BYHM166 | You Can’t Have a King and Treat Him Like a Servant (CAUTION: This Might Sting)

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In this powerful episode of Build Your Happier Marriage, Kingsley Grant tackles one of the most misunderstood and controversial topics in Christian marriage today — submission.

You’ve heard the cultural narrative: “Submission means weakness.” Or worse, “It means control.” But what if both are wrong?

In this episode, Kingsley breaks down:

• Why many wives unknowingly undermine the very leadership they pray for.
• What Biblical submission truly means — and how it actually amplifies a woman’s influence rather than diminishing it.
• The one shift that causes a husband to rise up, lead with love, and pursue his wife’s heart again.

It’s honest. It’s eye-opening. And yes — it might sting a little. But it’s the kind of truth that rebuilds trust, restores peace, and reignites passion in your marriage.

💡 What You’ll Learn in This Episode

• The real reason submission gets a bad reputation in today’s culture.
• Why you can’t pray for a king but treat him like a servant.
• How “respect” and “control” are not the same — and why confusing the two creates emotional distance.
• What a godly husband’s leadership should look like (and what to do when it’s missing).
• How submission done right creates balance, intimacy, and spiritual partnership in marriage.

📖 Biblical Insight

“The wife must respect her husband.” – Ephesians 5:33
When wives honor this principle in the right way — not through silence, but through strategic trust — they unlock their husband’s heart and God’s favor in their marriage.

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