44 - 3 Simple Changes to GET HIM TALKING and Stop Shutting Down

He shuts down. You stay calm. You speak your truth—and still feel like the villain. This video unpacks why that happens, how emotional unavailability shows up, and what to do next.You’ve done everything “right.”You’re calm. You’ve thought through your words. You’re not blaming or attacking—you’re just sharing how you feel. And somehow… he still shuts down.If every attempt to connect turns into defensiveness, avoidance, or being told you’re “too emotional,” this isn’t just a communication issue—it’s a pattern. One that can leave you over-functioning, questioning your worth, and slowly losing yourself.This video will help you:Spot the hidden ways we shut down connection (even when we think we’re being vulnerable)Understand the real difference between emotional immaturity vs emotional unavailability Set grounded, clear boundaries without guilt or performanceReclaim your voice—even if it shakesWhether you’re trying to fix the loop, wondering if it’s time to walk away, or just looking for clarity… this is your wake-up call.Because love shouldn’t feel like rowing a canoe alone🔥 READY TO STOP DRIFTING? → Take The 7-Day Reset for High-Performing Men: https://www.stumurray.com/7-day-reset Seven questions that separate the men who change from the men who stay stuck. Most won't finish it.ABOUT STU MURRAY & BROTHRI help high-performing men break free from the performance prison that's left them successful on the outside but hollow within. This channel is your roadmap from isolation to brotherhood, from achievement to fulfillment, from doing to being.🔺Key Timestamps :00:00 - Have you ever tried to calmly express your feelings and ended up feeling like the villain? 02:17 - If he can’t hear you, that’s one thing — but if he won’t, that’s a whole different problem. 05:02 - No one can make you feel anything — those feelings are yours. 07:24 - Speak to what’s alive in you, not about what’s wrong with him. 09:30 - If your partner still won’t meet you halfway, that’s not a communication problem — that’s emotional unavailability. 11:02 - You’re in a two-person canoe, but the person next to you is sitting still… or paddling the other way. 13:39 - Effort doesn’t equal progress if you’re the only one putting it in. 14:24 - Peace that costs you your inner truth isn’t peace — it’s a performance. 19:57 - If you’re constantly editing yourself to stay acceptable, you’re not in a partnership — you’re in a performance. 22:02 - It’s okay to say ‘I love you… and I also love me.’