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July 15, 2025 67 mins

What happens when the narcissist loses control of you and starts targeting your kids instead?


In this raw and revealing episode of Bitch Is a Bad Word, Lindsay sits down with high-conflict divorce strategist Victoria McCooey, who shares what every woman needs to know before leaving a narcissistic or abusive partner and what’s waiting on the other side when you do it with strategy and power.


Victoria explains how narcissists often shift their abuse to the children once they can no longer manipulate their partner, and how you can become the safe, steady place your child needs when the gaslighting turns on them. Whether you’re preparing to leave, knee-deep in a court battle, or struggling to co-parent with someone hellbent on control, this episode is your map, your mirror, and your megaphone.


Inside This Episode:

  • What actually happens when you finally decide to leave
  • How to outsmart a narcissist without sinking to their level
  • Why abuse often escalates when you’re pregnant or financially vulnerable
  • The heartbreaking moment a narcissist starts targeting the kids
  • How to protect your child emotionally when the manipulation flips on them
  • The top 5 tactics narcissists use during divorce and how to prepare for them
  • Why leaving a narcissist is like launching a business and how to lead it like a CEO
  • A free resource from Victoria: Five Things Every Woman Should Know Before Divorcing a Narcissist


About Victoria:

Victoria McCooey is a high-conflict divorce coach, narcissist abuse expert, and founder of Divorce Allies, a powerful support platform helping women navigate toxic relationships and emerge with clarity, confidence, and community. She offers one-on-one coaching, an expert-led membership program, and dozens of resources to help you leave smart and stay strong.


Bestie Freebie:

Download Victoria’s essential guide: Five Things Every Woman Should Know Before Divorcing a Narcissist, plus access support calls, expert workshops, and more at https://www.victoriamccooey.com/ and https://www.thedivorceallies.com/


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