Is gratitude optional in marriage?
According to one viral TikTok clip, yes.
In this episode of Build Your Happier Marriage, I react to a wife proudly declaring she doesn’t thank her husband for everyday responsibilities like taking out the trash, unloading the dishwasher, or making the bed.
What she doesn’t realize is that this “Diva Mentality” — fueled by feminism, cultural shifts, and social media trends — is toxic to marriages.
We’ll break down:
- Why withholding gratitude slowly starves a husband’s soul.
- How respect and appreciation fuel a man’s willingness to provide, protect, and show up in marriage.
- Why TikTok culture is normalizing entitlement and disrespect in the home.
- And most importantly, how small acts of thanks can radically shift the atmosphere of your marriage.
If you’ve ever wondered why your husband seems to pull back emotionally, this episode may give you the answer.
💡 What You’ll Learn
- The dangerous message social media is teaching wives about gratitude.
- Why respect and thanks are not bonuses in marriage — they’re biblical commands.
- How Christian wives can choose God’s design over culture’s script to create peace, intimacy, and partnership in marriage.
- Practical ways to build your husband up with appreciation, even for the everyday things.
📌 Resources & Links
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📚 Book: The Joyful Wife: 7 Connection Skills to Better Understand Your Husband, Rekindle Love, and Deepen Intimacy
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▶️ Watch the full reaction video on YouTube:
www.kingsleygrant.com/youtube
🙋🏽♂️ About Your Host
I’m Kingsley Grant — licensed marriage & family therapist, certified relationship coach, and follower of Jesus.
For over 20 years, I’ve counseled and coached thousands of couples, helping them build joy-filled, Christ-centered marriages. I’ve been married nearly 40 years myself, and I know firsthand the challenges and beauty of building a marriage that lasts.
Through this podcast and my YouTube channel, my mission is to equip wives of entrepreneurial and / or career-driven husbands with biblical tools to better understand their husbands, rekindle love, and deepen intimacy — all while keeping their hearts filled with peace and joy.
💬 Let’s Talk
Do you think husbands should only be thanked for “extra” things — or also for the everyday stuff?
Share your thoughts in the comments on YouTube or message me directly — I’d love to hear your perspective.
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