Dr. Gary Salyer - Building SECURE Love

For the last decade, Dr. Salyer has been in private practice offering singles and couples heart-centered transformation so they can rewrite the rules for love in their brains and create a love that lasts.

Gary speaks to national audiences as a featured relationship expert and mentor on various celebrity TV and radio shows such as Hay House Radio and Coast to Coast AM. He is the author of the ground-breaking book, Safe to Love Again: How to Release the Pain of Past Relationships and Create the Love You Deserve. 

In this episode, Gary shares intimate details about his childhood, and the intense disappointment his mother felt with him because he was not born a girl. She was so upset, she refused to name him. The state troopers actually had to come to the house three weeks after Gary was born to demand that his mother give him a name.  Later in his childhood, Gary learned that family could be mean and he began to wonder why adults can't just love each other.  

• We talk about his own journey of worthiness to knowing that he is indeed worthy and lovable. 

"Worthiness was one of the things that was in scarce supply." ~Dr. Gary Salyer

"Once you make a decision, all manner of resources open up to you." ~Dr. Gary Salyer

• We speak with Gary about ways he noticed his clients have felt trapped with feelings of unworthiness.

"I really believe there is an epidemic of unworthiness out there, even if you had a secure childhood.  There are so many ways our culture bombards us with ways we're not good enough."

"When the feeling of not enough is in the building then you know so is unworthiness." ~ Dr. Gary Salyer

"When you don't feel worthy, you don't ask for your needs to be met so you give and give and give....Unworthy is (believing) I can't have my needs met." ~ Dr. Gary Salyer.

Healing as we know is an inward journey.  Yet, Deepak Chopra, in discussing why people are too resistant to being still and meditating, has said: "What they're afraid of is intimacy with their own self so they are running around trying to find fulfillment outside. But when you have intimacy with yourself, you have intimacy with the world."

Gary shares his experiences building intimacy within before extending it to another. He also unpacks how he guides singles and couples to create that secure relationship with themselves so they can foster that with another. 

• We discuss how the pandemic has changed and challenged relationships for both singles and couples.

And then Gary describes the four key feelings which are "your natural GPS for love":

• Welcomed with joy
• Worthy and nourished
• Cherished and protected
• Empowered with choice

"Show me a couple without a sense of 'we' and I will show you a war." ~ Dr. Gary Salyer

Gary is offering our listeners a free gift today: "Love Notes with Dr. Gary Salyer": A collection of short, heartfelt and practical 3-4 minute videos by relationship experts like Dr. John Gray, Arielle Ford, Paul Carrick Brunson and others.

Designed to be helpful for both singles and couples, one engaged couple in Oregon claims these videos saved their engagement.  They are now happily married after implementing the insights and tools taught in these videos.

Each brief video will both inspire and show you how you can create more real love in your life now, delivered to your inbox twice a week. Go to GarySalyer.com and scroll down to fill out the form in the section called "Love Inspirations."