Beyond the Climax: Saving the World with Better Sex

In this episode, Joshua and Adina sit down with men’s sexuality coach Rob Kancler. Together, they explore how modern conditioning distorts sexuality—and how slowing down, regulating the nervous system, and returning to integrity can unlock profound intimacy, pleasure, and personal growth. Rob shares insights from 20+ years of research and practice spanning sexology, neuroscience, trauma healing, ancient traditions, and lived experience. The conversation moves from porn-shaped expectations and goal-chasing to embodied presence, attunement, and what Rob calls giving yourself space to have a real experience. You will hear why “climax-or-bust” impacts connection, how authentic sexuality spills over into every area of life, and practical first steps for men who want to lead with responsibility and heart.

• Guest: Rob Kancler, founder of Bedroom Genius and creator of Men of Substance and the Higher Sex Operating System
• Core themes: integrity over performance, intimacy vs. cultural programming, nervous system regulation, slowing down, presence, responsibility, addiction patterns, and life-wide impact
• Practical takeaways: 
  • Slow the pace dramatically to meet the moment and your partner’s body
  • Build nervous system awareness and body intelligence before technique
  • Shift from performance to enjoyment and deep listening
  • Explore without pressure toward peak orgasm or ejaculation
  • Take responsibility for your sexual well-being instead of projecting or blaming
• Who it’s for: Especially powerful for men in hetero relationships, and valuable for anyone seeking more authentic connection and fulfillment

Quotes to remember:

• “What many call sexuality is sexual energy moving through a fear-based nervous system toward release.”
• “Integrity is wholeness—being in right relationship with who we really are.”
• “When sex aligns with our nature, benefits cascade into every area of life.”

Rob's website: robkancler.com

Rob's Instagram: @robkancler

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Adina Arden Cooper is a Licensed Mental Health Counselor who prefers to refer to herself as a Shadow Guide and Soul Healing Specialist. She helps highly sensitive creative visionaries heal trauma so they can not only survive this human experience but thrive in the expression of their greatest gifts. Adina has over 20 years of experience in education and mental health. She's also an artist, a seeker, a mother, and very curious person.

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Joshua Zamrin is a nomadic soul guide, somatic life coach, and sacred purpose mentor, deeply immersed in the realms of embodiment, shamanic wisdom, and mythopoetic exploration. With a background in nervous system regulation, mindfulness, and compassionate communication, he weaves together ancient and modern practices to help others reconnect with their deepest truth. His work is rooted in rites of passage, initiation, and the sacred journey of becoming, drawing inspiration from indigenous traditions, soul-centered psychology, and the raw wisdom of nature.

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