Episode 225: How to Reset When Achievement Feels Empty, with Dr. Toni Warner

"We get addicted to achievement because it's how we prove we matter."

~ Dr. Toni Warner, Certified Trauma Therapist and Author of The Reset, A High Achiever's Guide to Freedom and Fulfillment: Your Step-By-Step  Roadmap for Getting Unstuck

 

Achievement. Do more. Be more. Check off more boxes. 

UGH. Most women feel the need to achieve, which is not a bad thing in itself. But when that need keeps us spinning, working, accomplishing, but still feeling drained, and unfulfilled, somethin' ain't working.

Dr. Toni Warner's has walked the walk, achieving by all of society's standards but feeling something missing. Her work centers on redefining success for high-achieving women as she lifts the veil on what it feels like to "do all the things" and still feel unfulfilled—a reality that resonates deeply with many listeners who wear their productivity as proof of worth. Her story of outward success masking an inward mess is the starting point for a Reset—a call to pause, check in, and create space to feel, not just function.

With a clear yet compassionate voice, Dr. Toni invites women to Rise not by doing more, but by being more present. She challenges the myth that ambition must come with constant burnout and shows how tiny, intentional practices—like asking how you want to be today—can shift the trajectory of your day and life. Through the use of simple tools like her "intentional scheduler," she offers a framework for integrating flow into structure, showing that ambition and alignment are not mutually exclusive.

Ultimately, her message is an invitation to Reveal Your Brilliance by letting go of rigid identities and reconnecting to core values. Whether you're a mother, a leader, a healer—or all three—Dr. Warner reminds us that fulfillment is not found in a title or to-do list, but in how we show up for ourselves and others. Her wisdom isn't just motivational—it's actionable and deeply needed for a generation of women ready to thrive without sacrificing themselves in the process.

At times, the best way we can navigate our Reset, Rise and Reveal of our Brilliance is by doing less, and being highly intentional about what we choose to do--keeping an ear tuned to how we feel and what we truly want.  

Find Dr. Warner's book here, and download her free Intentional Scheduler Template-  https://courses.boldandbalancedcoaching.com/intentionalscheduler, and be sure to check out her upcoming RESET Group Experience for professional women navigating parenting, intimate partnership and purpose as they seek continued success growth: http://courses.boldandbalancedcoaching.com/workingwomenreset, starting in September. 

Tune into this week's episode of the Brilliantly Resilient podcast for more of Dr. Warner's wisdom and be sure to listen for these additional bits of Brilliance: 

1. "Outward success, inward mess—that was my reality."

2. "I looked strong, but I didn't always feel strong. That disconnect wore me down."