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December 9, 2025 31 mins

What happens after betrayal turns your life upside down? In this hope-filled episode, Amie and Alana talk with author and expert Tammy Gustafson, LPC, whose new book Broken to Brave maps out the four phases of healing after intimate betrayal.

Together they explore:

  • Why early urgency (“Should I stay or go?”) can derail healing

  • What the nervous system needs after relational trauma

  • Why trust isn't yours to “give back” — it’s his to earn

  • The most common places betrayed partners get stuck

  • How post-traumatic growth reshapes your entire sense of self

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Chapters

02:17 Shock and Overwhelm04:21 Why Slowing Down Matters05:19 Stay or Go? 08:08 The Rumble16:47 Trusting Too Soon20:51 He Broke It - He Has to Fix It21:49 What Betrayed Partners Can Control24:02 Post-Traumatic Growth27:43 Permission to Heal Your Way29:49 Rise, Renew, and Restore Retreat

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  • Season of Support - Join us for a 4-week webinar series designed specifically for couples who want to stay connected, emotionally regulated, and intentional during the holidays — rather than simply surviving them. December 1, 8, 15, 22. Register to receive the Zoom link.

  • Rise, Renew, Restore Somatic Healing Retreat in Costa Rica -  Ready to experience deep somatic healing? Join us this July for a transformative 5-day intensive created specifically for women healing from betrayal trauma or navigating divorce. This is your opportunity to reconnect with your body's wisdom, release what you've been carrying, and heal alongside other women who truly understand your journey. 

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More from Choose Recovery Services

  • Beyond the Facade Podcast - Podcast geared toward helping men live authentically and in harmony with their values.

  • Choose Healing - Weekly support group for women who have recently experienced betrayal and are needing help coping with the symptoms of trauma. 

  • Intensives - Accelerate your healing journey with one of our intensives. Foster connection with others who share similar experiences, creating an immersive environment that enables profound transformation in a short period of time.

  • Healing Hearts - For couples seeking healing after betrayal. It emphasizes the development of empathy, integrity, and authentic intimacy. 

  • Help. Her. Heal - This program is for men seeking to learn more about empathy, conflict resolution, and healthy communication. 

  • Beyond the Facade: Men’s Healing Group - We help men move through the pains of addiction, relationship healing, managing emotions, and moving past shame. You’ll learn how to better connect with others, understand your own emotional experience, and build a deeper sense of self respect.

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