June 22, 2025 • 11 mins
Welcome to Un Verano con Self Love, Manis.
This is a special 5-part storytelling series where I’ll take you through five love stories, some romantic, some platonic, some about me, some about parts of me. Each one reflects a different Wound of Calladita Culture® and what it means to reclaim your voice, your worth, and your heart.
These aren’t perfect stories. They’re real. They’re tender. They’re here to remind you that healing can be messy, funny, painful, and beautiful, all at once.
So grab your cafecito, get comfy, and let’s begin your summer of self-love.
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This is a special 5-part storytelling series where I’ll take you through five love stories, some romantic, some platonic, some about me, some about parts of me. Each one reflects a different Wound of Calladita Culture® and what it means to reclaim your voice, your worth, and your heart.
These aren’t perfect stories. They’re real. They’re tender. They’re here to remind you that healing can be messy, funny, painful, and beautiful, all at once.
So grab your cafecito, get comfy, and let’s begin your summer of self-love.
If you want to know more and be part of Un Verano con Self Love program, you can join here
Check out today's sponsor Savvy Ladies, a nonprofit organization dedicated to helping women like YOU take control of your financial future. They offer free resources, webinars, and my favorite: a free financial helpline where you can connect one-on-one with trusted financial experts. Visit www.savvyladies.org today and connect with the financial helpline to get the personalized support you deserve. Your journey to financial independence starts here.
Check out BMO here
Do you want to support our show and get ad-free episodes? Join our Supporters Club here.
Follow Cafe con Pam on all things social:
Subscribe on YouTube
Listen to Cafe con Pam
Take our Calladita Culture®️ Quiz
Get your business on El Mercadito
Learn more about Pam
To support the show, an easy way to do it is to leave a review. Your feedback definitely helps other listeners connect and see if this is a podcast they could resonate with. To make it easy for you, here are some quick questions to think about when you’re leaving a review:
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*The views and opinions expressed in this podcast are those of the hosts and guests and do not necessarily reflect the views of BMO. BMO sponsors the podcast but does not influence or endorse the specific discussions or viewpoints shared herein. BMO Bank N.A. Member FDIC*
Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/cafe-con-pam--6348411/support.
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Speaker 1 (00:03):
So for me Ola sopam and welcome to our Mergarito,
the place where we showcase the brands that believe in
us and help us make the show possible. Let's meet them.
We all know this. Talking about money is not always
(00:26):
the most comfortable. Better, our friends from save Ladies make
it easier and now and Espanol, you don't have to
feel the pressure to translate for your mama or your tias.
Because savid Ladies has their whole site and nuestro yaora,
they can easily access their free resources like Taietes Glasses,
(00:49):
is La Lina, Gratis Bara and bunts their free financial
helpline and then the pace connect that with a trusted
financial expert. Whether you need financial guy in English or Espanol,
Saved Ladies is here to support you. Visit save ladies
dot org. That is sa v v y la d
(01:11):
i ees dot org. But I'm beisad your financial freedom.
Here's the thing. Latina families have been saving money forever
from reusing plastic containers for gomela, folding up plastic bags
under the sink, and diluting dish soap with water. The
(01:33):
last thing we need is to pay fees to access
or money right was In case you didn't know, Vima
customers have access to forty thousand fee free ATMs across
the United States, plus their Beast Smart Advantage checking account
has no monthly maintenance fee. Learn more about how BIMO
can help by visiting Vima dot com for slash checking
(01:54):
bmo dot com for slash checking conditions. Apply accounts provided
in the United Slime States by Pimo Bank and a
member fd I see Welcome to Kavakmpam the bilingual podcaste
Cora Stories Scene Sansora. I'm your host, Bamgorus and this
(02:19):
is a special series called Beanoon Self Love. All summer long,
We're exploring what it means to come back to ourselves
with softness, joy and radical k from healing kaya culture
wounds to romanticizing our daily lives. This season is about
choosing you every single time. I know the world is
(02:42):
falling apart and everything is on fire, and more than ever,
I do believe this is the time to tend to
ourselves and take care of ourselves. Let's dive in. Welcome
to self Love Monies. This is a five part storytelling
(03:03):
series where I will take you through my five love stories.
Some romantic some platonic, some about me, some about parts
of me, and each one reflects a different wound of
Coyetita culture and what it means to reclaim your voice,
you're worth, and your heart. These are not perfect stories.
(03:24):
They're real, they're tender, and they're here to remind you
that healing can be messy, funny, painful, and beautiful all
at once. So grab your cafecito, get comfy, and let's
begin your summer of self love. LeRoi bamo elo elespeco
is the wound of identity. I was fifteen, maybe sixteen,
(03:49):
just old enough to start craving freedom, but too young
to do anything about it. I had just moved back
to Mexico. I thought I was going on vacation, but
I I stayed, not by choice, but because my parents
decided it was time. And I remember feeling like I
was dropped into someone else's story. The girl who came
(04:10):
back wasn't the same girl who had left. I didn't fit,
not in school, not with family, not even in my
own body. My Spanish sounded funny, and my English was
slipping away. I felt too American for here, and to
Mexicana for there. I literal meah, I was floating in
(04:36):
between angry, confused, irritated, annoyed. And that's when I met
Elis Becho. We were walking past his house on a
Friday afternoon with my friends after school and we me
(04:57):
maybe noticed there. He was standing outside, shirt halfway buttoned,
singing his heart out like he was performing at the
Auditoria Elente. He had no shame, no filter, no awareness
that other people might be watching. Or maybe he did
(05:17):
and he just didn't care. He was the moment, and
I remember thinking, who is this dude? And he literally
lived a block away from me. He wasn't trying to
be cool. He just was. And that confidence that is
I had not seen that in a long time, or
(05:38):
I don't know if ever. Frankly, and I didn't realize
it right away, but something in me exhaled when I
saw him that day. Eleespecho walked into my story. He
had this way of showing up that made everything feel lighter.
He didn't ask questions like where are you really from?
(05:59):
He didn't make me feel weird for being in between
languages or styles, or because I forgot words how to
say words in Espanol. He just accepted me and more
than that, he created space for me to figure out
who I was without even knowing he was doing it.
Leespeco took me to my first Bibia Latino, and then
(06:21):
we went to many, many, many after. I didn't know
the bands at the time. I didn't know half of them.
Many of them I did, but I felt so alive
that first time, the music, the crowd, the noise, the dancing,
the singing, the words in unison. For once, I wasn't
(06:47):
thinking about how I sounded, or whether I was too
much or not enough. I was just there existing. And
then we went to Elchopo, El Mercalo Keezta, full of punks,
got Metallero's old records, vintage treasures, all mixed in with
the smell of tacos and rebellion. I bought a second
(07:09):
hand T shirt and he said, is that is Mutu?
You don't know that? Yeah, get it is Mutou. I
didn't know what me was, and in that moment I
started to wonder. We dated for a while, and during
those high school years where everything feels like forever and
(07:31):
five minutes at the same time. He was loud, fun
and the life of the party truly, but with me
he was soft, and when I started dreaming out loud
about going back to the US for college, I was
scared to tell him. And not because I didn't want
(07:52):
to go or because I thought he was going to
do something I knew I needed to leave. I was
scared to tell him because I didn't want to lose
what we had. I thought I was gonna be sad, mad,
I don't know. I thought he would say, are you
leaving again? Or maybe guilt me into stain, But instead
(08:13):
he looked at me and smiled and said demo dan
dos Genoa, and I still remembered how it landed like
something inside me cracked open in the best way. That
(08:34):
was the first time someone saw me and my becoming
and didn't try to stop it. And that's when I
realized love doesn't mean holding on tight. Sometimes it means
standing back and truly letting someone fly. Of course, we
(08:55):
didn't stay together. We tried. We kept in touch, We
used Skype and all the things that we could use
back then to stay in contact, but we realized that
life took us in different directions. Ekomoison for the mass,
(09:17):
but Respeco gave me something that's still within me. He
was the first person who showed me I didn't have
to shape shift to be loved, that I could be
weird and layered and confused and still be seen. He
showed me Identity isn't performance, it's remembering. And sometimes it
takes someone else's mirror, someone singing loudly on a sidewalk,
(09:40):
to remind you who you were all along. And maybe
you don't have a someone like Elspecho to reflect you
right now. And that's okay because this story is your
invitation to become the mirror for yourself. So when this
episode ends, I am going to give you an expert
(10:02):
you choose to do it or not. You The experiment
is as follows. You go stand in front of a mirror,
You look at yourself in the eyes and say, I
accept that I'm growing, I am evolving, I am worthy anyway,
Let it land, let it soften you, because self love
doesn't rush your becoming. It simply sa ys I see you,
(10:26):
and that's more than enough. Well that's the story of
El Espejo. In two weeks, depending on if you're listening
to this in Kava Combam or if you got the
all access pass to this next we're gonna hear from
el infinito, which is the wound of commitment. Thank you
(10:49):
for being here. Remember to support us in other ways.
So for me Ola sopam and welcome to our Mergarito,
the place where we showcase the brands that believe in
us and help us make the show possible. Let's meet them.
We all know this. Talking about money is not always
(00:26):
the most comfortable. Better, our friends from save Ladies make
it easier and now and Espanol, you don't have to
feel the pressure to translate for your mama or your tias.
Because savid Ladies has their whole site and nuestro yaora,
they can easily access their free resources like Taietes Glasses,
(00:49):
is La Lina, Gratis Bara and bunts their free financial
helpline and then the pace connect that with a trusted
financial expert. Whether you need financial guy in English or Espanol,
Saved Ladies is here to support you. Visit save ladies
dot org. That is sa v v y la d
(01:11):
i ees dot org. But I'm beisad your financial freedom.
Here's the thing. Latina families have been saving money forever
from reusing plastic containers for gomela, folding up plastic bags
under the sink, and diluting dish soap with water. The
(01:33):
last thing we need is to pay fees to access
or money right was In case you didn't know, Vima
customers have access to forty thousand fee free ATMs across
the United States, plus their Beast Smart Advantage checking account
has no monthly maintenance fee. Learn more about how BIMO
can help by visiting Vima dot com for slash checking
(01:54):
bmo dot com for slash checking conditions. Apply accounts provided
in the United Slime States by Pimo Bank and a
member fd I see Welcome to Kavakmpam the bilingual podcaste
Cora Stories Scene Sansora. I'm your host, Bamgorus and this
(02:19):
is a special series called Beanoon Self Love. All summer long,
We're exploring what it means to come back to ourselves
with softness, joy and radical k from healing kaya culture
wounds to romanticizing our daily lives. This season is about
choosing you every single time. I know the world is
(02:42):
falling apart and everything is on fire, and more than ever,
I do believe this is the time to tend to
ourselves and take care of ourselves. Let's dive in. Welcome
to self Love Monies. This is a five part storytelling
(03:03):
series where I will take you through my five love stories.
Some romantic some platonic, some about me, some about parts
of me, and each one reflects a different wound of
Coyetita culture and what it means to reclaim your voice,
you're worth, and your heart. These are not perfect stories.
(03:24):
They're real, they're tender, and they're here to remind you
that healing can be messy, funny, painful, and beautiful all
at once. So grab your cafecito, get comfy, and let's
begin your summer of self love. LeRoi bamo elo elespeco
is the wound of identity. I was fifteen, maybe sixteen,
(03:49):
just old enough to start craving freedom, but too young
to do anything about it. I had just moved back
to Mexico. I thought I was going on vacation, but
I I stayed, not by choice, but because my parents
decided it was time. And I remember feeling like I
was dropped into someone else's story. The girl who came
(04:10):
back wasn't the same girl who had left. I didn't fit,
not in school, not with family, not even in my
own body. My Spanish sounded funny, and my English was
slipping away. I felt too American for here, and to
Mexicana for there. I literal meah, I was floating in
(04:36):
between angry, confused, irritated, annoyed. And that's when I met
Elis Becho. We were walking past his house on a
Friday afternoon with my friends after school and we me
(04:57):
maybe noticed there. He was standing outside, shirt halfway buttoned,
singing his heart out like he was performing at the
Auditoria Elente. He had no shame, no filter, no awareness
that other people might be watching. Or maybe he did
(05:17):
and he just didn't care. He was the moment, and
I remember thinking, who is this dude? And he literally
lived a block away from me. He wasn't trying to
be cool. He just was. And that confidence that is
I had not seen that in a long time, or
(05:38):
I don't know if ever. Frankly, and I didn't realize
it right away, but something in me exhaled when I
saw him that day. Eleespecho walked into my story. He
had this way of showing up that made everything feel lighter.
He didn't ask questions like where are you really from?
(05:59):
He didn't make me feel weird for being in between
languages or styles, or because I forgot words how to
say words in Espanol. He just accepted me and more
than that, he created space for me to figure out
who I was without even knowing he was doing it.
Leespeco took me to my first Bibia Latino, and then
(06:21):
we went to many, many, many after. I didn't know
the bands at the time. I didn't know half of them.
Many of them I did, but I felt so alive
that first time, the music, the crowd, the noise, the dancing,
the singing, the words in unison. For once, I wasn't
(06:47):
thinking about how I sounded, or whether I was too
much or not enough. I was just there existing. And
then we went to Elchopo, El Mercalo Keezta, full of punks,
got Metallero's old records, vintage treasures, all mixed in with
the smell of tacos and rebellion. I bought a second
(07:09):
hand T shirt and he said, is that is Mutu?
You don't know that? Yeah, get it is Mutou. I
didn't know what me was, and in that moment I
started to wonder. We dated for a while, and during
those high school years where everything feels like forever and
(07:31):
five minutes at the same time. He was loud, fun
and the life of the party truly, but with me
he was soft, and when I started dreaming out loud
about going back to the US for college, I was
scared to tell him. And not because I didn't want
(07:52):
to go or because I thought he was going to
do something I knew I needed to leave. I was
scared to tell him because I didn't want to lose
what we had. I thought I was gonna be sad, mad,
I don't know. I thought he would say, are you
leaving again? Or maybe guilt me into stain, But instead
(08:13):
he looked at me and smiled and said demo dan
dos Genoa, and I still remembered how it landed like
something inside me cracked open in the best way. That
(08:34):
was the first time someone saw me and my becoming
and didn't try to stop it. And that's when I
realized love doesn't mean holding on tight. Sometimes it means
standing back and truly letting someone fly. Of course, we
(08:55):
didn't stay together. We tried. We kept in touch, We
used Skype and all the things that we could use
back then to stay in contact, but we realized that
life took us in different directions. Ekomoison for the mass,
(09:17):
but Respeco gave me something that's still within me. He
was the first person who showed me I didn't have
to shape shift to be loved, that I could be
weird and layered and confused and still be seen. He
showed me Identity isn't performance, it's remembering. And sometimes it
takes someone else's mirror, someone singing loudly on a sidewalk,
(09:40):
to remind you who you were all along. And maybe
you don't have a someone like Elspecho to reflect you
right now. And that's okay because this story is your
invitation to become the mirror for yourself. So when this
episode ends, I am going to give you an expert
(10:02):
you choose to do it or not. You The experiment
is as follows. You go stand in front of a mirror,
You look at yourself in the eyes and say, I
accept that I'm growing, I am evolving, I am worthy anyway,
Let it land, let it soften you, because self love
doesn't rush your becoming. It simply sa ys I see you,
(10:26):
and that's more than enough. Well that's the story of
El Espejo. In two weeks, depending on if you're listening
to this in Kava Combam or if you got the
all access pass to this next we're gonna hear from
el infinito, which is the wound of commitment. Thank you
(10:49):
for being here. Remember to support us in other ways.
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