In this conversation, Dr. Don Gordon, founder and the Executive Director of The Center for Divorce Education, discusses the complexities of co-parenting, particularly in the context of divorce. He highlights the importance of understanding loyalty conflicts, the impact of parental behaviors on children, and effective communication strategies for co-parents. Dr. Gordon emphasizes the need for self-regulation techniques for parents and the psychological effects of conflict on children. He also provides resources for co-parents to improve their relationships and parenting skills.
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Keywords
co-parenting, divorce, loyalty conflicts, child psychology, communication strategies, parental behavior, conflict resolution, emotional literacy, self-regulation, parenting resources
Key Takeaways
- The absence of a biological father is a risk factor for delinquency.
- Loyalty conflicts can significantly affect children's emotional well-being.
- Parents often unknowingly put their children in loyalty binds.
- Teaching parents about their impact on children can motivate change.
- Effective communication is crucial in co-parenting relationships.
- Using 'I' messages can diffuse conflict between co-parents.
- Self-regulation techniques can help parents manage stress.
- Children's cortisol levels can be affected by parental conflict.
- Active listening fosters better communication with children.
- Resources are available to help co-parents navigate their challenges.
Resources Mentioned
Dr. Gordon’s Programs & Websites:
- Children in Between (4-hour co-parenting course) online.divorce-education.com
- High Conflict Solutions (for high-conflict co-parenting situations)
highconflictsolutions.com - Children in Between for Kids (teaches kids ages 7-14 emotional literacy & self-regulation) childreninbetweenforkids.com
- Parenting Wisely (general parenting skills program) FamilyWorksInc.com
Books & Experts Mentioned:
- No Bad Parts – Book by Dr. Richard Schwartz (focuses on inner healing and personal growth using the Internal Family Systems model)
- Dr. Warren Farrell – Expert on active listening and relationship-building strategies
Chapters
00:00 Introduction to Co-Parenting Challenges
02:47 Understanding Loyalty Conflicts in Co-Parenting
05:55 Identifying Unintentional Harmful Behaviors
08:50 Effective Communication Strategies for Co-Parents
11:52 Navigating High Conflict Co-Parenting Relationships
15:36 The Impact of Conflict on Children
19:45 Self-Regulation Techniques for Parents
24:40 Focusing on Personal Growth and Accountability
28:00 Communication Strategies for Children
30:39 Leveraging Technology in Co-Parenting
31:05 Resour
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