June 18, 2025 • 26 mins
Jamie M. Lima is joined by Danielle Ingenito, who shares her personal divorce journey and its impact on her health. They explore energy healing techniques and the importance of setting boundaries during the divorce process. The episode delves into money beliefs and common financial pitfalls encountered during divorce, emphasizing how childhood influences shape one's money mindset and the challenge of overcoming scarcity.
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Welcome back to another episode of Broke Up NotBroken.
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I'm your host, Jamie Lima and founder ofAllegiant Divorce Solutions, where we help
people prepare for, navigate, and recoverfinancially from divorce.
This podcast is your one stop shop formastering your life and your finances
throughout the entire divorce process.
Today, we're joined by Danielle Nginito, aformer accountant turned certified intuitive
Reiki master, medium, and best selling authorwith a social following of over a half a
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million people.
It's crazy.
Good for you.
And a powerful message of self empowerment,Danielle helps people reclaim their energy and
break free from limiting patterns, especiallywhen navigating life transitions like divorce.
Today, we're gonna explore how the energeticand emotional blocks tied to money and self
worth can be released to create financialfreedom and a stronger you in your future post
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divorce.
So grab a cup of coffee or your beverage ofchoice, and once again, let's get you
personally and financially empowered.
Danielle, so great to have you here with ustoday.
Thank you.
I'm so excited to be here in our conversationstoday.
Yeah.
Well, leading up to it, we had we talked alittle bit about and commiserated some on our
own painful experiences through the process ofdivorce.
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So if you're open to it, I'd love to hear aboutwhat that was like for you and maybe how you
overcame it.
Yeah.
Okay.
So, yeah, that's kinda how this whole journeystarted.
So it's a good start.
So back in 02/2017, everything kinda wentdownhill.
We had been trying to save our marriage and allof that stuff, but one night, things just took
a wrong turn, and it was over from that.
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And then he was seeing someone pretty muchright after that.
So, yeah, I was devastated.
I wanted the marriage to work.
We had two two small kids.
They were three and six at the time, and I wasI had my own business at the time as well doing
QuickBooks consulting.
I was a CPA.
Still am.
And yeah.
So I was devastated.
I would be showing up to school crying my eyesout.
Like, I could not stop crying.
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That's all I can remember.
I just could not stop crying.
Everything was, like, falling on me.
We had to sell our house.
We had to rehome our dog.
Like, the kids were devastated.
It was it was a nightmare.
And that's kinda how I turned into this becausetherapy wasn't helping me, and somebody
suggested an energy healer.
And I was like, what the heck is that?
You know, I was like very skeptical.
But I was like, you know what?
At this point, I'm trying to do I have to doanything I can to try to be there for my kids
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because if I'm good, the kids would be good.
That's kinda like the mindset I had.
So I went to an energy healer, and that's kindawhere all this took off.
But, yeah, divorce is hard.
Divorce is hard.
We both got divorced in the same year.
So Oh.
We have we have that to share.
We we share that as well.
But I'm I'm super interested in this becauseeven though this is a, you know, somewhat of a
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financial show, we'll we'll we'll get into someof the financial stuff later.
But I'm big into, like, you know, the the theself help stuff and and more more so, like,
more of, like, the eastern medicine.
I've never done Reiki.
I have to be honest.
Never never done Reiki, but I'm a big I'm a bigfan of chiropractic and acupuncture and, like,
all all the stuff.
Right?
Like, I I go to work chiropractor myself.
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He's an amazing, amazing person.
He's the one that actually got me through myown bout with adrenal fatigue, which Oh.
Which I asked you about earlier when we were,you know, preparing for this call, and not too
many people know what that is.
And that's if you're if you've ever sufferedfrom adrenal fatigue, I went from running 50 to
70 miles a week to not being able to walk tothe mailbox Wow.
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During my divorce.
So, like, it was it was bananas.
So I I gotcha.
Any any thoughts on that?
Did you I went on supplements for that because,you know, especially as a as a mother and then
as now as a single mother going through thedivorce and taking care of the kids, I mean, I
was I I got I just was looking at pictures, Iwas like, wow.
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I was so skinny.
So skinny.
Like, not good skinny.
And I was like, wow.
That was really hard.
So, yeah, adrenal fatigue is I think that's oneof the most the the best things that we can
focus on for ourselves.
Obviously, I'm not a doctor, but I think theadrenal fatigue I I took supplements for that
in order to help.
And I I had, like, a holistic doctor who I callhim the voodoo doctor because, like, I don't
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know what he does, but he just fixes you.
But it's in Long Island.
I'm in New York.
It's about two hours away.
But, yeah, I think adrenal fatigue is a realthing.
And I think that a lot of people, if you aretired, if you're stressed out, if you're burnt
out, like, that is majorly something to focuson.
Absolutely.
And I'm I'm not a doctor either.
I don't and I don't even pretend to play one onTV.
But, I mean, these my I I've since remarried toan amazing woman, and she was and this was
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like, you know, we we I I said I wanted adivorce in 2017.
Divorce was finalized in 2018.
And then the the the the shit storm kept going.
Right?
Like because, like, she wasn't ready you know,she just wanted to make she wanna make my life
as painful as possible effectively.
It just kept and that just kept going.
Right?
So my now wife had to experience some of thatwith me.
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And I think it was almost like this.
Like, you have all this buildup and emotions.
You're trying to, like, keep it all togetherand so on and so And at one at one just at one
point, your body's like, listen, dude, ordudette.
Like, I I can't take this anymore.
And you're constantly stuck in that fight orflight.
Absolutely.
I I I that was exactly what it was.
Like, there would be I things would happen.
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Right?
Like, something minor would happen.
And for the most of us, we would we would havethis experience like, well, that sucks or I'm
pissed off or, like, know, like, I'm frustratedin the moment and you move past it.
Right?
You calm yourself down.
You move past it.
There was a day like, something happened inaround the house one day, and I specifically
remember this that we're talking about this.
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And I came back to the house, and I I sat downon the on the front porch, and I could feel my
heart racing, and I couldn't get it to stop.
And it wasn't really a panic attack.
It was just like this, like, this adrenalinethat I couldn't I couldn't stop in my body.
I I knew at that point, was like, wow.
Something is off.
So we went to the doctor, and it took it tookseveral took probably six months for me to feel
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like, you know, back back to normal again.
But a ton of supplements and trying to getenough rest and just trying to meditation and
trying to figure out ways to be able to to beable to control that, you know, not staying in
that fight or flight all the time.
And that was that was I guess that was theexperience.
Right?
It was like, had this something happened, and Idon't remember what it was.
My adrenaline spiked, and I couldn't get it tostop.
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It was weird.
Yeah.
I I've had panic attacks.
That that sounds like a panic attack to me,like, what was happening.
Anxiety rush es up.
I feel like, you know, I'm an energy healer.
So, like, all to me, that's all energy comingup.
Right?
How we don't know how to control it and stuff.
But, yeah, I mean, that happens.
A lot of people get that.
So it and it hasn't happened since, and, youknow, I've I've feel much better.
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Was, you know, you know, five mile run thismorning and feel great.
And and Right.
And life is definitely different today than itwas just, you know, two or three years ago.
But, like, for those of us that are like, forlike, you're going through a divorce and you
have this experience, like, what are some ofthe telltale signs that you need to start,
like, maybe thinking about reaching out tosomebody like you?
Oh, definitely.
Like, if you are crying all the time, for sure.
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If you're ruminating thoughts all the time, ifthings are going through your head, if you're
really kind of getting down on yourself or,like, realizing and and realizing that maybe
that you're not enough or that they left youand just in that down negative energy, you
definitely wanna reach out to a healer becausewe can change that negative energy into
positive energy.
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And the other thing, especially about divorces,and I know a lot of women and probably men, we
deal with a lot of narcissistic people.
And I think it's very, very important to makesure that you're clearing and protecting your
energy.
That's why I wrote my book, It's Not You, It'sYour Energy, because you need to learn how to
clear and protect, especially if you're goingthrough this divorce.
You can't handle your own stuff when you haveother people's stuff on you too.
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So I feel like you need to release everybodyelse's energy to understand what you're
actually feeling because I went through all ofthat not knowing about that and he was pissed
off at me and I'm pissed off at him, but, like,some days I'm having a good day, and then all
of a sudden, I'm, like, so angry, and it'sbecause, like, he's projecting energy towards
me because he's mad at me.
And so, like, all that back and energy justneeds to be, cleared and protected so that
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you're only dealing with your own energy.
Because during a divorce, you have so muchhealing to do within yourself because there's a
reason why the divorce is happening.
So that's either, like, you pick the wrongperson or, you know, they left you or you left
them, whatever it is.
Like, you've got enough healing on your own todo.
You don't need anybody else's baggage cominginto that.
So if you feel all those kind of things and youdon't know what to do and you feel like you're
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helpless, you definitely wanna reach out tosomeone like me.
100%.
And that one one of the you you you might mighthave answered to my one of my questions here,
but one one of the questions I have for you is,like, how do you maintain those boundaries?
Right?
Like, it's one of the biggest challenges Ifound is, like, managing, you know, my
expectations, their expectations, you know,some of the financial guilt that you have
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because now, you know, things aren't as as aseasy financially for anybody along the way.
So, like, what advice do you have for someonewho feels bad while they're going through this
of putting up those boundaries?
Well, the thing I always say that people don'tteach about boundaries is when when I teach
boundaries, we have to work on you before youeven set boundaries.
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Because a lot of people will set them, but thepeople in their lives that are they're there
for will overstep them, and we won't sayanything about it.
So it's like, it's not even worth it to setboundaries unless you know that you're worthy
of setting those boundaries.
So I think that even boundaries itself startswith and you mentioned it too.
Like, you feel bad.
Right?
So it's like you have to work on yourself toget yourself strong enough and confident enough
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to be able to set the boundaries with thepeople in your life, especially, like, who
you're getting divorced from.
Yeah.
It would learned so much about settingboundaries, you know, during my divorce as I'm
sure a lot of people do.
What I and and I I try to coach people eventhough I'm not a divorce coach by any stretch.
But as we're working on the financial aspectsof things with with people going through a
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divorce, so many of them are I just see thecommunications that they have with their soon
to be ex or now or their now ex.
And it's like, you know, war and peace emailsand, you know, like, all the text messages back
and and everything else because we get somepurview into some of that stuff.
It's like, this is not how you should behandling it.
Yeah.
And I think I think, again, you know, it's allup to us and how we handle that.
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And those boundaries are really, reallyimportant in order to what a lot of people do
is, like, when they get divorced, they feelbad, like you had already mentioned, and they
give too much away to the other person,especially, I'm just gonna say, especially,
like, women.
They'll they don't wanna they just wanna moveon.
They don't even care.
So, like, they they lose a lot of what theycould have because they don't fight for it
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because, again, they don't have that confidenceinside of themselves.
They kinda wanna just be done with it and letgo.
But I think that's one of the biggest mistakesthat we make because, you know, we have to
fight for what we deserve.
And if our husbands are making the most money,you know, it's like we deserve a part of that.
Like, we don't deserve to just be, like,divorced and taking care of the kids all the
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time and doing our stuff and struggling all thetime.
It's like you have to know that you're worthyof setting boundaries and also worthy of money.
100%.
Great transition because I wanna I wanna ask alittle bit about some of your your money tips
since you are a are a CPA, and I'm sure youdeal with you know?
I I was at a I was at a conference last week,and one of the statistics that came out was
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that seventy six percent of divorces are peoplegetting divorced mainly from from money
problems.
Wow.
Seventy six percent of divorces result in somekind of money problem.
Yeah.
There may be infidelity.
There may be the narcissistic component of it.
There may be, you know, whatever other, youknow, situation that comes up.
But in some form or fashion, there areunderlying money issues in seventy six percent
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of divorces.
Wow.
So how do you blend while you're doing the workthat you're doing, how do you blend, like, your
financial background, the experience you havethere with the intuitive work to help people
make better, not only money decisions, but justmake better decisions overall?
Yeah.
There there's a couple of different ways that Ido that.
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One of them is, like, helping people shifttheir identity, you know, and that that helps
you.
Like, I I I did this a couple years ago withmyself, and I'm like, okay.
I'm gonna I'm a financially responsible person.
Right?
Because a lot of people get themselves, like ofall, a lot of people, we have money blocks.
Right?
And that money block is gonna keep us away fromthe financial freedom that we want.
But I I have the the best thing that I can dois step into a different identity.
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So when I started to say to myself, like, I'm afinancially responsible person, I start to make
decisions like I am a financially responsibleperson.
That is the one thing that really has changedmy money.
And then the other part of that, of course, isabout manifesting it.
So visualizing it.
But people don't understand with manifestation,like, it's out there.
I would say it's like one point omanifestation.
We wanna do two point o, which is getting ourenergy on the same page as what we wanna
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manifest because so many people already havemoney issues.
That's probably why marriages don't work in 76%of them because everybody looks at money
differently.
And a lot of people have trauma around moneythat, you know, they and it's a safety thing.
We talk about this in the root chakra with ourwith our chakras here.
This is our energy field, and this is, whereour chakras are.
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The root chakra is at the very base of yourspine.
This is where you feel safe.
And if you grew up not having money or feelingpoor or your family teaching you like you can't
spend money, you have a scarcity mindset.
So there's so much that already goes into amarriage.
Now when you get divorced, it's like you'rebreaking that all apart.
And, you know, if you had that money trouble inthe marriage, you're gonna have it outside of
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the marriage too when you're getting thedivorce.
So it's always a fight, but that's kinda how Ibring it in.
I mean, I'm a I'm a CPA, so I did QuickBooks.
So, like, if you take my manifest course, it'slike actually, my money blocks course.
I actually show QuickBooks and tell them, okay.
Write a check every day for a thousand dollarsbecause we need to it's not about tricking your
mind.
It's about changing it.
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So if you see a thousand dollars coming intoyour bank account, fake bank account for right
now, it's like you start to feel that energy ofmoney coming through, and you start to let go
of the fear of money and get excited forreceiving the money.
So there's a lot of different ways that I helppeople financially, but it always comes down to
the energy of who they are and their limitedbeliefs.
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One of money blocks was one of the things thatI was gonna ask you about too.
So are there are there any, like, commonpatterns or financial pitfalls or beliefs that
people have that people get stuck in all thetime that you see?
I mean, you were gonna
read some of them, but, like, there's there'sgotta be more.
Yeah.
I wrote I wrote I wrote them coming down today,so I just wanted to kind of see which ones that
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your audience is gonna resonate with here.
So one of them is that I can't make it on myown, especially after divorce.
You know, people think that, oh, they're done.
I thought that.
I'll tell you a quick story real quick.
When I got divorced, it was February 2007 well,separated.
February 2017.
We were waiting for, I don't even know, yearsfor my ex husband to finally get the the high
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up paycheck.
And I was like, after that, we were set.
We were, like, ready to go.
I got one paycheck of that, and then we weseparated.
And I was waiting, like, busting my butt in mybusiness, doing everything.
I was waiting so long for that.
So in that moment, I was like it felt like Iwas starting all over again.
You know?
So it was that was a very hard hit to take formyself because it was a it was a lot that we
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were gonna get.
And I I didn't I wasn't gonna have to work asmuch.
I was able to take care of the kids, and thatdidn't happen.
I had to actually do the opposite.
So, yeah, I can't make it on my own.
I'm starting over with nothing is another one.
I don't deserve alimony or child support.
It is amazing to me how many women give upalimony or child support because they don't
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wanna deal with it.
They're like, oh, masculine women a lot.
They're like, oh, I'll just I'll just do it onmy own, you know, instead of fighting for that.
My mother that was my mother.
Ah.
Mhmm.
And I I tell the story story all the time, andnot only in this podcast and in others, it's,
you know, like, I was seven or eight years old.
We I watched my parents go through a divorce.
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They did a it was a DIY divorce themselves.
You know, they I think they drove down to thecourthouse themselves.
This was this was in the, you know, earlyeighties.
So, you know, times were a little bitdifferent.
They probably didn't even wear seat belts onthe way to the courthouse because they're so
that's how things were in the early eighties.
But, anyway, I mean, they did it themselves,and she was like, I don't want anything.
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And go circling back to one of your earliercomments about, like, the that scarcity
mindset, that created a scarcity mindset in mylife and basically was the impetus for the work
doing the work that I do as a financial plannerbecause I watched them both scrimp and get by.
You know, my dad was a little bit better offbecause he, you know, he had a job at the time
and he had he had yeah.
Actually had to work two jobs to help, youknow, help all of us out.
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But my mom worked multiple jobs and and justodd jobs to to keep a roof over our heads.
But, like, there were times when, you know,like, I had friends bringing over groceries to
put in the pantry because we didn't haveanything.
And if you think that doesn't if you think yourseven or eight year old doesn't see that and it
doesn't impact them, in my particular case, fortheir entire life, you're sadly mistaken.
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It's just it is, like, a lot.
Yeah.
And that right there, that story right therewill lead you believing that you have to
struggle for money.
Right?
So money and this is you have to realize if youlove money or if you hate money.
And if you grow up with issues like that I grewup with my stepfather having money, but always
holding it over our heads.
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So, like, I hated money.
And then any money would cause disagreementsbetween them, so they would always be fighting.
So I hated money.
I thought, like, oh, it's just get rid ofmoney.
It's the worst thing ever.
It just causes fights, but you have to realizethat money is a good thing.
And we have to let go of what we feel aboutmoney, and we have to believe that it's good
and use it for good.
And but that's what happens is in childhood, alot of it comes from a childhood as to how you
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feel about money.
And I'm telling you, if you feel uncomfortablewith money or if you hate money, you're never
gonna receive money.
You're never gonna have a lot of money.
And that's one of the biggest truths that I hadto learn myself.
Absolutely.
There's something to be said about that.
I'm I'm sorry to interrupt your flow there, butI I wanted to comment on that because every
everything you're saying, like, you you know,definitely resonates with me.
Yeah.
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Alright.
I'll go.
Let me keep going.
Let's see
what else Go for it.
So I'm not good with money.
That that I was and I said that to myself amillion times.
I'm not good with money because as soon as Igot it, I I mean, I I probably spent it before
I even had it, you know.
So we believe in ourselves that we're not goodwith it, but a lot of that comes from not
deserving it, feeling like you don't deserveit, feeling like you're not good enough for it,
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and that's really subconscious stuff.
You don't even realize that that's happening.
Yeah.
And like what I just said to you, I'm alwaysgonna struggle.
So money is about struggle.
And then this is a common one that I've seen inmy clients lately is that everything's gonna
follow apart.
So, like, they'll have money in the bank, butthey're they're waiting for the ball to drop.
Like, something's gonna happen.
Ball's gonna drop, and their money's gonna begone.
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So that that is one of the thing, and moneyalways disappears.
So those
are How do how do you handle that last one?
Because I know a lot of people that feel thatway.
Yeah.
So that's a scarcity mindset.
So we are still sitting in the lack.
Right?
So we're always thinking that something isgonna go wrong.
So we have to start to change our mindset andenergy.
So, like, if this was somebody's belief, Iwould definitely get to the root of where that
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comes from.
So it's in my breakthrough session.
We do a root of where it comes from becausethat's the energy that we need to release
because our energy gets stuck in our energyfield.
This is beautiful energy.
Right?
This is not all our energy, though.
It's all gray and dark and, like you know?
So when we when we do a breakthrough session,we get to the root of why you feel like money
always disappears or, like, everything's gonnakinda just go that way.
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You've either experienced it before or didn'tfeel safe.
That's a safety issue.
Right?
Because you're thinking everything's gonnaeverything's gonna fall apart and then what?
Two things I I love to do is create a plan.
So, you know, if I say, okay.
Everything my whole business shuts down, andI'm not making any money.
I'm like, okay.
I'm taking the two kids, and I'm moving to mymom's house.
Like, that that's gonna be the plan.
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You know?
So having kind of, like, a backup plan, even ifit's not what you like, it's still having some
kind of plan, I feel like sometimes allows ourbrain to calm down with that that little
thought, okay, of that everything's gonna fallout.
But then also getting to the root, it'sactually the root chakra there is getting to
release the energy of not feeling safe.
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It's pretty powerful stuff.
Pretty power where were you four years ago?
Four years ago.
Let me think about that.
Years ago.
Where were you?
I I'm only kidding.
I I probably could've used you and my and mydoctor at the same time, but you would've
would've maybe I would've healed quicker.
But
Oh, definitely.
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Yeah.
It's awesome.
Well, I appreciate I appreciate you sharing allthat.
Any what I like to call this segment of our ourchat is the kind of the carte blanche segment
here.
So are there any we covered a lot.
We covered some of the, you know, the more selfhelp stuff.
We covered some of the financial pieces ofthis.
Are there any any questions I didn't ask thatmaybe I should have or any any last message you
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wanna share with our listeners that we didn'tcover?
Yeah.
I think one of the last ones here was to notgive into your ex's expectations because I feel
like a lot of that a lot of going through adivorce, again, like we said, it's kinda like
letting them have everything that they want.
But I remember I remember I think it was it wasmore than four years ago, I think.
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I think it was, like, 2020.
And my ex husband was, like, badgering mebadgering badgering badgering me that to the
point I've had, like, this most severe panicattack I ever had.
And it was because I was trying to do what Iwanted for me and the kids, but, like, he
didn't agree with it, and I wasn't backingdown.
I would always back down.
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I would always say, okay.
Whatever.
Whatever.
This comes from codependency, which is, youknow, seeking validation outside of yourself.
But and as those are, like, people pleasers,over givers, overachievers is also a
codependent persona.
And I feel like we have to stand our ground.
We have to set those boundaries.
Because if you give in to the expectations ofyour exes, you're always gonna be you're
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abandoning yourself.
So if you abandon yourself, right, you're neverreally gonna get to where you wanna be because
you're always trying to please somebody else.
Or not even please, but appease.
Okay?
Because if you do that all the time, again,you're abandoning yourself, and you're not
gonna get to that financial success that youwant.
So go after what you want.
Like, I'm helping one of my clients right now.
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I'm gonna start researching Florida because I'mlike, okay.
You know, she she deserves child support, andshe's not getting it.
So what can we do to fight for it?
So it's like fight for yourself in your divorcebecause you can't just let every like, your ex
take everything.
You deserve a lot of it.
So make sure that you set yourself up forfinancial success because if you give
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everything away, you're starting from scratch.
And starting from scratch is hard.
I've done that a couple times now.
Right?
So allow yourself to have that confidence inyourself and know that you deserve it and fight
for it.
100%.
And if she needs help, we work in FloridaThat's we work in all 50 states.
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So that's been super helpful because we havecases all over the country, which is which is
cool.
Yeah.
And I really love what you do because I thinkit's so important to set people up for success.
So when I got divorced, I just had a lawyer.
And to be honest, I wrote my whole contractmyself.
So, you know, like, so a lot of people don'treally help you with it.
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They just kind of give you the standard thingor whatever, but I fought for myself in that
contract.
I was like, nope.
We're gonna do this, and we're gonna do this,and we're and I fought for it.
So I I did end up a little bit ahead of there,but I love what you do because a lot of people,
they're not looking for the forward part of thefinances when you get divorced.
You know?
And that's the thing.
Know, I'm a yeah.
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I appreciate that.
Thank you for the commercial.
The, you know, the the one thing that I tellpeople all the time is when when your attorney
is gonna, you know, patch you on the back, youknow, patch you on the back or gives you a hug
and says, you know, congratulations.
You're divorced.
It was great working with you.
In many ways, that's where our jobs is onlyabout halfway done.
Right?
Because we help people through the next phaseof into their next phase of their life.
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We help them put their future financial plantogether and talk about investment strategy and
what they wanna do with their investments andany money that they get from their settlements
and so on.
We don't we don't just, you know, walk awaywhen the dust settles on it or the or the ink
is dried, so to speak, on the divorce decreethat it's in many ways, our job has only just
begun.
So, thank you for the commercial.
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I appreciate that.
Got a question.
Thank you for your time today.
It's been super super amazing to have you withus and and to talk through this stuff.
I'm I'm a big fan, like I said, of all the, youknow, the eastern medicine, you know, maybe
your alternative options that people haveversus going to the doctor to just get some
more pills from from because that tends to bethe how how things work here in Western
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society.
But I really do appreciate you sharing all ofyour insights and the powerful ways that you
can you can heal yourself and and yourrelationships with money and and especially as
we're going through divorce and and even afterafter the dust has settled on on that divorce.
So for our listeners who want to explore moreof Danielle's work, check out our TikTok,
YouTube, Instagram.
We're gonna put all the links in the show notesfor you, so don't worry about jotting them down
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now.
And visit her for energy healing andempowerment resources on our website.
And if you're ready to get your financial lifein order during or after a divorce, we're here
to help you at Allegiant Divorce Solutions.
Visit allegiantds.com to get started, and don'tforget subscribe to Broke Up Not Broken for
more interviews like this that empower youremotional and financial recovery on into the
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future.
Until next time.
Welcome back to another episode of Broke Up NotBroken.
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I'm your host, Jamie Lima and founder ofAllegiant Divorce Solutions, where we help
people prepare for, navigate, and recoverfinancially from divorce.
This podcast is your one stop shop formastering your life and your finances
throughout the entire divorce process.
Today, we're joined by Danielle Nginito, aformer accountant turned certified intuitive
Reiki master, medium, and best selling authorwith a social following of over a half a
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million people.
It's crazy.
Good for you.
And a powerful message of self empowerment,Danielle helps people reclaim their energy and
break free from limiting patterns, especiallywhen navigating life transitions like divorce.
Today, we're gonna explore how the energeticand emotional blocks tied to money and self
worth can be released to create financialfreedom and a stronger you in your future post
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divorce.
So grab a cup of coffee or your beverage ofchoice, and once again, let's get you
personally and financially empowered.
Danielle, so great to have you here with ustoday.
Thank you.
I'm so excited to be here in our conversationstoday.
Yeah.
Well, leading up to it, we had we talked alittle bit about and commiserated some on our
own painful experiences through the process ofdivorce.
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So if you're open to it, I'd love to hear aboutwhat that was like for you and maybe how you
overcame it.
Yeah.
Okay.
So, yeah, that's kinda how this whole journeystarted.
So it's a good start.
So back in 02/2017, everything kinda wentdownhill.
We had been trying to save our marriage and allof that stuff, but one night, things just took
a wrong turn, and it was over from that.
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And then he was seeing someone pretty muchright after that.
So, yeah, I was devastated.
I wanted the marriage to work.
We had two two small kids.
They were three and six at the time, and I wasI had my own business at the time as well doing
QuickBooks consulting.
I was a CPA.
Still am.
And yeah.
So I was devastated.
I would be showing up to school crying my eyesout.
Like, I could not stop crying.
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That's all I can remember.
I just could not stop crying.
Everything was, like, falling on me.
We had to sell our house.
We had to rehome our dog.
Like, the kids were devastated.
It was it was a nightmare.
And that's kinda how I turned into this becausetherapy wasn't helping me, and somebody
suggested an energy healer.
And I was like, what the heck is that?
You know, I was like very skeptical.
But I was like, you know what?
At this point, I'm trying to do I have to doanything I can to try to be there for my kids
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because if I'm good, the kids would be good.
That's kinda like the mindset I had.
So I went to an energy healer, and that's kindawhere all this took off.
But, yeah, divorce is hard.
Divorce is hard.
We both got divorced in the same year.
So Oh.
We have we have that to share.
We we share that as well.
But I'm I'm super interested in this becauseeven though this is a, you know, somewhat of a
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financial show, we'll we'll we'll get into someof the financial stuff later.
But I'm big into, like, you know, the the theself help stuff and and more more so, like,
more of, like, the eastern medicine.
I've never done Reiki.
I have to be honest.
Never never done Reiki, but I'm a big I'm a bigfan of chiropractic and acupuncture and, like,
all all the stuff.
Right?
Like, I I go to work chiropractor myself.
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He's an amazing, amazing person.
He's the one that actually got me through myown bout with adrenal fatigue, which Oh.
Which I asked you about earlier when we were,you know, preparing for this call, and not too
many people know what that is.
And that's if you're if you've ever sufferedfrom adrenal fatigue, I went from running 50 to
70 miles a week to not being able to walk tothe mailbox Wow.
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During my divorce.
So, like, it was it was bananas.
So I I gotcha.
Any any thoughts on that?
Did you I went on supplements for that because,you know, especially as a as a mother and then
as now as a single mother going through thedivorce and taking care of the kids, I mean, I
was I I got I just was looking at pictures, Iwas like, wow.
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I was so skinny.
So skinny.
Like, not good skinny.
And I was like, wow.
That was really hard.
So, yeah, adrenal fatigue is I think that's oneof the most the the best things that we can
focus on for ourselves.
Obviously, I'm not a doctor, but I think theadrenal fatigue I I took supplements for that
in order to help.
And I I had, like, a holistic doctor who I callhim the voodoo doctor because, like, I don't
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know what he does, but he just fixes you.
But it's in Long Island.
I'm in New York.
It's about two hours away.
But, yeah, I think adrenal fatigue is a realthing.
And I think that a lot of people, if you aretired, if you're stressed out, if you're burnt
out, like, that is majorly something to focuson.
Absolutely.
And I'm I'm not a doctor either.
I don't and I don't even pretend to play one onTV.
But, I mean, these my I I've since remarried toan amazing woman, and she was and this was
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like, you know, we we I I said I wanted adivorce in 2017.
Divorce was finalized in 2018.
And then the the the the shit storm kept going.
Right?
Like because, like, she wasn't ready you know,she just wanted to make she wanna make my life
as painful as possible effectively.
It just kept and that just kept going.
Right?
So my now wife had to experience some of thatwith me.
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And I think it was almost like this.
Like, you have all this buildup and emotions.
You're trying to, like, keep it all togetherand so on and so And at one at one just at one
point, your body's like, listen, dude, ordudette.
Like, I I can't take this anymore.
And you're constantly stuck in that fight orflight.
Absolutely.
I I I that was exactly what it was.
Like, there would be I things would happen.
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Right?
Like, something minor would happen.
And for the most of us, we would we would havethis experience like, well, that sucks or I'm
pissed off or, like, know, like, I'm frustratedin the moment and you move past it.
Right?
You calm yourself down.
You move past it.
There was a day like, something happened inaround the house one day, and I specifically
remember this that we're talking about this.
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And I came back to the house, and I I sat downon the on the front porch, and I could feel my
heart racing, and I couldn't get it to stop.
And it wasn't really a panic attack.
It was just like this, like, this adrenalinethat I couldn't I couldn't stop in my body.
I I knew at that point, was like, wow.
Something is off.
So we went to the doctor, and it took it tookseveral took probably six months for me to feel
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like, you know, back back to normal again.
But a ton of supplements and trying to getenough rest and just trying to meditation and
trying to figure out ways to be able to to beable to control that, you know, not staying in
that fight or flight all the time.
And that was that was I guess that was theexperience.
Right?
It was like, had this something happened, and Idon't remember what it was.
My adrenaline spiked, and I couldn't get it tostop.
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It was weird.
Yeah.
I I've had panic attacks.
That that sounds like a panic attack to me,like, what was happening.
Anxiety rush es up.
I feel like, you know, I'm an energy healer.
So, like, all to me, that's all energy comingup.
Right?
How we don't know how to control it and stuff.
But, yeah, I mean, that happens.
A lot of people get that.
So it and it hasn't happened since, and, youknow, I've I've feel much better.
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Was, you know, you know, five mile run thismorning and feel great.
And and Right.
And life is definitely different today than itwas just, you know, two or three years ago.
But, like, for those of us that are like, forlike, you're going through a divorce and you
have this experience, like, what are some ofthe telltale signs that you need to start,
like, maybe thinking about reaching out tosomebody like you?
Oh, definitely.
Like, if you are crying all the time, for sure.
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If you're ruminating thoughts all the time, ifthings are going through your head, if you're
really kind of getting down on yourself or,like, realizing and and realizing that maybe
that you're not enough or that they left youand just in that down negative energy, you
definitely wanna reach out to a healer becausewe can change that negative energy into
positive energy.
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And the other thing, especially about divorces,and I know a lot of women and probably men, we
deal with a lot of narcissistic people.
And I think it's very, very important to makesure that you're clearing and protecting your
energy.
That's why I wrote my book, It's Not You, It'sYour Energy, because you need to learn how to
clear and protect, especially if you're goingthrough this divorce.
You can't handle your own stuff when you haveother people's stuff on you too.
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So I feel like you need to release everybodyelse's energy to understand what you're
actually feeling because I went through all ofthat not knowing about that and he was pissed
off at me and I'm pissed off at him, but, like,some days I'm having a good day, and then all
of a sudden, I'm, like, so angry, and it'sbecause, like, he's projecting energy towards
me because he's mad at me.
And so, like, all that back and energy justneeds to be, cleared and protected so that
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you're only dealing with your own energy.
Because during a divorce, you have so muchhealing to do within yourself because there's a
reason why the divorce is happening.
So that's either, like, you pick the wrongperson or, you know, they left you or you left
them, whatever it is.
Like, you've got enough healing on your own todo.
You don't need anybody else's baggage cominginto that.
So if you feel all those kind of things and youdon't know what to do and you feel like you're
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helpless, you definitely wanna reach out tosomeone like me.
100%.
And that one one of the you you you might mighthave answered to my one of my questions here,
but one one of the questions I have for you is,like, how do you maintain those boundaries?
Right?
Like, it's one of the biggest challenges Ifound is, like, managing, you know, my
expectations, their expectations, you know,some of the financial guilt that you have
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because now, you know, things aren't as as aseasy financially for anybody along the way.
So, like, what advice do you have for someonewho feels bad while they're going through this
of putting up those boundaries?
Well, the thing I always say that people don'tteach about boundaries is when when I teach
boundaries, we have to work on you before youeven set boundaries.
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Because a lot of people will set them, but thepeople in their lives that are they're there
for will overstep them, and we won't sayanything about it.
So it's like, it's not even worth it to setboundaries unless you know that you're worthy
of setting those boundaries.
So I think that even boundaries itself startswith and you mentioned it too.
Like, you feel bad.
Right?
So it's like you have to work on yourself toget yourself strong enough and confident enough
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to be able to set the boundaries with thepeople in your life, especially, like, who
you're getting divorced from.
Yeah.
It would learned so much about settingboundaries, you know, during my divorce as I'm
sure a lot of people do.
What I and and I I try to coach people eventhough I'm not a divorce coach by any stretch.
But as we're working on the financial aspectsof things with with people going through a
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divorce, so many of them are I just see thecommunications that they have with their soon
to be ex or now or their now ex.
And it's like, you know, war and peace emailsand, you know, like, all the text messages back
and and everything else because we get somepurview into some of that stuff.
It's like, this is not how you should behandling it.
Yeah.
And I think I think, again, you know, it's allup to us and how we handle that.
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And those boundaries are really, reallyimportant in order to what a lot of people do
is, like, when they get divorced, they feelbad, like you had already mentioned, and they
give too much away to the other person,especially, I'm just gonna say, especially,
like, women.
They'll they don't wanna they just wanna moveon.
They don't even care.
So, like, they they lose a lot of what theycould have because they don't fight for it
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because, again, they don't have that confidenceinside of themselves.
They kinda wanna just be done with it and letgo.
But I think that's one of the biggest mistakesthat we make because, you know, we have to
fight for what we deserve.
And if our husbands are making the most money,you know, it's like we deserve a part of that.
Like, we don't deserve to just be, like,divorced and taking care of the kids all the
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time and doing our stuff and struggling all thetime.
It's like you have to know that you're worthyof setting boundaries and also worthy of money.
100%.
Great transition because I wanna I wanna ask alittle bit about some of your your money tips
since you are a are a CPA, and I'm sure youdeal with you know?
I I was at a I was at a conference last week,and one of the statistics that came out was
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that seventy six percent of divorces are peoplegetting divorced mainly from from money
problems.
Wow.
Seventy six percent of divorces result in somekind of money problem.
Yeah.
There may be infidelity.
There may be the narcissistic component of it.
There may be, you know, whatever other, youknow, situation that comes up.
But in some form or fashion, there areunderlying money issues in seventy six percent
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of divorces.
Wow.
So how do you blend while you're doing the workthat you're doing, how do you blend, like, your
financial background, the experience you havethere with the intuitive work to help people
make better, not only money decisions, but justmake better decisions overall?
Yeah.
There there's a couple of different ways that Ido that.
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One of them is, like, helping people shifttheir identity, you know, and that that helps
you.
Like, I I I did this a couple years ago withmyself, and I'm like, okay.
I'm gonna I'm a financially responsible person.
Right?
Because a lot of people get themselves, like ofall, a lot of people, we have money blocks.
Right?
And that money block is gonna keep us away fromthe financial freedom that we want.
But I I have the the best thing that I can dois step into a different identity.
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So when I started to say to myself, like, I'm afinancially responsible person, I start to make
decisions like I am a financially responsibleperson.
That is the one thing that really has changedmy money.
And then the other part of that, of course, isabout manifesting it.
So visualizing it.
But people don't understand with manifestation,like, it's out there.
I would say it's like one point omanifestation.
We wanna do two point o, which is getting ourenergy on the same page as what we wanna
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manifest because so many people already havemoney issues.
That's probably why marriages don't work in 76%of them because everybody looks at money
differently.
And a lot of people have trauma around moneythat, you know, they and it's a safety thing.
We talk about this in the root chakra with ourwith our chakras here.
This is our energy field, and this is, whereour chakras are.
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The root chakra is at the very base of yourspine.
This is where you feel safe.
And if you grew up not having money or feelingpoor or your family teaching you like you can't
spend money, you have a scarcity mindset.
So there's so much that already goes into amarriage.
Now when you get divorced, it's like you'rebreaking that all apart.
And, you know, if you had that money trouble inthe marriage, you're gonna have it outside of
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the marriage too when you're getting thedivorce.
So it's always a fight, but that's kinda how Ibring it in.
I mean, I'm a I'm a CPA, so I did QuickBooks.
So, like, if you take my manifest course, it'slike actually, my money blocks course.
I actually show QuickBooks and tell them, okay.
Write a check every day for a thousand dollarsbecause we need to it's not about tricking your
mind.
It's about changing it.
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So if you see a thousand dollars coming intoyour bank account, fake bank account for right
now, it's like you start to feel that energy ofmoney coming through, and you start to let go
of the fear of money and get excited forreceiving the money.
So there's a lot of different ways that I helppeople financially, but it always comes down to
the energy of who they are and their limitedbeliefs.
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One of money blocks was one of the things thatI was gonna ask you about too.
So are there are there any, like, commonpatterns or financial pitfalls or beliefs that
people have that people get stuck in all thetime that you see?
I mean, you were gonna
read some of them, but, like, there's there'sgotta be more.
Yeah.
I wrote I wrote I wrote them coming down today,so I just wanted to kind of see which ones that
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your audience is gonna resonate with here.
So one of them is that I can't make it on myown, especially after divorce.
You know, people think that, oh, they're done.
I thought that.
I'll tell you a quick story real quick.
When I got divorced, it was February 2007 well,separated.
February 2017.
We were waiting for, I don't even know, yearsfor my ex husband to finally get the the high
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up paycheck.
And I was like, after that, we were set.
We were, like, ready to go.
I got one paycheck of that, and then we weseparated.
And I was waiting, like, busting my butt in mybusiness, doing everything.
I was waiting so long for that.
So in that moment, I was like it felt like Iwas starting all over again.
You know?
So it was that was a very hard hit to take formyself because it was a it was a lot that we
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were gonna get.
And I I didn't I wasn't gonna have to work asmuch.
I was able to take care of the kids, and thatdidn't happen.
I had to actually do the opposite.
So, yeah, I can't make it on my own.
I'm starting over with nothing is another one.
I don't deserve alimony or child support.
It is amazing to me how many women give upalimony or child support because they don't
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wanna deal with it.
They're like, oh, masculine women a lot.
They're like, oh, I'll just I'll just do it onmy own, you know, instead of fighting for that.
My mother that was my mother.
Ah.
Mhmm.
And I I tell the story story all the time, andnot only in this podcast and in others, it's,
you know, like, I was seven or eight years old.
We I watched my parents go through a divorce.
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They did a it was a DIY divorce themselves.
You know, they I think they drove down to thecourthouse themselves.
This was this was in the, you know, earlyeighties.
So, you know, times were a little bitdifferent.
They probably didn't even wear seat belts onthe way to the courthouse because they're so
that's how things were in the early eighties.
But, anyway, I mean, they did it themselves,and she was like, I don't want anything.
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And go circling back to one of your earliercomments about, like, the that scarcity
mindset, that created a scarcity mindset in mylife and basically was the impetus for the work
doing the work that I do as a financial plannerbecause I watched them both scrimp and get by.
You know, my dad was a little bit better offbecause he, you know, he had a job at the time
and he had he had yeah.
Actually had to work two jobs to help, youknow, help all of us out.
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But my mom worked multiple jobs and and justodd jobs to to keep a roof over our heads.
But, like, there were times when, you know,like, I had friends bringing over groceries to
put in the pantry because we didn't haveanything.
And if you think that doesn't if you think yourseven or eight year old doesn't see that and it
doesn't impact them, in my particular case, fortheir entire life, you're sadly mistaken.
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It's just it is, like, a lot.
Yeah.
And that right there, that story right therewill lead you believing that you have to
struggle for money.
Right?
So money and this is you have to realize if youlove money or if you hate money.
And if you grow up with issues like that I grewup with my stepfather having money, but always
holding it over our heads.
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So, like, I hated money.
And then any money would cause disagreementsbetween them, so they would always be fighting.
So I hated money.
I thought, like, oh, it's just get rid ofmoney.
It's the worst thing ever.
It just causes fights, but you have to realizethat money is a good thing.
And we have to let go of what we feel aboutmoney, and we have to believe that it's good
and use it for good.
And but that's what happens is in childhood, alot of it comes from a childhood as to how you
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feel about money.
And I'm telling you, if you feel uncomfortablewith money or if you hate money, you're never
gonna receive money.
You're never gonna have a lot of money.
And that's one of the biggest truths that I hadto learn myself.
Absolutely.
There's something to be said about that.
I'm I'm sorry to interrupt your flow there, butI I wanted to comment on that because every
everything you're saying, like, you you know,definitely resonates with me.
Yeah.
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Alright.
I'll go.
Let me keep going.
Let's see
what else Go for it.
So I'm not good with money.
That that I was and I said that to myself amillion times.
I'm not good with money because as soon as Igot it, I I mean, I I probably spent it before
I even had it, you know.
So we believe in ourselves that we're not goodwith it, but a lot of that comes from not
deserving it, feeling like you don't deserveit, feeling like you're not good enough for it,
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and that's really subconscious stuff.
You don't even realize that that's happening.
Yeah.
And like what I just said to you, I'm alwaysgonna struggle.
So money is about struggle.
And then this is a common one that I've seen inmy clients lately is that everything's gonna
follow apart.
So, like, they'll have money in the bank, butthey're they're waiting for the ball to drop.
Like, something's gonna happen.
Ball's gonna drop, and their money's gonna begone.
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So that that is one of the thing, and moneyalways disappears.
So those
are How do how do you handle that last one?
Because I know a lot of people that feel thatway.
Yeah.
So that's a scarcity mindset.
So we are still sitting in the lack.
Right?
So we're always thinking that something isgonna go wrong.
So we have to start to change our mindset andenergy.
So, like, if this was somebody's belief, Iwould definitely get to the root of where that
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comes from.
So it's in my breakthrough session.
We do a root of where it comes from becausethat's the energy that we need to release
because our energy gets stuck in our energyfield.
This is beautiful energy.
Right?
This is not all our energy, though.
It's all gray and dark and, like you know?
So when we when we do a breakthrough session,we get to the root of why you feel like money
always disappears or, like, everything's gonnakinda just go that way.
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You've either experienced it before or didn'tfeel safe.
That's a safety issue.
Right?
Because you're thinking everything's gonnaeverything's gonna fall apart and then what?
Two things I I love to do is create a plan.
So, you know, if I say, okay.
Everything my whole business shuts down, andI'm not making any money.
I'm like, okay.
I'm taking the two kids, and I'm moving to mymom's house.
Like, that that's gonna be the plan.
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You know?
So having kind of, like, a backup plan, even ifit's not what you like, it's still having some
kind of plan, I feel like sometimes allows ourbrain to calm down with that that little
thought, okay, of that everything's gonna fallout.
But then also getting to the root, it'sactually the root chakra there is getting to
release the energy of not feeling safe.
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It's pretty powerful stuff.
Pretty power where were you four years ago?
Four years ago.
Let me think about that.
Years ago.
Where were you?
I I'm only kidding.
I I probably could've used you and my and mydoctor at the same time, but you would've
would've maybe I would've healed quicker.
But
Oh, definitely.
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Yeah.
It's awesome.
Well, I appreciate I appreciate you sharing allthat.
Any what I like to call this segment of our ourchat is the kind of the carte blanche segment
here.
So are there any we covered a lot.
We covered some of the, you know, the more selfhelp stuff.
We covered some of the financial pieces ofthis.
Are there any any questions I didn't ask thatmaybe I should have or any any last message you
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wanna share with our listeners that we didn'tcover?
Yeah.
I think one of the last ones here was to notgive into your ex's expectations because I feel
like a lot of that a lot of going through adivorce, again, like we said, it's kinda like
letting them have everything that they want.
But I remember I remember I think it was it wasmore than four years ago, I think.
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I think it was, like, 2020.
And my ex husband was, like, badgering mebadgering badgering badgering me that to the
point I've had, like, this most severe panicattack I ever had.
And it was because I was trying to do what Iwanted for me and the kids, but, like, he
didn't agree with it, and I wasn't backingdown.
I would always back down.
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I would always say, okay.
Whatever.
Whatever.
This comes from codependency, which is, youknow, seeking validation outside of yourself.
But and as those are, like, people pleasers,over givers, overachievers is also a
codependent persona.
And I feel like we have to stand our ground.
We have to set those boundaries.
Because if you give in to the expectations ofyour exes, you're always gonna be you're
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abandoning yourself.
So if you abandon yourself, right, you're neverreally gonna get to where you wanna be because
you're always trying to please somebody else.
Or not even please, but appease.
Okay?
Because if you do that all the time, again,you're abandoning yourself, and you're not
gonna get to that financial success that youwant.
So go after what you want.
Like, I'm helping one of my clients right now.
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I'm gonna start researching Florida because I'mlike, okay.
You know, she she deserves child support, andshe's not getting it.
So what can we do to fight for it?
So it's like fight for yourself in your divorcebecause you can't just let every like, your ex
take everything.
You deserve a lot of it.
So make sure that you set yourself up forfinancial success because if you give
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everything away, you're starting from scratch.
And starting from scratch is hard.
I've done that a couple times now.
Right?
So allow yourself to have that confidence inyourself and know that you deserve it and fight
for it.
100%.
And if she needs help, we work in FloridaThat's we work in all 50 states.
We work in all 50 states.
(23:44):
I
love The
beauty the the beauty of the work that we do isis that, you know, as long as the math maths in
in your state, so if two plus two still equalsfour in Florida or Texas or Tennessee, we can
still we can still work with you.
We don't have to be we're we don't have to belicensed in any states or any of that stuff.
We have overarching jurisdiction over all theall the states.
(24:05):
So, unlike attorneys who can only work in kindof their little their little pocket of the
world, we can work in 50.
So that's been super helpful because we havecases all over the country, which is which is
cool.
Yeah.
And I really love what you do because I thinkit's so important to set people up for success.
So when I got divorced, I just had a lawyer.
And to be honest, I wrote my whole contractmyself.
So, you know, like, so a lot of people don'treally help you with it.
(24:28):
They just kind of give you the standard thingor whatever, but I fought for myself in that
contract.
I was like, nope.
We're gonna do this, and we're gonna do this,and we're and I fought for it.
So I I did end up a little bit ahead of there,but I love what you do because a lot of people,
they're not looking for the forward part of thefinances when you get divorced.
You know?
And that's the thing.
Know, I'm a yeah.
(24:50):
I appreciate that.
Thank you for the commercial.
The, you know, the the one thing that I tellpeople all the time is when when your attorney
is gonna, you know, patch you on the back, youknow, patch you on the back or gives you a hug
and says, you know, congratulations.
You're divorced.
It was great working with you.
In many ways, that's where our jobs is onlyabout halfway done.
Right?
Because we help people through the next phaseof into their next phase of their life.
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We help them put their future financial plantogether and talk about investment strategy and
what they wanna do with their investments andany money that they get from their settlements
and so on.
We don't we don't just, you know, walk awaywhen the dust settles on it or the or the ink
is dried, so to speak, on the divorce decreethat it's in many ways, our job has only just
begun.
So, thank you for the commercial.
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I appreciate that.
Got a question.
Thank you for your time today.
It's been super super amazing to have you withus and and to talk through this stuff.
I'm I'm a big fan, like I said, of all the, youknow, the eastern medicine, you know, maybe
your alternative options that people haveversus going to the doctor to just get some
more pills from from because that tends to bethe how how things work here in Western
(25:53):
society.
But I really do appreciate you sharing all ofyour insights and the powerful ways that you
can you can heal yourself and and yourrelationships with money and and especially as
we're going through divorce and and even afterafter the dust has settled on on that divorce.
So for our listeners who want to explore moreof Danielle's work, check out our TikTok,
YouTube, Instagram.
We're gonna put all the links in the show notesfor you, so don't worry about jotting them down
(26:16):
now.
And visit her for energy healing andempowerment resources on our website.
And if you're ready to get your financial lifein order during or after a divorce, we're here
to help you at Allegiant Divorce Solutions.
Visit allegiantds.com to get started, and don'tforget subscribe to Broke Up Not Broken for
more interviews like this that empower youremotional and financial recovery on into the
(26:38):
future.
Until next time.
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