#120 Moving Toward Secure Attachment After Betrayal

In this episode of Choosing to Stay, certified relational and recovery coaches Halle Roddick and Stephanie Hamby continue their multi-part series on attachment styles, focusing on secure attachment — what it looks like, how it develops, and why it’s a vital goal after infidelity and betrayal.

They explore:

• What attachment theory is and the four main styles (secure, anxious, avoidant, disorganized)
  

• How secure attachment shows up in healthy romantic relationships
  

• Why betrayal ruptures both real and perceived secure attachments
  

• The importance of building self-secure attachment before working on relational repair
  

• Practical ways to cultivate internal safety, self-worth, and groundedness
  

• The role of individual healing work for both the betrayed partner and the one seeking recovery
  

• How rupture and repair cycles strengthen trust in secure relationships
  

Resources Mentioned:

• You Are the One You’ve Been Waiting For – Richard Schwartz (Book Link)
  

• No Bad Parts – Richard Schwartz (Book Link)
  

• Altogether You – Jenna Riemersma (Book Link)
  

• Help.Her.Heal – Carol J. Sheets (Book Link)
  

• Internal Family Systems (IFS) Institute (Website)
  

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Your Hosts:

Hali RoderickCertified Relational Recovery CoachTICC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM-C, Brainspotting Practitioner

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Stephanie HambyCertified Relational Recovery CoachMCLC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM-CRead Stephanie’s Bio

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