Dr Ramani Durvasula: Coping with Coparenting with a Narcissist

In this conversation, Dr. Ramani discusses the complexities of co-parenting, especially in the context of dealing with narcissistic partners. She emphasizes the importance of understanding the impact of parental relationships on children, the challenges of seeking closure, and the benefits of parallel parenting. The discussion also highlights the emotional challenges faced by co-parents, including grief and disappointment, and the role of technology in facilitating healthier interactions. Dr. Ramani advocates for seeking professional help to navigate these challenges and underscores the need for patience and understanding in the co-parenting journey.

Dr Ramani: https://doctor-ramani.com/
Get her book: It's Not You
Also referenced: Judith Herman, BestInterest Coparenting App

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Keywords
co-parenting, narcissism, parallel parenting, child well-being, closure, boundaries, family dynamics, divorce, parenting strategies, emotional health, co-parenting, self-care, support groups, communication, technology, mental health, family dynamics, divorce, emotional well-being, community support

Takeaways

• Co-parenting requires understanding the unique challenges posed by narcissistic partners.
• Closure may never be achieved in co-parenting situations, and acceptance is key.
• Parallel parenting allows for separate parenting styles without direct conflict.
• Children often adapt to different dynamics in each parent's home, which can be challenging.
• Consistency in routines helps children feel secure during transitions.
• Dysregulation in children can occur during exchanges between parents.
• Setting boundaries with antagonistic co-parents is often ineffective; focus on documentation instead.
• Inner boundaries are crucial for maintaining personal well-being.
• Children's resilience can sometimes lead to trauma bonds that affect their future relationships.
• Realistic expectations are essential for navigating co-parenting dynamics. Self-care is essential but often misunderstood.
• Support groups can provide valuable connections.
• Utilize downtime for personal growth and activities.
• Be cautious with social media during co-parenting.
• Recognize the patterns in relationships to avoid repeating them.
• Family dynamics can complicate co-parenting situations.
• Effective communication is crucial in co-parenting.
• Technology can help streamline communication with ex-partners.
• Therapy can provide validation and support during tough times.
• Grief and disappointment are common in co-parenting journeys.

Sound Bites

• "Consistency is key for children's stability."
• "Focus on the well-being of your children."
• "Self-care is such a loaded word."
• "Use your downtime well."
• "Be careful as all get out on social media."
• "You ain't going to change them."

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