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Matt Garrow-FIsher (00:27):
This week.
I discuss one of the mosteffective ways to make changes
in your life when you lackpassion and balance for the
things that are important toyou.
It's all about taking an auditof your time.
To find easy wins.
So you can burn from within.
(00:50):
I remember a client that I had.
I won't mention their name.
Let's just call him Frank.
Now Frank owned a seven figurebusiness.
You had a business partner, awife, beautiful children.
And when he first came to me, westarted our coaching session,
discussing some commoninterests, things that happened
(01:12):
that day in the news.
And that allowed him to relax abit.
And I asked him why he was here.
And after we gurgitate the linefrom his questionnaire before
the session.
I could tell he was sharing somesurface level stuff.
(01:32):
So I looked him deep in theeyes.
And I said, Why are you reallyhere, Frank?
He took a deep sigh.
And then started sharing.
His business was going well.
Yep.
(01:53):
The majority of the time hespent on it was in business
development.
Something he hated.
His passion was programming.
Yeah, he spent so little time onthis because his business had
grown so much.
On top of that.
He didn't see his kids much.
(02:14):
Working long hours away fromhome.
He barely had time for any ofhis passion projects.
He started like teachingunderprivileged kids at local
schools, programming skills thatjust weren't taught in their
school or playing with his kids.
He was enrolled in a distancelearning degree in computing,
(02:37):
not because he needed a degree,he was a world-class program
already, but because he wantedto teach his children, the
working hard and getting aneducation was important.
The older one gets.
And the more money we make, werealize that the one resource
that becomes more and moreprecious.
(02:58):
And in fact, the most preciousand valuable thing we have.
Is time.
What dying billionaire wouldn'tgive his fortune to become
healthy.
And live another few years.
So with that in mind.
Frank.
And I talked about how we couldwin him back time.
(03:21):
Now we all have the same numberof hours in the day.
Yet the way we spend those hoursand how we feel about each
minute can be radicallydifferent.
Are you spending your precioustime, your most valuable
commodity?
Doing something that makes youhappy.
That you're passionate about.
(03:43):
That's important to you.
This meaningful to you.
For Frank.
He was burning out.
He wasn't energized at all fromhis work week.
He didn't look forward to isMondays.
He felt he didn't have enoughtime to spend on things he cared
about.
His children were growing upfast and he was missing this.
(04:06):
He longed to go back to the olddays when he was busy making
code, doing what he was great atan, in a state of flow.
So Frank and I put together alittle plan.
I asked him to write down everyactivity he did each day, Monday
through Sunday.
Everything he did in two hourblocks from when he woke up to
(04:30):
when he went to sleep.
Then I asked Frank.
What were the most importantthings in his life?
He said his kids.
Yeah.
He was spending very littlequality time with them.
He loved programming, but itwasn't doing much of it.
He loved teaching, but he had notime for it.
(04:53):
I won't bore you with all thedetails.
Although I was very interestedin them, the point is he gave me
a list of his highest values,the things you wanted to spend
his time on the most.
I asked him what activitieswould fill his ideal work week
so that he lived out his highestvalues.
(05:15):
And just by this little audit oftime, reality versus his time
dream.
That was a big mismatch.
So I said, you know what, Frank.
I think we need to make sometweaks to your work week.
And we made a few changes.
Indeed.
(05:37):
People are able to live life ontheir terms.
They just have to work out whatthose terms are and start moving
bit by bit, day by day in thatdirection so that their current
work week resembled more oftheir ideal work week.
Frank had lost the passion forhis business a long time ago.
(05:59):
I asked him to speak with hisbusiness partner and tell him
his real strength and passionwas in programming, not business
development.
He also wanted to work a lotless hours so we could spend
more time with his family.
A couple of weeks later, Frankreturned for another coaching
session.
He had the conversation with hisbusiness partner.
(06:22):
And they had made a deal.
He was happy.
He agreed to sell.
His part of the business andstay on for the time being as a
well paid employee.
Doing what he loved programming.
Over the next few weeks, hegradually transitioned more and
(06:45):
more.
To programming.
And less doing businessdevelopment.
What's more, he freed up hismornings so he could spend time
with his kids before he tookthem to school.
He also got to pick them up fromschool, playing games with them
and help them with homework whenthey got home.
And didn't have to worry aboutrunning his business and letting
(07:07):
that get in the way of histreasured time.
With his kids.
He was happy during the days hespent his time doing what he
loved programming.
His wife and kids saw a new man.
Now I checked in with him abouthis other values and ideal work
(07:28):
week to see where they were at.
And there was still mismatchesbetween.
His now current work week in hisideal workweek.
So we swapped some time that hethought was wasted playing, for
example, computer games.
And instead.
Agreed to dedicate a certainnumber of hours freed up from
(07:49):
this on his degree and foundother areas in his week.
When we looked into the detailhour by hour, where we could
invest time into his teachingdisadvantaged kids project.
We agreed.
If he was doing his degree toteach his kids, the principle of
working hard and getting aneducation.
(08:10):
Why not do this in a fun?
Enjoyable way.
We made an agreement.
While his children were inschool.
He worked on his degree and histeaching project.
I wasn't going to be his boss orhis accountability buddy for
these things.
It was up to him to do it.
(08:30):
But a better accountability,buddy.
The me.
Would be his children.
So every day he agreed to reportto his children.
They were his line managers forthese projects.
He told them what he'd worked onthat day.
Detailing how hard he'd worked.
Why he was doing this, hisdegree and what they meant to
(08:53):
him.
Why he cared about teachingdisadvantaged kids about a
subject that brought him out ofpoverty.
And the more he worked, theprouder he felt, and the proud
of his kids were too.
And their relationship grewstronger than ever before.
(09:14):
And it just a few short weeks,Frank had transformed his work
week.
He had the same hours aseveryone else on this planet.
Yet more hours were filled withdoing things he was passionate
about.
More precious minutes were spentbalanced.
With the people in his life, heloved the most.
(09:37):
And more time was found.
For contributing to others inprojects.
That meant so much to him.
Why am I telling you this storyof Frank?
Because that transformation.
That shift from feeling unhappyand burnt-out.
To living with more passion.
Purpose and balance a state Icall to burn from within all
(09:59):
happened.
Because of a couple of steps.
Simple steps that you can do to,for yourself.
Here they are.
Step one.
Know your values.
What's the five to 10, mostimportant things to you in your
life.
(10:20):
Categories or areas that you cantranslate to activities that you
love.
To spend your time doing.
That are most important to you,for example, your kids, family
learning, personal development.
Travel.
Exercise health.
Cooking.
Skateboarding, whatever is mostimportant to you.
Write it down.
(10:42):
Step two.
From these values.
Make sure you write downactivities that would be in your
ideal work week.
That fulfill these values.
Step three.
Create an audit.
Hour by hour of your typicalwork week.
(11:02):
Be totally honest.
You're doing it to find timeyour most precious commodity.
More precious than gold diamondsor Bitcoins put together.
Step four.
Find the mismatches between yourideal work week.
Your dream and you current workweek, your reality.
(11:24):
Circle opportunities ofactivities you can stop doing.
To free up time for activitiesin your ideal work week.
So you can start fulfilling yourhighest values.
Be happier.
I'm burned from within.
Step five.
Have a plan to shift.
Transition gradually towardsthis ideal work week overtime.
(11:49):
If you need to speak to peoplelike your employer.
Or business partner becauseyou're unhappy and want to be
more productive and happier atwork.
Go talk to them and see if youknew, if you can negotiate small
changes, at least to make adifference towards what you
want.
Now you can do this with afriend.
(12:10):
Having someone like a coach thatholds you truly to account.
And spots opportunities likemaking your kids, your line
manager also can help greatly.
If you want to go through thisprocess with me, Booker called
on.
Burn from within.com forwardslash call CA double L.
I think though that most of youlistening can have small shifts
(12:33):
by doing these five stepsyourself.
But over time, these smallshifts can turn into seismic
waves that can change your life.
We all make shifts towardsbanning from within.
We just have to be consciouslyaware and honest in exactly how
(12:54):
we spend our time.
And how we want to spend ourtime.
And then setting a transitionplan to get that is the name of
the game.
We're more in control of ourlives.
And we think.
We just have to give ourselvespermission to be happy.
Money doesn't rule us.
Are employers or businessesdon't either.
(13:17):
And you may find opportunities.
You would never have discoveredif you hadn't started these
changes to being happier.
Let me know how you get on withthe five steps.
To shift to an ideal workweek.
Yes there is.
COVID-19.
And it's more difficult maybe tonegotiate things with employers
(13:40):
for some.
But do whatever it is you can inyour control.
They will definitely beopportunities to shift.
Just that tiny bit.
Towards your ideal work week andlive your highest values.
That little bit more.
And that.
Could be the difference thatmakes the difference for your
(14:00):
life.
To change.
For the better.
And for you to smile more andmore.
If you found this podcastenjoyable or valuable in any
way, then please subscribe tothe burn from within podcast.
And.
In order to help us grow.
I'd love you to give us a reviewon the podcast platform that
(14:24):
you're using.
And I made this super easy foryou to do.
Just go to rate this podcast.comforward slash burn from within
that's rate.
This podcast.com.
Forward slash burn from within.
Yeah, then just select theplatform that you use to listen
to the podcast and it will giveyou step-by-step instructions on
(14:44):
how to leave a review.
Shout out to.
Repo man, 3000, I think.
Your name is Mark from bookBrooke's light.
Brooke's light podcast.
Left a review recently.
He said exactly what I waslooking for.
Matt's interview with Rex aboutlife on your terms was precisely
(15:06):
what I was looking for.
And further reaffirms mythoughts on the importance of
vision.
I especially love the part aboutkeeping the belief.
With the analogy of the plantedseed.
Keep up the wonderful work onyour podcast, Matt.
Look forward to listening tomore.
Thanks.
Very much, Mark.
I really appreciate that.
(15:26):
And for any of you who wanted tolisten to that particular
podcast with rec sites or any ofthe other ones, please check out
the rest of the episodes oniTunes, Spotify, or your
favorite podcast platform.
Until next time live withpassion.
Purpose and balance.
And burn from within
This week.
I discuss one of the mosteffective ways to make changes
in your life when you lackpassion and balance for the
things that are important toyou.
It's all about taking an auditof your time.
To find easy wins.
So you can burn from within.
(00:50):
I remember a client that I had.
I won't mention their name.
Let's just call him Frank.
Now Frank owned a seven figurebusiness.
You had a business partner, awife, beautiful children.
And when he first came to me, westarted our coaching session,
discussing some commoninterests, things that happened
(01:12):
that day in the news.
And that allowed him to relax abit.
And I asked him why he was here.
And after we gurgitate the linefrom his questionnaire before
the session.
I could tell he was sharing somesurface level stuff.
(01:32):
So I looked him deep in theeyes.
And I said, Why are you reallyhere, Frank?
He took a deep sigh.
And then started sharing.
His business was going well.
Yep.
(01:53):
The majority of the time hespent on it was in business
development.
Something he hated.
His passion was programming.
Yeah, he spent so little time onthis because his business had
grown so much.
On top of that.
He didn't see his kids much.
(02:14):
Working long hours away fromhome.
He barely had time for any ofhis passion projects.
He started like teachingunderprivileged kids at local
schools, programming skills thatjust weren't taught in their
school or playing with his kids.
He was enrolled in a distancelearning degree in computing,
(02:37):
not because he needed a degree,he was a world-class program
already, but because he wantedto teach his children, the
working hard and getting aneducation was important.
The older one gets.
And the more money we make, werealize that the one resource
that becomes more and moreprecious.
(02:58):
And in fact, the most preciousand valuable thing we have.
Is time.
What dying billionaire wouldn'tgive his fortune to become
healthy.
And live another few years.
So with that in mind.
Frank.
And I talked about how we couldwin him back time.
(03:21):
Now we all have the same numberof hours in the day.
Yet the way we spend those hoursand how we feel about each
minute can be radicallydifferent.
Are you spending your precioustime, your most valuable
commodity?
Doing something that makes youhappy.
That you're passionate about.
(03:43):
That's important to you.
This meaningful to you.
For Frank.
He was burning out.
He wasn't energized at all fromhis work week.
He didn't look forward to isMondays.
He felt he didn't have enoughtime to spend on things he cared
about.
His children were growing upfast and he was missing this.
(04:06):
He longed to go back to the olddays when he was busy making
code, doing what he was great atan, in a state of flow.
So Frank and I put together alittle plan.
I asked him to write down everyactivity he did each day, Monday
through Sunday.
Everything he did in two hourblocks from when he woke up to
(04:30):
when he went to sleep.
Then I asked Frank.
What were the most importantthings in his life?
He said his kids.
Yeah.
He was spending very littlequality time with them.
He loved programming, but itwasn't doing much of it.
He loved teaching, but he had notime for it.
(04:53):
I won't bore you with all thedetails.
Although I was very interestedin them, the point is he gave me
a list of his highest values,the things you wanted to spend
his time on the most.
I asked him what activitieswould fill his ideal work week
so that he lived out his highestvalues.
(05:15):
And just by this little audit oftime, reality versus his time
dream.
That was a big mismatch.
So I said, you know what, Frank.
I think we need to make sometweaks to your work week.
And we made a few changes.
Indeed.
(05:37):
People are able to live life ontheir terms.
They just have to work out whatthose terms are and start moving
bit by bit, day by day in thatdirection so that their current
work week resembled more oftheir ideal work week.
Frank had lost the passion forhis business a long time ago.
(05:59):
I asked him to speak with hisbusiness partner and tell him
his real strength and passionwas in programming, not business
development.
He also wanted to work a lotless hours so we could spend
more time with his family.
A couple of weeks later, Frankreturned for another coaching
session.
He had the conversation with hisbusiness partner.
(06:22):
And they had made a deal.
He was happy.
He agreed to sell.
His part of the business andstay on for the time being as a
well paid employee.
Doing what he loved programming.
Over the next few weeks, hegradually transitioned more and
(06:45):
more.
To programming.
And less doing businessdevelopment.
What's more, he freed up hismornings so he could spend time
with his kids before he tookthem to school.
He also got to pick them up fromschool, playing games with them
and help them with homework whenthey got home.
And didn't have to worry aboutrunning his business and letting
(07:07):
that get in the way of histreasured time.
With his kids.
He was happy during the days hespent his time doing what he
loved programming.
His wife and kids saw a new man.
Now I checked in with him abouthis other values and ideal work
(07:28):
week to see where they were at.
And there was still mismatchesbetween.
His now current work week in hisideal workweek.
So we swapped some time that hethought was wasted playing, for
example, computer games.
And instead.
Agreed to dedicate a certainnumber of hours freed up from
(07:49):
this on his degree and foundother areas in his week.
When we looked into the detailhour by hour, where we could
invest time into his teachingdisadvantaged kids project.
We agreed.
If he was doing his degree toteach his kids, the principle of
working hard and getting aneducation.
(08:10):
Why not do this in a fun?
Enjoyable way.
We made an agreement.
While his children were inschool.
He worked on his degree and histeaching project.
I wasn't going to be his boss orhis accountability buddy for
these things.
It was up to him to do it.
(08:30):
But a better accountability,buddy.
The me.
Would be his children.
So every day he agreed to reportto his children.
They were his line managers forthese projects.
He told them what he'd worked onthat day.
Detailing how hard he'd worked.
Why he was doing this, hisdegree and what they meant to
(08:53):
him.
Why he cared about teachingdisadvantaged kids about a
subject that brought him out ofpoverty.
And the more he worked, theprouder he felt, and the proud
of his kids were too.
And their relationship grewstronger than ever before.
(09:14):
And it just a few short weeks,Frank had transformed his work
week.
He had the same hours aseveryone else on this planet.
Yet more hours were filled withdoing things he was passionate
about.
More precious minutes were spentbalanced.
With the people in his life, heloved the most.
(09:37):
And more time was found.
For contributing to others inprojects.
That meant so much to him.
Why am I telling you this storyof Frank?
Because that transformation.
That shift from feeling unhappyand burnt-out.
To living with more passion.
Purpose and balance a state Icall to burn from within all
(09:59):
happened.
Because of a couple of steps.
Simple steps that you can do to,for yourself.
Here they are.
Step one.
Know your values.
What's the five to 10, mostimportant things to you in your
life.
(10:20):
Categories or areas that you cantranslate to activities that you
love.
To spend your time doing.
That are most important to you,for example, your kids, family
learning, personal development.
Travel.
Exercise health.
Cooking.
Skateboarding, whatever is mostimportant to you.
Write it down.
(10:42):
Step two.
From these values.
Make sure you write downactivities that would be in your
ideal work week.
That fulfill these values.
Step three.
Create an audit.
Hour by hour of your typicalwork week.
(11:02):
Be totally honest.
You're doing it to find timeyour most precious commodity.
More precious than gold diamondsor Bitcoins put together.
Step four.
Find the mismatches between yourideal work week.
Your dream and you current workweek, your reality.
(11:24):
Circle opportunities ofactivities you can stop doing.
To free up time for activitiesin your ideal work week.
So you can start fulfilling yourhighest values.
Be happier.
I'm burned from within.
Step five.
Have a plan to shift.
Transition gradually towardsthis ideal work week overtime.
(11:49):
If you need to speak to peoplelike your employer.
Or business partner becauseyou're unhappy and want to be
more productive and happier atwork.
Go talk to them and see if youknew, if you can negotiate small
changes, at least to make adifference towards what you
want.
Now you can do this with afriend.
(12:10):
Having someone like a coach thatholds you truly to account.
And spots opportunities likemaking your kids, your line
manager also can help greatly.
If you want to go through thisprocess with me, Booker called
on.
Burn from within.com forwardslash call CA double L.
I think though that most of youlistening can have small shifts
(12:33):
by doing these five stepsyourself.
But over time, these smallshifts can turn into seismic
waves that can change your life.
We all make shifts towardsbanning from within.
We just have to be consciouslyaware and honest in exactly how
(12:54):
we spend our time.
And how we want to spend ourtime.
And then setting a transitionplan to get that is the name of
the game.
We're more in control of ourlives.
And we think.
We just have to give ourselvespermission to be happy.
Money doesn't rule us.
Are employers or businessesdon't either.
(13:17):
And you may find opportunities.
You would never have discoveredif you hadn't started these
changes to being happier.
Let me know how you get on withthe five steps.
To shift to an ideal workweek.
Yes there is.
COVID-19.
And it's more difficult maybe tonegotiate things with employers
(13:40):
for some.
But do whatever it is you can inyour control.
They will definitely beopportunities to shift.
Just that tiny bit.
Towards your ideal work week andlive your highest values.
That little bit more.
And that.
Could be the difference thatmakes the difference for your
(14:00):
life.
To change.
For the better.
And for you to smile more andmore.
If you found this podcastenjoyable or valuable in any
way, then please subscribe tothe burn from within podcast.
And.
In order to help us grow.
I'd love you to give us a reviewon the podcast platform that
(14:24):
you're using.
And I made this super easy foryou to do.
Just go to rate this podcast.comforward slash burn from within
that's rate.
This podcast.com.
Forward slash burn from within.
Yeah, then just select theplatform that you use to listen
to the podcast and it will giveyou step-by-step instructions on
(14:44):
how to leave a review.
Shout out to.
Repo man, 3000, I think.
Your name is Mark from bookBrooke's light.
Brooke's light podcast.
Left a review recently.
He said exactly what I waslooking for.
Matt's interview with Rex aboutlife on your terms was precisely
(15:06):
what I was looking for.
And further reaffirms mythoughts on the importance of
vision.
I especially love the part aboutkeeping the belief.
With the analogy of the plantedseed.
Keep up the wonderful work onyour podcast, Matt.
Look forward to listening tomore.
Thanks.
Very much, Mark.
I really appreciate that.
(15:26):
And for any of you who wanted tolisten to that particular
podcast with rec sites or any ofthe other ones, please check out
the rest of the episodes oniTunes, Spotify, or your
favorite podcast platform.
Until next time live withpassion.
Purpose and balance.
And burn from within
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