August 5, 2025 • 17 mins
Advice pulled from these episodes:
Everyone wants to feel more confident, but few of us know exactly how to get there. What if the secret wasn't complicated self-help programs but simple daily habits that gradually transform how we see ourselves?
After asking countless podcast guests "What do you do every day to feel more confident?", I've compiled their most powerful answers into this special episode. The beauty of these responses lies in their accessibility – these aren't grand, unattainable gestures but small, consistent actions that anyone can implement starting today.
From the guest who wakes up early to exercise before her children rise, to another who faithfully keeps a "proof log" documenting one daily accomplishment, these practices reveal a common thread: confidence comes from honoring commitments to yourself. Some find confidence in outward actions, like one guest who makes it her mission to make someone else smile every day, discovering that this generosity circles back as personal confidence. Others build confidence through stillness – taking time to quiet their minds, ask intentional questions, and patiently wait for inner wisdom to emerge.
Morning routines emerged as particularly powerful confidence boosters, with multiple guests emphasizing how getting dressed and prepared each day – even when no one else would see them – provided energy and purpose. Self-care, whether through enjoying preferred foods, taking time for personal interests, or using techniques like Mel Robbins' 5-4-3-2-1 countdown, proved equally essential.
Which of these confidence practices might work for you? I'd love to hear what daily habits already help you feel your best. Find me on Instagram @confidentlybeautifulpodcast and share your own confidence rituals – your insight might just inspire next week's episode!
Join my e-mail list: Click here
Take my skincare quiz: Click here
Buy makeup products here and help survivors of child sexual abuse
Shop Confident Expression Etsy Shop: Click here
Visit saprea.org to learn more about hope and healing from child sexual abuse
Visit Defend Innocence for resources on child sexual abuse prevention
Connect with Ciera on Instagram @confidentlybeautifulpodcast
Mark as Played
Transcript
Episode Transcript
Available transcripts are automatically generated. Complete accuracy is not guaranteed.
Ciera (00:03):
you're listening to, confidently beautiful with
sierra a podcast to help youstay confidently beautiful,
because we all have confidenceinside us.
We just need to bring it outand I'm here to show you how
body image, dreams, parenting,style, personality and more here
we cover it all.
Get ready to stay confidentlybeautiful.
One question that I ask everyguest that I have on this
(00:28):
podcast is what do you do everyday that helps you feel more
confident?
I love to ask this question andI love all of the different
answers that I get.
There are things I never hadeven thought of doing before and
some things that I can totallyrelate to that I myself do.
While every day we can't dothings exactly 100%, perfectly
(00:48):
like we would like to, I do findthat we all have some things
that we try and do as often aswe can that helps us to feel
like our best self, and so thisis why I love this question,
because I think it can besomething that can be fun, to
spark ideas on what we can dosomething simple, something easy
that we can do every single dayto help us love ourselves a
(01:10):
little bit more and feel alittle bit more confident in our
abilities.
So for today's episode.
I wanted to pull all of theanswers from our guests that we
have had on episodes in the pastand compile all of their
answers into one episode on whatpeople do every day to help
them feel more confident.
I hope that this episode canspark something in you and maybe
(01:32):
give you some ideas of thinkingof things that you can do every
day to help yourself feel moreconfident, and I would love to
hear what you are already doingevery day that brings out your
confidence.
So find me on Instagram atconfidentlybeautifulpodcast and
let's talk about the things thatyou are doing every day, and
then maybe next week I can comehere and share some examples
(01:53):
from our listeners of thingsthat you are already doing to
help you feel more confident.
Enjoy this episode and dosomething for yourself today
that makes you remember howamazing you truly are and what
is one thing you try and do eachday to bring out your
confidence.
It can be anything.
Kim (02:10):
For me, I would say complimenting others.
When I see something that Ilove about someone else, I make
sure that I say it, send them atext, give them a smile,
whatever it is, and then, okay,maybe I have two.
The other one is I really tryto write in my gratitude journal
.
I feel like that really helpsme just be thankful, and I feel
(02:34):
like being thankful has a lot todo with confidence.
So, yeah, that's something thatI do every day.
What is one thing you do eachday to help with your confidence
?
It can be mom related oranything.
Jacquelyn (02:41):
I'm crazy now when I get up at five in the morning
and I work out before my kidsare awake.
Sometimes they get up andsometimes I think to myself this
is my time and you're watchingme go back to bed.
Go back to bed, but I do.
I've been trying to get upearly, work out, get myself
ready for the day and then whenI emerge from my room, I feel
(03:04):
like if I'm put together, I'mready for anything.
I just always feel better andlike I can take on anything if
I'm dressed and ready to go.
I've never been a really earlybird.
I would probably prefer to stayup late, but I don't always
have that luxury because I gotpeople in my house that want to
get up really early in themorning.
(03:25):
So now I have to get up evenearlier than they do.
But I do that and I'm also alist maker and a box checker.
I have a little planner and Ihave little boxes that I have
things that I do every day or ifit's just one thing for the
week.
I like to check a box when Iget home.
I'm checking the box that Irecorded the podcast.
I love it and that kind of keepsme on track.
(03:52):
It gives me a boost when I can.
I don't know why it's so fun tocheck a box and I'm as neurotic
as I have on my list that Imake my bed and I drink, you
know, half a gallon of water atleast every day when I work out
and just think my kids homeworkIf my kids did their homework, I
checked the box because I wasthere for the homework.
So I think those things help mefeel like I can do it, I can,
(04:17):
I'm getting something done andthen I can continue to do more.
And I never would have thoughtthat that would give me
confidence, but I guess the moreI think about it, yeah, that
does make me confident in justbeing a living, breathing human
being.
That mostly feels like a living, breathing human being and not
a zombie.
All the time You're just goingthrough your day.
Ciera (04:38):
I love it.
I like to end all of myinterviews with this question,
and it does not have to bemotivation related, just
whatever it comes to you.
But do you?
What is one thing you do eachday that helps you to stay
confident and bring yourconfidence?
Camille (04:51):
out.
Yes, what a good question.
I think a really good sense ofconfidence is knowing who you
are, and so, for me, I reallylove to surround myself with
people that know who I really am, where I have kind of built
this public persona, where Icreate so much online that I
(05:12):
feel like I need to filter thatspace and really give myself
time to remember who I am.
So, for me, building thatconfidence I mean I feel like
it's a lot of little things thatI do every day, but probably
one big one is staying connectedwith God and having a source of
(05:34):
that inspiration that I'mperfect at it.
But I think just having a senseof like people who really
surrounding yourself, withpeople who know you, and that
you know you, you know likereally investing that time in
your, your value and your worth,yeah, um, and I feel like
(05:59):
people around you can be amirror for you, and so just
surrounding yourself in thatpositive light is where I build
that confidence, because Ireally try to create a sense of
who I am that way.
I love that.
Thank you so much.
Ciera (06:14):
I like to end all of my interviews with one thing that
you do every day for yourconfidence.
It doesn't need to be relatedto anything that we've just
talked about, just somethingthat you do every day to help
you feel confident.
What do you do?
Bobbi (06:26):
Oh man, there's so many things I do every day.
I really try to make someonesmile every day and you're good
at that.
I feel like when I make someoneelse smile or give them a
compliment, it actually in turndoes more for me than it does
(06:47):
for them.
Yeah, and to change someone'sday or hour or minute in their
life that could be going wrongor them feeling down about
themselves, and to see themsmile and be like, oh, thank you
, it does so much more for yourconfidence, I think, than it
(07:08):
does for them.
And then I probably would say Ialways, and I wouldn't say every
day but to do something foryour own self-care, to be
selfish sometimes, whether thatis taking an hour to watch your
(07:28):
favorite TV show or turning onmusic and dancing around the
house, going to work out,getting ready for the day, going
to get a massage, a massage,something that makes you feel
(07:49):
whole, and taking that time andbeing selfish and taking just
that sliver of time away fromeverybody else, I think that
that is what is the key to theconfidence.
Yeah, I think it's so easy tolose yourself in being a mom, in
being a wife, in being a friend, in serving in your church
(08:14):
capacity or in your community orin your job, that it's easy to
lose yourself in that and Ithink just taking a moment in
your day to be selfish and to doself-care I think is probably
the biggest key.
Ciera (08:32):
That's really kind of key being confident yeah.
You can't know who you are ifyou don't spend time with
yourself.
You're right Take care ofyourself.
I like to end all of myepisodes with this one question,
so it doesn't have to berelated to anything we've talked
about, but it probably will bejust knowing you.
But what's one thing you liketo do every day to help you with
your confidence?
Laci (08:54):
Goodness, we just talked about this right, yeah, all the
things.
Confidence is my word of theyear.
Let's see one more thing maybethat I haven't mentioned.
I exercise 5, 4, three, two,one, the Mel Robbins, the Mel
Robbins.
I've been really implementingthat, I've been really
implementing that and I just andthat gives me the, the, the
like, the confidence, yeah.
Ciera (09:11):
Well cause, when anxiety comes, it's hard to, it's hard
to move Like yeah.
Laci (09:16):
Yeah, so it's usually usually like I have a different,
I have I have many differenttools, so it's really it's like
really listening to my intuitionyeah, listening to my intuition
and and reminding myself thatI'm loved, yeah, I love that.
Ciera (09:31):
If you're not familiar with that, Mel Robbins, she has
the thing that like, if you wantto, if you want to do something
, then you just and you'rescared to do it or think you
need to get out of bed, but youdon't want to, you just go five,
four, three, two, one and thenyou do it.
And like I've been starting todo that with my kids, Like if
they don't want to do something,I'm like five, four, three, two
, one, and then they like justlike you, just got to do it, and
so it kind of reminds me whenyou're a kid and you're like you
don't race me to the race.
Laci (09:51):
Yeah yeah, you do every day to help you with your
confidence, oh yeah.
Teresa (10:09):
I am still learning to trust myself.
Listen to myself.
You know, sometimes when you'vehad past trauma, you doubt
yourself more than anything Likeyou've had.
People tell you what you shouldbe thinking, and it's very hard
, especially in a world wherethere's a lot of thought leaders
out there and here's what youshould be thinking.
Right that getting quiet hasbeen a real journey for me.
And so, with ADHD, I'm like Ooh, squirrel, shiny, oh, look,
(10:34):
it's like I wonder what's in thefridge right now.
You know, and you know, usingmy brain to help myself has been
a huge eye opener, because whenyou ask intentionally, you will
receive the answers.
You know ask and ye shallreceive.
It's a real thing.
But we are not good receivers,we're good askers, but we don't
(10:55):
stop and wait for the answer.
We don't trust that the answerwill come on time.
We just forget that we askedand just troubleshoot life on
our own.
Come on time.
We just forget that we askedand just troubleshoot life on
our own.
So, for me, building trust andconfidence with myself is
sitting still, sit a littlelonger, breathe and keep asking
(11:20):
what would you have me do today?
How can I serve today?
What's the most important thingI can do today and then wait
for that answer to come up,because if my brain's really
busy it's very hard to hear theanswer.
But if you get into your heartand take your brain to your
heart it's like, okay, I needyou brain to help me in my heart
hear the answer.
Okay, so you turn your braininto the helper, yes, and you
(11:42):
get really quiet and you justask and then be willing to
receive.
That builds trust and confidenceand that has changed my
coaching immensely, because whenI go into a coaching session so
my profession is benefited, myfamily has benefited, like all
the benefits are coming when I'masking, cause, when I, when I
(12:02):
ask, especially before acoaching session you know,
please only let me hear what youwould have me hear and please
let me only speak the words thatneed to be spoken.
And please help me know yourwill for this person that I say
things I've never said before.
You know the intuition comesthrough the.
You know being able to channelthe spirit into a conversation
(12:25):
that changes both of our lives.
There's gifts for everybodythere.
It's amazing and that's whatbrings confidence that I don't
have to have all the answers,same as you in parenting, you
don't have to have all theanswers.
But if you ask, watch and theanswers will come and you'll say
things you've never said before.
You're like was good, where'dthat come from?
it wasn't you, it was you knowcontrol zilla your brain it
(12:49):
wasn't her, it was literallyyour spirit was leading you, and
that will bring you moreconfidence than anything else in
the world what is one thingthat you try and do every day
for yourself, to bring out yourconfidence?
Amy (13:01):
that's's a hard question, especially like as a stay at
home mom.
You sometimes feel like youdon't do anything for you.
All you do is just keepchildren alive and hope they
don't scream at you for themajority of the day, right, yep?
(13:22):
And so for me I have.
The thing that I have tried todo every day for me is make a
dinner that I enjoy, because Ialso really love food, and so,
(13:43):
lately, even I will make thingsthat I know my kids and my
husband are not going to like.
But I love and you're a goodcook and that brings out your
confidence and I just say, doyou know what?
I don't care, yeah, that I'mactually making two dinners,
because I'm gonna heat up somechicken nuggets and some frozen
(14:04):
french fries for my husband andmy children and I'm going to
enjoy this giant salad withpesto dressing and sun-dried
tomatoes, and all of thisbecause they're not going to
like it, but I will, and thatlittle piece of joy is going to
make me happy.
I love that.
Ciera (14:20):
What is one thing that you like to do every day to just
help you bring out yourconfidence?
It really is playing the piano.
Emily (14:27):
That, to me, is just the most grounding, centering thing
that I do and, in all honesty,part of why I love yoga so much
is because it just seems like anextension of that and something
that I carry with me when Iplay the piano anyway, but what
is one thing that you do everyday to help you feel confident?
Nicki (14:46):
Get up and get ready.
I feel like getting up,showering, doing my hair, doing
my makeup, making my bed thatmorning routine.
When we moved here we werenewly married.
We'd only been married justover a year.
I knew nothing about ranchingand this ranch has been in my
husband's family for like ahundred years and we moved out
(15:07):
here to run it not reallyknowing what we were doing.
And I remember my mom sayingjust because you live in the
middle of nowhere doesn't meanyou should turn into a hag
Always got ready.
My mom was a stay at home mom.
Most of my childhood Wasn'tuntil I was in high school that
she went to work, but she alwaysgot up and got ready and she
(15:30):
was like you still need to getup and get ready, do that for
you.
And I really took that to heartand was like you know what?
There's?
No, I shouldn't get up and getready.
And I have a friend that liveson a farm on the other side of
the town close to us, and unlessshe's leaving the house, she
doesn't.
She's like no one's going tosee me.
Why should I have more energy?
I have more, you know.
Just drive to get things donein the day.
(15:58):
If I don't, if I stay in mypajamas and I don't get ready, I
don't want to do anything.
And so I feel like that is ahuge, a huge confidence boost
for me to just feel good aboutmyself and just give me the
boost to, you know, get thingsdone.
So that's something I do everyday.
Ciera (16:17):
I some days it takes me a little longer to get there, but
I I get up and get ready everymorning, and so what is one
thing that you do every day, ortry to do every day, that helps
you to feel more confident?
Lyndsey (16:30):
Oh, okay, I feel like there's a few things, but one of
the things that ties in withwhat we've been talking about is
I try to keep what I call aproof log.
So on a daily basis, I havelike a little app that I do this
through, but on a daily basis Iwrite down one thing from my
day that gave me proof of mycapability or my resilience or
(16:52):
my growth or whatever it mightbe.
It's like a CBT based skill,but maybe it's like sometimes
for me it's like I rememberedevery single appointment I had
booked today, or it's like I wasable to not yell at my kids
when I felt super, superfrustrated.
So it's just writing down onepiece of proof that I am
(17:15):
competent or I am resilient or Iam capable.
Ciera (17:18):
Thanks for listening.
Connect with me on Instagram atconfidentlybeautifulpodcast and
share this episode with someonein your life who could use a
little reminder of just howamazing they already are.
Stay confidently beautiful.
you're listening to, confidently beautiful with
sierra a podcast to help youstay confidently beautiful,
because we all have confidenceinside us.
We just need to bring it outand I'm here to show you how
body image, dreams, parenting,style, personality and more here
we cover it all.
Get ready to stay confidentlybeautiful.
One question that I ask everyguest that I have on this
(00:28):
podcast is what do you do everyday that helps you feel more
confident?
I love to ask this question andI love all of the different
answers that I get.
There are things I never hadeven thought of doing before and
some things that I can totallyrelate to that I myself do.
While every day we can't dothings exactly 100%, perfectly
(00:48):
like we would like to, I do findthat we all have some things
that we try and do as often aswe can that helps us to feel
like our best self, and so thisis why I love this question,
because I think it can besomething that can be fun, to
spark ideas on what we can dosomething simple, something easy
that we can do every single dayto help us love ourselves a
(01:10):
little bit more and feel alittle bit more confident in our
abilities.
So for today's episode.
I wanted to pull all of theanswers from our guests that we
have had on episodes in the pastand compile all of their
answers into one episode on whatpeople do every day to help
them feel more confident.
I hope that this episode canspark something in you and maybe
(01:32):
give you some ideas of thinkingof things that you can do every
day to help yourself feel moreconfident, and I would love to
hear what you are already doingevery day that brings out your
confidence.
So find me on Instagram atconfidentlybeautifulpodcast and
let's talk about the things thatyou are doing every day, and
then maybe next week I can comehere and share some examples
(01:53):
from our listeners of thingsthat you are already doing to
help you feel more confident.
Enjoy this episode and dosomething for yourself today
that makes you remember howamazing you truly are and what
is one thing you try and do eachday to bring out your
confidence.
It can be anything.
Kim (02:10):
For me, I would say complimenting others.
When I see something that Ilove about someone else, I make
sure that I say it, send them atext, give them a smile,
whatever it is, and then, okay,maybe I have two.
The other one is I really tryto write in my gratitude journal
.
I feel like that really helpsme just be thankful, and I feel
(02:34):
like being thankful has a lot todo with confidence.
So, yeah, that's something thatI do every day.
What is one thing you do eachday to help with your confidence
?
It can be mom related oranything.
Jacquelyn (02:41):
I'm crazy now when I get up at five in the morning
and I work out before my kidsare awake.
Sometimes they get up andsometimes I think to myself this
is my time and you're watchingme go back to bed.
Go back to bed, but I do.
I've been trying to get upearly, work out, get myself
ready for the day and then whenI emerge from my room, I feel
(03:04):
like if I'm put together, I'mready for anything.
I just always feel better andlike I can take on anything if
I'm dressed and ready to go.
I've never been a really earlybird.
I would probably prefer to stayup late, but I don't always
have that luxury because I gotpeople in my house that want to
get up really early in themorning.
(03:25):
So now I have to get up evenearlier than they do.
But I do that and I'm also alist maker and a box checker.
I have a little planner and Ihave little boxes that I have
things that I do every day or ifit's just one thing for the
week.
I like to check a box when Iget home.
I'm checking the box that Irecorded the podcast.
I love it and that kind of keepsme on track.
(03:52):
It gives me a boost when I can.
I don't know why it's so fun tocheck a box and I'm as neurotic
as I have on my list that Imake my bed and I drink, you
know, half a gallon of water atleast every day when I work out
and just think my kids homeworkIf my kids did their homework, I
checked the box because I wasthere for the homework.
So I think those things help mefeel like I can do it, I can,
(04:17):
I'm getting something done andthen I can continue to do more.
And I never would have thoughtthat that would give me
confidence, but I guess the moreI think about it, yeah, that
does make me confident in justbeing a living, breathing human
being.
That mostly feels like a living, breathing human being and not
a zombie.
All the time You're just goingthrough your day.
Ciera (04:38):
I love it.
I like to end all of myinterviews with this question,
and it does not have to bemotivation related, just
whatever it comes to you.
But do you?
What is one thing you do eachday that helps you to stay
confident and bring yourconfidence?
Camille (04:51):
out.
Yes, what a good question.
I think a really good sense ofconfidence is knowing who you
are, and so, for me, I reallylove to surround myself with
people that know who I really am, where I have kind of built
this public persona, where Icreate so much online that I
(05:12):
feel like I need to filter thatspace and really give myself
time to remember who I am.
So, for me, building thatconfidence I mean I feel like
it's a lot of little things thatI do every day, but probably
one big one is staying connectedwith God and having a source of
(05:34):
that inspiration that I'mperfect at it.
But I think just having a senseof like people who really
surrounding yourself, withpeople who know you, and that
you know you, you know likereally investing that time in
your, your value and your worth,yeah, um, and I feel like
(05:59):
people around you can be amirror for you, and so just
surrounding yourself in thatpositive light is where I build
that confidence, because Ireally try to create a sense of
who I am that way.
I love that.
Thank you so much.
Ciera (06:14):
I like to end all of my interviews with one thing that
you do every day for yourconfidence.
It doesn't need to be relatedto anything that we've just
talked about, just somethingthat you do every day to help
you feel confident.
What do you do?
Bobbi (06:26):
Oh man, there's so many things I do every day.
I really try to make someonesmile every day and you're good
at that.
I feel like when I make someoneelse smile or give them a
compliment, it actually in turndoes more for me than it does
(06:47):
for them.
Yeah, and to change someone'sday or hour or minute in their
life that could be going wrongor them feeling down about
themselves, and to see themsmile and be like, oh, thank you
, it does so much more for yourconfidence, I think, than it
(07:08):
does for them.
And then I probably would say Ialways, and I wouldn't say every
day but to do something foryour own self-care, to be
selfish sometimes, whether thatis taking an hour to watch your
(07:28):
favorite TV show or turning onmusic and dancing around the
house, going to work out,getting ready for the day, going
to get a massage, a massage,something that makes you feel
(07:49):
whole, and taking that time andbeing selfish and taking just
that sliver of time away fromeverybody else, I think that
that is what is the key to theconfidence.
Yeah, I think it's so easy tolose yourself in being a mom, in
being a wife, in being a friend, in serving in your church
(08:14):
capacity or in your community orin your job, that it's easy to
lose yourself in that and Ithink just taking a moment in
your day to be selfish and to doself-care I think is probably
the biggest key.
Ciera (08:32):
That's really kind of key being confident yeah.
You can't know who you are ifyou don't spend time with
yourself.
You're right Take care ofyourself.
I like to end all of myepisodes with this one question,
so it doesn't have to berelated to anything we've talked
about, but it probably will bejust knowing you.
But what's one thing you liketo do every day to help you with
your confidence?
Laci (08:54):
Goodness, we just talked about this right, yeah, all the
things.
Confidence is my word of theyear.
Let's see one more thing maybethat I haven't mentioned.
I exercise 5, 4, three, two,one, the Mel Robbins, the Mel
Robbins.
I've been really implementingthat, I've been really
implementing that and I just andthat gives me the, the, the
like, the confidence, yeah.
Ciera (09:11):
Well cause, when anxiety comes, it's hard to, it's hard
to move Like yeah.
Laci (09:16):
Yeah, so it's usually usually like I have a different,
I have I have many differenttools, so it's really it's like
really listening to my intuitionyeah, listening to my intuition
and and reminding myself thatI'm loved, yeah, I love that.
Ciera (09:31):
If you're not familiar with that, Mel Robbins, she has
the thing that like, if you wantto, if you want to do something
, then you just and you'rescared to do it or think you
need to get out of bed, but youdon't want to, you just go five,
four, three, two, one and thenyou do it.
And like I've been starting todo that with my kids, Like if
they don't want to do something,I'm like five, four, three, two
, one, and then they like justlike you, just got to do it, and
so it kind of reminds me whenyou're a kid and you're like you
don't race me to the race.
Laci (09:51):
Yeah yeah, you do every day to help you with your
confidence, oh yeah.
Teresa (10:09):
I am still learning to trust myself.
Listen to myself.
You know, sometimes when you'vehad past trauma, you doubt
yourself more than anything Likeyou've had.
People tell you what you shouldbe thinking, and it's very hard
, especially in a world wherethere's a lot of thought leaders
out there and here's what youshould be thinking.
Right that getting quiet hasbeen a real journey for me.
And so, with ADHD, I'm like Ooh, squirrel, shiny, oh, look,
(10:34):
it's like I wonder what's in thefridge right now.
You know, and you know, usingmy brain to help myself has been
a huge eye opener, because whenyou ask intentionally, you will
receive the answers.
You know ask and ye shallreceive.
It's a real thing.
But we are not good receivers,we're good askers, but we don't
(10:55):
stop and wait for the answer.
We don't trust that the answerwill come on time.
We just forget that we askedand just troubleshoot life on
our own.
Come on time.
We just forget that we askedand just troubleshoot life on
our own.
So, for me, building trust andconfidence with myself is
sitting still, sit a littlelonger, breathe and keep asking
(11:20):
what would you have me do today?
How can I serve today?
What's the most important thingI can do today and then wait
for that answer to come up,because if my brain's really
busy it's very hard to hear theanswer.
But if you get into your heartand take your brain to your
heart it's like, okay, I needyou brain to help me in my heart
hear the answer.
Okay, so you turn your braininto the helper, yes, and you
(11:42):
get really quiet and you justask and then be willing to
receive.
That builds trust and confidenceand that has changed my
coaching immensely, because whenI go into a coaching session so
my profession is benefited, myfamily has benefited, like all
the benefits are coming when I'masking, cause, when I, when I
(12:02):
ask, especially before acoaching session you know,
please only let me hear what youwould have me hear and please
let me only speak the words thatneed to be spoken.
And please help me know yourwill for this person that I say
things I've never said before.
You know the intuition comesthrough the.
You know being able to channelthe spirit into a conversation
(12:25):
that changes both of our lives.
There's gifts for everybodythere.
It's amazing and that's whatbrings confidence that I don't
have to have all the answers,same as you in parenting, you
don't have to have all theanswers.
But if you ask, watch and theanswers will come and you'll say
things you've never said before.
You're like was good, where'dthat come from?
it wasn't you, it was you knowcontrol zilla your brain it
(12:49):
wasn't her, it was literallyyour spirit was leading you, and
that will bring you moreconfidence than anything else in
the world what is one thingthat you try and do every day
for yourself, to bring out yourconfidence?
Amy (13:01):
that's's a hard question, especially like as a stay at
home mom.
You sometimes feel like youdon't do anything for you.
All you do is just keepchildren alive and hope they
don't scream at you for themajority of the day, right, yep?
(13:22):
And so for me I have.
The thing that I have tried todo every day for me is make a
dinner that I enjoy, because Ialso really love food, and so,
(13:43):
lately, even I will make thingsthat I know my kids and my
husband are not going to like.
But I love and you're a goodcook and that brings out your
confidence and I just say, doyou know what?
I don't care, yeah, that I'mactually making two dinners,
because I'm gonna heat up somechicken nuggets and some frozen
(14:04):
french fries for my husband andmy children and I'm going to
enjoy this giant salad withpesto dressing and sun-dried
tomatoes, and all of thisbecause they're not going to
like it, but I will, and thatlittle piece of joy is going to
make me happy.
I love that.
Ciera (14:20):
What is one thing that you like to do every day to just
help you bring out yourconfidence?
It really is playing the piano.
Emily (14:27):
That, to me, is just the most grounding, centering thing
that I do and, in all honesty,part of why I love yoga so much
is because it just seems like anextension of that and something
that I carry with me when Iplay the piano anyway, but what
is one thing that you do everyday to help you feel confident?
Nicki (14:46):
Get up and get ready.
I feel like getting up,showering, doing my hair, doing
my makeup, making my bed thatmorning routine.
When we moved here we werenewly married.
We'd only been married justover a year.
I knew nothing about ranchingand this ranch has been in my
husband's family for like ahundred years and we moved out
(15:07):
here to run it not reallyknowing what we were doing.
And I remember my mom sayingjust because you live in the
middle of nowhere doesn't meanyou should turn into a hag
Always got ready.
My mom was a stay at home mom.
Most of my childhood Wasn'tuntil I was in high school that
she went to work, but she alwaysgot up and got ready and she
(15:30):
was like you still need to getup and get ready, do that for
you.
And I really took that to heartand was like you know what?
There's?
No, I shouldn't get up and getready.
And I have a friend that liveson a farm on the other side of
the town close to us, and unlessshe's leaving the house, she
doesn't.
She's like no one's going tosee me.
Why should I have more energy?
I have more, you know.
Just drive to get things donein the day.
(15:58):
If I don't, if I stay in mypajamas and I don't get ready, I
don't want to do anything.
And so I feel like that is ahuge, a huge confidence boost
for me to just feel good aboutmyself and just give me the
boost to, you know, get thingsdone.
So that's something I do everyday.
Ciera (16:17):
I some days it takes me a little longer to get there, but
I I get up and get ready everymorning, and so what is one
thing that you do every day, ortry to do every day, that helps
you to feel more confident?
Lyndsey (16:30):
Oh, okay, I feel like there's a few things, but one of
the things that ties in withwhat we've been talking about is
I try to keep what I call aproof log.
So on a daily basis, I havelike a little app that I do this
through, but on a daily basis Iwrite down one thing from my
day that gave me proof of mycapability or my resilience or
(16:52):
my growth or whatever it mightbe.
It's like a CBT based skill,but maybe it's like sometimes
for me it's like I rememberedevery single appointment I had
booked today, or it's like I wasable to not yell at my kids
when I felt super, superfrustrated.
So it's just writing down onepiece of proof that I am
(17:15):
competent or I am resilient or Iam capable.
Ciera (17:18):
Thanks for listening.
Connect with me on Instagram atconfidentlybeautifulpodcast and
share this episode with someonein your life who could use a
little reminder of just howamazing they already are.
Stay confidently beautiful.
Popular Podcasts
On Purpose with Jay Shetty
I’m Jay Shetty host of On Purpose the worlds #1 Mental Health podcast and I’m so grateful you found us. I started this podcast 5 years ago to invite you into conversations and workshops that are designed to help make you happier, healthier and more healed. I believe that when you (yes you) feel seen, heard and understood you’re able to deal with relationship struggles, work challenges and life’s ups and downs with more ease and grace. I interview experts, celebrities, thought leaders and athletes so that we can grow our mindset, build better habits and uncover a side of them we’ve never seen before. New episodes every Monday and Friday. Your support means the world to me and I don’t take it for granted — click the follow button and leave a review to help us spread the love with On Purpose. I can’t wait for you to listen to your first or 500th episode!
Stuff You Should Know
If you've ever wanted to know about champagne, satanism, the Stonewall Uprising, chaos theory, LSD, El Nino, true crime and Rosa Parks, then look no further. Josh and Chuck have you covered.
The Joe Rogan Experience
The official podcast of comedian Joe Rogan.