What is Gaslighting and the DARVO Pattern?

Join us this week for a replay of one of our most popular episodes! 

When your partner turns your therapy progress into ammunition against you and conversations become twisted battles where you end up apologizing for things you never did wrong, you might be experiencing a calculated pattern of emotional abuse. 

This eye-opening episode breaks down the DARVO technique (Deny, Attack, Reverse Victim and Offender) and reveals how gaslighting operates within relationships affected by addiction. Amie and Alanna provide concrete tools to help you distinguish between your reality and the false narrative being imposed on you, while offering hope for reclaiming your power and truth.

What You'll Learn:

• How to recognize DARVO patterns and gaslighting tactics

• The difference between addiction-based vs. deep-rooted abusive behaviors

• Practical tools for disengaging and reclaiming your reality

Referenced in this episode: 

• Am I in an Abusive Relationship? - Self-paced course

• The Elements of Abuse podcast series with Kim Day and Amie - Part 1: The Power of Awareness, Part 2: The Power of Accepting Reality, Part 3: The Power to Act

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More from Choose Recovery Services

• Beyond the Facade Podcast - Luke Gordon hosts a podcast geared toward helping men live authentically and in harmony with their values.

• Choose Healing - Weekly support group for women who have recently experienced betrayal and are needing help coping with the symptoms of trauma. 

•  Intensives - Accelerate your healing journey with one of our intensives. Foster connection with others who share similar experiences, creating an immersive environment that enables profound transformation in a short period of time.

• Healing Hearts - For couples seeking healing after betrayal. It emphasizes the development of empathy, integrity, and authentic intimacy. 

• Help. Her. Heal - This program is for men seeking to learn more about empathy, conflict resolution, and healthy communication. 

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