December 10, 2025 • 41 mins
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We trace how fear often hides the belief that we are alone and show how self-love, dreams, and a simple bedtime practice can shift that story. A snow day sets the scene for selling a house, facing rejection, and finding calm through the mind as an operating system.
• snow as a metaphor for quiet and permission
• fear’s link to aloneness and control
• the mind as the operating system, not the body
• dream insight: you are both the one who errs and the one who forgives
• preference versus judgment and why mistakes teach
• rejection anxiety and a three-part reframe
• asking for help before sleep as a repeatable practice
• guides, higher self, and receiving support
• resources in our Infinite Soul classroom
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SPEAKER_02 (00:08):
We are on the line.
SPEAKER_00 (00:10):
It's snowing.
Big time.
SPEAKER_02 (00:12):
There's a lot of snow.
Well, it's apparently it's a lotof snow coming.
SPEAKER_00 (00:17):
Oh no, there was a lot of snow.
I already cleared the drivewayonce.
Yeah.
Just to get the garbage in.
SPEAKER_02 (00:22):
Yeah, that's true.
That's true.
SPEAKER_00 (00:24):
There's a lot of snow.
SPEAKER_02 (00:26):
Can't even see across the lake.
SPEAKER_00 (00:28):
It's a funny thing, snow.
If you have things to do, youdon't like snow.
And if you don't have things todo, it's just beautiful.
And it's quiet and it'speaceful.
That's true.
SPEAKER_02 (00:43):
That's true.
SPEAKER_00 (00:44):
So the trick is to cancel everything.
SPEAKER_02 (00:46):
That's right.
Everything.
SPEAKER_00 (00:49):
It's snowing, cancel.
Cancel, cancel, cancel.
SPEAKER_02 (00:52):
Yeah.
SPEAKER_00 (00:53):
And I know that's not helpful to anybody out
there.
Yeah, right now the mothers arewaking up to snow days.
SPEAKER_02 (01:00):
I suppose, yeah, that's true.
SPEAKER_00 (01:02):
And doing the whole, all right, what am I gonna do?
How am I gonna do it?
SPEAKER_02 (01:07):
Yeah.
SPEAKER_00 (01:07):
What's gotta be done?
SPEAKER_02 (01:08):
My mom was a bus driver, so I already I always
knew it was a snow day, but I Iremember that feeling of waking
up and it was maybe this.
It looked like this out, youknow, that that light, that gray
dawn light, and just prayingthat it was a snow day.
SPEAKER_00 (01:28):
It's like you have been given a legitimate excuse
to do nothing.
SPEAKER_02 (01:33):
Yeah, instead of pretending to be sick, you had
something.
SPEAKER_00 (01:36):
Yeah, but I really feel sorry for the parts of the
world that don't have snowbecause they don't get to wake
up to snow days.
They don't get to say, oh well,everything today is cancelled.
All that stuff I didn't reallywant to do anyway.
SPEAKER_02 (01:50):
You get to hide in your mouth?
No.
SPEAKER_00 (01:52):
It's like snow day, totally legit.
Do we have chips?
SPEAKER_02 (01:55):
No, we don't.
SPEAKER_00 (01:57):
You gotta have snow chips.
You gotta have darm chips.
You gotta have your crisps, yourpotato chips ready to enjoy in
the middle of the snowy day.
SPEAKER_02 (02:07):
Yeah.
SPEAKER_00 (02:07):
As long as you have some of those in the cupboard,
it's gonna be just fine.
SPEAKER_02 (02:11):
That's right.
That's right.
So today, first of all, drop inthe chat if you can hear us.
I'm always a little nervousafter that one time.
But today we are discussing fearstill.
Awesome, you can hear us.
But I think I think we're gonnaput a spiritual twist on it.
(02:33):
I'm not sure how to explain thatany better.
Sort of, and it doesn't evenhave to be a spiritual twist.
It's more just sort of handingit over, knowing that we're not
we're not in control of others.
We can only be semi-in controlof ourselves, you know.
And I'm gonna give a coupleexamples as we go through.
SPEAKER_00 (02:56):
Well, you know, the so for me, I'm I'm uh I'm
already well down that thatroad, but I think for a lot of
people who are, I think for alot of people they distinguish
that which they might callspiritual.
Uh, some people might use thelabel religious, they
(03:17):
distinguish that often from whatwe're trying to do here, which
is how to use your mind in waysthat help you rather than hinder
you, ways that support yourather than break you down.
And that's really what we wantto do as hypnotists, what we
want to do with this podcast.
(03:38):
One of the things we know ashypnotists is that when a client
goes on, when a client decides,we always encourage clients to
sign up for programs, a plan, amultiple series of sessions that
are going to take them frompoint A to point B, point B
being where they chose they wantto be.
(04:00):
And it always happens that theexperience of the client is to
go from a real sense offrustration and helplessness to
a very expanded awareness oftheir mind, of what their mind
(04:21):
is capable of, of what is intheir mind, of how deep the mind
goes, how how much is in theirmind that they're not aware of,
that is shaping them bothpositively and negatively,
right?
That is impacting who they are,both positively and negatively.
(04:43):
And when you decide to go intothat journey mentally, right
down into your mind, and youdiscover the things that are
interfering with your ability tobe who you want to be, you also
discover how incredibly powerfulyou are, how incredibly deep and
(05:04):
aware you are, and that thereare parts of you that you just
are not in the habit ofaccessing.
But if you access them and youstart to utilize them, you
really have a greater sense ofwho you are, you have a greater
sense of what you can do, youhave a greater sense of
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possibility, you have a greatersense of freedom.
So, like even if even if we tookthe word God out of the picture
and we just focused on the mind,it's really hard not to have a
spiritual experience when youexplore your mind.
(05:45):
It's really hard not to findthings that you would call
spirit.
You know, if if you if the easylabel is in invisible,
invisible, unaware, out of yournormal experience, you start to
discover that stuff.
And I've come to the place, youknow, that uh that I'm really
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confident, right?
You can't have a spiritualpursuit that isn't mental.
You the answer is always themind.
And as we explore that, themind, we become more and more
aware of how our mind createswhatever we want to call
reality.
But I think as you're about todelve into what I think you're
(06:30):
headed to, you know, rememberthat the mind is huge, the mind
is deep, and the mind is reallywhat you create from what you
really are.
And we've just proven that overand over and over, client after
client, our own explorations,our own lives.
You're gonna talk about, Ithink, a bit.
(06:51):
Uh I'll talk about mine.
Just the ability to go quiet, tostill your mind, and find in
there incredible solace.
And as we talk all the time, youknow, like the body is always
gonna distract you.
You're gonna have aches andpains, you're gonna have needs,
you're gonna have requirements,you're gonna be constantly being
(07:15):
reminded that you have a body,you need your body.
I have a body, I have a car, Ihave a driveway, I gotta plow
the darn thing.
And it's going to make me, it'sgoing to draw me out of my mind
and out into the world.
And that's why it's so importantto find for yourself some
methodology.
(07:36):
Some people they call it apractice, some methodology to
get into your mind.
And that's where that's theoperating system.
That's the that's the core, andthat's where you're going to
discover who you are, right?
SPEAKER_01 (07:51):
Yeah.
SPEAKER_00 (07:52):
Anyway, yeah, yeah.
Know that what we do every dayproves that you are much more
than you think you are.
SPEAKER_02 (08:01):
Absolutely.
Yeah.
So I as you guys know, we'vebeen talking about in the last
couple episodes, last coupledays really, this idea, this
decision really to not an ideaanymore, to sell the house.
And and the fear that comesalong with that.
(08:22):
And I've been a I don't mindsaying it, I don't mind sharing
my life, but I've been just awreck up and down, roller
coaster, excitement, and thencrying in the corner.
SPEAKER_00 (08:35):
Some might call it like a 180.
Yeah.
Yeah.
Going from absolute thrill, wow,to oh my god, what are we doing?
SPEAKER_02 (08:46):
Yeah.
Yeah.
And I was feeling actually as II want to first say to you, Les,
as I'm telling these stories, Iwant you to ask me questions if
they come to you, becausesometimes I have a hard time
explaining, and maybe I mightmiss something really important.
So I've been feeling reallyalone in the universe since this
(09:11):
decision.
I I really didn't feel like Iwas receiving any help, which
I'm kind of used to, maybe.
You know, I I was asking andasking and praying and in my own
way, and nothing nothing wasreally coming to me.
I wasn't feeling better.
(09:34):
I was feeling alone.
And and then again last nightbefore going to sleep, I asked.
And I did receive help at the inthe very, very last moments of
sleep this morning.
It's probably like 5 30 in themorning that I had a dream.
And the dream was very muchabout feeling like uh somebody
(10:00):
who ended up being me.
I was two people in the dream asone, but somebody had felt like
they had really messed up,right?
They had they felt judged, theyfelt if they were in fear, they
had wrecked everything, right?
And I was looking at them,feeling love for them, right?
(10:24):
Just caring about how they felt.
And and then there was a momentlater in the dream, not not that
much later, seconds really,where they were now presenting
something to their team.
And I should say that before,when they were saying sorry,
sorry, sorry to their teamaround them, the team was like,
(10:47):
No worries, like don't worryabout it.
It's okay.
Right.
And then now they're presentingthis new thing to their team,
and everybody's excited, but Icould still see on their face
that they felt bad about whathad happened before.
And I went up to them and I gavethem the biggest hug and I said,
(11:08):
Everything is meant to be,right?
Everything that happens happensfor a reason.
And maybe what it would happenwas sort of this idea of God
taking it out of your lifebecause maybe there was an issue
with it, right?
Maybe God didn't want you goingthrough that, and you think it's
(11:30):
a failure on your part, but itwas actually a miracle, right?
So I felt love for this person.
I told them you are loved.
And I woke up asking theuniverse, asking God, who was I
in this dream?
Because I was actually, I waslooking at the person the whole
time, but after I thought, youknow, I'm sort of going through
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that in a way, and who am I inthis dream?
And immediately it was like,you're both, you are both and
one.
So that was interesting.
And it really gave me a lot ofcalm as I entered the day and a
lot of thoughtful processes.
So then I thought about havingthis uh team, you know.
(12:13):
I really I I couldn't see theteam.
I didn't in the dream, you know,I didn't know their faces or
anything, but I felt I feltthem, I saw them all around, and
I was part of them.
And I was encouraging and I washappy and and non-judgmental and
and just loving.
(12:34):
And I thought about how we canfeel like you said yesterday or
the day before, I can'tremember, but how we can feel so
alone as we're going throughthese fears or feeling like we
messed up or something likethat.
SPEAKER_00 (12:47):
Yeah, I think when we have fear, quite simply, when
we have fear, there's acomponent to it that we don't
acknowledge and that I think isworth shining a light on.
And fear almost always comeswith the idea that we are alone.
I'm alone in this.
This is this is all on me.
(13:10):
Yeah.
Uh and and oftentimes that'sthat's really at the end of it
what the cause of the fear is,right?
The situation that's presentedto you seems overwhelming only
because somewhere inside youthere's this idea that you're
alone.
SPEAKER_02 (13:31):
Yeah.
And yeah, it was it was it wasreally calming knowing that this
team was around me.
And when I woke up, I I feltlike maybe that's my spirit
team, right?
You know, those things that Ibelieve in.
And I'm seeing it from twoperspectives, right?
(13:52):
So also uh as we go along,again, anyone in the comments,
if you want to ask a question,please go ahead and do so.
SPEAKER_00 (14:01):
So I want to jump into here right at this point,
yeah.
Because I think it's a reallyhelpful idea.
In your dream, you know, dreams.
We we we wanted to do a podcaston dreams.
We ended up having a three-hourconversation ourselves and then
turning the microphone on.
Um, and we probably will do apodcast on dreams soon enough.
(14:24):
Dreams are really amazing thingsbecause it really flexes the
boundaries of what you allowyour mind to do and what you
allow your mind to be, and whatyou allow your mind to access.
And, you know, there are allkinds of reports of very, very
meaningful dreams, very powerfuldreams, very prophetic dreams,
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dreams that are reflective abouta body experiences, all kinds of
stuff.
Dreams are wild.
But what's really cool in thedream is that you can be
multiple characters in thedream.
You can isolate aspects ofyourself into separate
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characters that play out a storyin front of you, like you're
watching a movie.
And you can extract hugemeanings from it.
So, for me, one of the thingsthat I think would be really
powerful for us to teach, and wetry uh I try to teach it to
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every client that's in thechair.
You know, I use the phrase theself-love is always.
That's the reframe.
Self-love is always, likebreathing is always.
You don't say I'm gonna go playtennis, but I'm not gonna
breathe.
Of course you're gonna breathewhile you play tennis, right?
You're gonna, you know, makedinner.
(15:47):
Well, of course you're gonnabreathe while you make dinner.
It's very easy for us to saybreathing is always, and we can
do a million other things at thesame time.
I think it's hard for us to dothe same, have the same frame of
mind when we think aboutself-love.
Self-love is always, everythingwe do should be done in a spirit
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of self-love, right?
And what that means to me inpart is who's going to reassure
us, who's going to calm us,who's going to support us,
right?
We tend to look outward forsomebody to say, yeah, yeah,
that's all right.
(16:30):
We tell people a story aboutourselves.
Tell me I'm okay.
Tell me I'm I'm normal.
Tell me there's nothing wrongwith me.
Tell me that I can be forgiven.
Tell me that I can let go ofthis.
And we have this real tendencyto look outward to others.
And I just think that's thewrong source.
Because others have their ownlives, they have their own stuff
(16:52):
going on, right?
Everything they say and do isreally about them.
It's not about you.
Even when they say, I love you,right?
The first word is I.
Right?
It's about them.
I love you.
I'm telling you something aboutme, right?
You interpret it as somethingabout you, but what I'm really
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doing is telling you somethingabout me.
I think that to look to othersto make us feel better is not
always very wise.
In fact, often it can be unwisebecause you can just as easily
have a friend to say, Are younuts?
You should get medication.
You got to go to the doctor,right?
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You could just as easily have afriend who has a point of view
that's not supportive.
And they they might even stillsay to you, I love you.
But I don't think that it's wiseto look externally for
affirmations that you're okay.
I do think it's valuable to lookinternally and have an ongoing
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belief in yourself that I amlovable.
I'm always lovable.
Even when I behave badly, I'mstill lovable.
Even when I make mistakes, I'mstill lovable.
And so what I love about thatlast part of your dream is that
although it represented twopeople in your dream, you're
aware now that it's one personand that it's really up to me to
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take care of me.
It's up to me to believe in me.
It's up to me to forgive me.
It's up to me to do thosethings.
Because all the externalforgiveness in the world, all
the external pardons that we canget, it's never gonna deal with
the guilt.
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It's never gonna deal with theshame.
It's never gonna deal with theway I might judge myself.
Right.
So I think it's a beautiful, abeautiful little aspect.
Anything's possible in a dream.
And in that dream, you were ableto be two people, which are
really one person.
And you got to experience theidea that you can forgive
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yourself, you can encourageyourself, you can be the one
that you turn to to say kindthings and supportive things.
SPEAKER_02 (19:18):
Yeah.
Yeah.
And that releases, funnilyenough, a lot of fear around
things because in the dream itbecame very apparent.
And I try to my I I say it to myclients a lot when they're open,
when I know that they're open tothat kind of idea.
But the idea that everythinghappens for a reason, and maybe
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that that's not meant to happen,or this is meant to, you know,
it's up to the person, it's upto their life.
Go deeper on that.
But it's it really becameapparent that it's it's okay
that it's okay.
Not to judge yourself becausenobody's nobody's judging you
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except for you, right?
The team around me, the teamaround this person, I always had
the perspective of looking atthe person, but uh the team
around me was not judgmental.
They were they were laughing andhaving fun and they were is the
word consoling in the beginning,but they weren't judging.
(20:27):
It was only the person thatjudged.
So much so that they they put upuh at one point in the dream,
they were sitting on a couch,they sat down on a couch, and
they pulled this giant dividerbetween myself and them because
they didn't want to be seen.
And yeah, it just it just by theend of the dream, it was
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everybody was really happy.
They were happy, they werecrying when I was telling them
how loved they were.
But yeah, it was just reallyfear-releasing in that way.
So, you know, I'm not we'rewe're going through a lot in our
life right now, you know, withthem the idea that the idea, I
keep saying the idea.
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It is an idea, but the thedecision to move.
And I guess this is probably uhhere.
Let me let me get into the chatfirst.
Funny how we all believe thatothers are judging us, yet they
really aren't paying attentionto us at all.
Yeah.
Yeah.
It's so true.
(21:31):
I mean, uh like when we thinkback on our life, it's not like
you know, it moments when wethink we're being judged.
I bet you those people that werearound us just have no clue what
we're if we were to say,remember that time, and they
have they they're just notpaying attention.
SPEAKER_00 (21:48):
That's not it's not paying attention.
Most people might even if theylook at you and say, you know,
go away, they don't hang on toit.
When we judge ourselves, we hangon to it.
SPEAKER_02 (22:02):
Yeah, so we remember it.
SPEAKER_00 (22:03):
Yeah.
SPEAKER_02 (22:04):
Yeah.
SPEAKER_00 (22:04):
We turn, you know, think of it as a spectrum of
preference.
I prefer this, I don't preferthat.
You know, I like chocolate icecream, not really a big
strawberry ice cream fananymore, right?
That's preference, things Iprefer.
And then we turn that preferenceinto judgment.
SPEAKER_01 (22:23):
Yeah.
SPEAKER_00 (22:24):
Right.
And goes from, you know, I likechocolate to chocolate's the
best, and strawberry's crab,right?
It it moves, it's sort of, Icall it the unnecessary next
step.
When I work with clients and westart to be clear about how we
move to judgment, judgment isunnecessary.
You can stop at your preference,right?
(22:46):
When I'm standing at thecounter, I can just say
chocolate, please.
SPEAKER_01 (22:49):
Yeah.
SPEAKER_00 (22:49):
I don't have to say, don't give me any of that darn
tiger tail crap, right?
Right.
I I can just stop at what Iprefer.
With ourselves, we get confused,right?
We start to think thateverything we do is
representative of who we are.
And it's not, right?
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It's not, not at all.
We talk about the idea that I amnot what I do, I am the doer.
And we talk about the idea that,you know, I never learn anything
except by making a mistake,right?
If I did it right, then Ialready knew.
SPEAKER_02 (23:27):
Yeah.
SPEAKER_00 (23:27):
So I didn't learn anything from that.
And if I made a mistake, Ilearned something.
And that just means that thebest thing I can do for me is
make as many mistakes aspossible.
It really is.
That's how I learned.
It's the only way I learned.
And so I have to embrace thisidea that I'm not what I do,
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right?
I'm the doer.
I learn from what I do.
I become more, I become greater.
And when we embrace thatmindset, then there's no room
for judgment, right?
Because mistakes are good,right?
Mistakes are valuable.
Mistakes serve a purpose.
But we take that unnecessarynext step and judge ourselves
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because we made a mistake.
And that programs in us a realfear of ourselves.
SPEAKER_02 (24:18):
Yeah.
SPEAKER_00 (24:19):
I'm afraid to make a mistake because I ultimately I'm
afraid others are going to behard on me, but I know that I'm
going to be hard on me.
I know that I'm going to thinkbadly of myself.
And that's a program.
And that is a really painfulprogram.
SPEAKER_01 (24:38):
Yeah.
SPEAKER_00 (24:39):
Right?
I am not what I do.
Self-love is always.
I'm going to be the one to notjudge myself.
SPEAKER_02 (24:47):
Mm-hmm.
Yeah.
And I saw I suppose that's agood segue into what happened
last night.
So two days ago, two eveningsago, let's say, I got an email
out of nowhere asking if I woulddo a past life regression on
someone's channel for a group.
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And I looked at their channel,and it's they have 1.1 million
followers.
And so immediate fear.
Immediate fear.
And I'm not fearful of doing theregression.
I mean, there's a little bit ofnervousness, but and and
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speaking to all those people.
It's not going to be 1.1 millionpeople watching, but it's going
to be big.
And I noticed in the email thatthis person said, you know, I've
reached out to a fewregressionists and just please
fill out this form and I'll getback to you and we'll see who
moves forward.
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And so the fear wasn't speakingin front of all these people.
The fear became the possiblerejection.
Right.
And so I was now in, I have todo everything in my power to not
be rejected.
So I filled out the form reallyquickly.
I did all right, whatever.
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But where am I going with this?
So I filled out the form, gotback to her, said thank you,
looking forward to possiblychatting, and just let it go.
Right.
But this little fear is stillgoing on in my mind.
And but I did.
I just had to sort of let it go.
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And then last night I got anemail back from her saying, Hey,
do you want to meet tomorrow fora quick 15-minute interview type
thing just to connect?
And I'm thinking, yay! And thenI look at the timestamp on the
email and I'm three hours lategetting back to her.
And I'm like, oh my God, I lost,I've lost it.
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Like she's gonna disqualify mebecause I didn't get back to her
five minutes later.
Right.
And so all these fears ofrejection, you know, what is she
gonna think?
As if I'm not human, like as iflike I I'm not uh I'm just not
on my phone, especially in theevening, you know, we're
watching a movie or something,you know.
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And so again, having to just letgo.
And I thought last night, andmaybe this is where the dream is
coming from, besides all theother stuff with the house.
I was thinking, I man, oh man, Imessed up on that.
Like I was way too late on thatemail.
I checked even even to the pointof checking right before I
closed my eyes, if she hademailed me back for sleep,
(27:40):
right?
And so yeah, just all thisinternal conflict, but I did
have to, before going to sleep,sort of say to myself, okay,
number one, if she's someonewho's gonna judge me for not
getting back to her right awayafter an email, is it somebody
that I want to work with anyway,you know?
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And number two, if I don't uhreceive, if I if I don't get
this, you know, if I'm notaccepted, there's a reason I'm
not accepted.
Right?
The universe is saving me fromsomething or I don't know what,
you know.
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God is taking care of me.
I'm just working throughout it.
I'm just doing things that I'mintuition is driving me to do.
And there was a number three.
Number three is oh yeah, thisidea that I sort of came to a
conclusion.
(28:43):
I can't remember if I came tothis conclusion last night or
this morning, but that uh theidea oh my gosh, it was at the
tip of my tongue and I'vealready forgotten it.
The idea, sorry guys.
Oh, I've forgotten it.
Oh my god.
Wrong life! I know I said it toyou before the podcast and I've
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forgotten it.
Number one is I've forgotten.
Number one is yeah, Barbza's notmeant to be, but number one is
that see, fear is taking over mybrain right now and I'm
blanking.
Number one is that I don't wantto be working with somebody
who's judging me anyway.
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Number two is that yeah, maybeit wasn't meant to be, right?
God's taking care of me nomatter what.
Oh, number three is that this nomatter what, this is something
in my life that I'm to learnfrom.
And it was presented to me uh bythe universe to learn from
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whether or not I receive thecall or or not.
So what I'm learning from it sofar, anyway, is that I do have
the skills.
I do have the skills, and notbecause they reached out to me.
It's not like they're reachingout to me as like, oh, now I'm
good enough.
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But it's sort of given me thisinternal drive to do my stuff,
right?
It's I was really, I mean,yesterday, if you had seen me,
like I was really down and outon life and the business and
just this roller coaster thatwe're going through or I'm going
through right now.
So it's given me this likefresh, uh renewed purpose
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feeling.
Does that make sense?
SPEAKER_00 (30:35):
Does to me.
SPEAKER_02 (30:36):
Yeah.
Chad says, always lessons, allthings have a purpose.
Yeah.
SPEAKER_00 (30:41):
And even right there, you learned a technique.
It's really hard to holdmultiple things in your head at
once and explain them one at atime.
And that's just really hardbecause the the conscious minds
are really, really limited,right?
People don't realize just howlimited their logical mind is.
It can really only hold onething at a time.
So while you try to hold threethings and explain them, you're
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really, really struggling tohold them all there.
So what all we did was go backto the concept that there were
three things, and we went one,two, and then three popped up
because that's how you had themclumped in your conscious mind.
There were three, and you'dcovered one and two, so now they
weren't there to remind you ofthree.
By simply going back to one andtwo, three pops right back up
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because that's the way you wereholding them in your conscious
mind.
These are just little mentalhacks that just work, and there
you go.
Now you learn some.
SPEAKER_02 (31:37):
Yeah, when you have seven points and five points,
sometimes I'm thinking, how inthe world is he rem like, how
does he know there's five pointsbefore he starts talking?
SPEAKER_00 (31:49):
Yeah, yeah, sometimes because I'm helped.
SPEAKER_02 (31:53):
Yeah.
So yeah, that's my little story.
SPEAKER_00 (31:56):
And so let's go back to what we were gonna talk about
in the podcast and just bring itall back there, which was how we
can tap into this deep,wonderful thing that's mind.
And if you ever go on a journeyof discovering your mind, it's
one of those things we do.
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We've had quite a few peopleengage that journey.
If you ever go on a journey inyour mind to understand who you
really are and how your mindreally works and how things
really are, you discover justhow deep your mind is and how
connected your mind is tosomething more, and how
available your mind is to abroader view of what's going on
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here as you live a life in abody.
And the idea that we really saidwe would talk about this
morning, and we have, and now wejust got to bring it together,
was using the technique ofasking for help before you go to
sleep.
It's really, really a great wayto deal with your fears, to deal
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with your lack of clarity aboutwhat you're doing, how you're
doing it, why you're doing it.
It's a really great way to dealwith just some things that
anything really that you wouldsuffer over, that you would hold
in your mind and see yourself asinadequate or see yourself as
unable, right?
And it seems silly, like who amI asking?
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And there's a lot of ways tolook at it.
You on a basic psychology levelcan just ask your subconscious
mind, your deeper mind.
You have many, many levels toyour mind, many, many dimensions
to your mind that you just don'tuse most of the time.
And this world and this bodydoes its best to keep you from
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accessing that stuff.
Because, you know, people whoare busy accessing their deeper
self and understanding thenature of the reality, well,
they just don't make goodworkers, right?
They don't show up to work ontime, they don't stick to jobs,
they're not inclined to bespending their lives making
somebody else rich.
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And so the idea of allowingyourself to go deep into your
mind is really rare today in theworld.
But know and be confident thatscience is proving all the time
that your mind's way deeper thanyou think it is, that you are
much broader and deeper than youthink you are.
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And I'm gonna suggest to youthat when you go on one of these
journeys where you want toreally understand who you are,
that's when you discover howyour mind is really unlimited.
Why we call the school theinfinite mind.
Your mind really reaches up toyour higher self.
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And that higher self is genius,that higher self is aware.
That higher self has realunderstanding of what the heck
you're doing here and why.
And you can reach into that minduh deliberately through things
like hypnosis and meditation,and you can reach into that mind
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in a more passive way by simplyasking yourself, asking for help
before you go to sleep.
And I have been doing it now foryears, and I'll have nights
where I I I know I have beenhelped, and I don't really
recall what it is I've beenhelped with.
I have nights when I wake up inthe morning and it happened last
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week.
I had a song in my head, right?
It was this song, and I said,Why is this song in my head?
Right?
Like, how did sometimes how inmy sleep?
SPEAKER_02 (35:48):
Say the the name of the song.
SPEAKER_00 (35:50):
Have a little faith in me.
Right.
And, you know, there you are,just asking for help.
And then this song Have a LittleFaith in Me.
And then if you ever, you know,it's a Hyatt, is it John Hyatt?
It's a John Hyatt song.
Look up the lyrics, you read thelyrics, and it's like you could
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easily interpret it as Godtalking to you.
And it's just a song on one ofmy playlists from years ago,
right?
But it it was stuck in my head.
Sometimes I wake up with aphrase in my head.
And on those nights now, whenthat phrase is in my head and I
find myself engaged in sort ofsemi-sleep thinking about that,
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I do my best to really writethat down and engage that
because there's value there.
It's been put planted, who caresfrom where?
It's been planted in my mind.
And, you know, I have somenights I ask for help and I just
wake up in the morning justbuzzing with energy, just
feeling like I'm on anotherlevel, and I know I've been
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helped.
You can you can have a greatdeal of belief in anything you
want.
I don't think the people, theentities, the the souls that
help us, I don't think they carewhat we call them.
I don't think they care what welabel them.
I think they just really like tobe asked to help.
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And whether that's your highermind or your higher self, or
it's an angel, or it's a guide,or whatever word you want to put
on it, it is there and it'swaiting for you.
And we've discovered thisthrough hypnosis.
I it's one of my favorite thingsis when I reach a stage with a
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client where they just want tobe introduced to their guides.
They they they become aware thatsomething's going on.
They feel like it's more thanjust their little human self,
and they want to know what thehell is that and where's that
coming from?
And it's so exciting to takesomebody into a trance and go
(38:01):
really, really deep, and then goto the other side and go back
and say, here, this is whyyou're here, and this is what
you're here to do.
And hi, my name is whatever youwant to call me, and my name is
whatever you want to call me,and we're your guides, and we're
with you all the time, and we'reconstantly available, and all
you got to do is turn to us.
(38:22):
Yeah, yeah.
You can you can get right outthere on the scientific level
that talks about what goes on indreams and how deep the mind is,
and you can go in the otherdirection and call it spirit and
call it woo-woo, or call itwhatever you want, because it
really doesn't matter what youcall it, because what matters is
on a day-to-day basis, if youare willing to ask for help and
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you are willing to listen forhelp, and you are willing to
truly engage that belief thatyou have that you're not alone,
you will be helped.
And it will be life-changing.
Yeah, like and I'll I'll justsay it now as the observer.
Yeah, Hillary woke up a lotbetter today.
(39:05):
Yeah.
She's a she's in a differentplace today, you know.
Yeah, uh, it's it's easy for meto see.
SPEAKER_02 (39:12):
Yeah, thank you.
Yeah, I remember uh for me, thismeans a lot, and I'll just share
it.
About two and a half years ago,I woke up and it was I woke up
in the morning, and this themost beautiful I couldn't even
tell you if it was a male orfemale voice, really, but the
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most beautiful voice, audiblevoice, not not a thought voice,
like it sounded like me talkingto you kind of thing, right?
Or you talking to me.
His most beautiful voice saidsaid to me as I was coming it
asleep, the highest in peacebelieves in you.
And I swear to God, I'll have atattoo of it someday.
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But it's always sort of broughtme back when in times of, you
know.
I I I try to think of itespecially when I feel lost.
So to your what you were saying,it's definitely spend some some
time reaching out to source, tothe universe, to to the
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consciousness around you thatyou are part of.
And yeah, just just allowing.
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But that reminds me what youwere saying about the guides in
the school.
In the school, there's aclassroom called The Infinite
Soul.
And in there, there's uh there'sa little tiny little course on
channeling, and in that course,there's a little meditation to
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meet your guides.
So if you want to check thatout, go ahead, check that out.
Yeah.
Any questions before we wrap uptoday?
Have a wonderful snowy day.
We're looking at birds outsideeating seeds.
Well, thank you guys.
Thank you too.
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And yeah, we'll see you later.
Have a good day.
We are on the line.
SPEAKER_00 (00:10):
It's snowing.
Big time.
SPEAKER_02 (00:12):
There's a lot of snow.
Well, it's apparently it's a lotof snow coming.
SPEAKER_00 (00:17):
Oh no, there was a lot of snow.
I already cleared the drivewayonce.
Yeah.
Just to get the garbage in.
SPEAKER_02 (00:22):
Yeah, that's true.
That's true.
SPEAKER_00 (00:24):
There's a lot of snow.
SPEAKER_02 (00:26):
Can't even see across the lake.
SPEAKER_00 (00:28):
It's a funny thing, snow.
If you have things to do, youdon't like snow.
And if you don't have things todo, it's just beautiful.
And it's quiet and it'speaceful.
That's true.
SPEAKER_02 (00:43):
That's true.
SPEAKER_00 (00:44):
So the trick is to cancel everything.
SPEAKER_02 (00:46):
That's right.
Everything.
SPEAKER_00 (00:49):
It's snowing, cancel.
Cancel, cancel, cancel.
SPEAKER_02 (00:52):
Yeah.
SPEAKER_00 (00:53):
And I know that's not helpful to anybody out
there.
Yeah, right now the mothers arewaking up to snow days.
SPEAKER_02 (01:00):
I suppose, yeah, that's true.
SPEAKER_00 (01:02):
And doing the whole, all right, what am I gonna do?
How am I gonna do it?
SPEAKER_02 (01:07):
Yeah.
SPEAKER_00 (01:07):
What's gotta be done?
SPEAKER_02 (01:08):
My mom was a bus driver, so I already I always
knew it was a snow day, but I Iremember that feeling of waking
up and it was maybe this.
It looked like this out, youknow, that that light, that gray
dawn light, and just prayingthat it was a snow day.
SPEAKER_00 (01:28):
It's like you have been given a legitimate excuse
to do nothing.
SPEAKER_02 (01:33):
Yeah, instead of pretending to be sick, you had
something.
SPEAKER_00 (01:36):
Yeah, but I really feel sorry for the parts of the
world that don't have snowbecause they don't get to wake
up to snow days.
They don't get to say, oh well,everything today is cancelled.
All that stuff I didn't reallywant to do anyway.
SPEAKER_02 (01:50):
You get to hide in your mouth?
No.
SPEAKER_00 (01:52):
It's like snow day, totally legit.
Do we have chips?
SPEAKER_02 (01:55):
No, we don't.
SPEAKER_00 (01:57):
You gotta have snow chips.
You gotta have darm chips.
You gotta have your crisps, yourpotato chips ready to enjoy in
the middle of the snowy day.
SPEAKER_02 (02:07):
Yeah.
SPEAKER_00 (02:07):
As long as you have some of those in the cupboard,
it's gonna be just fine.
SPEAKER_02 (02:11):
That's right.
That's right.
So today, first of all, drop inthe chat if you can hear us.
I'm always a little nervousafter that one time.
But today we are discussing fearstill.
Awesome, you can hear us.
But I think I think we're gonnaput a spiritual twist on it.
(02:33):
I'm not sure how to explain thatany better.
Sort of, and it doesn't evenhave to be a spiritual twist.
It's more just sort of handingit over, knowing that we're not
we're not in control of others.
We can only be semi-in controlof ourselves, you know.
And I'm gonna give a coupleexamples as we go through.
SPEAKER_00 (02:56):
Well, you know, the so for me, I'm I'm uh I'm
already well down that thatroad, but I think for a lot of
people who are, I think for alot of people they distinguish
that which they might callspiritual.
Uh, some people might use thelabel religious, they
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distinguish that often from whatwe're trying to do here, which
is how to use your mind in waysthat help you rather than hinder
you, ways that support yourather than break you down.
And that's really what we wantto do as hypnotists, what we
want to do with this podcast.
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One of the things we know ashypnotists is that when a client
goes on, when a client decides,we always encourage clients to
sign up for programs, a plan, amultiple series of sessions that
are going to take them frompoint A to point B, point B
being where they chose they wantto be.
(04:00):
And it always happens that theexperience of the client is to
go from a real sense offrustration and helplessness to
a very expanded awareness oftheir mind, of what their mind
(04:21):
is capable of, of what is intheir mind, of how deep the mind
goes, how how much is in theirmind that they're not aware of,
that is shaping them bothpositively and negatively,
right?
That is impacting who they are,both positively and negatively.
(04:43):
And when you decide to go intothat journey mentally, right
down into your mind, and youdiscover the things that are
interfering with your ability tobe who you want to be, you also
discover how incredibly powerfulyou are, how incredibly deep and
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aware you are, and that thereare parts of you that you just
are not in the habit ofaccessing.
But if you access them and youstart to utilize them, you
really have a greater sense ofwho you are, you have a greater
sense of what you can do, youhave a greater sense of
(05:25):
possibility, you have a greatersense of freedom.
So, like even if even if we tookthe word God out of the picture
and we just focused on the mind,it's really hard not to have a
spiritual experience when youexplore your mind.
(05:45):
It's really hard not to findthings that you would call
spirit.
You know, if if you if the easylabel is in invisible,
invisible, unaware, out of yournormal experience, you start to
discover that stuff.
And I've come to the place, youknow, that uh that I'm really
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confident, right?
You can't have a spiritualpursuit that isn't mental.
You the answer is always themind.
And as we explore that, themind, we become more and more
aware of how our mind createswhatever we want to call
reality.
But I think as you're about todelve into what I think you're
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headed to, you know, rememberthat the mind is huge, the mind
is deep, and the mind is reallywhat you create from what you
really are.
And we've just proven that overand over and over, client after
client, our own explorations,our own lives.
You're gonna talk about, Ithink, a bit.
(06:51):
Uh I'll talk about mine.
Just the ability to go quiet, tostill your mind, and find in
there incredible solace.
And as we talk all the time, youknow, like the body is always
gonna distract you.
You're gonna have aches andpains, you're gonna have needs,
you're gonna have requirements,you're gonna be constantly being
(07:15):
reminded that you have a body,you need your body.
I have a body, I have a car, Ihave a driveway, I gotta plow
the darn thing.
And it's going to make me, it'sgoing to draw me out of my mind
and out into the world.
And that's why it's so importantto find for yourself some
methodology.
(07:36):
Some people they call it apractice, some methodology to
get into your mind.
And that's where that's theoperating system.
That's the that's the core, andthat's where you're going to
discover who you are, right?
SPEAKER_01 (07:51):
Yeah.
SPEAKER_00 (07:52):
Anyway, yeah, yeah.
Know that what we do every dayproves that you are much more
than you think you are.
SPEAKER_02 (08:01):
Absolutely.
Yeah.
So I as you guys know, we'vebeen talking about in the last
couple episodes, last coupledays really, this idea, this
decision really to not an ideaanymore, to sell the house.
And and the fear that comesalong with that.
(08:22):
And I've been a I don't mindsaying it, I don't mind sharing
my life, but I've been just awreck up and down, roller
coaster, excitement, and thencrying in the corner.
SPEAKER_00 (08:35):
Some might call it like a 180.
Yeah.
Yeah.
Going from absolute thrill, wow,to oh my god, what are we doing?
SPEAKER_02 (08:46):
Yeah.
Yeah.
And I was feeling actually as II want to first say to you, Les,
as I'm telling these stories, Iwant you to ask me questions if
they come to you, becausesometimes I have a hard time
explaining, and maybe I mightmiss something really important.
So I've been feeling reallyalone in the universe since this
(09:11):
decision.
I I really didn't feel like Iwas receiving any help, which
I'm kind of used to, maybe.
You know, I I was asking andasking and praying and in my own
way, and nothing nothing wasreally coming to me.
I wasn't feeling better.
(09:34):
I was feeling alone.
And and then again last nightbefore going to sleep, I asked.
And I did receive help at the inthe very, very last moments of
sleep this morning.
It's probably like 5 30 in themorning that I had a dream.
And the dream was very muchabout feeling like uh somebody
(10:00):
who ended up being me.
I was two people in the dream asone, but somebody had felt like
they had really messed up,right?
They had they felt judged, theyfelt if they were in fear, they
had wrecked everything, right?
And I was looking at them,feeling love for them, right?
(10:24):
Just caring about how they felt.
And and then there was a momentlater in the dream, not not that
much later, seconds really,where they were now presenting
something to their team.
And I should say that before,when they were saying sorry,
sorry, sorry to their teamaround them, the team was like,
(10:47):
No worries, like don't worryabout it.
It's okay.
Right.
And then now they're presentingthis new thing to their team,
and everybody's excited, but Icould still see on their face
that they felt bad about whathad happened before.
And I went up to them and I gavethem the biggest hug and I said,
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Everything is meant to be,right?
Everything that happens happensfor a reason.
And maybe what it would happenwas sort of this idea of God
taking it out of your lifebecause maybe there was an issue
with it, right?
Maybe God didn't want you goingthrough that, and you think it's
(11:30):
a failure on your part, but itwas actually a miracle, right?
So I felt love for this person.
I told them you are loved.
And I woke up asking theuniverse, asking God, who was I
in this dream?
Because I was actually, I waslooking at the person the whole
time, but after I thought, youknow, I'm sort of going through
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that in a way, and who am I inthis dream?
And immediately it was like,you're both, you are both and
one.
So that was interesting.
And it really gave me a lot ofcalm as I entered the day and a
lot of thoughtful processes.
So then I thought about havingthis uh team, you know.
(12:13):
I really I I couldn't see theteam.
I didn't in the dream, you know,I didn't know their faces or
anything, but I felt I feltthem, I saw them all around, and
I was part of them.
And I was encouraging and I washappy and and non-judgmental and
and just loving.
(12:34):
And I thought about how we canfeel like you said yesterday or
the day before, I can'tremember, but how we can feel so
alone as we're going throughthese fears or feeling like we
messed up or something likethat.
SPEAKER_00 (12:47):
Yeah, I think when we have fear, quite simply, when
we have fear, there's acomponent to it that we don't
acknowledge and that I think isworth shining a light on.
And fear almost always comeswith the idea that we are alone.
I'm alone in this.
This is this is all on me.
(13:10):
Yeah.
Uh and and oftentimes that'sthat's really at the end of it
what the cause of the fear is,right?
The situation that's presentedto you seems overwhelming only
because somewhere inside youthere's this idea that you're
alone.
SPEAKER_02 (13:31):
Yeah.
And yeah, it was it was it wasreally calming knowing that this
team was around me.
And when I woke up, I I feltlike maybe that's my spirit
team, right?
You know, those things that Ibelieve in.
And I'm seeing it from twoperspectives, right?
(13:52):
So also uh as we go along,again, anyone in the comments,
if you want to ask a question,please go ahead and do so.
SPEAKER_00 (14:01):
So I want to jump into here right at this point,
yeah.
Because I think it's a reallyhelpful idea.
In your dream, you know, dreams.
We we we wanted to do a podcaston dreams.
We ended up having a three-hourconversation ourselves and then
turning the microphone on.
Um, and we probably will do apodcast on dreams soon enough.
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Dreams are really amazing thingsbecause it really flexes the
boundaries of what you allowyour mind to do and what you
allow your mind to be, and whatyou allow your mind to access.
And, you know, there are allkinds of reports of very, very
meaningful dreams, very powerfuldreams, very prophetic dreams,
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dreams that are reflective abouta body experiences, all kinds of
stuff.
Dreams are wild.
But what's really cool in thedream is that you can be
multiple characters in thedream.
You can isolate aspects ofyourself into separate
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characters that play out a storyin front of you, like you're
watching a movie.
And you can extract hugemeanings from it.
So, for me, one of the thingsthat I think would be really
powerful for us to teach, and wetry uh I try to teach it to
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every client that's in thechair.
You know, I use the phrase theself-love is always.
That's the reframe.
Self-love is always, likebreathing is always.
You don't say I'm gonna go playtennis, but I'm not gonna
breathe.
Of course you're gonna breathewhile you play tennis, right?
You're gonna, you know, makedinner.
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Well, of course you're gonnabreathe while you make dinner.
It's very easy for us to saybreathing is always, and we can
do a million other things at thesame time.
I think it's hard for us to dothe same, have the same frame of
mind when we think aboutself-love.
Self-love is always, everythingwe do should be done in a spirit
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of self-love, right?
And what that means to me inpart is who's going to reassure
us, who's going to calm us,who's going to support us,
right?
We tend to look outward forsomebody to say, yeah, yeah,
that's all right.
(16:30):
We tell people a story aboutourselves.
Tell me I'm okay.
Tell me I'm I'm normal.
Tell me there's nothing wrongwith me.
Tell me that I can be forgiven.
Tell me that I can let go ofthis.
And we have this real tendencyto look outward to others.
And I just think that's thewrong source.
Because others have their ownlives, they have their own stuff
(16:52):
going on, right?
Everything they say and do isreally about them.
It's not about you.
Even when they say, I love you,right?
The first word is I.
Right?
It's about them.
I love you.
I'm telling you something aboutme, right?
You interpret it as somethingabout you, but what I'm really
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doing is telling you somethingabout me.
I think that to look to othersto make us feel better is not
always very wise.
In fact, often it can be unwisebecause you can just as easily
have a friend to say, Are younuts?
You should get medication.
You got to go to the doctor,right?
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You could just as easily have afriend who has a point of view
that's not supportive.
And they they might even stillsay to you, I love you.
But I don't think that it's wiseto look externally for
affirmations that you're okay.
I do think it's valuable to lookinternally and have an ongoing
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belief in yourself that I amlovable.
I'm always lovable.
Even when I behave badly, I'mstill lovable.
Even when I make mistakes, I'mstill lovable.
And so what I love about thatlast part of your dream is that
although it represented twopeople in your dream, you're
aware now that it's one personand that it's really up to me to
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take care of me.
It's up to me to believe in me.
It's up to me to forgive me.
It's up to me to do thosethings.
Because all the externalforgiveness in the world, all
the external pardons that we canget, it's never gonna deal with
the guilt.
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It's never gonna deal with theshame.
It's never gonna deal with theway I might judge myself.
Right.
So I think it's a beautiful, abeautiful little aspect.
Anything's possible in a dream.
And in that dream, you were ableto be two people, which are
really one person.
And you got to experience theidea that you can forgive
(19:06):
yourself, you can encourageyourself, you can be the one
that you turn to to say kindthings and supportive things.
SPEAKER_02 (19:18):
Yeah.
Yeah.
And that releases, funnilyenough, a lot of fear around
things because in the dream itbecame very apparent.
And I try to my I I say it to myclients a lot when they're open,
when I know that they're open tothat kind of idea.
But the idea that everythinghappens for a reason, and maybe
(19:42):
that that's not meant to happen,or this is meant to, you know,
it's up to the person, it's upto their life.
Go deeper on that.
But it's it really becameapparent that it's it's okay
that it's okay.
Not to judge yourself becausenobody's nobody's judging you
(20:04):
except for you, right?
The team around me, the teamaround this person, I always had
the perspective of looking atthe person, but uh the team
around me was not judgmental.
They were they were laughing andhaving fun and they were is the
word consoling in the beginning,but they weren't judging.
(20:27):
It was only the person thatjudged.
So much so that they they put upuh at one point in the dream,
they were sitting on a couch,they sat down on a couch, and
they pulled this giant dividerbetween myself and them because
they didn't want to be seen.
And yeah, it just it just by theend of the dream, it was
(20:50):
everybody was really happy.
They were happy, they werecrying when I was telling them
how loved they were.
But yeah, it was just reallyfear-releasing in that way.
So, you know, I'm not we'rewe're going through a lot in our
life right now, you know, withthem the idea that the idea, I
keep saying the idea.
(21:11):
It is an idea, but the thedecision to move.
And I guess this is probably uhhere.
Let me let me get into the chatfirst.
Funny how we all believe thatothers are judging us, yet they
really aren't paying attentionto us at all.
Yeah.
Yeah.
It's so true.
(21:31):
I mean, uh like when we thinkback on our life, it's not like
you know, it moments when wethink we're being judged.
I bet you those people that werearound us just have no clue what
we're if we were to say,remember that time, and they
have they they're just notpaying attention.
SPEAKER_00 (21:48):
That's not it's not paying attention.
Most people might even if theylook at you and say, you know,
go away, they don't hang on toit.
When we judge ourselves, we hangon to it.
SPEAKER_02 (22:02):
Yeah, so we remember it.
SPEAKER_00 (22:03):
Yeah.
SPEAKER_02 (22:04):
Yeah.
SPEAKER_00 (22:04):
We turn, you know, think of it as a spectrum of
preference.
I prefer this, I don't preferthat.
You know, I like chocolate icecream, not really a big
strawberry ice cream fananymore, right?
That's preference, things Iprefer.
And then we turn that preferenceinto judgment.
SPEAKER_01 (22:23):
Yeah.
SPEAKER_00 (22:24):
Right.
And goes from, you know, I likechocolate to chocolate's the
best, and strawberry's crab,right?
It it moves, it's sort of, Icall it the unnecessary next
step.
When I work with clients and westart to be clear about how we
move to judgment, judgment isunnecessary.
You can stop at your preference,right?
(22:46):
When I'm standing at thecounter, I can just say
chocolate, please.
SPEAKER_01 (22:49):
Yeah.
SPEAKER_00 (22:49):
I don't have to say, don't give me any of that darn
tiger tail crap, right?
Right.
I I can just stop at what Iprefer.
With ourselves, we get confused,right?
We start to think thateverything we do is
representative of who we are.
And it's not, right?
(23:09):
It's not, not at all.
We talk about the idea that I amnot what I do, I am the doer.
And we talk about the idea that,you know, I never learn anything
except by making a mistake,right?
If I did it right, then Ialready knew.
SPEAKER_02 (23:27):
Yeah.
SPEAKER_00 (23:27):
So I didn't learn anything from that.
And if I made a mistake, Ilearned something.
And that just means that thebest thing I can do for me is
make as many mistakes aspossible.
It really is.
That's how I learned.
It's the only way I learned.
And so I have to embrace thisidea that I'm not what I do,
(23:48):
right?
I'm the doer.
I learn from what I do.
I become more, I become greater.
And when we embrace thatmindset, then there's no room
for judgment, right?
Because mistakes are good,right?
Mistakes are valuable.
Mistakes serve a purpose.
But we take that unnecessarynext step and judge ourselves
(24:11):
because we made a mistake.
And that programs in us a realfear of ourselves.
SPEAKER_02 (24:18):
Yeah.
SPEAKER_00 (24:19):
I'm afraid to make a mistake because I ultimately I'm
afraid others are going to behard on me, but I know that I'm
going to be hard on me.
I know that I'm going to thinkbadly of myself.
And that's a program.
And that is a really painfulprogram.
SPEAKER_01 (24:38):
Yeah.
SPEAKER_00 (24:39):
Right?
I am not what I do.
Self-love is always.
I'm going to be the one to notjudge myself.
SPEAKER_02 (24:47):
Mm-hmm.
Yeah.
And I saw I suppose that's agood segue into what happened
last night.
So two days ago, two eveningsago, let's say, I got an email
out of nowhere asking if I woulddo a past life regression on
someone's channel for a group.
(25:08):
And I looked at their channel,and it's they have 1.1 million
followers.
And so immediate fear.
Immediate fear.
And I'm not fearful of doing theregression.
I mean, there's a little bit ofnervousness, but and and
(25:29):
speaking to all those people.
It's not going to be 1.1 millionpeople watching, but it's going
to be big.
And I noticed in the email thatthis person said, you know, I've
reached out to a fewregressionists and just please
fill out this form and I'll getback to you and we'll see who
moves forward.
(25:51):
And so the fear wasn't speakingin front of all these people.
The fear became the possiblerejection.
Right.
And so I was now in, I have todo everything in my power to not
be rejected.
So I filled out the form reallyquickly.
I did all right, whatever.
(26:13):
But where am I going with this?
So I filled out the form, gotback to her, said thank you,
looking forward to possiblychatting, and just let it go.
Right.
But this little fear is stillgoing on in my mind.
And but I did.
I just had to sort of let it go.
(26:33):
And then last night I got anemail back from her saying, Hey,
do you want to meet tomorrow fora quick 15-minute interview type
thing just to connect?
And I'm thinking, yay! And thenI look at the timestamp on the
email and I'm three hours lategetting back to her.
And I'm like, oh my God, I lost,I've lost it.
(26:55):
Like she's gonna disqualify mebecause I didn't get back to her
five minutes later.
Right.
And so all these fears ofrejection, you know, what is she
gonna think?
As if I'm not human, like as iflike I I'm not uh I'm just not
on my phone, especially in theevening, you know, we're
watching a movie or something,you know.
(27:16):
And so again, having to just letgo.
And I thought last night, andmaybe this is where the dream is
coming from, besides all theother stuff with the house.
I was thinking, I man, oh man, Imessed up on that.
Like I was way too late on thatemail.
I checked even even to the pointof checking right before I
closed my eyes, if she hademailed me back for sleep,
(27:40):
right?
And so yeah, just all thisinternal conflict, but I did
have to, before going to sleep,sort of say to myself, okay,
number one, if she's someonewho's gonna judge me for not
getting back to her right awayafter an email, is it somebody
that I want to work with anyway,you know?
(28:03):
And number two, if I don't uhreceive, if I if I don't get
this, you know, if I'm notaccepted, there's a reason I'm
not accepted.
Right?
The universe is saving me fromsomething or I don't know what,
you know.
(28:23):
God is taking care of me.
I'm just working throughout it.
I'm just doing things that I'mintuition is driving me to do.
And there was a number three.
Number three is oh yeah, thisidea that I sort of came to a
conclusion.
(28:43):
I can't remember if I came tothis conclusion last night or
this morning, but that uh theidea oh my gosh, it was at the
tip of my tongue and I'vealready forgotten it.
The idea, sorry guys.
Oh, I've forgotten it.
Oh my god.
Wrong life! I know I said it toyou before the podcast and I've
(29:06):
forgotten it.
Number one is I've forgotten.
Number one is yeah, Barbza's notmeant to be, but number one is
that see, fear is taking over mybrain right now and I'm
blanking.
Number one is that I don't wantto be working with somebody
who's judging me anyway.
(29:26):
Number two is that yeah, maybeit wasn't meant to be, right?
God's taking care of me nomatter what.
Oh, number three is that this nomatter what, this is something
in my life that I'm to learnfrom.
And it was presented to me uh bythe universe to learn from
(29:50):
whether or not I receive thecall or or not.
So what I'm learning from it sofar, anyway, is that I do have
the skills.
I do have the skills, and notbecause they reached out to me.
It's not like they're reachingout to me as like, oh, now I'm
good enough.
(30:10):
But it's sort of given me thisinternal drive to do my stuff,
right?
It's I was really, I mean,yesterday, if you had seen me,
like I was really down and outon life and the business and
just this roller coaster thatwe're going through or I'm going
through right now.
So it's given me this likefresh, uh renewed purpose
(30:33):
feeling.
Does that make sense?
SPEAKER_00 (30:35):
Does to me.
SPEAKER_02 (30:36):
Yeah.
Chad says, always lessons, allthings have a purpose.
Yeah.
SPEAKER_00 (30:41):
And even right there, you learned a technique.
It's really hard to holdmultiple things in your head at
once and explain them one at atime.
And that's just really hardbecause the the conscious minds
are really, really limited,right?
People don't realize just howlimited their logical mind is.
It can really only hold onething at a time.
So while you try to hold threethings and explain them, you're
(31:04):
really, really struggling tohold them all there.
So what all we did was go backto the concept that there were
three things, and we went one,two, and then three popped up
because that's how you had themclumped in your conscious mind.
There were three, and you'dcovered one and two, so now they
weren't there to remind you ofthree.
By simply going back to one andtwo, three pops right back up
(31:25):
because that's the way you wereholding them in your conscious
mind.
These are just little mentalhacks that just work, and there
you go.
Now you learn some.
SPEAKER_02 (31:37):
Yeah, when you have seven points and five points,
sometimes I'm thinking, how inthe world is he rem like, how
does he know there's five pointsbefore he starts talking?
SPEAKER_00 (31:49):
Yeah, yeah, sometimes because I'm helped.
SPEAKER_02 (31:53):
Yeah.
So yeah, that's my little story.
SPEAKER_00 (31:56):
And so let's go back to what we were gonna talk about
in the podcast and just bring itall back there, which was how we
can tap into this deep,wonderful thing that's mind.
And if you ever go on a journeyof discovering your mind, it's
one of those things we do.
(32:16):
We've had quite a few peopleengage that journey.
If you ever go on a journey inyour mind to understand who you
really are and how your mindreally works and how things
really are, you discover justhow deep your mind is and how
connected your mind is tosomething more, and how
available your mind is to abroader view of what's going on
(32:43):
here as you live a life in abody.
And the idea that we really saidwe would talk about this
morning, and we have, and now wejust got to bring it together,
was using the technique ofasking for help before you go to
sleep.
It's really, really a great wayto deal with your fears, to deal
(33:08):
with your lack of clarity aboutwhat you're doing, how you're
doing it, why you're doing it.
It's a really great way to dealwith just some things that
anything really that you wouldsuffer over, that you would hold
in your mind and see yourself asinadequate or see yourself as
unable, right?
And it seems silly, like who amI asking?
(33:31):
And there's a lot of ways tolook at it.
You on a basic psychology levelcan just ask your subconscious
mind, your deeper mind.
You have many, many levels toyour mind, many, many dimensions
to your mind that you just don'tuse most of the time.
And this world and this bodydoes its best to keep you from
(33:53):
accessing that stuff.
Because, you know, people whoare busy accessing their deeper
self and understanding thenature of the reality, well,
they just don't make goodworkers, right?
They don't show up to work ontime, they don't stick to jobs,
they're not inclined to bespending their lives making
somebody else rich.
(34:14):
And so the idea of allowingyourself to go deep into your
mind is really rare today in theworld.
But know and be confident thatscience is proving all the time
that your mind's way deeper thanyou think it is, that you are
much broader and deeper than youthink you are.
(34:35):
And I'm gonna suggest to youthat when you go on one of these
journeys where you want toreally understand who you are,
that's when you discover howyour mind is really unlimited.
Why we call the school theinfinite mind.
Your mind really reaches up toyour higher self.
(34:55):
And that higher self is genius,that higher self is aware.
That higher self has realunderstanding of what the heck
you're doing here and why.
And you can reach into that minduh deliberately through things
like hypnosis and meditation,and you can reach into that mind
(35:16):
in a more passive way by simplyasking yourself, asking for help
before you go to sleep.
And I have been doing it now foryears, and I'll have nights
where I I I know I have beenhelped, and I don't really
recall what it is I've beenhelped with.
I have nights when I wake up inthe morning and it happened last
(35:39):
week.
I had a song in my head, right?
It was this song, and I said,Why is this song in my head?
Right?
Like, how did sometimes how inmy sleep?
SPEAKER_02 (35:48):
Say the the name of the song.
SPEAKER_00 (35:50):
Have a little faith in me.
Right.
And, you know, there you are,just asking for help.
And then this song Have a LittleFaith in Me.
And then if you ever, you know,it's a Hyatt, is it John Hyatt?
It's a John Hyatt song.
Look up the lyrics, you read thelyrics, and it's like you could
(36:10):
easily interpret it as Godtalking to you.
And it's just a song on one ofmy playlists from years ago,
right?
But it it was stuck in my head.
Sometimes I wake up with aphrase in my head.
And on those nights now, whenthat phrase is in my head and I
find myself engaged in sort ofsemi-sleep thinking about that,
(36:33):
I do my best to really writethat down and engage that
because there's value there.
It's been put planted, who caresfrom where?
It's been planted in my mind.
And, you know, I have somenights I ask for help and I just
wake up in the morning justbuzzing with energy, just
feeling like I'm on anotherlevel, and I know I've been
(36:56):
helped.
You can you can have a greatdeal of belief in anything you
want.
I don't think the people, theentities, the the souls that
help us, I don't think they carewhat we call them.
I don't think they care what welabel them.
I think they just really like tobe asked to help.
(37:19):
And whether that's your highermind or your higher self, or
it's an angel, or it's a guide,or whatever word you want to put
on it, it is there and it'swaiting for you.
And we've discovered thisthrough hypnosis.
I it's one of my favorite thingsis when I reach a stage with a
(37:40):
client where they just want tobe introduced to their guides.
They they they become aware thatsomething's going on.
They feel like it's more thanjust their little human self,
and they want to know what thehell is that and where's that
coming from?
And it's so exciting to takesomebody into a trance and go
(38:01):
really, really deep, and then goto the other side and go back
and say, here, this is whyyou're here, and this is what
you're here to do.
And hi, my name is whatever youwant to call me, and my name is
whatever you want to call me,and we're your guides, and we're
with you all the time, and we'reconstantly available, and all
you got to do is turn to us.
(38:22):
Yeah, yeah.
You can you can get right outthere on the scientific level
that talks about what goes on indreams and how deep the mind is,
and you can go in the otherdirection and call it spirit and
call it woo-woo, or call itwhatever you want, because it
really doesn't matter what youcall it, because what matters is
on a day-to-day basis, if youare willing to ask for help and
(38:45):
you are willing to listen forhelp, and you are willing to
truly engage that belief thatyou have that you're not alone,
you will be helped.
And it will be life-changing.
Yeah, like and I'll I'll justsay it now as the observer.
Yeah, Hillary woke up a lotbetter today.
(39:05):
Yeah.
She's a she's in a differentplace today, you know.
Yeah, uh, it's it's easy for meto see.
SPEAKER_02 (39:12):
Yeah, thank you.
Yeah, I remember uh for me, thismeans a lot, and I'll just share
it.
About two and a half years ago,I woke up and it was I woke up
in the morning, and this themost beautiful I couldn't even
tell you if it was a male orfemale voice, really, but the
(39:33):
most beautiful voice, audiblevoice, not not a thought voice,
like it sounded like me talkingto you kind of thing, right?
Or you talking to me.
His most beautiful voice saidsaid to me as I was coming it
asleep, the highest in peacebelieves in you.
And I swear to God, I'll have atattoo of it someday.
(39:54):
But it's always sort of broughtme back when in times of, you
know.
I I I try to think of itespecially when I feel lost.
So to your what you were saying,it's definitely spend some some
time reaching out to source, tothe universe, to to the
(40:15):
consciousness around you thatyou are part of.
And yeah, just just allowing.
(40:36):
But that reminds me what youwere saying about the guides in
the school.
In the school, there's aclassroom called The Infinite
Soul.
And in there, there's uh there'sa little tiny little course on
channeling, and in that course,there's a little meditation to
(40:56):
meet your guides.
So if you want to check thatout, go ahead, check that out.
Yeah.
Any questions before we wrap uptoday?
Have a wonderful snowy day.
We're looking at birds outsideeating seeds.
Well, thank you guys.
Thank you too.
(41:16):
And yeah, we'll see you later.
Have a good day.
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