December 17, 2024 • 29 mins
Picture this: you're sipping on coffee by the fireplace, pondering your next big career move. That's what we’re exploring in this episode—how to carve out time for self-reflection during the busiest season of the year. Tune in as we share creative techniques to have meaningful career conversations with yourself, whether it's through voice memos, vision boards, or just talking to yourself during your daily commute. Discover how these practices can help you assess your career journey and align with your future aspirations, even when life feels like a whirlwind.
We also discuss the power of letting go of past regrets and emotions. Imagine the cathartic release of burning written thoughts during a retreat or flushing away old pages to symbolically free yourself from past burdens. We'll share personal stories and experiences of how such acts can lead to profound self-realization and growth. Hear how these rituals aid in realigning your decisions with your core values and goals, ensuring that every choice you make steers you closer to the person you aspire to become.
As the year draws to a close, it's the perfect moment to reflect on personal growth and evolution. This episode encourages you to ask deep questions about your purpose and values, ensuring your daily actions resonate with your aspirations. With insights on seeking constructive feedback and engaging in honest dialogue, we aim to guide you toward a fulfilling and balanced life. Join us as we wrap up the year with stories and strategies for nurturing contentment across all areas of life.
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
But you know, there's beauty in that as much as there
could be like shame,embarrassment or like just
feeling some type of way aboutwho we used to be and how we
used to carry ourselves.
The beauty is that we'regrowing and evolving.
You are listening to Coffee andCareer Hour.
(00:20):
We are your hosts.
I'm Armina and I'm MJ, twocareer counselors and friends
chatting about all things lifeand career.
Speaker 2 (00:29):
So grab a cup of coffee and join us.
Speaker 1 (00:33):
Hi Armine, Hi MJ, how are you?
I'm all right.
How are you Cozy?
Yeah, it feels cozy today.
I hope all the listeners outthere are feeling cozy too.
Speaker 2 (00:46):
Yeah, happy holidays to everyone.
It's the end of the year, whichmeans it's a lot of different
festivities and celebrations, sohappy holidays to you, yes yes,
and hopefully you are notfeeling super drained with all
of the festivities, because Iknow that that can also be.
Speaker 1 (01:03):
as much as it's exciting, it can also be very
draining.
So I hope that you find timeand space to recharge and
re-energize and do what you needto do for yourselves amongst
all the chaos.
Speaker 2 (01:15):
Absolutely, and of course, everyone's work, career,
industry looks different.
So if you have time foryourself this year, this end of
the year, in the next couple ofweeks, really do take time to
rest and be with yourself.
Speaker 1 (01:30):
We should take our own advice is what I'm thinking.
Speaker 2 (01:33):
Look, I'm here to prescribe, not to take
medication.
Speaker 1 (01:36):
Oh my gosh, I love it .
Yeah, no, we're feeling it tooon our end, and so we know that
our listeners may be feeling thesame, so I think we can all
take some time to just be withourselves.
Speaker 2 (01:51):
Yeah, and that really has brought us to today's
episode and what we want to talkabout.
Speaker 1 (01:56):
Yes, such a fun, cool topic.
We want to talk about havingcareer conversations with
yourself.
Speaker 2 (02:04):
That sounds actually pretty deep.
When we said that the firsttime off the mic, I was like I
felt something, my heart likedropped.
Speaker 1 (02:11):
Okay, yeah, it can be very intense or deep, but it's
kind of a continuation of ourprevious episode where we talked
about career conversations withfamily around the holidays and
around the dinner table or soforth.
There's a lot of emotions thatcan come up around career
conversations and today wewanted to extend it to how to
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have those conversations withyourself, which is a whole
different ballgame, yeah andArmin.
Speaker 2 (02:38):
I think first too is thinking about what they can
look like, because the careerconversations people tend to
think you think of a two-personparty.
Um, I've seen people like dm meand say you know.
Or when I talk aboutreflections or having a moment
to myself or journaling, they'llsay you know, I do voice memos
on my phone, or I'll look atmyself in the mirror and talk to
(02:58):
myself, or I will like write tomyself in third person or like
if I was narrating my life.
So I think conversations canhappen in a variety of different
modes.
It also you have to find outwhat's best for you.
Speaker 1 (03:11):
Yeah, definitely.
I mean it could be literallylooking in the mirror and giving
yourself a reality check orwriting what are some ways you
like to have conversations withyourself.
Speaker 2 (03:23):
Okay, don't think that I'm crazy.
No, not at all.
I talk to myself a lot when I'mdriving Out loud, yeah, out
loud, out loud, because I'mmindlessly.
I mean not mindlessly, I'mcompletely aware of what I'm
doing, but you know, you'resitting there in traffic or on
your way.
And this happens more so whenI'm going home rather than going
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to work, where I'm kind of justlike thinking about whatever
happened, if it was like aproductive day or anything kind
of happened, and I have a lot ofconversations and I find myself
like going different paths.
It's so strange.
I'm like how did I starttalking about this?
And now, like we ended up at,like, my third uncle's, cousin's
, brother's, daughter, orsomething.
Speaker 1 (04:05):
Okay, yeah, I love it .
Hey, I do sometimes out loud,like speak to myself, but I'll
do that when I'm processinginformation that I need to.
That may be like, withoutsaying it out loud, it feels
like there's a lot of mentalnoise that I have, so I need to
process it by like saying it outloud.
(04:25):
So I'll do's a lot of mentalnoise that I have, so I need to
process it by like saying it outloud.
So I'll do that sometimes whenI'm trying to process
information.
But in terms of career orgeneral conversations with
myself, I would say it must.
It has to be some form of likevision boards or like not
necessarily journaling, butwriting it out in bullet points
or something the points that I'mtrying to like reflect on.
Speaker 2 (04:48):
I like that.
You gave two different ideas.
I I really wholeheartedly wantto be the aesthetic of
journaling, like I want to bethe person that does it every
day or every other day.
I tried, honestly, I did, Ireally did at the beginning, and
then you know, life happens thelast couple of months and you
just lose it.
Yeah, lose that habit.
I really did at the beginning.
And then you know, life happensthe last couple of months and
you just lose it.
Yeah, lose that habit.
I mean, um, I mean I've lost ita couple of times in the last
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couple of months, but that's adifferent story for a different
day.
But I like that.
You said vision boards or sometype of physical activity with
it.
I know you also said bulletjournaling, which a lot of
people love.
Bullet journaling is a reallycool form of doing different
things.
If you have never seen it ortry to definitely look it up
online, it's very, very cool.
But I like that.
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You said vision boards becauseit gives you time to reflect on
what has happened.
But also, I mean it depends onwhat it's for, but I always
think of like future when Ithink of a vision board.
Speaker 1 (05:42):
Yeah, yeah, I've done like different forms.
So there's been vision boardswhere I've done that were like
this board represents me, who Iam right now.
I actually really enjoyed doingthat.
That was like in my 20s where Iwas like going through my own
self-exploration process and Iwas like who am I, who do I want
to be, and like what are thingsthat represent that right now?
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So I've done that.
I've done future orientedvision boards of like things I
want to manifest.
But I would say, yeah, thoseare like my way of having
conversations with myself, whilealso it's like a very
reflective and creative process.
So I enjoy that.
But the bullet journaling isreally like it's a very
efficient way to get yourthoughts on paper without
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necessarily like dedicating 30,40 minutes of writing out in
your journal, because we knowthat life can get hectic and,
like you shared, sometimes it'shard to like actually sit down
and write out in a journal.
I actually had a professor ingrad school who one time because
you know, in counseling and inpsychology we learn a lot about
like journaling can be verytherapeutic and so forth and my
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counselor, who is a licensedpsychologist or therapist he
actually was like I don't seethe benefit of journaling and
that got me thinking, yeah, he'slike I don't see how it can
help.
And I was like, okay, becausehis approach was very
action-oriented.
And so that got me thinkingabout journaling and ever since
then I've kind of looked at itin a different way.
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But there is definitelybenefits to it too.
Speaker 2 (07:14):
Yeah, it's weird because when I process my
thoughts I like to do it inspoken form because I don't like
to have record of it, becausethen I feel like the weight is
still there, that thing is stillthere, those emotions that I
felt or whatever I wrote aboutis still there and I haven't
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moved on from it or healed fromit.
Interesting like moved on fromit or healed from it.
So I I've tried it so manyyears in a row where I always go
back and rip out the pages andthrow them away because it
doesn't feel like it's helpfulto me, because those emotions,
that heaviness, the dark, thehappy, even the happy it feels
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weird to have that there, almostlike a time capsule, and I've
never been able to sit rightwith it.
It's so strange to me.
So I totally honestly, I reallyget that and I like that, but
that's why I think I've alwaysgravitated more towards spoken.
Now that I drive by myself andthings like that.
Speaker 1 (08:15):
Sure, yeah, no, that makes sense.
I was going to ask aboutactually throwing away the pages
, because you know there's andit's actually a technique, I
should say, and therapy that youmay use where you have the
person like rip out or burn thepaper of thoughts that maybe
like they want to let go ofthese emotions.
(08:35):
So I was going to ask if youever tried like crumbling it up
or ripping it up and throwing itaway.
Speaker 2 (08:41):
So, okay, this this is crazy unrelated, but I
actually have been to a retreatwhere I've thrown like in a pit
of fire what I wanted to get ridof and what I wanted to let go
of.
That I mean, of course,everything else in the retreat
too, but that was amazing.
But you, yes, so I do rip themout, I I I don't cut with
(09:01):
scissors, because then I feellike I'm not doing it, something
else is cutting it.
I know that's that's kind ofcrazy, um, but I like to
physically rip it as much as Ican and then toss it somewhere
that's not in my home orsomewhere there.
I like to throw it outsidesomewhere else.
It doesn't have to be adifferent place, but I just feel
like then it's still there.
Speaker 1 (09:20):
Okay, yeah, no, there's like energy around it,
yeah, so I think burning is areally great way to get rid of
that the energetic side of it.
What I used to do was I wouldrip it out and flush it down the
toilet.
Okay, but part of that wasbecause I was like I don't want
to throw out the ripped outpieces of paper in the trash, in
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case anyone ever comes acrossthem and like sees what I wrote.
So it was like a safety net oflet's flush this down the toilet
.
That's hilarious.
Speaker 2 (09:51):
I mean, that's a great way of getting rid of
something, though.
Yeah, no, seriously, then it'sgone, for sure, yeah.
I love that.
Speaker 1 (09:57):
But yeah, it's so interesting Like there's so many
different ways that you canhave conversations with yourself
right and ultimately, the goalis to reflect and process
whatever topic and informationyou're thinking about yeah, and
I will one.
Speaker 2 (10:11):
And now I'm curious have you kept every vision board
you've ever made?
Speaker 1 (10:16):
yes, I did.
I might have thrown them out inmy last move, but up until my
last, my previous apartment Idid have them all.
Speaker 2 (10:27):
Okay, yeah, I love that, and I'm sure you saw
different chapters of who youwere.
Speaker 1 (10:31):
Oh my gosh.
Yeah, some of them are funny.
Like when I look back I'm likeoh my gosh, that seems childish.
Like how did I even put that onthere?
But hey, that was, that waswhat was real to me at that time
you know.
Speaker 2 (10:43):
And you mentioned talking.
Well, you were saying thingsabout who you were in that
moment then there and beingpresent.
And it's very important to bepresent with who you are when
you're having theseconversations, because it's so
easy to kind of avoid theobvious and the real.
Speaker 1 (10:59):
No for sure.
I mean.
That's ultimately the goal ofthese inner conversations or
reflections.
Right Is who am I right now,who do I want to be and where
are the gaps?
Right?
Or you may not know who youwant to be, but like being aware
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of who you are now and how areyou living your life now?
Is it aligned with your values?
Is it aligned with your purpose?
How do you feel on a day-to-daybasis and, like the actions
that you're taking, do theyrepresent who you want to be?
Speaker 2 (11:33):
Yeah, it's when you were talking.
I was thinking about howeveryone life, of course looks
different, but how differentsituations you're placed in or
different identities that youhave also can get in the way of
who you are and who you want tobecome.
Speaker 1 (11:49):
Yes, yes, because sometimes we have to do things
that are needed to be donebecause we are playing a
particular role or we need to dothis task for various reasons,
but that you, we may feel likeit is taking up time and space
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in our lives and getting in theway of the things that we
actually want to do.
And that's actually where thoseconversations with ourselves
are really important is like,okay, do I need to make any
shifts?
Can I, at this time, makeshifts?
Or maybe I can see it in thebigger picture of things, like I
need to be doing this right now, but that doesn't have to be
the forever yeah, yeah, it'ssacrifices that you make.
Speaker 2 (12:33):
Yeah, yeah, it's crazy, I'm, I'm thinking.
I'm thinking about a particularperson who I know their story
about coming to the US and themajor life decision of do I take
an opportunity and can have aneducation and things like that,
or do I stay close to home inthe US, where they were, and do
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I kind of just live my life likethis and figure it out.
And I'm it reminded me becauserecently the person was telling
me about how they have thought alot about that decision and
what life could look like ifthey would have made the
opposite choice uh-huh, like youmean not moving to, not moving
away um to gain an education andbasically have a better life.
Speaker 1 (13:21):
Yeah, you know that's so tapping into, like regret or
questioning decisions, whichall regret is such a heavy
weight to have on on yourshoulders.
But it's natural, I think, forhuman beings to, you know, think
back like, did I make the rightchoice and what would life look
like if I had made it adifferent choice?
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And it's like maybe thesmallest choice that you never
realize how much of an impact ithas on your life until you
think about it.
Speaker 2 (13:50):
Yeah, I this.
I'm not even gonna tell you thedecision I made because it's so
unrelated and silly, but Irecently was thinking about
something.
I was like wait, current mereally enjoys this, really likes
this, is oh, totally okay withthis, but I think in the future
I'm not gonna like the decisionif I go with it this way.
So I'm going to not I'm goingto do what I believe future me
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would be proud of and what shewould prefer, rather than what
the present me is.
And that's like that's superweird, for I don't think future
like that, but I did that's notweird, that's so I don't want.
Speaker 1 (14:27):
I don't know if I should say like mature or so
thoughtful.
I don't think most people thinkin that sense of like future me
and how would I look back onthis decision today.
So so yeah, that's reallymature and like really
thoughtful of you to do.
That's amazing that you havethe ability to even do that.
But I think that's a great wayto you know, assess our
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decisions, assess where we're atin life right now and like if
I'm going to make this move bigor small, looking forward 10
years from now, when I look back, how am I going to feel about
this decision?
Speaker 2 (15:00):
Do.
Looking forward 10 years fromnow, when I look back, how am I
going to feel about thisdecision?
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Speaker 1 (16:36):
Absolutely Happy holidays everyone, and thank you
for listening to the Coffee andCareer Hour podcast.
Now let's get back to ourepisode.
Speaker 2 (16:45):
Yeah, and I think, when it comes to career, a lot
of the time we get in that we'restuck in the heat of the moment
.
Right, I got to make a quickdecision to take this job or not
take this job, or turn downthis or not go to this event.
And I mean happenstance existsin every part of our lives and
it really does impact how yourlife can look, but also it
leaves you with that feeling ofyou know what could have been,
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what should have been, whatcould I have done?
Speaker 1 (17:18):
I had one of my supervisors when I was a grad
intern once say don't think toomuch about what should have,
could have would have happened,just let things be as where they
are now and moving forward.
And I thought that was verylike releasing of like that
heavy weight that we could holdon our shoulders, because
there's always going to be the.
If I made this choice, it couldhave looked like this, but you
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never know actually how it couldhave ended up being how to make
different decisions.
Speaker 2 (17:43):
Yeah, I'm thinking about students, clients, just
people I've worked with in thepast, like like things like grad
school do I apply for this job.
Do I take this opportunity?
Do I take a gap year?
What do I do?
I hate my job.
Do I quit?
No, but I have income and allof the like, the micro, what
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feel later on like microdecisions, macro decisions now,
and how that does really hold alot of weight for people.
Speaker 1 (18:12):
No, it truly does.
Recently, one of the students Iwork with was sharing about two
potential internshipopportunities upcoming for
summer and one being like closerto home so they didn't have to
pay rent, while the other onewas further out so they had to
move and pay rent.
But one of them was morealigned with their long-term
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career goals while the other onepaid better.
So it was like so manydifferent things where it's
encompassing, like what are yourimmediate needs now?
Speaker 2 (18:42):
What are?
Speaker 1 (18:43):
your long-term goals.
And like is this internship?
Do you want it to serve yourimmediate goals or do you want
it to serve your long-term goals?
You know and how do you choose.
Speaker 2 (18:53):
Yeah, yeah, it's crazy because I'm thinking about
, like, how we're all indifferent phases of career
development and how that thoughtprocess is going to look
different depending on where youare in your life and in your
career.
Yeah, yeah, yeah, oh my gosh, Iknow it's very.
Speaker 1 (19:09):
this stuff gets deep.
Speaker 2 (19:11):
You know, you have me thinking about where I am and
what I'm doing and where.
Where I want to be, when do youwant to be?
I don't know.
I got to sit down and listen tothis and go drive home and talk
to myself, because I have noidea right now.
Speaker 1 (19:28):
I'm just living life every day.
I love it, you know.
I think sometimes we have to dothat too because, honestly, yes
, as much as, as counselors, weencourage everyone to continue
to like, always be reflecting,always be thinking about, you
know, is my daily life alignedwith my goals and my passions,
and so forth.
Well, all that is great, and aswe're coming to the end of the
calendar year and the holidayseason, it's a natural time to
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be reflecting, but at the sametime, sometimes it's just
overdoing it, like too much of agood thing is not a good thing.
Speaker 2 (19:58):
Yeah, I agree, you don't want to overdo it.
Speaker 1 (19:59):
You got to let go sometimes and just let life flow
, I agree.
Speaker 2 (20:05):
I agree when we're thinking about this topic, it
invites people to be anoverthinker, to get overwhelmed,
have a lot of anxiety and haveanalysis paralysis, feeling
really stuck and not really knowwhat direction to pursue, or
overthink their currentdecisions or their life or the
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choices they've made up untilthis point, and it can be very,
very dangerous.
Speaker 1 (20:30):
Sure, it could take someone into a spiral yeah you
know of like, oh my gosh, we'requestioning everything from
childhood up until now and andthen like not knowing where
you're gonna be five to tenyears from now.
That stuff is already anxietyprovoking and then, like us,
encouraging folks to continue toreflect could just encourage
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that anxiety even more.
So we do want to also balanceit out with letting go and
letting life happen, andsometimes it's just a matter of
like knowing that these toolsexist, but knowing when you need
to step away and for your ownwell-being and your own mental
health?
Speaker 2 (21:08):
Yeah, absolutely.
I think also there's um withthis topic.
There's a level of acceptancethat you have to have yeah, and
being okay, right, not okay asin okay the letters, but like
okay why?
Like okay?
Because you can't you can't goback and change things or you
can't feel any type of way forthe decisions you've made,
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because that was the rightdecision for you in that moment
and you have to be accepting ofthat.
I think what we can do is learna lot also from who we are now
and who we want to be and wherewe were.
As much as we want to let thatgo too.
Speaker 1 (21:47):
Yeah yeah.
It's a fine dance between thepast version of ourselves, the
future version, present version,and being mindful.
I think the message here islike being mindful, being
intentional about the decisionsthat we make and reflecting on
how each decision impacts ourlives and our goals, but at the
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same time, like the theory ofhappenstance, letting life
happen to and being open tothose unplanned experiences as
well.
Speaker 2 (22:18):
Yeah, you're making me think about like different
colleagues and different peersand friends that I've had in
different, I guess, eras in mylife so far, and how different
each of them know me and howI've looked back and and have
really reflected on I'm such adifferent person and the people
who know me now know the trueversion of I, of who I am and
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what the purpose of what I feelmy life is, versus the people
who I grew up with or sharedifferent parts of my beginning
of my career.
Speaker 1 (22:49):
Oh my gosh, I feel that way a lot too, where
sometimes I'm like people whoknew me like 10, 15 years ago.
I'm like I'm not that personanymore in many different ways,
right, because we grow, weevolve Sometimes.
Actually, one of my studentsshe said it really lovely in one
of her law school essays shewas talking about reflecting on
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herself when she was younger,like maybe adolescence, and she
talked about embarrassment, likeof her girlhood.
And when I read that I justlike I smiled, I chuckled
because I resonated so much withthat of like thinking, of
situations where it's like, ohgosh, like that is so not me
right now, but that was us backthen.
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You know, and I think thebeauty in that is that we have
evolved and we can look back andthink, okay, we've grown, we've
changed.
That's how it should be right,you don't want to be the same
person that you were 10 yearsago.
Speaker 2 (23:45):
Yeah, oh God.
No, I do not want to be who Iwas 10 years ago at all um a lot
has changed in 10 years, but itreally does make me think like
what about 10 years from now?
Speaker 1 (23:57):
yeah, I know that's crazy, I'm scared.
Speaker 2 (24:00):
I don't want to be 10 years from now yet.
Speaker 1 (24:01):
Well, 10 years from now, we're gonna have the robots
take over.
I'm gonna journal about that.
Yes, oh gosh, we'll belistening to our podcast
episodes and thinking about youknow when humans used to make
podcasts?
Yeah, I know, that's what we'rethinking we're going to make
silly us.
Yeah yeah, oh man.
But you know, there's beauty inthat as much as there could be
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like shame, embarrassment orlike just feeling some type of
way about who we used to be andhow we used to carry ourselves.
The beauty is that we'regrowing and evolving and I think
that's a beautiful thing toexperience absolutely.
Speaker 2 (24:39):
Whatever form of journal, we'll just call it
journaling.
Reflection, let's call itreflection.
Whatever form of reflection youchoose to take, make sure it's
also most authentic to you yeahum do with what it, whatever you
want with it, really take thetime.
We want to encourage you to takethe time to look back on who
you, who you are right and, and,as we're coming to a natural
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end in the year of 2024, peoplealways take this time to kind of
look back um how they change.
How did they start the year?
Where did they get in March,for example, in the summer, and
moments, events, programs, lifeexperiences, situations good,
positive, negative, neutral allof the things um to take a kind
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of like a deeper look into whereyou are and who you are now and
what's important to you.
What's changed?
Priorities I always, I alwayslike to think of priorities.
How have my priorities changed?
Speaker 1 (25:34):
what are my priorities and where, where I am
, and all of the differentcolumns that I have, mentally
too yeah, yeah, those are thingswe encourage as as the year is
coming to an end and somequestions we actually uh, or
prompts, I should say that wewant to provide, as you're
reflecting, in whatever formthat works best for you.
Some questions you can thinkabout are what is my purpose
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right now in my life?
What are my values at this timein my life?
Values do shift.
There may be certain corevalues that stick with us
throughout life, but there are aset of value systems that can
shift as we take on new roles inour lives and as we grow and
evolve as human beings.
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So what are your current values,and is the way I am living my
life aligned with my values?
I think that's one that can getpretty deep, because it's those
little decisions we make on aday-to-day basis that shape our
day.
And then, does that actuallytake us closer to our true
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purpose, our values?
Does that take us closer to theperson we want to be, or are
there any changes I need to makein the way that I'm living my
life to get me closer to theperson I want to become?
Speaker 2 (26:52):
Right, and that one's inviting like constructive
criticism for yourself, right.
That doesn't mean like be aDebbie Downer on everything that
you do or who you are, butreally take the time to
critically analyze, like who andwhat you are and where you want
to be and what could you change.
Speaker 1 (27:10):
Yeah, yeah, yeah.
And it could even be havingthese conversations with
somebody else, right?
Somebody who's close to you,who knows you, somebody who
lives with you, perhaps, whokind of sees the minor decisions
that you make on a day-to-daybasis and how that kind of
impacts you or shapes you.
So it could be.
If there is a safe person and asafe space that you can have
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these conversations with, thatmight be helpful as well,
because then you're gettinganother person's feedback and
perspective.
That might be.
It helps to get that from anobjective outside of our own
minds, right, but that is oneway.
Otherwise, you can have theseconversations with yourself as
well.
And the last question am Icontent with where I am in life?
Speaker 2 (27:58):
I guess that's the real honest question for
yourself.
Speaker 1 (28:01):
Yeah, so the ultimate goal is to be content right.
My goal is to be content rightand feel like the things that
you are doing today, at thistime, are contributing to your
well-being as a person indifferent facets of your life.
So, thinking about it and thedifferent areas of your life,
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and are they contributing toyour fulfillment and your
happiness?
Speaker 2 (28:25):
Yeah, having a balanced life is having a
beautiful life.
Speaker 1 (28:29):
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career dreams.
But you know, there's beauty in that as much as there
could be like shame,embarrassment or like just
feeling some type of way aboutwho we used to be and how we
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The beauty is that we'regrowing and evolving.
You are listening to Coffee andCareer Hour.
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We are your hosts.
I'm Armina and I'm MJ, twocareer counselors and friends
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Speaker 2 (00:29):
So grab a cup of coffee and join us.
Speaker 1 (00:33):
Hi Armine, Hi MJ, how are you?
I'm all right.
How are you Cozy?
Yeah, it feels cozy today.
I hope all the listeners outthere are feeling cozy too.
Speaker 2 (00:46):
Yeah, happy holidays to everyone.
It's the end of the year, whichmeans it's a lot of different
festivities and celebrations, sohappy holidays to you, yes yes,
and hopefully you are notfeeling super drained with all
of the festivities, because Iknow that that can also be.
Speaker 1 (01:03):
as much as it's exciting, it can also be very
draining.
So I hope that you find timeand space to recharge and
re-energize and do what you needto do for yourselves amongst
all the chaos.
Speaker 2 (01:15):
Absolutely, and of course, everyone's work, career,
industry looks different.
So if you have time foryourself this year, this end of
the year, in the next couple ofweeks, really do take time to
rest and be with yourself.
Speaker 1 (01:30):
We should take our own advice is what I'm thinking.
Speaker 2 (01:33):
Look, I'm here to prescribe, not to take
medication.
Speaker 1 (01:36):
Oh my gosh, I love it .
Yeah, no, we're feeling it tooon our end, and so we know that
our listeners may be feeling thesame, so I think we can all
take some time to just be withourselves.
Speaker 2 (01:51):
Yeah, and that really has brought us to today's
episode and what we want to talkabout.
Speaker 1 (01:56):
Yes, such a fun, cool topic.
We want to talk about havingcareer conversations with
yourself.
Speaker 2 (02:04):
That sounds actually pretty deep.
When we said that the firsttime off the mic, I was like I
felt something, my heart likedropped.
Speaker 1 (02:11):
Okay, yeah, it can be very intense or deep, but it's
kind of a continuation of ourprevious episode where we talked
about career conversations withfamily around the holidays and
around the dinner table or soforth.
There's a lot of emotions thatcan come up around career
conversations and today wewanted to extend it to how to
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have those conversations withyourself, which is a whole
different ballgame, yeah andArmin.
Speaker 2 (02:38):
I think first too is thinking about what they can
look like, because the careerconversations people tend to
think you think of a two-personparty.
Um, I've seen people like dm meand say you know.
Or when I talk aboutreflections or having a moment
to myself or journaling, they'llsay you know, I do voice memos
on my phone, or I'll look atmyself in the mirror and talk to
(02:58):
myself, or I will like write tomyself in third person or like
if I was narrating my life.
So I think conversations canhappen in a variety of different
modes.
It also you have to find outwhat's best for you.
Speaker 1 (03:11):
Yeah, definitely.
I mean it could be literallylooking in the mirror and giving
yourself a reality check orwriting what are some ways you
like to have conversations withyourself.
Speaker 2 (03:23):
Okay, don't think that I'm crazy.
No, not at all.
I talk to myself a lot when I'mdriving Out loud, yeah, out
loud, out loud, because I'mmindlessly.
I mean not mindlessly, I'mcompletely aware of what I'm
doing, but you know, you'resitting there in traffic or on
your way.
And this happens more so whenI'm going home rather than going
(03:52):
to work, where I'm kind of justlike thinking about whatever
happened, if it was like aproductive day or anything kind
of happened, and I have a lot ofconversations and I find myself
like going different paths.
It's so strange.
I'm like how did I starttalking about this?
And now, like we ended up at,like, my third uncle's, cousin's
, brother's, daughter, orsomething.
Speaker 1 (04:05):
Okay, yeah, I love it .
Hey, I do sometimes out loud,like speak to myself, but I'll
do that when I'm processinginformation that I need to.
That may be like, withoutsaying it out loud, it feels
like there's a lot of mentalnoise that I have, so I need to
process it by like saying it outloud.
(04:25):
So I'll do's a lot of mentalnoise that I have, so I need to
process it by like saying it outloud.
So I'll do that sometimes whenI'm trying to process
information.
But in terms of career orgeneral conversations with
myself, I would say it must.
It has to be some form of likevision boards or like not
necessarily journaling, butwriting it out in bullet points
or something the points that I'mtrying to like reflect on.
Speaker 2 (04:48):
I like that.
You gave two different ideas.
I I really wholeheartedly wantto be the aesthetic of
journaling, like I want to bethe person that does it every
day or every other day.
I tried, honestly, I did, Ireally did at the beginning, and
then you know, life happens thelast couple of months and you
just lose it.
Yeah, lose that habit.
I really did at the beginning.
And then you know, life happensthe last couple of months and
you just lose it.
Yeah, lose that habit.
I mean, um, I mean I've lost ita couple of times in the last
(05:11):
couple of months, but that's adifferent story for a different
day.
But I like that.
You said vision boards or sometype of physical activity with
it.
I know you also said bulletjournaling, which a lot of
people love.
Bullet journaling is a reallycool form of doing different
things.
If you have never seen it ortry to definitely look it up
online, it's very, very cool.
But I like that.
(05:32):
You said vision boards becauseit gives you time to reflect on
what has happened.
But also, I mean it depends onwhat it's for, but I always
think of like future when Ithink of a vision board.
Speaker 1 (05:42):
Yeah, yeah, I've done like different forms.
So there's been vision boardswhere I've done that were like
this board represents me, who Iam right now.
I actually really enjoyed doingthat.
That was like in my 20s where Iwas like going through my own
self-exploration process and Iwas like who am I, who do I want
to be, and like what are thingsthat represent that right now?
(06:03):
So I've done that.
I've done future orientedvision boards of like things I
want to manifest.
But I would say, yeah, thoseare like my way of having
conversations with myself, whilealso it's like a very
reflective and creative process.
So I enjoy that.
But the bullet journaling isreally like it's a very
efficient way to get yourthoughts on paper without
(06:25):
necessarily like dedicating 30,40 minutes of writing out in
your journal, because we knowthat life can get hectic and,
like you shared, sometimes it'shard to like actually sit down
and write out in a journal.
I actually had a professor ingrad school who one time because
you know, in counseling and inpsychology we learn a lot about
like journaling can be verytherapeutic and so forth and my
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counselor, who is a licensedpsychologist or therapist he
actually was like I don't seethe benefit of journaling and
that got me thinking, yeah, he'slike I don't see how it can
help.
And I was like, okay, becausehis approach was very
action-oriented.
And so that got me thinkingabout journaling and ever since
then I've kind of looked at itin a different way.
(07:10):
But there is definitelybenefits to it too.
Speaker 2 (07:14):
Yeah, it's weird because when I process my
thoughts I like to do it inspoken form because I don't like
to have record of it, becausethen I feel like the weight is
still there, that thing is stillthere, those emotions that I
felt or whatever I wrote aboutis still there and I haven't
(07:35):
moved on from it or healed fromit.
Interesting like moved on fromit or healed from it.
So I I've tried it so manyyears in a row where I always go
back and rip out the pages andthrow them away because it
doesn't feel like it's helpfulto me, because those emotions,
that heaviness, the dark, thehappy, even the happy it feels
(07:57):
weird to have that there, almostlike a time capsule, and I've
never been able to sit rightwith it.
It's so strange to me.
So I totally honestly, I reallyget that and I like that, but
that's why I think I've alwaysgravitated more towards spoken.
Now that I drive by myself andthings like that.
Speaker 1 (08:15):
Sure, yeah, no, that makes sense.
I was going to ask aboutactually throwing away the pages
, because you know there's andit's actually a technique, I
should say, and therapy that youmay use where you have the
person like rip out or burn thepaper of thoughts that maybe
like they want to let go ofthese emotions.
(08:35):
So I was going to ask if youever tried like crumbling it up
or ripping it up and throwing itaway.
Speaker 2 (08:41):
So, okay, this this is crazy unrelated, but I
actually have been to a retreatwhere I've thrown like in a pit
of fire what I wanted to get ridof and what I wanted to let go
of.
That I mean, of course,everything else in the retreat
too, but that was amazing.
But you, yes, so I do rip themout, I I I don't cut with
(09:01):
scissors, because then I feellike I'm not doing it, something
else is cutting it.
I know that's that's kind ofcrazy, um, but I like to
physically rip it as much as Ican and then toss it somewhere
that's not in my home orsomewhere there.
I like to throw it outsidesomewhere else.
It doesn't have to be adifferent place, but I just feel
like then it's still there.
Speaker 1 (09:20):
Okay, yeah, no, there's like energy around it,
yeah, so I think burning is areally great way to get rid of
that the energetic side of it.
What I used to do was I wouldrip it out and flush it down the
toilet.
Okay, but part of that wasbecause I was like I don't want
to throw out the ripped outpieces of paper in the trash, in
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case anyone ever comes acrossthem and like sees what I wrote.
So it was like a safety net oflet's flush this down the toilet
.
That's hilarious.
Speaker 2 (09:51):
I mean, that's a great way of getting rid of
something, though.
Yeah, no, seriously, then it'sgone, for sure, yeah.
I love that.
Speaker 1 (09:57):
But yeah, it's so interesting Like there's so many
different ways that you canhave conversations with yourself
right and ultimately, the goalis to reflect and process
whatever topic and informationyou're thinking about yeah, and
I will one.
Speaker 2 (10:11):
And now I'm curious have you kept every vision board
you've ever made?
Speaker 1 (10:16):
yes, I did.
I might have thrown them out inmy last move, but up until my
last, my previous apartment Idid have them all.
Speaker 2 (10:27):
Okay, yeah, I love that, and I'm sure you saw
different chapters of who youwere.
Speaker 1 (10:31):
Oh my gosh.
Yeah, some of them are funny.
Like when I look back I'm likeoh my gosh, that seems childish.
Like how did I even put that onthere?
But hey, that was, that waswhat was real to me at that time
you know.
Speaker 2 (10:43):
And you mentioned talking.
Well, you were saying thingsabout who you were in that
moment then there and beingpresent.
And it's very important to bepresent with who you are when
you're having theseconversations, because it's so
easy to kind of avoid theobvious and the real.
Speaker 1 (10:59):
No for sure.
I mean.
That's ultimately the goal ofthese inner conversations or
reflections.
Right Is who am I right now,who do I want to be and where
are the gaps?
Right?
Or you may not know who youwant to be, but like being aware
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of who you are now and how areyou living your life now?
Is it aligned with your values?
Is it aligned with your purpose?
How do you feel on a day-to-daybasis and, like the actions
that you're taking, do theyrepresent who you want to be?
Speaker 2 (11:33):
Yeah, it's when you were talking.
I was thinking about howeveryone life, of course looks
different, but how differentsituations you're placed in or
different identities that youhave also can get in the way of
who you are and who you want tobecome.
Speaker 1 (11:49):
Yes, yes, because sometimes we have to do things
that are needed to be donebecause we are playing a
particular role or we need to dothis task for various reasons,
but that you, we may feel likeit is taking up time and space
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in our lives and getting in theway of the things that we
actually want to do.
And that's actually where thoseconversations with ourselves
are really important is like,okay, do I need to make any
shifts?
Can I, at this time, makeshifts?
Or maybe I can see it in thebigger picture of things, like I
need to be doing this right now, but that doesn't have to be
the forever yeah, yeah, it'ssacrifices that you make.
Speaker 2 (12:33):
Yeah, yeah, it's crazy, I'm, I'm thinking.
I'm thinking about a particularperson who I know their story
about coming to the US and themajor life decision of do I take
an opportunity and can have aneducation and things like that,
or do I stay close to home inthe US, where they were, and do
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I kind of just live my life likethis and figure it out.
And I'm it reminded me becauserecently the person was telling
me about how they have thought alot about that decision and
what life could look like ifthey would have made the
opposite choice uh-huh, like youmean not moving to, not moving
away um to gain an education andbasically have a better life.
Speaker 1 (13:21):
Yeah, you know that's so tapping into, like regret or
questioning decisions, whichall regret is such a heavy
weight to have on on yourshoulders.
But it's natural, I think, forhuman beings to, you know, think
back like, did I make the rightchoice and what would life look
like if I had made it adifferent choice?
(13:42):
And it's like maybe thesmallest choice that you never
realize how much of an impact ithas on your life until you
think about it.
Speaker 2 (13:50):
Yeah, I this.
I'm not even gonna tell you thedecision I made because it's so
unrelated and silly, but Irecently was thinking about
something.
I was like wait, current mereally enjoys this, really likes
this, is oh, totally okay withthis, but I think in the future
I'm not gonna like the decisionif I go with it this way.
So I'm going to not I'm goingto do what I believe future me
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would be proud of and what shewould prefer, rather than what
the present me is.
And that's like that's superweird, for I don't think future
like that, but I did that's notweird, that's so I don't want.
Speaker 1 (14:27):
I don't know if I should say like mature or so
thoughtful.
I don't think most people thinkin that sense of like future me
and how would I look back onthis decision today.
So so yeah, that's reallymature and like really
thoughtful of you to do.
That's amazing that you havethe ability to even do that.
But I think that's a great wayto you know, assess our
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decisions, assess where we're atin life right now and like if
I'm going to make this move bigor small, looking forward 10
years from now, when I look back, how am I going to feel about
this decision?
Speaker 2 (15:00):
Do.
Looking forward 10 years fromnow, when I look back, how am I
going to feel about thisdecision?
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Speaker 1 (16:36):
Absolutely Happy holidays everyone, and thank you
for listening to the Coffee andCareer Hour podcast.
Now let's get back to ourepisode.
Speaker 2 (16:45):
Yeah, and I think, when it comes to career, a lot
of the time we get in that we'restuck in the heat of the moment
.
Right, I got to make a quickdecision to take this job or not
take this job, or turn downthis or not go to this event.
And I mean happenstance existsin every part of our lives and
it really does impact how yourlife can look, but also it
leaves you with that feeling ofyou know what could have been,
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what should have been, whatcould I have done?
Speaker 1 (17:18):
I had one of my supervisors when I was a grad
intern once say don't think toomuch about what should have,
could have would have happened,just let things be as where they
are now and moving forward.
And I thought that was verylike releasing of like that
heavy weight that we could holdon our shoulders, because
there's always going to be the.
If I made this choice, it couldhave looked like this, but you
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never know actually how it couldhave ended up being how to make
different decisions.
Speaker 2 (17:43):
Yeah, I'm thinking about students, clients, just
people I've worked with in thepast, like like things like grad
school do I apply for this job.
Do I take this opportunity?
Do I take a gap year?
What do I do?
I hate my job.
Do I quit?
No, but I have income and allof the like, the micro, what
(18:03):
feel later on like microdecisions, macro decisions now,
and how that does really hold alot of weight for people.
Speaker 1 (18:12):
No, it truly does.
Recently, one of the students Iwork with was sharing about two
potential internshipopportunities upcoming for
summer and one being like closerto home so they didn't have to
pay rent, while the other onewas further out so they had to
move and pay rent.
But one of them was morealigned with their long-term
(18:34):
career goals while the other onepaid better.
So it was like so manydifferent things where it's
encompassing, like what are yourimmediate needs now?
Speaker 2 (18:42):
What are?
Speaker 1 (18:43):
your long-term goals.
And like is this internship?
Do you want it to serve yourimmediate goals or do you want
it to serve your long-term goals?
You know and how do you choose.
Speaker 2 (18:53):
Yeah, yeah, it's crazy because I'm thinking about
, like, how we're all indifferent phases of career
development and how that thoughtprocess is going to look
different depending on where youare in your life and in your
career.
Yeah, yeah, yeah, oh my gosh, Iknow it's very.
Speaker 1 (19:09):
this stuff gets deep.
Speaker 2 (19:11):
You know, you have me thinking about where I am and
what I'm doing and where.
Where I want to be, when do youwant to be?
I don't know.
I got to sit down and listen tothis and go drive home and talk
to myself, because I have noidea right now.
Speaker 1 (19:28):
I'm just living life every day.
I love it, you know.
I think sometimes we have to dothat too because, honestly, yes
, as much as, as counselors, weencourage everyone to continue
to like, always be reflecting,always be thinking about, you
know, is my daily life alignedwith my goals and my passions,
and so forth.
Well, all that is great, and aswe're coming to the end of the
calendar year and the holidayseason, it's a natural time to
(19:50):
be reflecting, but at the sametime, sometimes it's just
overdoing it, like too much of agood thing is not a good thing.
Speaker 2 (19:58):
Yeah, I agree, you don't want to overdo it.
Speaker 1 (19:59):
You got to let go sometimes and just let life flow
, I agree.
Speaker 2 (20:05):
I agree when we're thinking about this topic, it
invites people to be anoverthinker, to get overwhelmed,
have a lot of anxiety and haveanalysis paralysis, feeling
really stuck and not really knowwhat direction to pursue, or
overthink their currentdecisions or their life or the
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choices they've made up untilthis point, and it can be very,
very dangerous.
Speaker 1 (20:30):
Sure, it could take someone into a spiral yeah you
know of like, oh my gosh, we'requestioning everything from
childhood up until now and andthen like not knowing where
you're gonna be five to tenyears from now.
That stuff is already anxietyprovoking and then, like us,
encouraging folks to continue toreflect could just encourage
(20:51):
that anxiety even more.
So we do want to also balanceit out with letting go and
letting life happen, andsometimes it's just a matter of
like knowing that these toolsexist, but knowing when you need
to step away and for your ownwell-being and your own mental
health?
Speaker 2 (21:08):
Yeah, absolutely.
I think also there's um withthis topic.
There's a level of acceptancethat you have to have yeah, and
being okay, right, not okay asin okay the letters, but like
okay why?
Like okay?
Because you can't you can't goback and change things or you
can't feel any type of way forthe decisions you've made,
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because that was the rightdecision for you in that moment
and you have to be accepting ofthat.
I think what we can do is learna lot also from who we are now
and who we want to be and wherewe were.
As much as we want to let thatgo too.
Speaker 1 (21:47):
Yeah yeah.
It's a fine dance between thepast version of ourselves, the
future version, present version,and being mindful.
I think the message here islike being mindful, being
intentional about the decisionsthat we make and reflecting on
how each decision impacts ourlives and our goals, but at the
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same time, like the theory ofhappenstance, letting life
happen to and being open tothose unplanned experiences as
well.
Speaker 2 (22:18):
Yeah, you're making me think about like different
colleagues and different peersand friends that I've had in
different, I guess, eras in mylife so far, and how different
each of them know me and howI've looked back and and have
really reflected on I'm such adifferent person and the people
who know me now know the trueversion of I, of who I am and
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what the purpose of what I feelmy life is, versus the people
who I grew up with or sharedifferent parts of my beginning
of my career.
Speaker 1 (22:49):
Oh my gosh, I feel that way a lot too, where
sometimes I'm like people whoknew me like 10, 15 years ago.
I'm like I'm not that personanymore in many different ways,
right, because we grow, weevolve Sometimes.
Actually, one of my studentsshe said it really lovely in one
of her law school essays shewas talking about reflecting on
(23:11):
herself when she was younger,like maybe adolescence, and she
talked about embarrassment, likeof her girlhood.
And when I read that I justlike I smiled, I chuckled
because I resonated so much withthat of like thinking, of
situations where it's like, ohgosh, like that is so not me
right now, but that was us backthen.
(23:32):
You know, and I think thebeauty in that is that we have
evolved and we can look back andthink, okay, we've grown, we've
changed.
That's how it should be right,you don't want to be the same
person that you were 10 yearsago.
Speaker 2 (23:45):
Yeah, oh God.
No, I do not want to be who Iwas 10 years ago at all um a lot
has changed in 10 years, but itreally does make me think like
what about 10 years from now?
Speaker 1 (23:57):
yeah, I know that's crazy, I'm scared.
Speaker 2 (24:00):
I don't want to be 10 years from now yet.
Speaker 1 (24:01):
Well, 10 years from now, we're gonna have the robots
take over.
I'm gonna journal about that.
Yes, oh gosh, we'll belistening to our podcast
episodes and thinking about youknow when humans used to make
podcasts?
Yeah, I know, that's what we'rethinking we're going to make
silly us.
Yeah yeah, oh man.
But you know, there's beauty inthat as much as there could be
(24:24):
like shame, embarrassment orlike just feeling some type of
way about who we used to be andhow we used to carry ourselves.
The beauty is that we'regrowing and evolving and I think
that's a beautiful thing toexperience absolutely.
Speaker 2 (24:39):
Whatever form of journal, we'll just call it
journaling.
Reflection, let's call itreflection.
Whatever form of reflection youchoose to take, make sure it's
also most authentic to you yeahum do with what it, whatever you
want with it, really take thetime.
We want to encourage you to takethe time to look back on who
you, who you are right and, and,as we're coming to a natural
(25:03):
end in the year of 2024, peoplealways take this time to kind of
look back um how they change.
How did they start the year?
Where did they get in March,for example, in the summer, and
moments, events, programs, lifeexperiences, situations good,
positive, negative, neutral allof the things um to take a kind
(25:24):
of like a deeper look into whereyou are and who you are now and
what's important to you.
What's changed?
Priorities I always, I alwayslike to think of priorities.
How have my priorities changed?
Speaker 1 (25:34):
what are my priorities and where, where I am
, and all of the differentcolumns that I have, mentally
too yeah, yeah, those are thingswe encourage as as the year is
coming to an end and somequestions we actually uh, or
prompts, I should say that wewant to provide, as you're
reflecting, in whatever formthat works best for you.
Some questions you can thinkabout are what is my purpose
(25:58):
right now in my life?
What are my values at this timein my life?
Values do shift.
There may be certain corevalues that stick with us
throughout life, but there are aset of value systems that can
shift as we take on new roles inour lives and as we grow and
evolve as human beings.
(26:19):
So what are your current values,and is the way I am living my
life aligned with my values?
I think that's one that can getpretty deep, because it's those
little decisions we make on aday-to-day basis that shape our
day.
And then, does that actuallytake us closer to our true
(26:41):
purpose, our values?
Does that take us closer to theperson we want to be, or are
there any changes I need to makein the way that I'm living my
life to get me closer to theperson I want to become?
Speaker 2 (26:52):
Right, and that one's inviting like constructive
criticism for yourself, right.
That doesn't mean like be aDebbie Downer on everything that
you do or who you are, butreally take the time to
critically analyze, like who andwhat you are and where you want
to be and what could you change.
Speaker 1 (27:10):
Yeah, yeah, yeah.
And it could even be havingthese conversations with
somebody else, right?
Somebody who's close to you,who knows you, somebody who
lives with you, perhaps, whokind of sees the minor decisions
that you make on a day-to-daybasis and how that kind of
impacts you or shapes you.
So it could be.
If there is a safe person and asafe space that you can have
(27:32):
these conversations with, thatmight be helpful as well,
because then you're gettinganother person's feedback and
perspective.
That might be.
It helps to get that from anobjective outside of our own
minds, right, but that is oneway.
Otherwise, you can have theseconversations with yourself as
well.
And the last question am Icontent with where I am in life?
Speaker 2 (27:58):
I guess that's the real honest question for
yourself.
Speaker 1 (28:01):
Yeah, so the ultimate goal is to be content right.
My goal is to be content rightand feel like the things that
you are doing today, at thistime, are contributing to your
well-being as a person indifferent facets of your life.
So, thinking about it and thedifferent areas of your life,
(28:22):
and are they contributing toyour fulfillment and your
happiness?
Speaker 2 (28:25):
Yeah, having a balanced life is having a
beautiful life.
Speaker 1 (28:29):
That's beautiful.
Thank you so much for listening.
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