#38: Start Over, Softly - Confidence in New Beginnings

Ep 38 — The Confidence in Starting Over Fresh starts can feel loud, tender, and a little surreal. In this episode, Nefe shares a real-time story—moving into a first London flat—as a practical, heart-led framework for any new beginning: a job, a degree, a health reset, sobriety, parenting, moving countries, or rebuilding after grief.

We start with friction-free first steps (Ian pre-loads the car, collects the keys, and they drop a few boxes in the second bedroom on a Tuesday night), then choose pace as self-hospitality (owning it for two weeks: one Saturday to paint, the next to move). Along the way, kindness shows up in small ways (printed boiler and wardrobe instructions from previous residents—angels). From there, we retire the myth that starting over means you failed, and replace it with a gentle mantra: “I don’t need certainty; I need the next honest step.”

You’ll leave with 5 anchors that travel anywhere:

• Body: the Arrive Breath (inhale 4, hold 2, exhale 6) at thresholds.

• Space: finish one tiny “first corner” (hello, tea station) before doing everything.

• Money: one early bill + autopay as proof of stewardship.

• People: one intentional check-in + accepting neighbourly help.

• Words: rename the hard thing (“I’m practising energy,” “I’m early at this”).

We close with Three Bricks—a 60-second nightly practice to notice quiet wins and grow self-trust, brick by brick.

If you want a compassionate nudge to begin—without perfection, with more presence—pour something warm and press play.

Takeaways: lower friction, move at a humane pace, update your story, set two anchors, count quiet wins.

Link to show notes: https://nefewellness.com/confidence-in-starting-over-cc-38/