July 2, 2024 • 12 mins
In this episode, we explore the essential steps to achieving body trust and fostering a positive connection with food. We'll uncover how letting go of fear, shame, and control, and embracing respect and mutual understanding can lead to a healthier and more intuitive approach to eating. By making small, consistent changes such as honoring our hunger cues and allowing all foods into our homes, we can pave the way towards trusting our natural weight set point. This journey, likened to building trust with a friend, is attainable through repeated positive experiences and a commitment to respectful self-care.
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Welcome everyone.
I am excited about today'spodcast.
It's completely impromptu and Iusually every time create some
notes here, but I'm just goingto go with the flow and talk
about something that's soimportant in really establishing
such a strong relationship withfood and body, where you are
(00:22):
just vibing, not needing tothink about it, feeling
confident, feeling comfortable,and that is body trust.
That is the role of havingtrust with your body and having
trust with food and I don't meanjust a little bit of body trust
, I mean really, really grounded, full body trust and trusting
(00:45):
all foods, really having thatrelationship with your body
where you you know it's takingcare of you.
You also have education aroundwhat it's doing thing while
you're working together with it.
And trust with food where youare not afraid of food, where
(01:06):
you are an intuitive eater,where you really know what you
want and what you like, whereyou're not afraid of foods,
where you can keep all foods inthe house and you are so not
afraid or have any desire tobinge or overeat or distrust the
food that you have in yourhouse and you're just making
choices from a place of healthand happiness and feeling good.
(01:31):
So those are things that mightfeel so foreign and unattainable
to you and once upon a timethat absolutely felt that way
for me as well.
I felt like there is no way Ican trust food in my body.
I have to hold the reins here.
I have to make sure I am whiteknuckling it.
I have to make sure I havecontrol over everything that
(01:54):
happens and I felt totally outof control right.
We oftentimes feel completelyout of control the more control
we try to grab, because wecannot gain trust by distrusting
right, which is a wild thingthat people believe and are told
.
We are told that we aren't totrust our body, we aren't to
(02:19):
trust food.
We really need to get a handleon it and manipulate it in order
to be able to have a goodrelationship with it.
So how can we have trust withthese things ever and feel calm
and cool and collected aroundthese things if we are using
distrust to get there Same withshame, same with disrespect by
(02:42):
disrespecting our body, by notlistening to it or restricting
or shaming it.
There's just no way thosethings equate to each other and
I have seen for myself and somany clients that this just
leads to more and more shame,distrust, not knowing how to eat
, not trusting our body and justfeeling completely out of
(03:03):
control and lost and scaredaround food and our bodies.
So, the role of trust how theheck do we gain such a thing
that feels maybe so foreign tous and so far off, when we feel
like there's no way I can trustit in my body?
Let's talk about that today.
I want to talk about the roleand the importance Now.
(03:25):
Gaining trust means we need toestablish a new relationship and
I want you to think about thisas a relationship with another
person.
Okay, how do we gain trust withanother person?
Well, we need to have afoundation of respect.
We need to be open, we need tohave time and experiences with
(03:50):
that person to understand, if wecan, to have those built up of
experiences to see if we cantrust.
We need to learn about thatother person, and those are the
exact things we need to do withfood and our body.
We need to be able to lean intolearning more about our body,
learning more about food,working together and practicing
(04:14):
mutual respect, and this is thedoor and the pathway into
building trust and respectbuilding respect with food in
our body.
It's a big thing.
There are a lot of littlethings in there that we need to
do to actually establish thatrespect fully.
Because respect for our foodand our body means respecting
(04:37):
how we talk to it, respectinghow we are going to go about
feeding ourselves, and listeningto our bodies when it's hungry,
and moving our bodies in a waythat feels good and not hurting
our bodies, ditching diets,learning to be intuitive eaters,
learning to keep all foods inthe house, to trust our body
(04:58):
around all foods right, to trustour body around the size it's
meant to be, to allow it to doits thing.
And that is a lot.
Those are a lot of differentpractices and if we don't have
any of those, this is going totake a lot of practice to get to
true trust with our body Right,so, and with food, and so
(05:20):
there's a lot of little thingsto practice and we have to
practice it over and over andover again to have all of those
experiences to get to that trust, get to that trust.
And so when we get started andwhen I get started with my
clients so often I'm sorry, andso so often, um, clients who
(05:46):
start with me and for startingwhen I started myself it is a
very, very, very scary thing tolean into distrust, because that
means doing things completelydifferent.
That means building.
I'm just going to take anexample.
If we are distrusting of carbs,that means we have to engage
with all carbs and build ourtrust around being able to have
(06:08):
those things again which alsobrings work into body image and
really working on trusting thatour body needs to do what it
needs to do.
It's going to land where itneeds to land, and that is a
whole ton of work.
Even as I'm starting to talkabout this so freely, rather
than having a script, I'm justthinking, wow, there's just so
much to building that trust.
(06:29):
There's so much to building.
There's so much trust to buildwhen we have none of it.
We need to be able to trustthat our body is not going to
lose complete control and thatit has a weight set point.
We need to lean into trustingits cues that it sends us as
well and that it's going to sendus those hunger cues.
(06:49):
It's going to send us thosefullness cues and that we're
going to trust that.
We're going to listen to that.
We have to trust that we can bean intuitive eater.
We got to trust that we are notgoing to binge on the Oreos and
ice cream.
We have to trust that we'regoing to want to eat healthy
foods if we allow ourselves tohave everything.
We have to trust that we'regoing to want to engage in
(07:10):
joyful movement.
There is so much trust to bebuilt and so we're not going to
talk about how to build thattrust.
There's so much to it.
There's other podcast episodeson that and if you're interested
, you can work with me in myprogram, which I'll talk about
at the end.
But I want to talk about why,the why behind.
Why is trust so important?
Why is this so important?
(07:32):
Why can do we have to have thattrust in order to get to that
place we want to be with ourrelationship with food and body.
Why can't we just follow dietsforever?
Why can't we just manipulateand control, control?
(07:55):
Well, there's no way we can getto a place with food and body
that feels so good if we aretrying to gain control, because
control doesn't come from trust,and trust is what gives us the
foundation to not need tocontrol, grab the reins, have
anxiety around it and constantlybe assessing and nervous and
(08:16):
researching the next best dietand relying on external things.
Trust is built internally, withfood and body and with ourselves
.
And so once we built that, thenwe can have a foundational,
healthy, happy relationship withfood and body.
So let's go back to ourrelationship with another person
when we're thinking of ourrelationship with a significant
(08:40):
other.
So foundational is trust, andwithout the trust we would
always be anxious, we wouldn'tbe making decisions from a good
place or a place that'ssupportive to us or the
relationship.
We would be constantly confused.
We would probably want to jumpin and out of different
relationships because it doesn'tfeel good for us or we would
stay in something that justdoesn't feel good and overall
(09:02):
it's a ton of anxiety.
It takes us away from our life.
It's just there's no foundationthere.
So we have to have thefoundation of trust.
And what happens when we havetrust in a relationship with
someone?
Well then everything becomeseasy, intuitive.
We don't have to struggle.
We have open doors for enjoyingeach other, for love, for our
(09:26):
hobbies, for doing thingstogether.
We can.
It's easy to respect and givelove.
It's easy to listen to eachother.
And that is the same thing thathappens with our body.
When we have that foundationaltrust and we build that, we're
able to listen to our body.
Our body is able to listen tous, we're able to work together,
we're able to enjoy each other,we're able to act from a place
(09:48):
of respect and compassion, whichmeans we can eat from a place
of intuition and health and whatfeels good and happiness,
because it's easy, because wehave that foundational base of
trust.
So I'm going to end there.
I can go on and on and on, butI just wanted to speak to that
(10:11):
really non-negotiable.
So if you are in a place whereyou do not trust food or all
food, or you don't trust yourbody or you don't trust your
body completely, whether you'rejumping on and off the scale,
you don't want to lead intointuitive eating.
You have a lot of body imagedistress, you are restricting
and jumping from diet to diet.
(10:31):
You will not give up food rules.
You're overexercising, you'renervous if you miss a gym day.
All of this distrust is goingto continue to lead you further
and further and further intoanxiety and a relationship with
your body, just as it would be aperson that is not right, that
doesn't feel good and it's notgoing to give you the life and
relationship that you deserveand want.
(10:51):
And so, if you're ready tobuild trust.
If you're ready to lean intodiscomfort and build trust and
do all the things necessary todo that, I have just the thing
for you and you got to be ready.
It's got to be a good fit.
If you're not ready, it's notfor you, but if you're a hell,
yeah, let's do this.
I want to invite you to TrueFood and Body Image Freedom for
(11:13):
Everyone, a group program wherewe work together with a ton of
internal support and a ton ofinternal resources to get you to
that finish line so you canhave trust and intuition, which
is absolutely available for you.
And I just want to, with everyepisode, want to scream that
from the rooftops that you canbe there.
I remember having so littlehope when no one was saying that
(11:35):
and I'm.
It's just such an importantthing for me to name every time
so you can absolutely be there.
Feel free to email me at helloat jamierdcom to learn more.
Dm me the word freedom atjamierd underscore to receive a
free mini course and apply onJamieRDcom and I'm sorry,
(11:56):
jamiethedietitiancom and I canshare more about the program and
see if you're a good fit.
We would love to have you ifyou're ready and ready for a
wonderful, wonderful transitioninto an easy, peaceful
relationship with food and body.
Okay, I'm going to let you go.
I hope you have a wonderful dayand today try and practice a
(12:16):
little bit of leaning into bodytrust and tell me how it goes.
I believe in you.
Welcome everyone.
I am excited about today'spodcast.
It's completely impromptu and Iusually every time create some
notes here, but I'm just goingto go with the flow and talk
about something that's soimportant in really establishing
such a strong relationship withfood and body, where you are
(00:22):
just vibing, not needing tothink about it, feeling
confident, feeling comfortable,and that is body trust.
That is the role of havingtrust with your body and having
trust with food and I don't meanjust a little bit of body trust
, I mean really, really grounded, full body trust and trusting
(00:45):
all foods, really having thatrelationship with your body
where you you know it's takingcare of you.
You also have education aroundwhat it's doing thing while
you're working together with it.
And trust with food where youare not afraid of food, where
(01:06):
you are an intuitive eater,where you really know what you
want and what you like, whereyou're not afraid of foods,
where you can keep all foods inthe house and you are so not
afraid or have any desire tobinge or overeat or distrust the
food that you have in yourhouse and you're just making
choices from a place of healthand happiness and feeling good.
(01:31):
So those are things that mightfeel so foreign and unattainable
to you and once upon a timethat absolutely felt that way
for me as well.
I felt like there is no way Ican trust food in my body.
I have to hold the reins here.
I have to make sure I am whiteknuckling it.
I have to make sure I havecontrol over everything that
(01:54):
happens and I felt totally outof control right.
We oftentimes feel completelyout of control the more control
we try to grab, because wecannot gain trust by distrusting
right, which is a wild thingthat people believe and are told
.
We are told that we aren't totrust our body, we aren't to
(02:19):
trust food.
We really need to get a handleon it and manipulate it in order
to be able to have a goodrelationship with it.
So how can we have trust withthese things ever and feel calm
and cool and collected aroundthese things if we are using
distrust to get there Same withshame, same with disrespect by
(02:42):
disrespecting our body, by notlistening to it or restricting
or shaming it.
There's just no way thosethings equate to each other and
I have seen for myself and somany clients that this just
leads to more and more shame,distrust, not knowing how to eat
, not trusting our body and justfeeling completely out of
(03:03):
control and lost and scaredaround food and our bodies.
So, the role of trust how theheck do we gain such a thing
that feels maybe so foreign tous and so far off, when we feel
like there's no way I can trustit in my body?
Let's talk about that today.
I want to talk about the roleand the importance Now.
(03:25):
Gaining trust means we need toestablish a new relationship and
I want you to think about thisas a relationship with another
person.
Okay, how do we gain trust withanother person?
Well, we need to have afoundation of respect.
We need to be open, we need tohave time and experiences with
(03:50):
that person to understand, if wecan, to have those built up of
experiences to see if we cantrust.
We need to learn about thatother person, and those are the
exact things we need to do withfood and our body.
We need to be able to lean intolearning more about our body,
learning more about food,working together and practicing
(04:14):
mutual respect, and this is thedoor and the pathway into
building trust and respectbuilding respect with food in
our body.
It's a big thing.
There are a lot of littlethings in there that we need to
do to actually establish thatrespect fully.
Because respect for our foodand our body means respecting
(04:37):
how we talk to it, respectinghow we are going to go about
feeding ourselves, and listeningto our bodies when it's hungry,
and moving our bodies in a waythat feels good and not hurting
our bodies, ditching diets,learning to be intuitive eaters,
learning to keep all foods inthe house, to trust our body
(04:58):
around all foods right, to trustour body around the size it's
meant to be, to allow it to doits thing.
And that is a lot.
Those are a lot of differentpractices and if we don't have
any of those, this is going totake a lot of practice to get to
true trust with our body Right,so, and with food, and so
(05:20):
there's a lot of little thingsto practice and we have to
practice it over and over andover again to have all of those
experiences to get to that trust, get to that trust.
And so when we get started andwhen I get started with my
clients so often I'm sorry, andso so often, um, clients who
(05:46):
start with me and for startingwhen I started myself it is a
very, very, very scary thing tolean into distrust, because that
means doing things completelydifferent.
That means building.
I'm just going to take anexample.
If we are distrusting of carbs,that means we have to engage
with all carbs and build ourtrust around being able to have
(06:08):
those things again which alsobrings work into body image and
really working on trusting thatour body needs to do what it
needs to do.
It's going to land where itneeds to land, and that is a
whole ton of work.
Even as I'm starting to talkabout this so freely, rather
than having a script, I'm justthinking, wow, there's just so
much to building that trust.
(06:29):
There's so much to building.
There's so much trust to buildwhen we have none of it.
We need to be able to trustthat our body is not going to
lose complete control and thatit has a weight set point.
We need to lean into trustingits cues that it sends us as
well and that it's going to sendus those hunger cues.
(06:49):
It's going to send us thosefullness cues and that we're
going to trust that.
We're going to listen to that.
We have to trust that we can bean intuitive eater.
We got to trust that we are notgoing to binge on the Oreos and
ice cream.
We have to trust that we'regoing to want to eat healthy
foods if we allow ourselves tohave everything.
We have to trust that we'regoing to want to engage in
(07:10):
joyful movement.
There is so much trust to bebuilt and so we're not going to
talk about how to build thattrust.
There's so much to it.
There's other podcast episodeson that and if you're interested
, you can work with me in myprogram, which I'll talk about
at the end.
But I want to talk about why,the why behind.
Why is trust so important?
Why is this so important?
(07:32):
Why can do we have to have thattrust in order to get to that
place we want to be with ourrelationship with food and body.
Why can't we just follow dietsforever?
Why can't we just manipulateand control, control?
(07:55):
Well, there's no way we can getto a place with food and body
that feels so good if we aretrying to gain control, because
control doesn't come from trust,and trust is what gives us the
foundation to not need tocontrol, grab the reins, have
anxiety around it and constantlybe assessing and nervous and
(08:16):
researching the next best dietand relying on external things.
Trust is built internally, withfood and body and with ourselves
.
And so once we built that, thenwe can have a foundational,
healthy, happy relationship withfood and body.
So let's go back to ourrelationship with another person
when we're thinking of ourrelationship with a significant
(08:40):
other.
So foundational is trust, andwithout the trust we would
always be anxious, we wouldn'tbe making decisions from a good
place or a place that'ssupportive to us or the
relationship.
We would be constantly confused.
We would probably want to jumpin and out of different
relationships because it doesn'tfeel good for us or we would
stay in something that justdoesn't feel good and overall
(09:02):
it's a ton of anxiety.
It takes us away from our life.
It's just there's no foundationthere.
So we have to have thefoundation of trust.
And what happens when we havetrust in a relationship with
someone?
Well then everything becomeseasy, intuitive.
We don't have to struggle.
We have open doors for enjoyingeach other, for love, for our
(09:26):
hobbies, for doing thingstogether.
We can.
It's easy to respect and givelove.
It's easy to listen to eachother.
And that is the same thing thathappens with our body.
When we have that foundationaltrust and we build that, we're
able to listen to our body.
Our body is able to listen tous, we're able to work together,
we're able to enjoy each other,we're able to act from a place
(09:48):
of respect and compassion, whichmeans we can eat from a place
of intuition and health and whatfeels good and happiness,
because it's easy, because wehave that foundational base of
trust.
So I'm going to end there.
I can go on and on and on, butI just wanted to speak to that
(10:11):
really non-negotiable.
So if you are in a place whereyou do not trust food or all
food, or you don't trust yourbody or you don't trust your
body completely, whether you'rejumping on and off the scale,
you don't want to lead intointuitive eating.
You have a lot of body imagedistress, you are restricting
and jumping from diet to diet.
(10:31):
You will not give up food rules.
You're overexercising, you'renervous if you miss a gym day.
All of this distrust is goingto continue to lead you further
and further and further intoanxiety and a relationship with
your body, just as it would be aperson that is not right, that
doesn't feel good and it's notgoing to give you the life and
relationship that you deserveand want.
(10:51):
And so, if you're ready tobuild trust.
If you're ready to lean intodiscomfort and build trust and
do all the things necessary todo that, I have just the thing
for you and you got to be ready.
It's got to be a good fit.
If you're not ready, it's notfor you, but if you're a hell,
yeah, let's do this.
I want to invite you to TrueFood and Body Image Freedom for
(11:13):
Everyone, a group program wherewe work together with a ton of
internal support and a ton ofinternal resources to get you to
that finish line so you canhave trust and intuition, which
is absolutely available for you.
And I just want to, with everyepisode, want to scream that
from the rooftops that you canbe there.
I remember having so littlehope when no one was saying that
(11:35):
and I'm.
It's just such an importantthing for me to name every time
so you can absolutely be there.
Feel free to email me at helloat jamierdcom to learn more.
Dm me the word freedom atjamierd underscore to receive a
free mini course and apply onJamieRDcom and I'm sorry,
(11:56):
jamiethedietitiancom and I canshare more about the program and
see if you're a good fit.
We would love to have you ifyou're ready and ready for a
wonderful, wonderful transitioninto an easy, peaceful
relationship with food and body.
Okay, I'm going to let you go.
I hope you have a wonderful dayand today try and practice a
(12:16):
little bit of leaning into bodytrust and tell me how it goes.
I believe in you.
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