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November 17, 2023 β€’ 17 mins

Are you trapped in the vicious cycle of obsessive thoughts about food and body image? Do you feel like your relationship with food and body has turned into a full-time job? We understand the struggle, and this episode is dedicated to helping you break free from these chains. Let's embark on a journey to tackle the root issues and dispel the misconceptions about willpower and body image. We tear down the facade of diet culture, exposing it as the root cause of most diet failures. In this pursuit of freedom, we assure you, full recovery from disordered eating and body image distress is not just a possibility, but a reality waiting to be embraced.

Longing for food and body image freedom? Feel stuck, confused, or in need of guidance? We got you covered. In this episode, we challenge distorted eating thoughts, re-educate ourselves, and navigate through the path to food freedom. We discuss how to fit all foods into your life while maintaining a healthy relationship with your body and food. Also, we provide a mini course on food and body, shedding light on the importance of recognizing thoughts and feelings. Join us as we pave the way to your freedom and leave behind the tormenting cycle of obsessive thoughts about food and body image. Share this knowledge far and wide, because freedom is meant to be shared!

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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Welcome to yet another episode of Bites and
Body Love.
I am so glad you are here.
Without further ado, let's diveinto something I love to
encourage people with andsomething I just love telling
people and and helping them torealize, which is you are not
broken, you are not flawed, youare not doomed to failure with

(00:25):
your relationship with food andbody.
You just aren't doing the rightthing, and hey, it's not your
fault.
It's very hard to do the rightthing because oftentimes we
don't know what that is and weare being promoted the exact
opposite of what we want to bedoing in order to heal our
relationship with food and body.
So let's dive into the episodeabout how you are just not

(00:49):
broken.
So are you finding yourself inthis place, where you're in this
relentless cycle of obsessivethoughts with food and body
image?
And if you are, you are notalone.
Are you also feeling like youcannot figure out how to get out
of it?
My heart really empathizes withyour struggle and I want to

(01:12):
invite you to explore thisepisode with me so that it can
help you to break a little morefree from your struggle, and I
hope today you can come out ofthis episode with more awareness
around the fact that you arenot broken.
What's happening is you're justdoing all the wrong things, and

(01:36):
it might be a differentvariation of the same wrong
thing a new diet, a new way ofrestrictive eating, a new way to
listen to external things andexternal rules rather than look
internally.
And again, that is such acommon struggle that people find
themselves in.
You are not broken and you arenot alone.
However, let's talk first aboutthese signs that you may

(02:00):
recognize that may tell you thatyou are caught up in this cycle
and you've been in this cyclefor a while.
Okay, so signs you mayrecognize are number one, these
persistent thoughts, thesethoughts about food in your body
that just dominate your wakinghours, just infiltrating even
the most mundane moments of yourday.

(02:22):
You're just thinking of foodand body and you have this
desire to stop obsessing.
You really want to break free.
You really want to break free.
You're done with it, you'reover it and you are eager to
liberate your mind from theceaseless cycle of thoughts and
really, you're seeing that youhave this readiness for change.

(02:44):
If you just knew how to do it,you would do it.
Another sign you may recognizethat you're caught in the cycle
ready to get out is that youhave it feels like you have this
full-time job mentality when itcomes to food and body and
bettering food and body and thepursuit of a better body image
and pursuit of just finding thatideal quote-unquote way of

(03:05):
eating has felt like ittransformed into like full-time
job now and you really want toquit that full-time job.
You may be in this place whereyou are endlessly researching.
Your time is consumed byextensive research into the next
diet or miracle solution, andit's fueled by the hope of

(03:28):
uncovering the key to lastingfood and body confidence.
And yet you have not found theright research, you have not
found the right diet, you havenot found the right miracle
solution, because you're herelistening to the podcast,
figuring out what is the nextbest thing, because this is not
working.
Another symptom, another sign,is lack of trust in food and

(03:51):
body.
Trust in both food and yourbody may feel like this just
unattainable goal, leaving youin this state of perpetual
uncertainty and unease you justdon't have.
You just don't trust your body,you don't trust food and you
don't know how the heck to eator feel about your body.
You may also be, of course,experiencing a lot of

(04:15):
frustration with all thesefailed attempts because, despite
throwing every availableresource at gaining this body,
confidence and food, freedom andunderstanding how to eat, this
sense of hopelessness creeps inwith each failure.
And again, naming this failureis not your fault.
Another sign is you'repostponing your life plans.

(04:39):
Your life, your plans, yourgoals.
They remain suspended, awaitingthis attainment of your quote,
unquote ideal body, and you'rejust yearning to break free and
start living with more ease andmore freedom.
You're just ready.
You're ready, and that's a bigpart too.
You are ready.

(04:59):
You're feeling like you needsomething different and you may
just not know what it is.
You don't have to be a prisonerto the cycle.
You don't.
The journey to full freedomwith food and body and stress,
and full recovery fromdisordered eating or chronic
dieting, disordered eating it isnot only possible, but it's

(05:21):
here for you and it's liberatingand it can change your life.
It involves really doing thingsdifferently and getting
uncomfortable.
It involves breaking free fromthese external rules, embracing
self-compassion and reframingyour relationship with food and
body.
This conventional approach ofdieting is a vicious cycle.
We know it.
It promises these things, butit has inevitable disappointment

(05:45):
.
Research consistently,consistently shows that over 95%
of diets fail, leading to notonly regaining the lost weight
but detrimental impacts on yourrelationship with food and body
and on your physical and mentalhealth and wellbeing overall.
And diet culture really thriveson these disappointments.
It creates this cycle thatcapitalizes on your shame and

(06:08):
this perpetual search for thesequick fixes.
Additionally, many individualsfind themselves kind of caught
in this state of like pseudorecovery from diets and
disordered eating and body isjust stressed, and they attempt
these diets and programs thatmiss the mark in addressing root
problems.

(06:28):
So if you feel like you triedsome different things other than
dieting, but you're not quitethere, first of all I commend
you for doing somethingdifferent and doing something
uncomfortable.
But you may be stuck in thispseudo recovery place where it
feels a little bit better thanwhen you were really dieting a
little bit more hardcore beforeyou started bringing back some

(06:52):
foods in and doing some thingsdifferently.
But you still haven't gone allthe way to the finish line where
you have addressed all theunderlying problems, all the
root problems, all the differentpieces of body image and food,
and so you're missing thingsthat will bring you to a place
where you really wanna be, whichis full freedom.

(07:12):
That is really the thing thathelps you to truly leave these
distressing food and body imagedistress behind.
So being here does not mean youare broken Absolutely not.
You're actually in good companywith a lot of people who are on

(07:33):
the same struggle bus trying tofigure out why the heck they
keep coming to the same placewhere they're unable to find
food and body image freedom.
You are so not alone.
You are so not alone.
It's just very easy to get herebecause we live in this world

(07:53):
of diet culture.
So you are absolutely notbroken.
You are just doing the wrongthing, and there are a lot of
myths and misconceptions thatcan lead you to believe you are
on the right path.
Now.
It also leads you to now.
There are several myths andmisconceptions when it comes to

(08:14):
body image work, and this oftenkeeps people stuck as well,
because these perpetuate thecycle of feeling like diets are
the way to go and changing yourbody is the way to go when it
comes to food and body obsession.
And one of these misconceptionsis this idea that changing
their body is going toautomatically change your body

(08:35):
image, and this is justincorrect.
I want you to ask yourselfabout your own experience when
you have changed your body.
How has body confidence andbody respect and food freedom
have you gotten there withchanging your body?
Because, most likely, your bodychanged because of a diet that
you were on or some kind ofrestrictive rules that you gave

(08:58):
yourself and therefore you wereled to this false sense of, in
short lived, body confidence,where you maybe feel or felt
very uneasy about straying fromthis diet and very nervous and
feeling like you needed moreweight loss or you needed to
restrict more or diet harder inorder to maintain this

(09:20):
confidence.
Because it was built on thisfalse sense of confidence, it
was built on the way, like yourweight, which is not where true
grounding freedom comes fromwhen it comes to relationship
with food and body.
Because what happens when youcan't sustain this restriction?
You can't sustain these rules,or these rules are making you

(09:40):
miserable, because you can nolonger go out with your friends
or your partner or your lovedones because you are not allowed
those certain types of foodsand you are still constantly
jumping on the scale right.
And so, even with thisconfidence that you may have
gotten from some weight loss orbody changes, you still have a

(10:01):
very distressing relationshipwith food and body.
You still feel very uneasy andvery just not trusting, and this
is not sustainable.
This is not what it is built on.
Similarly, another misconceptionis that this notion of
willpower, this pure, sheerwillpower that's gonna help you

(10:23):
control food, is also incorrect.
It does not have to do withyour willpower, because if that
were the case, I mean we wouldbe there right.
Why would we be constantlyfailing our diets?
Why would everyone beconstantly failing their diets?
Why would 95 plus percent ofpeople be failing their diets

(10:45):
and gaining the weight back?
That's because willpower is Notthe problem, and focusing on
willpower is just going to leadyou more and more down that
cycle of distrust and distress.
And the last misconception Iwant to talk about is this
belief that the idealrelationship with food and body

(11:06):
is unattainable, that where youare is where you're going to be,
and we just have to accept that.
Absolutely not.
There's just not a lot ofresources out there that are
helping people to achieve bodyimage and food freedom in the
correct ways.
There's not a lot out there,and so they're hard to find.

(11:26):
And also, in a world where welive in diet culture, you're
going to see more people with anegative relationship with food
and body than positive, thosewith positive relationship with
food and body, untouched bydiets and disorderly eating.
And so it can often look likethis is just the world that

(11:46):
you're doomed to live in.
This is just your reality, butI can tell you that that is
false.
I can shatter thismisconception by all my
experience working with clientsand my personal experience as
well.
You can absolutely achieve fullfood and body image freedom.
I have seen it many, many timesand is there for you.

(12:07):
You don't have to remain inthis like suit or recovery.
You don't have to remain in thecycle.
Full recovery from binge eating, restrictive eating, food
distress, body image distress isnot only possible, but it's
full recovery from binge eating,restrictive eating, food
distress, body image distress.
It's absolutely there for you.
You are not broken and it ismeant for you.

(12:29):
If you're here, listening andyou're still trying.
You're not giving up.
Keep going.
It is there for you.
Do something different.
It really requires addressingroot causes, getting support,
challenging those distortedeating and body image distress
thoughts, challenging socialnorms, reeducating yourself,

(12:52):
letting go of diet culture,pursuing food freedom and
working to make all foods fitagain in your life, addressing
body image All huge, huge things, and those are there for you
and I can probably assume ifyou're in this cycle of
disordered eating and chronicdieting, then you may not have

(13:15):
tried these things.
And if you have, I want tochallenge you and say well, for
how long, how long have you haveyou tried working on body image
?
How long have you triedbringing all foods in?
How long have you tried to quitdieting?
I mean, it's probably shortlived, because if you continue
down that path and it's going totake time because you've been
in diet culture and disorderedeating for a long time but it's

(13:38):
absolutely there for you.
You just have to keep going.
You have to get the rightsupport.
You have to make sure you leaveno stone unturned when you are
healing your relationship withfood and body.
So there it is.
You are not broken.
You are just doing the wrongthing and you're not alone.
You are not alone, it's socommon.
But stop telling yourselfyou're broken.

(13:59):
You're absolutely not thinkingof a metaphor here.
Let's, let's say we have this,this wonderful car that we love
and we really want to drive init, we really want to be able to
use it, but it's not workingand we keep bringing it to the
same dealership that sends usoff with the same fix under a

(14:20):
different shiny name and wecontinue to pursue fixing our
car at this one dealership eventhough we keep seeing that it's
not working.
It breaks down again.
Right, you need to bring it toa new mechanic Mechanic, not
dealership.
I crushed myself.
So we need to bring it to a newmechanic and this new mechanic

(14:43):
may have all these differenttools.
They have different insight.
Where it will, where you areable to get that car to a place
where it is your dream car andyou can Use that car how you
wish.
So hopefully, that medicalmetaphor was a little bit
helpful, but anyways, we justneed a new mechanic here.

(15:06):
The car is not broken.
It's not doomed to fail.
You are not doomed to fail.
We just have to go to a newmechanic.
We have to get a different kindof support.
We have to try something new.
So don't let confusion, don'tlet societal pressures, don't
let shame keep you from breakingfree of this cycle.
Full recovery is within reach.

(15:26):
It offers a life of freedom,ease and joy.
You deserve to be empowered tobreak free from these chains of
food and body obsession and geton the path of self-discovery,
acceptance, food and body imagefreedom that is lasting,
sustainable and one you'll neverlook back to diet diets again.
You deserve a life unburdenedby these constraints of societal

(15:51):
expectations, of these dietsand body image distress.
So I want to encourage you, aswe end here today, to move
forward confidently and stoptelling yourself we're broken,
because freedom is waiting foryou at the finish line.
Now, if you feel ready and youare serious about healing your
relationship with food and bodyand you want to do something

(16:11):
different, I want to invite youto my signature program, full
Food and Body Image Freedom forEverybody, where you can dive
into all of this and get animmense amount of support to get
out of it and never needanything like this again, to
have full trust with food andbody, to feel confident and to
break these chains and to live alife you deserve.

(16:32):
So if you're interested, goahead and DM me at JamieRD
underscore and I will send you afew free mini courses on how to
ditch dieting, how to get tofull food and body image freedom
, and those are completely free.
So I look forward to seeing youthere.
So, if you found this helpful,go ahead and rate this podcast,
please, and share it, too, withanyone who might benefit.

(16:53):
Thank you so much.
I'm cheering you on from here.
I am so proud of you just fortuning into this podcast.
That is a wonderful step.
Okay, until next time, stayradiant, and we will chat soon.
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