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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Here's the hidden dangers of being
unapologetically you and peopleare starting to catch on in 2025
, right, as per my last episode,people are starting to wake up
to the fact that authenticity iswhere magnetism begins, ends
and is created.
Right, and magnetism is createdanywhere along the spectrum
because it's all energy andwe're all connected via air
(00:23):
molecules and whatever else thatwe can't see.
So when we talk about beunapologetically you, well, for
that to work out in your favor,you better damn well know
yourself first.
And this is a very hairy lineto walk here for some people,
because when you learn to thinkabout your thinking, you do
(00:43):
become free on a whole new level, and if you obsess about your
thinking, you can put yourselfright back in a box.
So what does this all mean whenit comes to being
unapologetically you, and why isthere a dangerous pitfall to
just leaning into that right outof the gate?
Well, if we, for example, justgo, I'm going to be
(01:06):
unapologetically me and notinspect any of my thoughts, well
, what does that create, myfriends?
Misalignment.
It creates you sharing yourtriggers out there with the
world.
It creates you reacting insteadof responding, you know, and it
creates a lack of flow, a lackof those magical deja vu moments
(01:29):
that let you know that you'rein the right place, like the one
that I'm having right now as Irecord this episode.
Like well, we've recorded thisbefore because time is imaginary
and that which will happenalready is when you know that
you're in the right spot, whenyou actually know it, not when
you're just like convincingyourself of it because you don't
want to look at the things thatmight be keeping you off your
path.
When you actually know it,that's when you can show up as
(01:53):
unapologetically yourself andthat's when, like it doesn't
need to be unapologeticallybecause there's not even a
thought of like oh, maybe I'msorry, maybe I'm not.
You know, I get that messagingfor like surface level, trying
to get people out of their shell.
Right, be unapologetically you.
At the end of the day, if weactually take a look at
(02:14):
ourselves, there's no reason toeven consider whether it's
apologetic or unapologetic,because it's just us.
There's no resistance to justshowing up, to just saying the
thing, posting the contentbecause, or sending the message,
sending the text, having theconversation with the family
member, because you get so goodat removing yourself from other
(02:37):
people's narratives and that'sthe biggest pitfall I've seen is
oh, I'm going to beunapologetically myself, but at
the same time, I'm going to beunapologetically myself by
letting other people's energydrive my reactions, drive my
messaging, drive myconversations.
Oh yeah, you guys hear about our, our weird drunk aunt and all
(02:58):
the things that she's stilldoing.
Who cares?
Right, like who cares?
Not your circus, not yourmonkeys.
Oh man, this one coach.
He always posts about things Ipost right after I post it.
Who cares?
Obviously, they're contributingenergy to your cause.
If they're paying that muchattention to you means taking
your eyes off of other people,right, and putting them on you,
(03:28):
because for every moment that weare out there looking at other
people and looking at theirstories and looking at their
narratives and looking for areason to create our message and
our story and our beliefs offof what they have out there, oh
man, that is a moment where westop being aware and present of
ourselves.
(03:48):
And now could we sit and go?
Well, where did that thoughtcome from?
Well, what is that?
Well, is that a childhoodtrauma?
Well, do I need to inspect that?
We totally could.
Right, this could go way fardown the rabbit hole and
oftentimes that overthinking ofour, of our thinking comes from
not wanting to inspect any onething fully.
(04:09):
So what do we do?
We're like, well, well, I thinkthis pattern was born out of
this and it came from this andit came from this.
No, we're staying in anupregulated state thinking that
we need to find that thingthat's wrong with us, and we
just blew by eight differentthings that could help us
actually settle into our body.
And clear energy.
Yeah, I said clear energy.
(04:30):
I'm a tactical, practical,masculine, grounded, masculine
guy and energy is real.
There's a salt lamp and singingbowls behind me in this office.
There's sacred geometry undermy computer.
Behind me in this office,there's sacred geometry under my
computer.
There's tensor rings on my mic.
Showing up as yourself is.
It means that you staydownregulated enough and you
(04:56):
have spent enough time in aparasympathetic state to see
your patterns and recognize themmiles before they get to the
surface.
And if you can see that well,then you can start to see other
patterns, then you can start totruly recognize who you were put
here to help.
Then you can start to trulyrecognize who you were put here
(05:18):
to help.
But just showing up isunapologetically yourself
because you're uncomfortable,and some conscious coach said
hey guys, here's how to be aleader.
Show up is unapologeticallyyourself.
That's not it.
I'm sorry, like the the.
That style of coaching whereit's just hey, just be you,
(05:41):
without looking at it at all, issetting you up to live in a
false paradigm where you canstill go blame other people,
where you can still say whereyou're still you're not.
You're not unapologeticallyyourself is what we're saying
here.
You are unapologetically livingin other people's stories and
the reason that you think youneed to be unapologetic about it
(06:02):
is because you feel regret on adeep subconscious level.
Wait for it, for giving themyour energy, for letting them
still run the show, whether itbe days, weeks, months, years,
decades later.
Run the show, whether it bedays, weeks, months, years,
decades later.
Showing up as yourself takesactual introspection and when
(06:23):
you do that, you don't need areminder, you don't need a hype
man to say show up asunapologetically yourself.
It just happens right.
So consider that, becausethere's a lot of noise out there
from people who are still ontheir journeys of finding
themselves right.
(06:43):
I used to parrot the show up asyourself when I was in search
of a purpose right, as a coach,as an entrepreneur, as a husband
.
There was something deepercalling to me and it was only
after I had a daughter that Irealized what that deeper was.
(07:07):
And I've said on previouspodcast episodes, back during
the Primal man Pathway days,that I am fully of the belief
that a lot of the single30-something or younger male
coaches out there who talk aboutauthenticity and purpose and
what they're actually seeking inlife is a family, whether they
know it or not, they're keepingthemselves hidden from taking
that actual paradigm shift bycreating a business, and that's
(07:28):
fine.
Everybody's on their ownjourney and maybe God's plan or
the universe's plan or whateverforce you choose to ascribe the
nature of things that happen to,yeah, is happening just as it's
supposed to happen for them.
And be very mindful of peoplewho say to show up as
(07:50):
unapologetically yourself,because while, yes, that's true,
you guys, it can be easier, Ipromise you it doesn't take this
like big, heavy weight lift,move past the resistance to be
myself.
No, just inspect your thinking,inspect your stories and next
(08:13):
thing, you know.
All of a sudden you're crystalfucking clear on what your offer
is, on who you help, how youserve them, because you've
whittled away everybody else'sstories, everybody else's
narratives that you for somereason chose to take on because
you thought it was yourresponsibility to carry their
mission out into the world asopposed to carrying your unique
mission into the world.
(08:34):
The only way you can find thatunique mission is to uncover the
layers and unlearn the thingsthat you've carried throughout
this lifetime of yours.
Uncover the layers and unlearnthe things that you've carried
throughout this lifetime ofyours.
And unless you were raised in ahousehold that absolutely put
zero generational stuff on youand unless you had teachers that
put zero of their baggage onyou, unless you have only been
(08:54):
around people who neverprojected on you, it's worth
taking a look, I promise.
So let's uh off the cuff 10look, I promise.
So this off the cuff 10 minutes.
I hope it's valuable for youguys.
If you are wondering, chase,how do I do this?
Because I see these businesscoaches and these, both in the
(09:15):
far masculine side and then thesuper feminine just be yourself,
girly, all over here.
Tell me to be myself, but Idon't know how to fucking do it.
They say just go out there andbe yourself, but I don't even
know what myself is fully rightnow, because of all the noise
you just talked about, becauseof the algorithm and everything
that's put in front of me.
Click the link in thedescription.
(09:38):
Book a 30 minute call.
I promise you at the end of thecall, at very at worst case
scenario, you have some clarityon how to uncover your actual
authenticity, instead of havingit be this big, massive lift to
shelve the apologies and go outand be unapologetically yourself
(09:59):
in this forced masked personathat somebody told you was
authenticity along the way.
I love you guys.
Thank you for being here forthese 10-minute rants.
Here's the hidden dangers of being
unapologetically you and peopleare starting to catch on in 2025
, right, as per my last episode,people are starting to wake up
to the fact that authenticity iswhere magnetism begins, ends
and is created.
Right, and magnetism is createdanywhere along the spectrum
because it's all energy andwe're all connected via air
(00:23):
molecules and whatever else thatwe can't see.
So when we talk about beunapologetically you, well, for
that to work out in your favor,you better damn well know
yourself first.
And this is a very hairy lineto walk here for some people,
because when you learn to thinkabout your thinking, you do
(00:43):
become free on a whole new level, and if you obsess about your
thinking, you can put yourselfright back in a box.
So what does this all mean whenit comes to being
unapologetically you, and why isthere a dangerous pitfall to
just leaning into that right outof the gate?
Well, if we, for example, justgo, I'm going to be
(01:06):
unapologetically me and notinspect any of my thoughts, well
, what does that create, myfriends?
Misalignment.
It creates you sharing yourtriggers out there with the
world.
It creates you reacting insteadof responding, you know, and it
creates a lack of flow, a lackof those magical deja vu moments
(01:29):
that let you know that you'rein the right place, like the one
that I'm having right now as Irecord this episode.
Like well, we've recorded thisbefore because time is imaginary
and that which will happenalready is when you know that
you're in the right spot, whenyou actually know it, not when
you're just like convincingyourself of it because you don't
want to look at the things thatmight be keeping you off your
path.
When you actually know it,that's when you can show up as
(01:53):
unapologetically yourself andthat's when, like it doesn't
need to be unapologeticallybecause there's not even a
thought of like oh, maybe I'msorry, maybe I'm not.
You know, I get that messagingfor like surface level, trying
to get people out of their shell.
Right, be unapologetically you.
At the end of the day, if weactually take a look at
(02:14):
ourselves, there's no reason toeven consider whether it's
apologetic or unapologetic,because it's just us.
There's no resistance to justshowing up, to just saying the
thing, posting the contentbecause, or sending the message,
sending the text, having theconversation with the family
member, because you get so goodat removing yourself from other
(02:37):
people's narratives and that'sthe biggest pitfall I've seen is
oh, I'm going to beunapologetically myself, but at
the same time, I'm going to beunapologetically myself by
letting other people's energydrive my reactions, drive my
messaging, drive myconversations.
Oh yeah, you guys hear about our, our weird drunk aunt and all
(02:58):
the things that she's stilldoing.
Who cares?
Right, like who cares?
Not your circus, not yourmonkeys.
Oh man, this one coach.
He always posts about things Ipost right after I post it.
Who cares?
Obviously, they're contributingenergy to your cause.
If they're paying that muchattention to you means taking
your eyes off of other people,right, and putting them on you,
(03:28):
because for every moment that weare out there looking at other
people and looking at theirstories and looking at their
narratives and looking for areason to create our message and
our story and our beliefs offof what they have out there, oh
man, that is a moment where westop being aware and present of
ourselves.
(03:48):
And now could we sit and go?
Well, where did that thoughtcome from?
Well, what is that?
Well, is that a childhoodtrauma?
Well, do I need to inspect that?
We totally could.
Right, this could go way fardown the rabbit hole and
oftentimes that overthinking ofour, of our thinking comes from
not wanting to inspect any onething fully.
(04:09):
So what do we do?
We're like, well, well, I thinkthis pattern was born out of
this and it came from this andit came from this.
No, we're staying in anupregulated state thinking that
we need to find that thingthat's wrong with us, and we
just blew by eight differentthings that could help us
actually settle into our body.
And clear energy.
Yeah, I said clear energy.
(04:30):
I'm a tactical, practical,masculine, grounded, masculine
guy and energy is real.
There's a salt lamp and singingbowls behind me in this office.
There's sacred geometry undermy computer.
Behind me in this office,there's sacred geometry under my
computer.
There's tensor rings on my mic.
Showing up as yourself is.
It means that you staydownregulated enough and you
(04:56):
have spent enough time in aparasympathetic state to see
your patterns and recognize themmiles before they get to the
surface.
And if you can see that well,then you can start to see other
patterns, then you can start totruly recognize who you were put
here to help.
Then you can start to trulyrecognize who you were put here
(05:18):
to help.
But just showing up isunapologetically yourself
because you're uncomfortable,and some conscious coach said
hey guys, here's how to be aleader.
Show up is unapologeticallyyourself.
That's not it.
I'm sorry, like the the.
That style of coaching whereit's just hey, just be you,
(05:41):
without looking at it at all, issetting you up to live in a
false paradigm where you canstill go blame other people,
where you can still say whereyou're still you're not.
You're not unapologeticallyyourself is what we're saying
here.
You are unapologetically livingin other people's stories and
the reason that you think youneed to be unapologetic about it
(06:02):
is because you feel regret on adeep subconscious level.
Wait for it, for giving themyour energy, for letting them
still run the show, whether itbe days, weeks, months, years,
decades later.
Run the show, whether it bedays, weeks, months, years,
decades later.
Showing up as yourself takesactual introspection and when
(06:23):
you do that, you don't need areminder, you don't need a hype
man to say show up asunapologetically yourself.
It just happens right.
So consider that, becausethere's a lot of noise out there
from people who are still ontheir journeys of finding
themselves right.
(06:43):
I used to parrot the show up asyourself when I was in search
of a purpose right, as a coach,as an entrepreneur, as a husband
.
There was something deepercalling to me and it was only
after I had a daughter that Irealized what that deeper was.
(07:07):
And I've said on previouspodcast episodes, back during
the Primal man Pathway days,that I am fully of the belief
that a lot of the single30-something or younger male
coaches out there who talk aboutauthenticity and purpose and
what they're actually seeking inlife is a family, whether they
know it or not, they're keepingthemselves hidden from taking
that actual paradigm shift bycreating a business, and that's
(07:28):
fine.
Everybody's on their ownjourney and maybe God's plan or
the universe's plan or whateverforce you choose to ascribe the
nature of things that happen to,yeah, is happening just as it's
supposed to happen for them.
And be very mindful of peoplewho say to show up as
(07:50):
unapologetically yourself,because while, yes, that's true,
you guys, it can be easier, Ipromise you it doesn't take this
like big, heavy weight lift,move past the resistance to be
myself.
No, just inspect your thinking,inspect your stories and next
(08:13):
thing, you know.
All of a sudden you're crystalfucking clear on what your offer
is, on who you help, how youserve them, because you've
whittled away everybody else'sstories, everybody else's
narratives that you for somereason chose to take on because
you thought it was yourresponsibility to carry their
mission out into the world asopposed to carrying your unique
mission into the world.
(08:34):
The only way you can find thatunique mission is to uncover the
layers and unlearn the thingsthat you've carried throughout
this lifetime of yours.
Uncover the layers and unlearnthe things that you've carried
throughout this lifetime ofyours.
And unless you were raised in ahousehold that absolutely put
zero generational stuff on youand unless you had teachers that
put zero of their baggage onyou, unless you have only been
(08:54):
around people who neverprojected on you, it's worth
taking a look, I promise.
So let's uh off the cuff 10look, I promise.
So this off the cuff 10 minutes.
I hope it's valuable for youguys.
If you are wondering, chase,how do I do this?
Because I see these businesscoaches and these, both in the
(09:15):
far masculine side and then thesuper feminine just be yourself,
girly, all over here.
Tell me to be myself, but Idon't know how to fucking do it.
They say just go out there andbe yourself, but I don't even
know what myself is fully rightnow, because of all the noise
you just talked about, becauseof the algorithm and everything
that's put in front of me.
Click the link in thedescription.
(09:38):
Book a 30 minute call.
I promise you at the end of thecall, at very at worst case
scenario, you have some clarityon how to uncover your actual
authenticity, instead of havingit be this big, massive lift to
shelve the apologies and go outand be unapologetically yourself
(09:59):
in this forced masked personathat somebody told you was
authenticity along the way.
I love you guys.
Thank you for being here forthese 10-minute rants.
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