April 18, 2024 • 24 mins
Episode Summary:
In this episode of Blasphemous Nutrition, Aimee discusses the importance of setting healthy boundaries to prioritize your health and well-being. She explores how overcommitting and not owning your time can lead to physical and emotional health issues. Aimee provides practical tips for reconnecting with your values, identifying tasks that bring you joy or dread, and delegating or eliminating unnecessary obligations. She emphasizes the need to prioritize your health and vitality by reclaiming your time and energy. Tune in to learn how to create healthy boundaries and live a life aligned with your values.
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(00:00):
Hey Rebels, welcome toBlasphemous Nutrition.
Consider this podcast yourpantry full of clarity,
perspective, and the nuanceneeded to counter the
superficial health advice sofreely given on the internet.
I'm Aimee, the unapologeticallycandid host of Blasphemous
Nutrition and a double degreednutritionist with 20 years
experience.
(00:22):
I'm here to share a more nuancedtake.
On living and eating well tosustain and recover your health.
If you've found most healthadvice to be so generic as to be
meaningless, We're so extremethat it's unrealistic, and you
don't mind the occasional Fbomb.
You've come to the right place.
From dissecting the latestnutrition trends to breaking
(00:43):
down published research andsharing my own clinical
experiences, I'm on a mission tofoster clarity amidst all the
confusion and empower you tohave the health you need to live
a life you love.
Now let's get started.
Welcome back to Blasphemous.
Nutrition.
(01:03):
I'm your favorite freak ofnature, Aimee.
And today I'm going to discusshow to take our goals and
transform them from adestination we intend to get to.
Into a GPS system that can guideyou.
When we do not own our own time.
We're effectively gifting it towhatever takes our attention in
the moment.
(01:23):
And this might be legit familyobligations, work time, and some
of it may not be so worthwhile,like social media.
Over committing to others who donot invest back in us or taking
on more responsibilities, thenwe may actually need to.
Each week in my practice, I workwith people who are stretched
(01:46):
beyond capacity.
They are genuinely invested intheir health, but they struggle
with the time to implement whatneeds to happen to actually
change the course trajectory ofwhere their health is ultimately
headed.
So I want to spend some timethis month talking about
boundaries to you directly, aswell as having some guests on
(02:07):
who work with others explicitlyaround boundary setting and talk
about how boundaries relate toour physical and emotional
health.
I have had way too manyconversations.
The last three to four years.
With people who feel backed intosuch a corner with so many
demands upon them, that theyhave very literally become
(02:31):
diseased and ill.
Their bodies are strugglingunder the psychological pressure
and physical neglect caused bywork and family demands.
This month is all about thevarious ways we can shore up and
create boundaries to preservethe precious energy and time
that we have and reinvest itback into our health and
(02:52):
wellbeing.
I want to start with thisexercise in reconnecting to what
is important to you.
When everyone around us istelling us what's important and
what needs our attention fromyour toddler, demanding a snack
to your boss, demanding a tightdeadline.
Be fulfilled.
It's really easy to lose sightof yourself.
(03:15):
But without an internal compassguiding us we become like a boat
in the choppy seas without anysails or gasoline and totally at
the mercy of the winds andwaves.
And then years later we findourselves.
So off course from where wethought we were going, that.
(03:36):
It can be difficult to find yourway back home again.
I don't want that for anyone.
I have watched it happen toothers multiple times.
It is an incredibly tough road.
And the time that we lose cannever be recovered.
But what we can do is begin toreclaim the time that we have
(03:57):
left today.
The first thing that you need todo is get in touch with your
values and what it means to livea life that is aligned with your
values and your needs.
One of the easiest ways toquickly ascertain this is
identify the tasks that fulfillyou and energize you.
(04:19):
Versus things that fill you withdread lead to procrastination or
make your inner child throw atemper tantrum.
And there may be some thingslike preparing your taxes that
you simply cannot get out of,but they're also may be creative
work around to lessen the burdenof essential tasks that can't be
dropped altogether.
(04:41):
In your phone or better yet onpaper, write out the tasks that
give you joy and the tasks thatsuck the life out of you.
Recording this inventory gets itout of your head and it allows
you to vary.
Concretely see the degree towhich your life is in balance or
(05:04):
imbalanced.
For some, it can be quite ashock and rather disheartening
to see it all laid out.
But again, without reallyknowing where we are, we cannot
clearly find our way out.
It is crucial to hold onto thethings that are on that list
that are in your life, whichfill and energize you.
(05:27):
If they've fallen to thewayside, make it a point to
dedicate some creative energy,to bring them back into your
life more often.
Fiercely commit to the things inlife that give it meaning.
And joy.
And if you're at a place whereyou cannot even think of
something that you enjoy.
(05:48):
Go back to the last memory youhave of a productive or
leisurely activity.
And ask yourself what you couldexplore.
That might be more like that.
Maybe you discuss different workpossibilities with your manager.
Or fire the landscapers becauseyou actually enjoy mowing the
lawn yourself.
(06:09):
Perhaps you look at what itwould require to join a bowling
league or a baseball team thatwas more about fun than
competition.
Now at this point, you don'tneed to figure out how to do
this.
Just entertain the possibilitythat it can happen.
And what it would actually meanto your quality of life and then
(06:30):
consider what the logisticaldemands would be.
But right now you're justgathering information of what
additional joy.
Could potentially look like foryou.
Next looking at what you dread.
You can use your adult brain todetermine if the thing that
gives you dread is actuallyserving a value.
(06:51):
You hold.
Or if it's someone else's valueor obligation that you've taken
on.
Are you taking responsibilityfor other people's mismanaged
time or unreasonableexpectations?
Are you creating unreasonableexpectations of yourself?
Such as being able to meet yourchild's whim whenever they may
(07:12):
have one.
Are the tasks you dread,something you believe is in the
best interest of you and others.
Or is it your burden simplybecause you were asked to do it
or you are the best at it?
If it is ultimately aligned withyour values, it can be put into
a category that can be assessedlater to explore ways to ease
(07:36):
that burden.
So that, again, it frees up moretime for you to dedicate to your
health, your wellbeing, yourjoy, your quality of life.
If it's something that you'redoing, that isn't actually
aligned with your values.
It becomes extremely importantto change that situation.
(07:57):
Now we can begin by asking.
Which of these time commitmentsare essential.
Adulting obviously means doingsome things that we don't like,
and we can't get out of, butsometimes we take on extra.
That's not actually necessary tothe wellbeing of ourselves, our
loved ones.
This might be doing chores thatyour kids are old enough to take
(08:18):
upon themselves.
And perhaps now is the time todelegate that responsibility to
them.
Maybe you volunteer your time toan organization you love because
somebody needs to be there.
And.
You might as well because youare technically available on the
calendar, but it ends up leavingyou depleted and resentful.
(08:40):
Or maybe you say yes tosomething at work that's
ultimately not going to enhanceyour career trajectory.
Not going to contribute to apaycheck, rays.
But it was gifted to you becauseyou're the one who can handle it
and you willingly take on allthe things.
Do you have the ability todelegate some or all of the
(09:01):
tasks that deplete your energyand time that might be best used
for things which add meaning andhealth to your life.
Sometimes the best thing we cando for others is to let them
experience the consequences oftheir actions.
Kids need to get theconsequences of leaving an
assignment at home to empowerthem to be responsible adults.
(09:21):
And if we're always rescuing ourteammates at work like children,
they will never fully realizewhat they're capable of or face
the consequences of not takingownership of what was theirs to
own in the first place.
When you are the rescuer.
You trap yourself in a placethat can eventually erode your
own health and wellbeing.
(09:43):
In the long run, that's adisservice to everyone.
Like someone I spoke to a coupleof weeks ago, said we're not
saving babies here.
Life carries on.
Even when things do not happen,according to expectations.
Either yours or other people's.
Doing an inventory of joyfulactivities and dreaded
(10:06):
activities.
Can help us all better orientourselves to where we are in
life.
And begin to question if thestatus quo needs to be just so.
We often have much more abilityto change our environment and
our quality of life than wethink we do at first glance.
But we need to be aware of whatneeds changing and be willing to
(10:28):
take the opportunity to askothers for what we need when it
might impact them as well.
It also often requires supportfrom a couple of key people in
your life.
Family members, friends,counselors, coaches.
Depending on how big your shipof responsibilities is.
(10:48):
It's a process also that mighttake a year or two to fully
adjust the course, but it can bedone.
And it's better to do it on yourterms than to have
hospitalization due to a healthcrisis, be the thing that causes
a restructuring of how you spendyour time.
For obligations, which needs tochange, but may impact others
(11:10):
such as family tasks or worktasks within a team or
department.
Consider how extra support canbe brought in to ease the burden
or who else might be fullycapable of doing or learning the
task that you're looking tooffload.
Even if perhaps they might notbe as good at it as you are.
(11:31):
This can be reallyuncomfortable, but remember, if
you were suddenly unavailablefor whatever reason, These
people would have to be able tofigure it out.
Anyway, if this were actually anessential task to keep things
going.
Saying no, or no more can bereally unsettling at the very
(11:53):
least.
Especially in an environmentwhere things are expected to
operate at full capacity, withlittle support.
For many of you that harshreality is your current home
life.
Or your current workenvironment.
Certainly we are seeing much ofthis happen in multiple work
sectors, which is actuallywhat's prompted this episode.
(12:15):
Businesses cut corners to savecosts.
And then they just throw thatextra work on their staff and
are finding that they actuallyjust can't churn through staff
like they used to because, youknow, people aren't out there
looking to be the next mule atthe plow anymore.
But that doesn't mean that youneed to drive yourself into the
ground, waiting for the economyto find its way out of this
(12:37):
mess.
You and the company you work forare best served in the longterm.
If you can keep thingssustainable for yourself and
stick around rather than go outin a catastrophic flame of
burnout.
One of the best ways to getunstuck when it comes to
delegating.
(12:58):
Is to actually imagine you weretaken out of the picture
altogether.
If there was an incident tohappen that necessitated your
temporary departure from work,say a heart attack.
Uh, family crisis or talking,that's pretty much the, one of
the few things that are leftdeemed as acceptable for work
absence.
(13:18):
Who's going to pick up theslack.
In order of importance fromleast important to most
important.
Who could share some of theworkload that you do day to day?
By having conversations withyour team or your management
about transitioning out of someof these less crucial tasks on
your plate.
(13:38):
And at the very least begin byhaving conversations with your
team or your manager abouttransitioning out of some of
these less crucial tasks on yourplate.
And.
Expect some resistance.
They're going to be heavilyinvested in the status quo for
as long as they can.
And I think a lot of people,whether they are.
(14:01):
Just starting out or middlemanagement or upper management.
I think a lot of people feelreally trapped and are in this
place of fight or flight, wherethere is a lack of creative
problem solving happening.
Because everybody's being told,this is just how it is.
We just have to keep doing this.
It won't be like this forever.
(14:22):
But there's no exit strategy.
Being planned.
Right.
At least not one that you'rehearing about.
So.
Someone needs to draw the linesomewhere.
And.
It's not worthwhile.
For you to be at the sacrificialaltar of the shareholders.
To keep things going for as longas they possibly can.
(14:48):
At the very least draw a firmline in the sand refusing to
take on more than you alreadyare.
If it's compromising yourhealth, because the trade-off of
your health for your career isnever worth it.
And if that is the reality thatyou are facing.
It needs to be firmly in yourmind.
(15:08):
That this is the trade off.
Every time you are given orexpected to take on more than
you can reasonably handle.
Work with your superiors to makethe situation sustainable and do
not take no for an answer.
I know that's easier said thandone, especially if you're in a
(15:28):
sector that's experiencinglayoffs and your income is
essential for your family.
Um, I'm not going to minimizethat at all.
And I also know that first, someof you.
You're really looking at thereality of.
Your health.
And your ability to physicallyexist and be there for your
(15:52):
family.
Versus your ability to bring inmoney to support the family.
And.
There are very few.
Instances of being in a rock anda hard place that are as
prevalent as that right now.
I don't have the answer for you.
(16:13):
Only you have the answer foryou.
But I don't want you to.
I don't want you to continuedown this status quo that
everybody is expecting you to dosimply because everybody's
expecting it from everybodyelse.
(16:35):
Humans.
As a pack animal and we're packanimals.
We're group social animals.
Sometimes we do really stupid,bad shit as a group.
That we would never consider ifit was just us.
And it's really hard.
(16:58):
It's really hard to hold to yourown and take a stand and do
what's best for you and yourfamily.
If your work culture is pushingagainst it and your entire
company culture is pushingagainst it.
And your friends and coworkersat different companies are all
facing the same thing andeverywhere you turn, this is how
it is.
And it seems like there's no wayout.
(17:21):
There isn't a way out untilsomebody decides there's a way
out.
And remember.
From a company standpoint.
It is actually probably in theirbest interest to keep you
around.
Then deal with the disruptionand lack of efficiency that
comes from a brand new hire.
(17:43):
So don't undervalue yourimportance to them.
And be sure to highlight that tothem.
If they seem to have thismomentary lapse of judgment,
which they may be inclined tohave, because.
Most people.
If they experienced pushback.
From the superiors in theircompany.
(18:04):
We'll just take it.
Now when it comes to familymatters.
Seeking ideas from caregivergroups or parent groups on how
they get additional support.
Particularly if you don't havefamily close by that can chip in
can be really helpful.
If money is not available tohire out, help.
(18:25):
Consider alternatives, likesharing a babysitter with
another family to reduce thosecosts.
Or trading childcare amongyourselves.
And if none of these optionsseem possible.
Then think again about whatwould happen if you were taken
out of the equation.
If a car accident or healthcrisis, how do you in the
(18:46):
hospital longterm, what wouldhappen?
Who would step in and take careof some of those domestic tasks.
Would this be a situation whereyour children would be forced to
step up and take onresponsibility?
For their lives a little bitmore.
(19:06):
Now don't stay in catastrophicland.
Okay.
Cause it's a harrowing place tobe.
I just want you to use thatscenario, to think of possible
solutions.
You might not permit yourself toentertain because, and I'm air
quoting here.
It's not that bad.
But when we minimize bad,because it's not that bad.
(19:27):
We inhibit our ability to findcreative solutions before things
actually become that bad.
And this exercise is intended toput a detour in the trajectory
of bad.
So you never actually get tothat, bad.
Everybody's challenges.
(19:49):
And everybody's solutions arelikely going to be very
different.
And that's why, like, I can'teven begin to craft solutions
for you here through thismedium.
Like, as far as I know, therewas maybe two people listening
to this podcast.
So.
But what I do hope is that goingthrough this exercise and
(20:11):
entertaining some of thesepossibilities.
Can open up doors for you torelease some of these.
Tasks that ultimately.
Take you away from focusing onyour health and your vitality.
That ultimately do not serveyou.
Or your loved ones and takestock to reconsider how you can
(20:33):
devote more time and energy toyour long-term.
Well, being.
If you are perpetually stretchedso thin.
That you can not.
Access or even have time to eathealthy food.
That you have zeroopportunities.
(20:55):
To get up off of your desk chairand go for a walk.
And the only walk you get duringthe day is to the bathroom and
back.
Girl, you got to change that.
That's not, that's not cool.
What.
Can be delegated.
(21:15):
What could be droppedaltogether.
To give you even 10 minutes.
To go outside and get a breathof fresh air.
That's all I'm asking.
Just a step.
Just a step in the rightdirection.
Because when you start even withthe smallest and seemingly most
(21:37):
insignificant change.
You start to turn the boat in adifferent direction.
You start to catch the wind.
By hoisting up a sale simplybeginning to take the step.
Starts to change the nature ofyour thoughts, your beliefs,
(21:59):
about what you can do.
And what you can accomplish.
And it really is.
I see this time and time again,it really is just these little
things that build momentum andbuild momentum and build
momentum.
And maybe not tomorrow, maybenot six months from now.
Maybe not even this time nextyear.
(22:21):
But eventually.
Everything can look completelydifferent.
But it will never happen if youdo not take those first steps.
All right.
My friends.
Until next time, stayblasphemous by pushing those
(22:41):
boundaries and reclaiming yourtime and your energy to devote
and invest back into your ownhealth and wellness.
I'll see you next week.
Take care.
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entertainment purposes only andis not to be misconstrued as
(23:02):
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Listening to this podcast doesnot constitute a provider client
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Note, I'm not a doctor nor anurse, and it is imperative that
you utilize your brain and yourmedical team to make the best
decisions for your own health.
The use of information on thispodcast or materials linked to
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(23:25):
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Be a smart human and do notdisregard or postpone obtaining
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Seek the assistance of yourhealthcare team for any such
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(23:45):
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(24:09):
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longer serve you.
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Thanks again for tuning in toBlasphemous Nutrition.
Until next time, this is Aimeesigning off, reminding you that
(24:31):
truth is nuanced, and any dishcan be made better with a little
bit of sass.
Hey Rebels, welcome toBlasphemous Nutrition.
Consider this podcast yourpantry full of clarity,
perspective, and the nuanceneeded to counter the
superficial health advice sofreely given on the internet.
I'm Aimee, the unapologeticallycandid host of Blasphemous
Nutrition and a double degreednutritionist with 20 years
experience.
(00:22):
I'm here to share a more nuancedtake.
On living and eating well tosustain and recover your health.
If you've found most healthadvice to be so generic as to be
meaningless, We're so extremethat it's unrealistic, and you
don't mind the occasional Fbomb.
You've come to the right place.
From dissecting the latestnutrition trends to breaking
(00:43):
down published research andsharing my own clinical
experiences, I'm on a mission tofoster clarity amidst all the
confusion and empower you tohave the health you need to live
a life you love.
Now let's get started.
Welcome back to Blasphemous.
Nutrition.
(01:03):
I'm your favorite freak ofnature, Aimee.
And today I'm going to discusshow to take our goals and
transform them from adestination we intend to get to.
Into a GPS system that can guideyou.
When we do not own our own time.
We're effectively gifting it towhatever takes our attention in
the moment.
(01:23):
And this might be legit familyobligations, work time, and some
of it may not be so worthwhile,like social media.
Over committing to others who donot invest back in us or taking
on more responsibilities, thenwe may actually need to.
Each week in my practice, I workwith people who are stretched
(01:46):
beyond capacity.
They are genuinely invested intheir health, but they struggle
with the time to implement whatneeds to happen to actually
change the course trajectory ofwhere their health is ultimately
headed.
So I want to spend some timethis month talking about
boundaries to you directly, aswell as having some guests on
(02:07):
who work with others explicitlyaround boundary setting and talk
about how boundaries relate toour physical and emotional
health.
I have had way too manyconversations.
The last three to four years.
With people who feel backed intosuch a corner with so many
demands upon them, that theyhave very literally become
(02:31):
diseased and ill.
Their bodies are strugglingunder the psychological pressure
and physical neglect caused bywork and family demands.
This month is all about thevarious ways we can shore up and
create boundaries to preservethe precious energy and time
that we have and reinvest itback into our health and
(02:52):
wellbeing.
I want to start with thisexercise in reconnecting to what
is important to you.
When everyone around us istelling us what's important and
what needs our attention fromyour toddler, demanding a snack
to your boss, demanding a tightdeadline.
Be fulfilled.
It's really easy to lose sightof yourself.
(03:15):
But without an internal compassguiding us we become like a boat
in the choppy seas without anysails or gasoline and totally at
the mercy of the winds andwaves.
And then years later we findourselves.
So off course from where wethought we were going, that.
(03:36):
It can be difficult to find yourway back home again.
I don't want that for anyone.
I have watched it happen toothers multiple times.
It is an incredibly tough road.
And the time that we lose cannever be recovered.
But what we can do is begin toreclaim the time that we have
(03:57):
left today.
The first thing that you need todo is get in touch with your
values and what it means to livea life that is aligned with your
values and your needs.
One of the easiest ways toquickly ascertain this is
identify the tasks that fulfillyou and energize you.
(04:19):
Versus things that fill you withdread lead to procrastination or
make your inner child throw atemper tantrum.
And there may be some thingslike preparing your taxes that
you simply cannot get out of,but they're also may be creative
work around to lessen the burdenof essential tasks that can't be
dropped altogether.
(04:41):
In your phone or better yet onpaper, write out the tasks that
give you joy and the tasks thatsuck the life out of you.
Recording this inventory gets itout of your head and it allows
you to vary.
Concretely see the degree towhich your life is in balance or
(05:04):
imbalanced.
For some, it can be quite ashock and rather disheartening
to see it all laid out.
But again, without reallyknowing where we are, we cannot
clearly find our way out.
It is crucial to hold onto thethings that are on that list
that are in your life, whichfill and energize you.
(05:27):
If they've fallen to thewayside, make it a point to
dedicate some creative energy,to bring them back into your
life more often.
Fiercely commit to the things inlife that give it meaning.
And joy.
And if you're at a place whereyou cannot even think of
something that you enjoy.
(05:48):
Go back to the last memory youhave of a productive or
leisurely activity.
And ask yourself what you couldexplore.
That might be more like that.
Maybe you discuss different workpossibilities with your manager.
Or fire the landscapers becauseyou actually enjoy mowing the
lawn yourself.
(06:09):
Perhaps you look at what itwould require to join a bowling
league or a baseball team thatwas more about fun than
competition.
Now at this point, you don'tneed to figure out how to do
this.
Just entertain the possibilitythat it can happen.
And what it would actually meanto your quality of life and then
(06:30):
consider what the logisticaldemands would be.
But right now you're justgathering information of what
additional joy.
Could potentially look like foryou.
Next looking at what you dread.
You can use your adult brain todetermine if the thing that
gives you dread is actuallyserving a value.
(06:51):
You hold.
Or if it's someone else's valueor obligation that you've taken
on.
Are you taking responsibilityfor other people's mismanaged
time or unreasonableexpectations?
Are you creating unreasonableexpectations of yourself?
Such as being able to meet yourchild's whim whenever they may
(07:12):
have one.
Are the tasks you dread,something you believe is in the
best interest of you and others.
Or is it your burden simplybecause you were asked to do it
or you are the best at it?
If it is ultimately aligned withyour values, it can be put into
a category that can be assessedlater to explore ways to ease
(07:36):
that burden.
So that, again, it frees up moretime for you to dedicate to your
health, your wellbeing, yourjoy, your quality of life.
If it's something that you'redoing, that isn't actually
aligned with your values.
It becomes extremely importantto change that situation.
(07:57):
Now we can begin by asking.
Which of these time commitmentsare essential.
Adulting obviously means doingsome things that we don't like,
and we can't get out of, butsometimes we take on extra.
That's not actually necessary tothe wellbeing of ourselves, our
loved ones.
This might be doing chores thatyour kids are old enough to take
(08:18):
upon themselves.
And perhaps now is the time todelegate that responsibility to
them.
Maybe you volunteer your time toan organization you love because
somebody needs to be there.
And.
You might as well because youare technically available on the
calendar, but it ends up leavingyou depleted and resentful.
(08:40):
Or maybe you say yes tosomething at work that's
ultimately not going to enhanceyour career trajectory.
Not going to contribute to apaycheck, rays.
But it was gifted to you becauseyou're the one who can handle it
and you willingly take on allthe things.
Do you have the ability todelegate some or all of the
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tasks that deplete your energyand time that might be best used
for things which add meaning andhealth to your life.
Sometimes the best thing we cando for others is to let them
experience the consequences oftheir actions.
Kids need to get theconsequences of leaving an
assignment at home to empowerthem to be responsible adults.
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And if we're always rescuing ourteammates at work like children,
they will never fully realizewhat they're capable of or face
the consequences of not takingownership of what was theirs to
own in the first place.
When you are the rescuer.
You trap yourself in a placethat can eventually erode your
own health and wellbeing.
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In the long run, that's adisservice to everyone.
Like someone I spoke to a coupleof weeks ago, said we're not
saving babies here.
Life carries on.
Even when things do not happen,according to expectations.
Either yours or other people's.
Doing an inventory of joyfulactivities and dreaded
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activities.
Can help us all better orientourselves to where we are in
life.
And begin to question if thestatus quo needs to be just so.
We often have much more abilityto change our environment and
our quality of life than wethink we do at first glance.
But we need to be aware of whatneeds changing and be willing to
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take the opportunity to askothers for what we need when it
might impact them as well.
It also often requires supportfrom a couple of key people in
your life.
Family members, friends,counselors, coaches.
Depending on how big your shipof responsibilities is.
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It's a process also that mighttake a year or two to fully
adjust the course, but it can bedone.
And it's better to do it on yourterms than to have
hospitalization due to a healthcrisis, be the thing that causes
a restructuring of how you spendyour time.
For obligations, which needs tochange, but may impact others
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such as family tasks or worktasks within a team or
department.
Consider how extra support canbe brought in to ease the burden
or who else might be fullycapable of doing or learning the
task that you're looking tooffload.
Even if perhaps they might notbe as good at it as you are.
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This can be reallyuncomfortable, but remember, if
you were suddenly unavailablefor whatever reason, These
people would have to be able tofigure it out.
Anyway, if this were actually anessential task to keep things
going.
Saying no, or no more can bereally unsettling at the very
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least.
Especially in an environmentwhere things are expected to
operate at full capacity, withlittle support.
For many of you that harshreality is your current home
life.
Or your current workenvironment.
Certainly we are seeing much ofthis happen in multiple work
sectors, which is actuallywhat's prompted this episode.
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Businesses cut corners to savecosts.
And then they just throw thatextra work on their staff and
are finding that they actuallyjust can't churn through staff
like they used to because, youknow, people aren't out there
looking to be the next mule atthe plow anymore.
But that doesn't mean that youneed to drive yourself into the
ground, waiting for the economyto find its way out of this
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mess.
You and the company you work forare best served in the longterm.
If you can keep thingssustainable for yourself and
stick around rather than go outin a catastrophic flame of
burnout.
One of the best ways to getunstuck when it comes to
delegating.
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Is to actually imagine you weretaken out of the picture
altogether.
If there was an incident tohappen that necessitated your
temporary departure from work,say a heart attack.
Uh, family crisis or talking,that's pretty much the, one of
the few things that are leftdeemed as acceptable for work
absence.
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Who's going to pick up theslack.
In order of importance fromleast important to most
important.
Who could share some of theworkload that you do day to day?
By having conversations withyour team or your management
about transitioning out of someof these less crucial tasks on
your plate.
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And at the very least begin byhaving conversations with your
team or your manager abouttransitioning out of some of
these less crucial tasks on yourplate.
And.
Expect some resistance.
They're going to be heavilyinvested in the status quo for
as long as they can.
And I think a lot of people,whether they are.
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Just starting out or middlemanagement or upper management.
I think a lot of people feelreally trapped and are in this
place of fight or flight, wherethere is a lack of creative
problem solving happening.
Because everybody's being told,this is just how it is.
We just have to keep doing this.
It won't be like this forever.
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But there's no exit strategy.
Being planned.
Right.
At least not one that you'rehearing about.
So.
Someone needs to draw the linesomewhere.
And.
It's not worthwhile.
For you to be at the sacrificialaltar of the shareholders.
To keep things going for as longas they possibly can.
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At the very least draw a firmline in the sand refusing to
take on more than you alreadyare.
If it's compromising yourhealth, because the trade-off of
your health for your career isnever worth it.
And if that is the reality thatyou are facing.
It needs to be firmly in yourmind.
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That this is the trade off.
Every time you are given orexpected to take on more than
you can reasonably handle.
Work with your superiors to makethe situation sustainable and do
not take no for an answer.
I know that's easier said thandone, especially if you're in a
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sector that's experiencinglayoffs and your income is
essential for your family.
Um, I'm not going to minimizethat at all.
And I also know that first, someof you.
You're really looking at thereality of.
Your health.
And your ability to physicallyexist and be there for your
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family.
Versus your ability to bring inmoney to support the family.
And.
There are very few.
Instances of being in a rock anda hard place that are as
prevalent as that right now.
I don't have the answer for you.
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Only you have the answer foryou.
But I don't want you to.
I don't want you to continuedown this status quo that
everybody is expecting you to dosimply because everybody's
expecting it from everybodyelse.
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Humans.
As a pack animal and we're packanimals.
We're group social animals.
Sometimes we do really stupid,bad shit as a group.
That we would never consider ifit was just us.
And it's really hard.
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It's really hard to hold to yourown and take a stand and do
what's best for you and yourfamily.
If your work culture is pushingagainst it and your entire
company culture is pushingagainst it.
And your friends and coworkersat different companies are all
facing the same thing andeverywhere you turn, this is how
it is.
And it seems like there's no wayout.
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There isn't a way out untilsomebody decides there's a way
out.
And remember.
From a company standpoint.
It is actually probably in theirbest interest to keep you
around.
Then deal with the disruptionand lack of efficiency that
comes from a brand new hire.
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So don't undervalue yourimportance to them.
And be sure to highlight that tothem.
If they seem to have thismomentary lapse of judgment,
which they may be inclined tohave, because.
Most people.
If they experienced pushback.
From the superiors in theircompany.
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We'll just take it.
Now when it comes to familymatters.
Seeking ideas from caregivergroups or parent groups on how
they get additional support.
Particularly if you don't havefamily close by that can chip in
can be really helpful.
If money is not available tohire out, help.
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Consider alternatives, likesharing a babysitter with
another family to reduce thosecosts.
Or trading childcare amongyourselves.
And if none of these optionsseem possible.
Then think again about whatwould happen if you were taken
out of the equation.
If a car accident or healthcrisis, how do you in the
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hospital longterm, what wouldhappen?
Who would step in and take careof some of those domestic tasks.
Would this be a situation whereyour children would be forced to
step up and take onresponsibility?
For their lives a little bitmore.
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Now don't stay in catastrophicland.
Okay.
Cause it's a harrowing place tobe.
I just want you to use thatscenario, to think of possible
solutions.
You might not permit yourself toentertain because, and I'm air
quoting here.
It's not that bad.
But when we minimize bad,because it's not that bad.
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We inhibit our ability to findcreative solutions before things
actually become that bad.
And this exercise is intended toput a detour in the trajectory
of bad.
So you never actually get tothat, bad.
Everybody's challenges.
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And everybody's solutions arelikely going to be very
different.
And that's why, like, I can'teven begin to craft solutions
for you here through thismedium.
Like, as far as I know, therewas maybe two people listening
to this podcast.
So.
But what I do hope is that goingthrough this exercise and
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entertaining some of thesepossibilities.
Can open up doors for you torelease some of these.
Tasks that ultimately.
Take you away from focusing onyour health and your vitality.
That ultimately do not serveyou.
Or your loved ones and takestock to reconsider how you can
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devote more time and energy toyour long-term.
Well, being.
If you are perpetually stretchedso thin.
That you can not.
Access or even have time to eathealthy food.
That you have zeroopportunities.
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To get up off of your desk chairand go for a walk.
And the only walk you get duringthe day is to the bathroom and
back.
Girl, you got to change that.
That's not, that's not cool.
What.
Can be delegated.
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What could be droppedaltogether.
To give you even 10 minutes.
To go outside and get a breathof fresh air.
That's all I'm asking.
Just a step.
Just a step in the rightdirection.
Because when you start even withthe smallest and seemingly most
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insignificant change.
You start to turn the boat in adifferent direction.
You start to catch the wind.
By hoisting up a sale simplybeginning to take the step.
Starts to change the nature ofyour thoughts, your beliefs,
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about what you can do.
And what you can accomplish.
And it really is.
I see this time and time again,it really is just these little
things that build momentum andbuild momentum and build
momentum.
And maybe not tomorrow, maybenot six months from now.
Maybe not even this time nextyear.
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But eventually.
Everything can look completelydifferent.
But it will never happen if youdo not take those first steps.
All right.
My friends.
Until next time, stayblasphemous by pushing those
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boundaries and reclaiming yourtime and your energy to devote
and invest back into your ownhealth and wellness.
I'll see you next week.
Take care.
Any and all information sharedhere is for educational and
entertainment purposes only andis not to be misconstrued as
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offering medical advice.
Listening to this podcast doesnot constitute a provider client
relationship.
Note, I'm not a doctor nor anurse, and it is imperative that
you utilize your brain and yourmedical team to make the best
decisions for your own health.
The use of information on thispodcast or materials linked to
this podcast are at the user'sown risk.
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substitute for professionalmedical advice, diagnosis, or
treatment.
Be a smart human and do notdisregard or postpone obtaining
medical advice for any medicalcondition you may have.
Seek the assistance of yourhealthcare team for any such
conditions and always do sobefore making any changes to
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your medical, nutrition, orhealth plan.
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As you navigate the labyrinth ofhealth advice out there,
remember, health is a journey,not a dietary dictatorship.
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Stay skeptical, stay daring, andchallenge the norms that no
longer serve you.
If you've got burning questionsor want to share your own flavor
of rebellion, slide into my DMs.
Your stories fuel me, and I lovehearing them.
Thanks again for tuning in toBlasphemous Nutrition.
Until next time, this is Aimeesigning off, reminding you that
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truth is nuanced, and any dishcan be made better with a little
bit of sass.
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