You’re Not Scared to Show Up. You’re Tired of Being Let Down.

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You’re Not Scared to Show Up. You’re Tired of Being Let Down.

Episode Summary:

We always hear “you’re just afraid to be seen,” but what if that’s not the full story? In this short and powerful episode, Jama shares why disappointment, not fear, is the real reason so many ambitious women stop showing up online, in business, and in life. Whether you've launched something that flopped, posted your story and got crickets, or felt unsupported when you finally took a risk, this episode will help you name it, heal it, and move forward with purpose.

TIMESTAMPS:

00:00 – The Real Reason You’re Not Showing Up
It’s not fear. It’s fear of being disappointed again.

00:59 – When Trying Again Feels Too Risky
How past experiences of silence, rejection, or failure cause us to pull back.

01:55 – The Dangerous Lie of Playing It Safe
Holding back doesn’t protect you. It just guarantees you miss out.

02:36 – 3 Ways to Move Through Disappointment
✔️ Name it
✔️ Get curious
✔️ Take one small, safe step

03:15 – Your First Step: Free Personal Brand Prompts
Download a simple tool to help you show up again—with clarity, not pressure.

Key Takeaways:

• Disappointment is sneaky—it often looks like perfectionism or procrastination.
• Just because something didn’t work last time doesn’t mean you shouldn’t try again.
• Holding back guarantees you’ll miss the connections, clients, and confidence that come from taking action.
• Naming your emotions and making one brave move helps rebuild trust in yourself.
• You don’t need to be louder, you just need to be real and keep going.

Get the Freebie Mentioned in This Episode:

 30 Days of Personal Brand Prompts
If you’re struggling to show up consistently (or know what to post), this free download gives you the structure to stay visible—without overthinking every word. These prompts are perfect if you want to build your brand without the burnout.

Final Words:

Disappointment doesn’t mean stop. It means pause, reflect, and recommit.
So if you’ve been hiding, hesitating, or holding your breath… consider this your sign to try again. You’ve grown since the last time. Let’s not let old wounds keep us from new wins.

If this episode resonated with you, send it to a friend who needs this reminder too. And make sure to subscribe so you never miss a real talk moment like this one.

Subscribe, rate, and share — and let’s keep building this thing one brave post at a time.

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Episode Transcript

Jama Pantel (00:00):
Have you ever told yourself you're just scared to
show up?
But deep down, it's not fear,it's disappointment.
Disappointed that you'vealready tried it and it didn't
work.
That's what we're unpackingtoday, because if you've ever
felt that you're not alone and,more importantly, you're not
broken.
Hey y'all, it's your podcast,bestie Jama again.

(00:22):
And today we're talking aboutthe thing that really keeps so
many of us from showing uponline, on camera or even in our
own lives.
It's not just fear, it'sdisappointment.
And, it's sneaky because itwears the costume of
procrastination, perfectionism,or "I'm just not ready yet, so
let's dig in.

(00:43):
You know, you always hear"you're just scared to be seen,
but I want to offer somethingdifferent.
What if it's not fear that'sholding you back, but the fear
of being disappointed again?
Because here's the truth.
You've already tried.
Maybe you launched something,maybe you posted your face
finally, maybe you shared a bigpart of your story or put your

(01:06):
offer out there and nothinghappened, or not enough happened
, or someone close to you didn'tsupport it.
So, instead of being scared tostart, you're scared to hope
again.
And trust me, I've been there.
I have been so guilty of this,and a lot more recently too,
that I have taken a step back.

(01:27):
So that sting of disappointmentdoesn't just sit quietly.
It starts whispering thingslike "see, it didn't work last
time, no one cared, why wouldthis time be any different?
And then your brain, trying toprotect you, says let's just not
try so hard next time, let'sjust play it safe.
But here's what I've learnedDisappointment is part of the

(01:51):
process, but it's not the proofthat your work doesn't matter.
It's just feedback.
It's not a life sentence.
You know, you've seen it.
You've seen someone else postsomething that you thought was
just kind of half you know whatand get hundreds of likes and
y'all that really messes withyour head.

(02:12):
It makes you pull back, makesyou question if what you really
want to say or had to say iseven worth putting out there.
But the truth is people can'tengage with you when you don't
share.
And holding back doesn'tprotect you from disappointment.
It just guarantees you'll missout on the connections, clients

(02:33):
and confidence that come fromshowing up again.
So if you're nodding your headright along with all of this,
here's what I want you to do.
Name it.
Literally.
Say this isn't fear, this isdisappointment.
When you name that real feeling, it loses some of its power
when you say it out loud, getcurious, ask yourself what am I

(02:54):
really afraid will happen if Itry again?
Often it's not failure, it'sbeing ignored or misunderstood.
And then do something small onpurpose not perfect, not
polished just one tiny action toprove to yourself that you can
show up again and survive it.

(03:15):
If this is hitting you in thegut or the heart, I want to help
you take one step forward rightnow.
Download my free personal brandprompts 30 days of ideas that
will help you show up withoutthe pressure to be perfect.
They're simple, doable promptsto help you reconnect with your
voice and your audience withoutoverthinking it.
You can grab them on my website, jamapantel.

(03:37):
com, and I'll link them in theshow notes below.
Because, listen, you don't needto be louder, you just need to
learn to trust yourself again.
So disappointment doesn't meanstop.
It means pause, reflect andrecommit.
Don't shrink and shy away.
You've got value, you've gotsomething to say and even if it

(03:58):
didn't work out last time,you've grown since then.
Let's stop letting old woundskeep us from new wins.
Until next time, keepremembering to show up and live
the whole picture, and don'tforget to share this with a
friend who might need thereminder and let's keep building
this thing one brave post orpodcast, in my case, or one real

(04:20):
moment at a time.