This is one of my favorite topics to teach: the powerful emotional journey from mad to sad. In this episode, I talk about what Dr. Gordon Neufeld calls the path of adaptation, the incredible shift from frustration and resistance to sadness and surrender.
I’ll walk you through the “traffic circle” of big emotions, how our brains look for exits when things don’t go our way, and why the second exit, the one where we change ourselves instead of the situation, is where emotional growth actually happens.
We’ll also talk about how to create the conditions for this kind of growth in our homes. What helps our kids and us feel safe enough to move through futility and into maturity? And why crying, real sad tears, is one of the most healing things we can do.
If you’ve ever wondered how to help your child handle disappointment, rejection, or just plain “no,” this episode will help you see those moments as doorways to growth, not breakdowns to fix.
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