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August 28, 2025 44 mins

Ever feel like you’re drawn to the wrong people—repeatedly? That pull isn’t random. It’s often old patterns and unhealed wounds running the show, not true safety or connection.

If dating has left you feeling confused, overwhelmed, or ready to give up, you’re not imagining it—and you’re not alone.

In this episode, I sit down with Bernardo Mendez, relationship coach and creator of one of YouTube’s top dating advice channels, for a grounded look at what’s really happening beneath the surface—especially in dating in midlife. Using a neuroscience-based approach, Bern has helped hundreds of women move past subconscious patterns into healthier, more conscious connections.

We talk about how unhealed wounds and nervous system triggers shape your choices in love. Bern shares what he’s learned from guiding women through heartbreak, healing, and aligned relationships. If you’ve ever felt like you’re “too much,” “not enough,” or just tired of the same dating challenges, this one’s for you.

You’ll learn:

  • Why nervous system regulation is key to attraction and lasting emotional connection
  • The difference between chemistry, fireworks, and trauma bonds
  • Why giving someone three dates can shift everything
  • What grounded dating expectations really look like
  • How to spot aligned relationship dynamics early
  • Why curiosity builds more safety than checklist energy
  • How to shift from surface traits to values that support personal growth

Dating doesn’t have to feel like a loop of disappointment. If you’re ready to show up differently—and choose differently—this episode offers insight, tools, and hope for what’s ahead.

Cheers to finding love,

Laurie

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