Ep #189 Parenting From the Inside Out: Be First, Do Second, Have Lasting Change

Most parenting advice skips straight to tactics: new charts, new scripts, new strategies. And for a while, they might work. But if you’ve ever thought, “Why did I yell again? Why did I get so frustrated even though I promised I wouldn’t?”—you’ve bumped into the truth: behavior is downstream of being.

In this episode of the Connect Method Parenting Podcast, I’ll show you why strategies only work as well as the state you bring to them. Change doesn’t last because you tried harder—it lasts because you shifted who you’re being.

We’ll dig into the Be → Do → Have sequence, why identity and attachment are the true foundation of change, and how to practice tiny reps that rewire your nervous system for calm, confident, connected parenting.

You’ll learn:

• Why focusing on “being” changes everything downstream.
• How your identity (the story you run when you’re not thinking) drives your reactions.
• What the parenting pyramid reveals about environment, behavior, skills, beliefs, identity, and attachment.
• The “Notice, Normalize, Next Step” practice to interrupt shame spirals.
• How to collect micro-evidence that reinforces the parent you’re becoming.

This isn’t about stacking more strategies. It’s about shifting your state so the strategies you already know land. When you choose to be first, the doing gets lighter, and the having flows naturally.

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