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Vylana
Episode Run Time: 1:21:41
Vylana is a musician, singer, dancer, medicine woman, and Fit For Service fellowship coach. In this episode, we talk about our own definition of femininity, sex, intimacy, and the power of the divine feminine.
00:00:00 00:01:08 What Is It to Be a Woman?
00:06:26 Authentic Expression of Femininity
00:11:36 Intelligence and Femininity
00:14:19 Madonna-Whore Complex
00:20:52 The Power of the Divine Feminine
00:26:00 Preventing Negative Attachments to “Promiscuity”
00:34:00 Weaponizing Sex
00:38:32 Polyamory and Monogamy
00:51:31 Rediscovering Intimacy
01:04:40 Prioritizing Sex and Pleasure
01:20:09 Where to Find Vylana
What Does It Mean to be Feminine?
What does it mean to be a woman? For Vylana, we have to have the willingness and desire to know ourselves on a deep level to be aware of the need for validation or being a “seductress”. There has to be the inquiry into self to actually reach that level of understanding. Vylana learned through her pleasure certification that it has connected her so intimately to “pussy”, not just a physical and biological thing but as a portal to the divine, the seat of a woman’s power, the being that can bring into the manifest. It’s connecting to this sense of listening to her and allowing her to guide you to what your desires and pleasures are. Doing it for yourself is true authenticity.
The Power of the Divine Feminine
When it comes to the role of purity, Vylana says “fuck all of that” and to all the ways that the world has shamed women for their greatest sense of power. Our purpose as women is to fully reclaim that purity. What Vylana learned along her spiritual path is healing the energy that she took on from her transactions with former partners. For her, being the feminine or a woman who has a pussy, it’s important to say that we all have both masculine and feminine energy within us and that the feminine is in the expression of receptivity. When we are with a masculine partner, we are actually taking their energy into your body and shakra, creating a level of awareness as to why we want to be intimate and sexual with another person and it is that level of awareness that is the purity: knowing the reason for your desire.
How to Redefine and Rediscover Intimacy
In the world of our priorities, our highest priority in our relationships is to be in eros with each other or being in the inside of the inside of each other’s experiences. Intimacy can take many different forms through love languages: physical touch, words of affirmation, quality time, giving gifts, or acts of service. In a sexual lens, making sexual intimacy a priority is also crucial in making a relationship last.
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Musician and medicine woman Vylana shares the power of the divine feminine and the importance of sex, pleasure, and intimacy.
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