January 14, 2025 • 21 mins
This episode empowers mothers striving to balance business aspirations with family life, spotlighting Emilee Roberts’ journey as a mompreneur. Emilee shares her experiences, challenges with identity and imposter syndrome, and practical advice on managing time while pursuing dreams.
• Introduction to the podcast and new series celebrating mompreneurs
• Emilee Roberts discusses her journey into entrepreneurship
• Overcoming the challenges of motherhood while running a business
• The struggle of defining oneself in the social media landscape
• Addressing and overcoming imposter syndrome
• Importance of understanding personal pillars for confidence
• Strategies for finding balance in a chaotic lifestyle
• Using a color-coded calendar for effective time management
• Encouraging advice for mothers wanting to chase their dreams
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Ciera (00:03):
you're listening to confidently beautiful with Ciera
a podcast to help you stayconfidently beautiful, because
we all have confidence inside us.
We just need to bring it outand I'm here to show you how
body image, dreams, parenting,style, personality and more here
we cover it all.
Get ready to stay confidentlybeautiful.
Do you have an inspiring storyof confidence?
(00:27):
Whether you've overcome alimitation, rediscovered
yourself after a loss, or builtconfidence through something as
simple yet super powerful asgardening, I want to hear from
you, or maybe you know someonewhose journey would inspire
others.
I'm looking for real, relatablestories to feature on the
Confidently Beautiful podcast.
Let's celebrate the beauty ofconfidence in all its forms.
(00:48):
Email me atconfidentlybeautifulwithciera@
gmail.
com and let's chat about sharingyour story with my incredible
community.
I can't wait to hear from you.
Welcome to another inspiringepisode of the Confidently
Beautiful podcast.
I am Ciera and today I amthrilled to introduce a brand
new series that's really closeto my heart.
(01:09):
This series is dedicated tocelebrating and spotlighting
mothers who own businesses,women who have taken the leap to
build their dreams whilenavigating that beautiful,
chaotic world of motherhood andall the other responsibilities
life throws our way.
Starting and running a businessis no small feat, but doing it
(01:32):
while balancing the business ofmotherhood.
That takes a special kind ofstrength, resilience and, of
course, confidence, because wewouldn't be here on the
Confidently Beautiful podcastwithout talking about confidence
.
In this series, we'll dive intostories of incredible women who
I know personally, who've notonly pursued their passions, but
they've done it with such graceand grit and a whole lot of
love, and they are some of thebest moms that I know.
(01:55):
We will explore how they foundtheir courage to start, the
lessons that they've learnedalong the way, and how they
managed to prioritize theirfamilies while building thriving
businesses.
Now, that doesn't mean thatthey are perfect.
That doesn't mean that we canjust idolize them, because I
know that they are not perfect,but they, their failures and
their desires to try is whatinspires me, as a mom and a
(02:16):
business owner, to keep going.
So, whether you're a mom with abusiness idea, or you just are
somebody with a big dream thatyou just want to try something,
or an entrepreneur that'slooking for a little bit of
inspiration, or maybe you'rejust curious about how people
like these powerhouse women makeit all work, then this series
is for you.
So grab a drink, find a cozyspot.
(02:36):
Maybe plug in those AirPodswhile you're listening to your
kids play, and let's get readyto be inspired by real
conversations with real people,and they will give some
actionable advice and reallyheartfelt stories that will
prove that it is possible tobuild a life and a business that
you love, and all of this canhappen while still being an
(02:58):
amazing mom and letting yourfamily know that you adore them,
and you can still chase yourdreams at the same time.
Let's dive in.
This week, we will be hearingfrom the beautiful Emilee
Roberts.
She is a mother who I admire.
She is a business owner who Istrive to be like.
She's incredible, she is funny,she is a go-getter, she is
(03:20):
inspiring and she will help youto know how loved and admired
you are by everyone in your life.
She makes you feel special andwhen you walk into the room and
you see her, her smile willlight up and it will just light
you up inside.
So she is one of my favoritepeople.
So, without further ado, let'shear it for Emilee Roberts.
(03:41):
Thank you, emily, for beingwith us on the podcast.
I am so excited to be talkingto you, as we are talking about
moms, and especially moms whorun a successful business and
try and balance that like hardmom life between running a
business and also feeling like aconfident mom.
So do you want to just tell ourlisteners a little bit about
(04:02):
yourself, what business you have, how long you've been doing it,
and just a little bit about you?
Emilee (04:07):
Yeah, so I have four kids.
My oldest is almost 11 in acouple of weeks and then number
two is nine, three is six and mybaby is four.
And I measure like how old mybusiness is based on my kids
because I really kind of startedit when, right before, like a
(04:27):
month or two before, I deliveredmy second baby.
So I have been just working formyself for about just over nine
years and that's, you know,been one of the coolest
blessings that I have everexperienced.
I, from the time I was thelittlest girl, like I remember
going to kindergarten career dayand when we were supposed to
(04:50):
dress up as what we wanted to be, I dressed up as my mom.
I just wanted to be a mom.
For as long as I can remember,that is all I have ever wanted
to be.
And then when I graduated highschool, I went to college and
got my degree in elementaryeducation and I was applying for
(05:12):
my first job as a teacher atthe same time that I found out I
was expecting my first baby.
Kind of panicked because I'mlike at first I don't know how
to be a mom, don't know what I'mdoing, also really don't know
how to be a teacher and I wasreally afraid of overlapping
those two things.
So I just stayed home, and I'vebeen very blessed to be able to
stay home.
And as I did that though, I Idid start feeling like this
(05:36):
longing, this pull, this draw,this like hunger for something
that I could be doing with mytime.
I started realizing like everysingle one of my goals was all
about another person, my toddler, like let's, let's help you
walk, let's help you talk, let'shelp you do, hit all these
(05:57):
milestones, and those wereimportant.
I don't want to take away fromthat at all, but like it was
completely consumed me and Istopped.
The problem wasn't that I wasconsumed with that, the problem
was that I was no longer lookingto progress in myself in any
way, shape or form.
(06:19):
So as I, as I kind of foundthis opportunity to work in
network marketing and to startmy own business there, I jumped
at it, not having any experience, I had no knowledge, I had no
business starting a business.
I just kind of did it anyway.
Ciera (06:38):
I was just talking to Seth about it, about something
really similar to that, abouthow I just want like I'm a lot
like you where I just wanted tobe a mom, I just want to be home
with my kids.
But I want that thing that likeI feel like I can like progress
and like I can have like areally big project that I'm like
excited to be working on andcan do it like on my own time
(07:01):
and like separate away fromevery normal, normal day life,
you know, but something that isexciting to me to feel like I'm
like moving forward.
So I can totally relate to alot of what you just said.
What do you consider yourself?
Do you consider yourself aninfluencer, a network marketer?
How would you label yourself?
Emilee (07:18):
Okay, this kills me, because I just was talking to my
husband about this.
We talk this is a constantconversation actually and I tell
him all the time I'm like hecalls me an influencer and I'm
like you, you've got to knockthat off because I don't know
why.
But I'm like I don't.
I don't think I really want tobe labeled like that.
I don't think that's reallywhat I want my job title to be.
(07:40):
I, when people ask me I, I tellthem I'm a social seller.
I like to share my favoritethings and and social media has
opened that up for me to do itfor my house, with my kids and
on my own time and my ownschedule.
And um, but like Ben Bendoesn't, that's my husband.
He doesn't quite get why Iwould not want to be called an
(08:02):
influencer and I just feel likeI don't know at why I would not
want to be called an influencerand I just feel like I don't
know.
Number one I feel like Iabsolutely cannot claim that,
because those are the people whoI fangirl over, first of all
and second of all.
I just like they check a lot ofboxes that I still have
unchecked.
But I'm so social social seller, I guess is what we're gonna
(08:24):
call me.
Ciera (08:25):
That's good, I love it.
Okay, so we know a little bithow you got started, kind of a
little bit of what you do.
Can you tell us what's onething that scared you that you
had to overcome?
I mean, you've had nine yearsof experience and you just like
narrow it down to like one thingthat maybe has like really
terrified you that you feel likeyou have overcome.
Yeah.
Emilee (08:44):
You know, I feel like we just kind of talked about it
and I'm obviously still workingon that and that is that
imposter syndrome, that feelingof well, I, I'm not allowed to
be, that I get really still likeI'm still working on this,
especially with with ourfamilies, like when, when people
want to talk to me about what Ido or my, I have family around,
(09:09):
I get really worried about whatI do.
Or I have family around, I getreally worried about what they
think and I just, I don't know,I'll hesitate, I feel inadequate
, I feel just not enough.
You know, I think that's goingto be a constant battle for the
(09:29):
rest of my life, partly becauseI am a ridiculous perfectionist
and I need to cut that out.
But also, you know, thosepeople who matter the most, like
I, really, I really do carewhat they think.
I think, at the end of the day,the way that I face that the
best and as my strongest, mostconfident self is, I have to
(09:50):
always go back and remind myselfthe thing that matters the very
most.
Number one, it's what I thinkand how I feel.
Number two, how my heavenlyfather and savior think of me,
and they know my heart, theyknow my intentions and I can't
fool anybody there.
And number three is my husband.
(10:10):
And so you know, between thosethree pillars, those are the
things that I really try to keepmyself rooted in and supported
by those three things.
And you know, I always have tohave this little reflection
moment where I'm like, okay, letme just regroup, take a deep
breath, how do I feel aboutthose three pillars?
(10:31):
And you know, if I, if I needto make some adjustments, I'll
make some adjustments, and andif I feel I'm pretty good, then
I can, you know, block out thenoise and block out my doubts.
And you know I'm good to go foranother little bit.
Obviously, like inevitably, itall comes back.
It's a kind of a hamster wheel,I guess, and it just it will
(10:51):
reoccur occasionally.
But those are my things that Itry to do to regroup, regather
and just kind of keep myselfgrounded.
Ciera (11:00):
That's so good.
Thank you for sharing that.
I really love that.
I think that if all of us couldfind like whatever like our
pillars are like, how much thatwould help.
Like whatever area of our lifeof us could find.
Like whatever like our pillarsare like, how much that would
help, like whatever area of ourlife, if we could just like stay
grounded, because it might bedifferent for everyone, like
everyone's pillars may bedifferent, but you know, three
and like that can just likebring you back to like not being
(11:25):
overwhelmed with everything,Cause there is so much noise.
There's so much noise out there.
Yeah, how do you, how do youbalance having your kids and
your work and and all of thethings like, how do you, how do
you even do this?
Emilee (11:38):
Okay, well, it's not always balanced and that, I
think, is the most importantthing that I've had to learn is
like what feels balanced todaymight not be what is balanced
for me tomorrow, and I reallyhave to shift things around and
be willing to be flexible, bewilling to make adjustments and
pivot love friends, and all Ican hear when I say pivot is
Ross, like, I just have to, Ihave to be willing to do that.
(12:03):
Um, I mean, I've I've do a lotof on with social.
I do like live videos and youknow making content.
Several times I've been in mybathroom doing videos and like
live videos that you can't edit.
And Max, my four year old, willcome in and go to the bathroom
by me and it's like you can'tsee him, but everybody can hear
(12:26):
him tinkling in that toilet.
Can't see him, but everybodycan hear him tinkling in that
toilet, and then everybody canhear the flush and I'm just like
, oh, my actual goodness sakes,that's happening to me.
So you know like those thingshappen for sure.
But something that really doeshelp me is I've I've had to
figure out ways to schedule andto have some structure and
systems that I plug into, and Ithink those.
(12:47):
Just like the pillars can lookdifferent for anybody or for
everybody, those systems canlook different for everybody too
.
Um, I, I use my Apple calendaron my phone.
I used to be like strictly penand paper in a planner where I
could write it down physically,and I found that that I didn't
love not always having access tomy planner.
(13:09):
So I one year I just didn't buya planner and that was like
wild and I started using myphone and then I fell in love
with that.
I didn't think I would, Ithought I would resist it, but I
wanted to just try it and now Ilove it.
I have my calendar synced withmy husband so we can both see
when either one of us updatesthings.
I have it color coded so I cansee like these one of us updates
things.
I have it color-coded so I cansee like these are the things
(13:31):
for my kids, these are thethings for me, these are the
things for like me personally,and then my, my work and my
business is a different color.
Um, ben, my husband, his stuffis all certain colors, so I have
it color coordinated, whichhelps me stay a little bit more
organized, but also the thingthat having a calendar does for
me is I can actually seevisually my time.
(13:55):
I think a lot of us think and wetell ourselves I just don't
have any time, I have no timefor this.
But when I see my time in frontof my eyes, how I am using it,
how I am spending it, how I am,you know, budgeting my time,
when I can see that, it shows menumber one I really, I really
do have more time than I think Ido.
It's just am I wasting it or amI using it productively?
(14:18):
And so I really enjoyed andthrive when I have a calendar
that I simply plug into and Ialso down like once a week and
make sure my calendar is up todate.
A lot of the events on mycalendar, like taking my
daughter to dance there's alarmsbuilt into that calendar that
give me little notifications anddon't let me forget things and
(14:41):
and like to go along with that.
I've having this calendar, likeI said, my my personal life, my
kid's life and like my businessstuff is all different colors.
That allows me to also setboundaries there, like when I'm
working, even if it's like 30minutes, 60 minutes I am working
, and then when I'm not, I'lllike set it aside.
(15:04):
And heaven forbid I say thatwith quotation marks, like
something doesn't get done or Ididn't finish the task.
And heaven forbid I say thatwith quotation marks, like
something doesn't get done or Ididn't finish the task.
That's okay, it'll always bethere.
But my like, when I'm using mytime the way that I said and I
have like that integrity tomyself, like I do what I say I
was going to do, I'm a bettermom, I'm a better businesswoman,
(15:24):
I'm a better wife, I'm a betterme because I had some like I
maintained that integrity tomyself really good.
Ciera (15:32):
I, you and I think so much alike, like we were like
everything you're saying love ityes, yes, um.
And so I just think one thing Ialso have the color coordinated
calendar, you know, and I have,you know, color coordinated for
all.
I know it like makes me sogiddy inside.
It's like I'm just like such aweirdo with when it comes to
planning my husband always makesme weird together.
(15:54):
It's fine.
But, um, I think for one thingbut I love that you said that
you can see your time.
You can see like, oh, Iactually have more time than I
thought.
But I think also for me, likewith that balance, like I can
also easily see like, oh, wow,I'm putting way too much time
into like this thing and Ireally should be spending more
time here.
(16:14):
Like I don't have enough ofthis color, I need more of this
color, and like you know, and solike that's really helpful for
me visually to see.
I love that.
I would imagine that the pieceof advice that you would give
someone is to plan and to use acalendar and to kind of know
what they're doing with theirtime.
Is there any other piece ofadvice that you would give a
(16:35):
busy mom who maybe has like thisdesire to start something like
whether it's like a really biggoal I know you're a runner, so
if they're like I really want toput in the time to train for a
marathon or I really want tostart this cake business or
whatever it is that they'rewanting, like what would be like
your one piece of advice togive someone to just go for it
(16:56):
and be confident to try?
Emilee (16:59):
I really thought about this one.
This was the question that youprepped me with that I put the
most thought into, and the thingthat I would say to them is if
you are a mom, I want you tothink about how the advice that
you would give your daughtermaybe you have a daughter or a
son.
If you don't have a daughter,that's okay, one of your
children.
I have a daughter, I have one.
How would I talk to her?
(17:21):
What would I tell her?
Would I breathe belief into herand positive affirmations and
you go.
I don't think you can do that.
No, I actually don't think thatthat's a good idea.
(17:48):
Oh no, don't try.
Don't try something new.
I would never say that, but Ithink we find ourselves saying
that to ourselves, right?
Ciera (17:58):
I do.
Emilee (17:59):
To me all the time.
I find myself like the way Italk or even think in my head.
I'm like I would never say thatout loud to my daughter.
I would never.
So, whatever you're looking atdoing, whatever goals you're
pursuing or striving to reach,talk to yourself the same way
you would encourage or coachyour daughter or your child.
(18:22):
What would you say to them?
How would you want anotherperson to speak to them and then
speak to yourself that way?
Do you want to run a marathon?
If you want to, you know.
Start a business.
If you want to do whatever itis that you can possibly dream,
talk to yourself the way youwould talk to your child and
(18:43):
then just go for it.
Ciera (18:46):
That's really good, such good advice.
Thank you, um.
Where can people connect withyou and find you online?
Emilee (18:54):
I am on Instagram and Facebook.
I am too old for Tik TOKapparently.
Ciera (19:01):
Oh my, it's fine oh, my, it's fine.
Emilee (19:12):
So on instagram I am uh, my handle is emileeroberts11
it's so lame because it's myemail from when I got married.
It's fine.
My name is spelled e-m-i-l-e-e,it's all.
I always have to explain thattoo.
And then I'm on facebook.
Um, my business page is InsideOut Beauty by Emilee Roberts, so
I would love to connect withanybody there and bring them
into my little spaces.
Ciera (19:32):
I will include those in the show notes so people can
click on those.
Um, but I just love you.
Emilee is like my.
All of this that I am doing haslike stemmed from Emilee and so
it's stemmed from you and I solike you will forever and always
like be somebody that I justlove and adore and really look
(19:56):
up to and really admire.
So thank you.
Emilee (19:58):
I feel the very same about you.
Ciera (20:00):
I truly love you so very much well, you've given me the
strength and the courage to tryand I appreciate that so much.
So thank you for sharing alittle bit of your story and I
hope that our listeners couldfind a little bit of that
courage that you have and tojust try it.
And just I love what you sharedLike it's still a constant
(20:20):
struggle for you Nine yearslater, like it's still something
that you struggle with, to likegain that confidence, and I
think that's something soimportant to know like we can be
confident people, but not liketotally put together, like we
don't have to have it all, likewe're continuing to be a work in
progress for the rest of ourlives.
And so I love that you sharedthat and that you were open
(20:43):
enough to share like your yourstruggles and like the things
that you go through.
So thank you for sharing, thankyou for letting me, thanks for
listening Connect with me onInstagram @ confidently
beautiful podcast and share thisepisode with someone in your
life who could use a littlereminder of just how amazing
they already are.
Stay confidently beautiful.
you're listening to confidently beautiful with Ciera
a podcast to help you stayconfidently beautiful, because
we all have confidence inside us.
We just need to bring it outand I'm here to show you how
body image, dreams, parenting,style, personality and more here
we cover it all.
Get ready to stay confidentlybeautiful.
Do you have an inspiring storyof confidence?
(00:27):
Whether you've overcome alimitation, rediscovered
yourself after a loss, or builtconfidence through something as
simple yet super powerful asgardening, I want to hear from
you, or maybe you know someonewhose journey would inspire
others.
I'm looking for real, relatablestories to feature on the
Confidently Beautiful podcast.
Let's celebrate the beauty ofconfidence in all its forms.
(00:48):
Email me atconfidentlybeautifulwithciera@
gmail.
com and let's chat about sharingyour story with my incredible
community.
I can't wait to hear from you.
Welcome to another inspiringepisode of the Confidently
Beautiful podcast.
I am Ciera and today I amthrilled to introduce a brand
new series that's really closeto my heart.
(01:09):
This series is dedicated tocelebrating and spotlighting
mothers who own businesses,women who have taken the leap to
build their dreams whilenavigating that beautiful,
chaotic world of motherhood andall the other responsibilities
life throws our way.
Starting and running a businessis no small feat, but doing it
(01:32):
while balancing the business ofmotherhood.
That takes a special kind ofstrength, resilience and, of
course, confidence, because wewouldn't be here on the
Confidently Beautiful podcastwithout talking about confidence
.
In this series, we'll dive intostories of incredible women who
I know personally, who've notonly pursued their passions, but
they've done it with such graceand grit and a whole lot of
love, and they are some of thebest moms that I know.
(01:55):
We will explore how they foundtheir courage to start, the
lessons that they've learnedalong the way, and how they
managed to prioritize theirfamilies while building thriving
businesses.
Now, that doesn't mean thatthey are perfect.
That doesn't mean that we canjust idolize them, because I
know that they are not perfect,but they, their failures and
their desires to try is whatinspires me, as a mom and a
(02:16):
business owner, to keep going.
So, whether you're a mom with abusiness idea, or you just are
somebody with a big dream thatyou just want to try something,
or an entrepreneur that'slooking for a little bit of
inspiration, or maybe you'rejust curious about how people
like these powerhouse women makeit all work, then this series
is for you.
So grab a drink, find a cozyspot.
(02:36):
Maybe plug in those AirPodswhile you're listening to your
kids play, and let's get readyto be inspired by real
conversations with real people,and they will give some
actionable advice and reallyheartfelt stories that will
prove that it is possible tobuild a life and a business that
you love, and all of this canhappen while still being an
(02:58):
amazing mom and letting yourfamily know that you adore them,
and you can still chase yourdreams at the same time.
Let's dive in.
This week, we will be hearingfrom the beautiful Emilee
Roberts.
She is a mother who I admire.
She is a business owner who Istrive to be like.
She's incredible, she is funny,she is a go-getter, she is
(03:20):
inspiring and she will help youto know how loved and admired
you are by everyone in your life.
She makes you feel special andwhen you walk into the room and
you see her, her smile willlight up and it will just light
you up inside.
So she is one of my favoritepeople.
So, without further ado, let'shear it for Emilee Roberts.
(03:41):
Thank you, emily, for beingwith us on the podcast.
I am so excited to be talkingto you, as we are talking about
moms, and especially moms whorun a successful business and
try and balance that like hardmom life between running a
business and also feeling like aconfident mom.
So do you want to just tell ourlisteners a little bit about
(04:02):
yourself, what business you have, how long you've been doing it,
and just a little bit about you?
Emilee (04:07):
Yeah, so I have four kids.
My oldest is almost 11 in acouple of weeks and then number
two is nine, three is six and mybaby is four.
And I measure like how old mybusiness is based on my kids
because I really kind of startedit when, right before, like a
(04:27):
month or two before, I deliveredmy second baby.
So I have been just working formyself for about just over nine
years and that's, you know,been one of the coolest
blessings that I have everexperienced.
I, from the time I was thelittlest girl, like I remember
going to kindergarten career dayand when we were supposed to
(04:50):
dress up as what we wanted to be, I dressed up as my mom.
I just wanted to be a mom.
For as long as I can remember,that is all I have ever wanted
to be.
And then when I graduated highschool, I went to college and
got my degree in elementaryeducation and I was applying for
(05:12):
my first job as a teacher atthe same time that I found out I
was expecting my first baby.
Kind of panicked because I'mlike at first I don't know how
to be a mom, don't know what I'mdoing, also really don't know
how to be a teacher and I wasreally afraid of overlapping
those two things.
So I just stayed home, and I'vebeen very blessed to be able to
stay home.
And as I did that though, I Idid start feeling like this
(05:36):
longing, this pull, this draw,this like hunger for something
that I could be doing with mytime.
I started realizing like everysingle one of my goals was all
about another person, my toddler, like let's, let's help you
walk, let's help you talk, let'shelp you do, hit all these
(05:57):
milestones, and those wereimportant.
I don't want to take away fromthat at all, but like it was
completely consumed me and Istopped.
The problem wasn't that I wasconsumed with that, the problem
was that I was no longer lookingto progress in myself in any
way, shape or form.
(06:19):
So as I, as I kind of foundthis opportunity to work in
network marketing and to startmy own business there, I jumped
at it, not having any experience, I had no knowledge, I had no
business starting a business.
I just kind of did it anyway.
Ciera (06:38):
I was just talking to Seth about it, about something
really similar to that, abouthow I just want like I'm a lot
like you where I just wanted tobe a mom, I just want to be home
with my kids.
But I want that thing that likeI feel like I can like progress
and like I can have like areally big project that I'm like
excited to be working on andcan do it like on my own time
(07:01):
and like separate away fromevery normal, normal day life,
you know, but something that isexciting to me to feel like I'm
like moving forward.
So I can totally relate to alot of what you just said.
What do you consider yourself?
Do you consider yourself aninfluencer, a network marketer?
How would you label yourself?
Emilee (07:18):
Okay, this kills me, because I just was talking to my
husband about this.
We talk this is a constantconversation actually and I tell
him all the time I'm like hecalls me an influencer and I'm
like you, you've got to knockthat off because I don't know
why.
But I'm like I don't.
I don't think I really want tobe labeled like that.
I don't think that's reallywhat I want my job title to be.
(07:40):
I, when people ask me I, I tellthem I'm a social seller.
I like to share my favoritethings and and social media has
opened that up for me to do itfor my house, with my kids and
on my own time and my ownschedule.
And um, but like Ben Bendoesn't, that's my husband.
He doesn't quite get why Iwould not want to be called an
(08:02):
influencer and I just feel likeI don't know at why I would not
want to be called an influencerand I just feel like I don't
know.
Number one I feel like Iabsolutely cannot claim that,
because those are the people whoI fangirl over, first of all
and second of all.
I just like they check a lot ofboxes that I still have
unchecked.
But I'm so social social seller, I guess is what we're gonna
(08:24):
call me.
Ciera (08:25):
That's good, I love it.
Okay, so we know a little bithow you got started, kind of a
little bit of what you do.
Can you tell us what's onething that scared you that you
had to overcome?
I mean, you've had nine yearsof experience and you just like
narrow it down to like one thingthat maybe has like really
terrified you that you feel likeyou have overcome.
Yeah.
Emilee (08:44):
You know, I feel like we just kind of talked about it
and I'm obviously still workingon that and that is that
imposter syndrome, that feelingof well, I, I'm not allowed to
be, that I get really still likeI'm still working on this,
especially with with ourfamilies, like when, when people
want to talk to me about what Ido or my, I have family around,
(09:09):
I get really worried about whatI do.
Or I have family around, I getreally worried about what they
think and I just, I don't know,I'll hesitate, I feel inadequate
, I feel just not enough.
You know, I think that's goingto be a constant battle for the
(09:29):
rest of my life, partly becauseI am a ridiculous perfectionist
and I need to cut that out.
But also, you know, thosepeople who matter the most, like
I, really, I really do carewhat they think.
I think, at the end of the day,the way that I face that the
best and as my strongest, mostconfident self is, I have to
(09:50):
always go back and remind myselfthe thing that matters the very
most.
Number one, it's what I thinkand how I feel.
Number two, how my heavenlyfather and savior think of me,
and they know my heart, theyknow my intentions and I can't
fool anybody there.
And number three is my husband.
(10:10):
And so you know, between thosethree pillars, those are the
things that I really try to keepmyself rooted in and supported
by those three things.
And you know, I always have tohave this little reflection
moment where I'm like, okay, letme just regroup, take a deep
breath, how do I feel aboutthose three pillars?
(10:31):
And you know, if I, if I needto make some adjustments, I'll
make some adjustments, and andif I feel I'm pretty good, then
I can, you know, block out thenoise and block out my doubts.
And you know I'm good to go foranother little bit.
Obviously, like inevitably, itall comes back.
It's a kind of a hamster wheel,I guess, and it just it will
(10:51):
reoccur occasionally.
But those are my things that Itry to do to regroup, regather
and just kind of keep myselfgrounded.
Ciera (11:00):
That's so good.
Thank you for sharing that.
I really love that.
I think that if all of us couldfind like whatever like our
pillars are like, how much thatwould help.
Like whatever area of our lifeof us could find.
Like whatever like our pillarsare like, how much that would
help, like whatever area of ourlife, if we could just like stay
grounded, because it might bedifferent for everyone, like
everyone's pillars may bedifferent, but you know, three
and like that can just likebring you back to like not being
(11:25):
overwhelmed with everything,Cause there is so much noise.
There's so much noise out there.
Yeah, how do you, how do youbalance having your kids and
your work and and all of thethings like, how do you, how do
you even do this?
Emilee (11:38):
Okay, well, it's not always balanced and that, I
think, is the most importantthing that I've had to learn is
like what feels balanced todaymight not be what is balanced
for me tomorrow, and I reallyhave to shift things around and
be willing to be flexible, bewilling to make adjustments and
pivot love friends, and all Ican hear when I say pivot is
Ross, like, I just have to, Ihave to be willing to do that.
(12:03):
Um, I mean, I've I've do a lotof on with social.
I do like live videos and youknow making content.
Several times I've been in mybathroom doing videos and like
live videos that you can't edit.
And Max, my four year old, willcome in and go to the bathroom
by me and it's like you can'tsee him, but everybody can hear
(12:26):
him tinkling in that toilet.
Can't see him, but everybodycan hear him tinkling in that
toilet, and then everybody canhear the flush and I'm just like
, oh, my actual goodness sakes,that's happening to me.
So you know like those thingshappen for sure.
But something that really doeshelp me is I've I've had to
figure out ways to schedule andto have some structure and
systems that I plug into, and Ithink those.
(12:47):
Just like the pillars can lookdifferent for anybody or for
everybody, those systems canlook different for everybody too
.
Um, I, I use my Apple calendaron my phone.
I used to be like strictly penand paper in a planner where I
could write it down physically,and I found that that I didn't
love not always having access tomy planner.
(13:09):
So I one year I just didn't buya planner and that was like
wild and I started using myphone and then I fell in love
with that.
I didn't think I would, Ithought I would resist it, but I
wanted to just try it and now Ilove it.
I have my calendar synced withmy husband so we can both see
when either one of us updatesthings.
I have it color coded so I cansee like these one of us updates
things.
I have it color-coded so I cansee like these are the things
(13:31):
for my kids, these are thethings for me, these are the
things for like me personally,and then my, my work and my
business is a different color.
Um, ben, my husband, his stuffis all certain colors, so I have
it color coordinated, whichhelps me stay a little bit more
organized, but also the thingthat having a calendar does for
me is I can actually seevisually my time.
(13:55):
I think a lot of us think and wetell ourselves I just don't
have any time, I have no timefor this.
But when I see my time in frontof my eyes, how I am using it,
how I am spending it, how I am,you know, budgeting my time,
when I can see that, it shows menumber one I really, I really
do have more time than I think Ido.
It's just am I wasting it or amI using it productively?
(14:18):
And so I really enjoyed andthrive when I have a calendar
that I simply plug into and Ialso down like once a week and
make sure my calendar is up todate.
A lot of the events on mycalendar, like taking my
daughter to dance there's alarmsbuilt into that calendar that
give me little notifications anddon't let me forget things and
(14:41):
and like to go along with that.
I've having this calendar, likeI said, my my personal life, my
kid's life and like my businessstuff is all different colors.
That allows me to also setboundaries there, like when I'm
working, even if it's like 30minutes, 60 minutes I am working
, and then when I'm not, I'lllike set it aside.
(15:04):
And heaven forbid I say thatwith quotation marks, like
something doesn't get done or Ididn't finish the task.
And heaven forbid I say thatwith quotation marks, like
something doesn't get done or Ididn't finish the task.
That's okay, it'll always bethere.
But my like, when I'm using mytime the way that I said and I
have like that integrity tomyself, like I do what I say I
was going to do, I'm a bettermom, I'm a better businesswoman,
(15:24):
I'm a better wife, I'm a betterme because I had some like I
maintained that integrity tomyself really good.
Ciera (15:32):
I, you and I think so much alike, like we were like
everything you're saying love ityes, yes, um.
And so I just think one thing Ialso have the color coordinated
calendar, you know, and I have,you know, color coordinated for
all.
I know it like makes me sogiddy inside.
It's like I'm just like such aweirdo with when it comes to
planning my husband always makesme weird together.
(15:54):
It's fine.
But, um, I think for one thingbut I love that you said that
you can see your time.
You can see like, oh, Iactually have more time than I
thought.
But I think also for me, likewith that balance, like I can
also easily see like, oh, wow,I'm putting way too much time
into like this thing and Ireally should be spending more
time here.
(16:14):
Like I don't have enough ofthis color, I need more of this
color, and like you know, and solike that's really helpful for
me visually to see.
I love that.
I would imagine that the pieceof advice that you would give
someone is to plan and to use acalendar and to kind of know
what they're doing with theirtime.
Is there any other piece ofadvice that you would give a
(16:35):
busy mom who maybe has like thisdesire to start something like
whether it's like a really biggoal I know you're a runner, so
if they're like I really want toput in the time to train for a
marathon or I really want tostart this cake business or
whatever it is that they'rewanting, like what would be like
your one piece of advice togive someone to just go for it
(16:56):
and be confident to try?
Emilee (16:59):
I really thought about this one.
This was the question that youprepped me with that I put the
most thought into, and the thingthat I would say to them is if
you are a mom, I want you tothink about how the advice that
you would give your daughtermaybe you have a daughter or a
son.
If you don't have a daughter,that's okay, one of your
children.
I have a daughter, I have one.
How would I talk to her?
(17:21):
What would I tell her?
Would I breathe belief into herand positive affirmations and
you go.
I don't think you can do that.
No, I actually don't think thatthat's a good idea.
(17:48):
Oh no, don't try.
Don't try something new.
I would never say that, but Ithink we find ourselves saying
that to ourselves, right?
Ciera (17:58):
I do.
Emilee (17:59):
To me all the time.
I find myself like the way Italk or even think in my head.
I'm like I would never say thatout loud to my daughter.
I would never.
So, whatever you're looking atdoing, whatever goals you're
pursuing or striving to reach,talk to yourself the same way
you would encourage or coachyour daughter or your child.
(18:22):
What would you say to them?
How would you want anotherperson to speak to them and then
speak to yourself that way?
Do you want to run a marathon?
If you want to, you know.
Start a business.
If you want to do whatever itis that you can possibly dream,
talk to yourself the way youwould talk to your child and
(18:43):
then just go for it.
Ciera (18:46):
That's really good, such good advice.
Thank you, um.
Where can people connect withyou and find you online?
Emilee (18:54):
I am on Instagram and Facebook.
I am too old for Tik TOKapparently.
Ciera (19:01):
Oh my, it's fine oh, my, it's fine.
Emilee (19:12):
So on instagram I am uh, my handle is emileeroberts11
it's so lame because it's myemail from when I got married.
It's fine.
My name is spelled e-m-i-l-e-e,it's all.
I always have to explain thattoo.
And then I'm on facebook.
Um, my business page is InsideOut Beauty by Emilee Roberts, so
I would love to connect withanybody there and bring them
into my little spaces.
Ciera (19:32):
I will include those in the show notes so people can
click on those.
Um, but I just love you.
Emilee is like my.
All of this that I am doing haslike stemmed from Emilee and so
it's stemmed from you and I solike you will forever and always
like be somebody that I justlove and adore and really look
(19:56):
up to and really admire.
So thank you.
Emilee (19:58):
I feel the very same about you.
Ciera (20:00):
I truly love you so very much well, you've given me the
strength and the courage to tryand I appreciate that so much.
So thank you for sharing alittle bit of your story and I
hope that our listeners couldfind a little bit of that
courage that you have and tojust try it.
And just I love what you sharedLike it's still a constant
(20:20):
struggle for you Nine yearslater, like it's still something
that you struggle with, to likegain that confidence, and I
think that's something soimportant to know like we can be
confident people, but not liketotally put together, like we
don't have to have it all, likewe're continuing to be a work in
progress for the rest of ourlives.
And so I love that you sharedthat and that you were open
(20:43):
enough to share like your yourstruggles and like the things
that you go through.
So thank you for sharing, thankyou for letting me, thanks for
listening Connect with me onInstagram @ confidently
beautiful podcast and share thisepisode with someone in your
life who could use a littlereminder of just how amazing
they already are.
Stay confidently beautiful.
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