboard at Kaiser hey, I'm fat, is this going to be okay?
(47:40):
I just I worry about is gettingall the way halfway there or
three quarters away there, andthey go oh, no, no, nevermind.
So I learned two things.
One is they mostly decide whoto have surgery on by your BMI.
And I said, oh, my BMI is wayyou know, it's probably over 40
or 50.
I don't know, I don't eventhink the BMI is stupid, but I
know that's how they do it.
And I said, and the lady goesoh, okay, well, mine too.
(48:02):
And I go yeah, I'm really fat,I go, but I need to have my
sinus surgery.
Is that going to keep me fromhaving surgery?
She goes oh, let's not use thatword.
I go oh, no, no, no, I'm coolwith that word.
I said, honestly, fat is just aneutral descriptor that
describes my body and if we takethe hate out of it and we take
ownership of it, then when otherpeople use it, it has no power
(48:22):
over us.
She goes oh, my God, she goes.
Well, I'm a BMI over 40 or 52.
I go, well, hi, sister, nice tomeet you.
I go am I going to be worried?
She goes.
The only thing that's going tohappen is that they'll
definitely want to do yoursurgery in the hospital instead
of the clinic, because they justwant to be prepared in case
something happens.
But she goes.
(48:47):
We do these surgeries on fatpeople all the time.
So I'm like okay, but I'mreally really fat.
She goes.
So am I?
I go, okay, so it was nice tolike not be fat.
Shame for a change.
Things are getting a tiny bitbetter out there.
You know, a tiny bit I do gettired of settling for
breadcrumbs, but I'll take themwhen I can get them.
But yeah, it sounds like I'mgoing to be able to have my
surgery and it's not going tomatter how much I wear, what my
BMI is, just that I have to haveit at a hospital.
Yeah, I need it so bad, murph.
Well, you know, you see medealing with the coffee and
hearing the podcast all the time.
Speaker 2 (49:08):
Yeah Well, and that you've just been needing it for
so long, and I know it's one ofthose things where it's like
having to deal with the medicalfield in general.
Speaker 1 (49:17):
It's just like.
Speaker 2 (49:17):
I'm going to push this off, I'm going to push it
out, and then it's to yourdetriment and it's like the fact
that you even have to ask thequestion of like, can I get this
surgery?
Knowing full and well thateverybody can get the surgery.
It should not be a BMI thingand I'm just glad that you're
(49:39):
finally able to get it and youdidn't have to deal with the
horrible shamey part of that.
Speaker 1 (49:41):
Even with my hysterectomy.
I was worried up until themoment the anesthesiologist came
into my room because I've heardso many horror stories.
My hysterectomy was morerelated to that little bit of
cancer that I got, so I thinkthat made them a little more
flexible.
But I was like shit, they couldjust tell me no at any moment.
And then the anesthesiologistcame in the room.
She goes I keep fat peoplealive all the time that she goes
.
I keep fat people alive all thetime.
That's my job is to keep youalive.
(50:01):
I do that for all kinds ofdifferent people.
I was like okay, but I'm really, really fat.
She goes yeah, she's done thisbefore a few times.
I go oh, okay, that's all Ineeded to hear.
Thank you.
Speaker 2 (50:11):
How many other people have you know been denied that
sort of thing or had that sortof?
Yeah, it's so rough Whileyou're out, asherlee and I said
we'd record an episode and Ithink we're going to have some
time to bank some with you sothat you know you'll have some
unplugs before then too.
So I think we'll have a varietyso that folks can, you know,
(50:32):
jump in and kind of catch.
You know, catch up maybe orhave some other options for
things while you're out.
But I'm just glad that you'reable to get it and that it's
something that hopefully isgoing to be like life-changing
for you.
Speaker 1 (50:46):
It's supposed to be pretty painful for the first few
days and then, like for about aweek, you have to keep it
packed.
Like I said, it's a lot.
So in my day job, you know, I'mleaning over people's faces.
I do wear a mask all the time,but I'm sure it would be
uncomfortable, like pressure.
You you know and you'reprobably not going to fly
anywhere for a couple months andall that kind of stuff.
So, yeah, I'm excited to.
I always love when younaturally get together.
(51:06):
It's always really fun tolisten to.
Speaker 2 (51:08):
Yeah that'll be good.
So, um, you mentioned youtube.
I think we should talk aboutthe, the fact that we need you
all to subscribe.
We need you to subscribe,whether that be you like to read
, sign, sign up for thenewsletter, subscribe for the
newsletter, because then you'regetting that content regularly.
Maybe you like to see stuff.
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Subscribe to YouTube.
Or you can watch us, have thispodcast and talk and watch how
we move around and what ourgestures are and our nonverbals.
I hope you all do right thenand there, because you just saw
a really, really fantasticresponse from Crystal.
Speaker 1 (51:42):
I love the bird, I love the bird.
Speaker 2 (51:45):
Or if, um, if you subscribe to things like Apple
podcasts um, that's where I getmine.
Some people do Spotify, but thewhole point subscribe, because
if you're subscribing, you'regoing to get notified when we
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Um, so, like, we just last weekreleased our Tigris episode and
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That's all we're asking.
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Speaker 2 (52:25):
Big sexy chat pod at gmailcom we have but that one.
Speaker 1 (52:29):
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It'll always be there exactlyit works.
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It works well forever yeah and um, subscribe like,
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Speaker 1 (52:56):
Doing that Well said Murph, is there anything else we
need to talk about today?
I think that's it.
We're back, baby.
We're back.
See you later, alligator aftera while.
Speaker 2 (53:06):
Crocodile.
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