November 18, 2024 • 22 mins
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Do you ever wonder if self-trust can really make a difference—or if it’s just another buzzword? Maybe you’re asking yourself, “What if I trust myself and fail? What if I end up making the wrong choice?”
I get it. I’ve been there too. But what if trusting yourself could create results you didn’t even realize were possible? In this episode of Cracked Open, I’m breaking down exactly how self-trust has created profound, real-life changes in my life, my relationships, and my business—and how it can for you, too.
Here’s how this episode delivers:
- Turning Fear into Connection – I share how self-trust helped me open up in my marriage, creating a deeper bond and level of intimacy I’d been yearning for (and didn’t even realize was already possible).
- Achieving Real Career Wins – Learn how trusting my inner voice led to tangible business results, including a viral Instagram moment, thousands of new followers, and my first $10K month—all without chasing trends or people-pleasing.
- Elevating Client Sessions – Discover how self-trust has sharpened my intuition, made my work with clients more powerful, and helped them trust themselves on a deeper level.
- Building the Right Relationships – I’ll show you how trusting yourself attracts the right people—clients, friends, and opportunities—effortlessly aligning you with your goals.
- Reclaiming Freedom and Joy – Find out why self-trust made my life feel lighter, more authentic, and even a little bit like “cheating” at personal growth.
This isn’t about “trusting yourself” as a nice idea—it’s about how it leads to actual results: stronger relationships, unexpected career breakthroughs, and a sense of alignment that makes life feel exciting again.
Still unsure? You’re not alone—self-trust can feel scary, especially if you’re used to second-guessing yourself. But by the end of this episode, you’ll have a clear sense of how to start trusting yourself in small, tangible ways—and the confidence to see what unfolds from there.
Journaling Prompt: If I fully trusted myself, I would…
Give yourself permission to explore this. You might be surprised by what comes up.
Tune in now. I invite you inside :)
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Have you ever had one of those moments where you stop
and wonder what if I justtrusted myself completely?
Like what if I stopped holdingback, stopped second guessing
every decision and just leanedall the way into what feels
right?
How would life change?
What opportunities might openup?
What relationships might deepen?
(00:21):
I can tell you from personalexperience doing this is a game
changer, and today we're goingto dive more into exactly that
how choosing self-trust set offa complete ripple effect in my
life, my business, myrelationships, everything.
And here's the thing it wasn'tjust a nice change.
(00:41):
It was deep, it was profoundand it touched every single
corner of my life, often in waysI didn't even expect.
So welcome back to Cracked Open.
It's me, alana Banks, and ifyou're new here, this is the
space where I explore self-trust, inner growth and what it means
(01:01):
to live authentically.
And today I'm going to sharesome more of my story.
And if you tuned into the lastepisode, you know that I had a
turning point where I chose tostop seeking validation and
finally trust myself.
And once I made that decision,I wasn't entirely sure what
would come of it, but I knew Iwas done holding myself back,
(01:26):
and what I didn't realize wasthat the self-trust would really
lead to some of the biggestchanges in my life.
So thank you so much forlistening.
It was great to get back ontothe podcast last episode for
part one of this series and Iwould love to hear what's come
up for you.
Send me a message, follow me onInstagram at Alana Banks
(01:47):
Coaching you can send me anemail and let me know.
So one of the first major shiftsthat happened for me when I
decided to lean in and reallystart trusting myself was my
audience started to grow in waysthat I hadn't imagined before.
I was creating content andsuddenly my posts were reaching
(02:08):
thousands of people and I wasresonating with them at a
different type of level.
And here's the thing I've beencreating content for probably a
decade and every day I createsome type of piece of content
for Instagram or Facebook, justlike it's part of my routine.
(02:31):
And last November I posted areel, as I always did.
But this time was a bitdifferent.
I decided I'm going to teachpeople a technique.
I'm just going to go onInstagram and teach everybody
what I would do if I was in aone-on-one situation on a
coaching call.
(02:52):
And that resonated and thatparticular post went viral and
it now has 3.3 million views.
I gained over 70,000 followersfrom that particular reel and I
believe it's because I wasshowing up more authentically
(03:13):
and people were responding tothat energy.
And what that did was then itcontinued to fuel more and more
and more content coming fromthat energy and in that moment I
wasn't really focused onpleasing or impressing people,
right, I was just being real,and that honesty seems to be
(03:35):
exactly what people want.
And this growth wasn't justabout the numbers.
It wasn't just about the vanitymetrics and getting millions of
views and getting more and morefollowers.
It brought financial milestonesto my life as well, because
once I started showing upauthentically, I was attracting
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people who wanted to experiencemy work, who wanted to work with
me, who wanted to have abreakthrough, and shortly after
going viral, I had my first$10,000 a month, which is really
big for me, because this careerhas been a pivot right.
This career for me was a pivotfive years ago.
(04:17):
It was something that I alwaysfelt deeply called to but didn't
have the courage to go all in,and this was a huge validation
for me.
Number one, to kind of explodeon social media, but then,
number two, that it actuallybecame lucrative, a lot more
lucrative than it had been forme in the past.
(04:38):
And so with that I got this newlevel of freedom, this new
level of confidence, and Irealized that self-trust wasn't
just helping me show up better,it was actually creating real,
tangible results, and thatdoesn't just mean financial
results.
That also means the work that Iwas putting out there was
helping people, which is myprimary goal.
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I want my work to help people.
I'm showing up every daybecause I'm so passionate about
the power of hypnosis andneuro-linguistic programming and
it changed my life, and I knowthat it can change your life,
and this is why I show up everyday, because I want to help
(05:20):
people.
So, moving on from that kind ofnumber one unexpected shift,
what happened after that waseven bigger, and this one was
happening in my personal life.
One of the most meaningfulshifts happened in my marriage,
and I was not expecting this.
(05:42):
For a while I had been carryingaround a certain feeling and I
was kind of feeling guilty aboutit.
Things I didn't know really hada voice because they were kind
of vulnerable and, honestly, itwas a bit scary to open up and
(06:04):
these were feelings that hadbeen lingering beneath the
surface for a long time and partof me worried about how my
partner was going to react if Iopened up.
Would he understand?
Would it create distancebetween us?
I had all these worriesswirling around in my head and
(06:25):
I'm not going to go into thedetails about what specifically
it was, but I think this isimportant for you to hear,
because I think we all areholding on to something that we
might be a little bit nervous toshare about.
So, as I started trusting myselfmore deeply, I really felt this
(06:45):
nudge, like this little pushinside that said it's time to
get honest, to get real, to getreally real.
And so, rather than pushingthat nudge away, I decided to
trust it and I went to myhusband and I told him that I
wanted to share something andthat I hoped he could just hold
(07:07):
space and listen.
And it was one of those momentswhere you know when your heart
just feels like it's poundingout of your chest, where you
feel like you're sweating,you're kind of feeling like a
little bit out of it.
So my heart's beating out of mychest, but I knew that I had to
go through with it anyways.
(07:28):
And so we sat down and as Ispoke, I realized how much I'd
been holding back.
And this is the thing with ourpatterns and feelings that we
haven't processed.
This is all lying under thesurface and this is why we
aren't vulnerable, why we aren'thonest, why we haven't
processed.
This is all lying under thesurface and this is why we
aren't vulnerable, why we aren'thonest, why we don't share the
(07:50):
most intimate details of apeople because we're scared.
Right, there's a lot of fear.
So as I continued to talk to him, I realized how much I'd been
protecting myself instead ofbeing fully open.
And on that day it was lastDecember I was vulnerable in a
(08:12):
way I hadn't allowed myself tobe before.
I shared some really raw andreal feelings and I just trusted
whatever came up and I trustedthat ultimately, it would be for
the benefit of both of us.
And this is kind of the crazypart as I was talking, as I was
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being vulnerable, as I wassharing, as I was just dumping
it all out, in that moment I hada powerful realization.
I recognized in that momentthat I already had the
relationship that I'd beenyearning for, the connection,
the love, the support that Ifelt from my husband in that
(08:53):
moment.
It was right there and I hadn'tfully seen it, because
sometimes we only see what we'reexpecting and until I got truly
honest and heart-centered andopen, I hadn't seen the depth of
our connection that was alreadyright there, like right before
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my eyes.
My fears had painted thispicture of distance,
misunderstanding, rejection, butthe reality was completely
different.
By trusting myself enough toshare openly, I discovered in
that moment a whole new level ofintimacy and connection with
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him.
And here's the thing heresponded in such a
compassionate, understanding waythat it created this safe,
expansive space between us andthat space that allowed our bond
to grow even deeper.
And it just completely blew meaway.
And I think that's one of themost beautiful things about
self-trust is it doesn't justchange us individually, it
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enriches our relationships,because when we trust ourselves
enough to be honest andvulnerable, we create room for
real connection and growth, notthis surface level stuff.
Anyway, that experience showedme that self-trust is powerful.
It has the potential totransform the dynamics of our
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closest relationships, deepeningthe love and understanding we
share, and that, for me, was oneof the most powerful lessons.
Now, obviously, you know wehave the conversation and we
still have to move forward.
But because there was thatexpansive space it gave us this
jumping off place to go evendeeper within our relationship,
(10:40):
become even more honest, moreopen, more loving, more
compassionate, more empathetic,and it continues to unfold so we
can move on from myrelationship discovery and now I
want to just share how choosingself-trust transformed the way
I work with my clients and, tobe honest, the transformation
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that I had within myrelationship also had a huge
reflection on the way I wasshowing up with my clients,
because then I was attractingwomen who were going through
very similar situations to meand I was coming at it from a
completely new level.
I shouldn't even say a newlevel, it was more of a new
perspective, of a newperspective.
(11:24):
And so this ripple effectcontinued into my client
sessions.
The more I trusted my intuition,my insights, my ability to
guide people, the more myclients were able to trust
themselves.
And there's somethingincredibly powerful about
holding space for someone andtruly believing in their ability
to find their own answers.
And this is huge, especially ifthere's any coaches listening
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or other hypnotherapists or NLPpractitioners.
When you let go of the need tofix or direct and simply trust
the process, it allows yourclients to do the exact same
thing.
And this was something that Ialways knew at a kind of like
intellectual level, but now Iwas experiencing it deeply.
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I was trusting in my abilitiesso much, and trusting in my
intuition, my insights, myability to guide people that I
was able to hold such powerfulspace for people.
Having self-trust isn't abouthaving a cookie cutter approach,
right.
In fact, it's the opposite ofthat.
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When I'm working with clients,no two sessions with me are ever
the same, because everyone isunique and because I work
intuitively, pulling from a widerange of skills, I can meet my
clients exactly where they are,and that's what ended up
happening in my client sessions.
When I'm working with someone,I know when a particular
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technique or deep hypnosissession is needed and I trust
myself to bring in the rightapproach at that right moment.
And this kind of flexibility,this ability to adapt and flow
with each client's journey, iswhat makes my work so effective
and deeply transformative.
Because I'm with you, I'mmoving through you.
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My brain is thinking okay, whattechnique could we bring in now
?
What question could I askthat's going to allow you to go
deeper?
It's really about creating asession that's as unique, as you
are right.
That's what makes this work sotransformative.
That's why I had such atransformative experience and
why I ended up leaving my careerto study these skills and start
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this new life for myself.
And it's amazing, becauseself-trust doesn't just give you
permission to show upauthentically.
It invites others to do thesame.
The more I started to embrace myown path and honor my own
intuition, the more I attractedclients who were ready to dive
deep, break down their barriers,unravel their patterns and
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trust themselves too.
It became a shared foundationto my work.
And then something even moreunexpected happened self-trust
started drawing like-mindedpeople into my life, and I began
connecting with other coachesand healers and entrepreneurs,
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people who, like me, were alsocommitted to walking their own
path and living from a place oftruth.
And these connections, theyjust started appearing out of
nowhere.
Because here's the thing whenyou're aligned with who you
truly are, you're naturallygoing to attract other people
who are resonating with thattype of energy.
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And these relationships havebeen priceless for me, because
it's been further validation tostepping into my own truth, to
trusting myself, to trusting myintuition.
And there's also somethingthat's incredibly inspiring
about surrounding yourself withpeople who get it, who are on a
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similar path to me and who areequally committed to living with
integrity and courage.
And now we support each otherand we inspire each other other
and hold each other accountableto keep growing.
And this sense of community, ofbeing surrounded by people who
understand the depth of the workthat I do, is something that I
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wouldn't trade for anything,because when I was living on the
surface, when I wasn't trustingmyself, when I wasn't speaking
my truth, I felt like I didn'tbelong.
I felt like I wasn't trustingmyself.
When I wasn't speaking my truth, I felt like I didn't belong.
I felt like I wasn't connected.
I felt like people didn'tunderstand me.
But starting to choose to trustmyself, this created such a
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ripple in my life that draws inthese experiences, these people,
new opportunities, and thesepeople, opportunities,
experience are aligning finallywith who I am, who I truly am.
So that's the true beauty ofself-trust it's expansive, it
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invites others in, it opens up awhole new level of connection
and possibility.
And I am just so blown away withhow it all evolved and,
honestly, looking back over thelast year, one of the most
surprising parts of this journeyis that pure freedom and joy
that came with it.
Self-trust is incrediblyliberating.
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You're no longer living foranyone else's approval, you're
living for what feels right foryou and there's a joy in that, a
lightness in that.
It's something that, honestly,I have not really experienced
before, and each step I takedeepens my sense of purpose and
my life has just become so muchmore fulfilling.
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And let's be real, it hasn'tbeen easy either.
Now I know I've talked about allthe positive stuff of this
ripple effect, but that wasn'teasy.
Right, that came with a lot ofworry and doubt and
uncomfortable moments and havingto be open when I wanted to be
closed and really speaking mytruth when I wanted to keep it
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in right Like that's the workthat goes into fully trusting
yourself and fully stepping intothis place.
But each time I leaned in andtrusted myself, I felt more
aligned and more in flow, and soI just wanted to keep doing it
right.
The first couple of times feltreally difficult, but when I
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recognized the impact that ithad, when I recognized that the
outcome was fulfilling andpowerful, it almost became
something that I wanted tocontinue doing.
And this is what I say when Ithink in the last episode I said
it felt a bit sneaky, becauseself-trust has really showed me
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that life doesn't have to feelheavy or forced.
It can feel free and expansiveand joyful, and it honestly does
feel like you're cheating, likeyou have some secret hack for
life, because it starts tobecome really easy.
Hack for life because it startsto become really easy.
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So if self-trust could do allof this in my life, imagine what
it could do in yours, whetherit's your career, your
relationships or just how youfeel about yourself when you
wake up in the morning.
I can guarantee you that if youlean into self-trust, it will
create a ripple that reachesevery part of your life.
So I want to leave you with atakeaway, because my prime
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concern really is to help you.
This is why I'm sharing thisinformation on this podcast.
So here's something you can try.
Take a moment to imagine whatyour life could look like if you
fully trusted yourself.
Moment to imagine what yourlife could look like if you
fully trusted yourself.
What would you go after, whatwould you let go of, what
uncomfortable conversationswould you have?
(19:04):
And you could take out yourjournal and start writing right
now or maybe you've alreadystarted to do so or take out
your voice memo app and sendyourself a message, or you could
write down this journal promptright now.
You could write down.
If I fully trusted myself, Iwould dot, dot dot and I
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encourage you to use this promptas a way to explore what
self-trust could unlock for you.
Just set aside maybe a fewminutes a day this week to write
out your thoughts withoutholding back.
There's no judgment here.
The sky is the limit.
You can say whatever you wantand just imagine the
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possibilities, the changes,small shifts that could come
from fully trusting yourself.
This is what I did Last November.
I sat down and I asked myselfwhat would bring me peace?
That's another journal prompt.
You could ask yourself but whatwould bring me peace?
And I recognized I had so muchinner turmoil going on that I
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needed to create peace in mylife.
And it was my own doing,because I was holding on to all
of this kind of information inmy mind that I wasn't sharing, I
wasn't being vulnerable about,and once I was holding on to all
of this kind of information inmy mind that I wasn't sharing I
wasn't being vulnerable about,and once I brought all that to
the surface, I had peace.
So take the time to do thislittle exercise and I would love
to hear from you.
If you have an aha moment orsomething comes up for you or
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you have a difficultconversation and it really turns
things around, please let meknow.
I would love to hear.
You can send me an email,alanna, at alannabankscom, or
you can message me on Instagramat alannabankscoaching.
I answer all of my directmessages.
Before I wrap up, I just wantto say the journey of self-trust
is one of the mosttransformative paths you can
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take.
It's a commitment to honoringyourself, to living
authentically, to allowing yourtrue self to guide you, and the
best part of it all is thefreedom and the joy that comes
with it.
They're there, they're waitingfor you, so thank you so much
for joining me today.
If you found value in thisepisode or if you have any
reflections from the journalprompt, I'd love to hear about
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it.
If you love this episode or ifyou have any reflections from
the journal prompt, I'd love tohear about it.
If you love this series, pleasesend me a message, write a
review, give me stars, followthis podcast so you can continue
to hear more.
We're going to dive into morepractical ways to build
self-trust and how to navigatethe ups and downs of the journey
in part three, which is goingto drop in a couple of days, and
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I'm going to talk more aboutthe road ahead, about how you
can continue to maintainself-trust as a lifestyle rather
than just like a quick fix.
I'm going to talk about thethings that I've done this year
to maintain this self-trust asI've moved through difficult
parts.
I'm going to do a reflectiveexercise for you guys as well.
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I invite you back for partthree and I'm so looking forward
to it.
So that's it for me today.
I hope you're all having awonderful day and until I speak
to you again, trust yourself.
The possibilities are endless,and that's all for now.
Thanks for listening.
Have you ever had one of those moments where you stop
and wonder what if I justtrusted myself completely?
Like what if I stopped holdingback, stopped second guessing
every decision and just leanedall the way into what feels
right?
How would life change?
What opportunities might openup?
What relationships might deepen?
(00:21):
I can tell you from personalexperience doing this is a game
changer, and today we're goingto dive more into exactly that
how choosing self-trust set offa complete ripple effect in my
life, my business, myrelationships, everything.
And here's the thing it wasn'tjust a nice change.
(00:41):
It was deep, it was profoundand it touched every single
corner of my life, often in waysI didn't even expect.
So welcome back to Cracked Open.
It's me, alana Banks, and ifyou're new here, this is the
space where I explore self-trust, inner growth and what it means
(01:01):
to live authentically.
And today I'm going to sharesome more of my story.
And if you tuned into the lastepisode, you know that I had a
turning point where I chose tostop seeking validation and
finally trust myself.
And once I made that decision,I wasn't entirely sure what
would come of it, but I knew Iwas done holding myself back,
(01:26):
and what I didn't realize wasthat the self-trust would really
lead to some of the biggestchanges in my life.
So thank you so much forlistening.
It was great to get back ontothe podcast last episode for
part one of this series and Iwould love to hear what's come
up for you.
Send me a message, follow me onInstagram at Alana Banks
(01:47):
Coaching you can send me anemail and let me know.
So one of the first major shiftsthat happened for me when I
decided to lean in and reallystart trusting myself was my
audience started to grow in waysthat I hadn't imagined before.
I was creating content andsuddenly my posts were reaching
(02:08):
thousands of people and I wasresonating with them at a
different type of level.
And here's the thing I've beencreating content for probably a
decade and every day I createsome type of piece of content
for Instagram or Facebook, justlike it's part of my routine.
(02:31):
And last November I posted areel, as I always did.
But this time was a bitdifferent.
I decided I'm going to teachpeople a technique.
I'm just going to go onInstagram and teach everybody
what I would do if I was in aone-on-one situation on a
coaching call.
(02:52):
And that resonated and thatparticular post went viral and
it now has 3.3 million views.
I gained over 70,000 followersfrom that particular reel and I
believe it's because I wasshowing up more authentically
(03:13):
and people were responding tothat energy.
And what that did was then itcontinued to fuel more and more
and more content coming fromthat energy and in that moment I
wasn't really focused onpleasing or impressing people,
right, I was just being real,and that honesty seems to be
(03:35):
exactly what people want.
And this growth wasn't justabout the numbers.
It wasn't just about the vanitymetrics and getting millions of
views and getting more and morefollowers.
It brought financial milestonesto my life as well, because
once I started showing upauthentically, I was attracting
(03:56):
people who wanted to experiencemy work, who wanted to work with
me, who wanted to have abreakthrough, and shortly after
going viral, I had my first$10,000 a month, which is really
big for me, because this careerhas been a pivot right.
This career for me was a pivotfive years ago.
(04:17):
It was something that I alwaysfelt deeply called to but didn't
have the courage to go all in,and this was a huge validation
for me.
Number one, to kind of explodeon social media, but then,
number two, that it actuallybecame lucrative, a lot more
lucrative than it had been forme in the past.
(04:38):
And so with that I got this newlevel of freedom, this new
level of confidence, and Irealized that self-trust wasn't
just helping me show up better,it was actually creating real,
tangible results, and thatdoesn't just mean financial
results.
That also means the work that Iwas putting out there was
helping people, which is myprimary goal.
(04:59):
I want my work to help people.
I'm showing up every daybecause I'm so passionate about
the power of hypnosis andneuro-linguistic programming and
it changed my life, and I knowthat it can change your life,
and this is why I show up everyday, because I want to help
(05:20):
people.
So, moving on from that kind ofnumber one unexpected shift,
what happened after that waseven bigger, and this one was
happening in my personal life.
One of the most meaningfulshifts happened in my marriage,
and I was not expecting this.
(05:42):
For a while I had been carryingaround a certain feeling and I
was kind of feeling guilty aboutit.
Things I didn't know really hada voice because they were kind
of vulnerable and, honestly, itwas a bit scary to open up and
(06:04):
these were feelings that hadbeen lingering beneath the
surface for a long time and partof me worried about how my
partner was going to react if Iopened up.
Would he understand?
Would it create distancebetween us?
I had all these worriesswirling around in my head and
(06:25):
I'm not going to go into thedetails about what specifically
it was, but I think this isimportant for you to hear,
because I think we all areholding on to something that we
might be a little bit nervous toshare about.
So, as I started trusting myselfmore deeply, I really felt this
(06:45):
nudge, like this little pushinside that said it's time to
get honest, to get real, to getreally real.
And so, rather than pushingthat nudge away, I decided to
trust it and I went to myhusband and I told him that I
wanted to share something andthat I hoped he could just hold
(07:07):
space and listen.
And it was one of those momentswhere you know when your heart
just feels like it's poundingout of your chest, where you
feel like you're sweating,you're kind of feeling like a
little bit out of it.
So my heart's beating out of mychest, but I knew that I had to
go through with it anyways.
(07:28):
And so we sat down and as Ispoke, I realized how much I'd
been holding back.
And this is the thing with ourpatterns and feelings that we
haven't processed.
This is all lying under thesurface and this is why we
aren't vulnerable, why we aren'thonest, why we haven't
processed.
This is all lying under thesurface and this is why we
aren't vulnerable, why we aren'thonest, why we don't share the
(07:50):
most intimate details of apeople because we're scared.
Right, there's a lot of fear.
So as I continued to talk to him, I realized how much I'd been
protecting myself instead ofbeing fully open.
And on that day it was lastDecember I was vulnerable in a
(08:12):
way I hadn't allowed myself tobe before.
I shared some really raw andreal feelings and I just trusted
whatever came up and I trustedthat ultimately, it would be for
the benefit of both of us.
And this is kind of the crazypart as I was talking, as I was
(08:32):
being vulnerable, as I wassharing, as I was just dumping
it all out, in that moment I hada powerful realization.
I recognized in that momentthat I already had the
relationship that I'd beenyearning for, the connection,
the love, the support that Ifelt from my husband in that
(08:53):
moment.
It was right there and I hadn'tfully seen it, because
sometimes we only see what we'reexpecting and until I got truly
honest and heart-centered andopen, I hadn't seen the depth of
our connection that was alreadyright there, like right before
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my eyes.
My fears had painted thispicture of distance,
misunderstanding, rejection, butthe reality was completely
different.
By trusting myself enough toshare openly, I discovered in
that moment a whole new level ofintimacy and connection with
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him.
And here's the thing heresponded in such a
compassionate, understanding waythat it created this safe,
expansive space between us andthat space that allowed our bond
to grow even deeper.
And it just completely blew meaway.
And I think that's one of themost beautiful things about
self-trust is it doesn't justchange us individually, it
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enriches our relationships,because when we trust ourselves
enough to be honest andvulnerable, we create room for
real connection and growth, notthis surface level stuff.
Anyway, that experience showedme that self-trust is powerful.
It has the potential totransform the dynamics of our
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closest relationships, deepeningthe love and understanding we
share, and that, for me, was oneof the most powerful lessons.
Now, obviously, you know wehave the conversation and we
still have to move forward.
But because there was thatexpansive space it gave us this
jumping off place to go evendeeper within our relationship,
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become even more honest, moreopen, more loving, more
compassionate, more empathetic,and it continues to unfold so we
can move on from myrelationship discovery and now I
want to just share how choosingself-trust transformed the way
I work with my clients and, tobe honest, the transformation
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that I had within myrelationship also had a huge
reflection on the way I wasshowing up with my clients,
because then I was attractingwomen who were going through
very similar situations to meand I was coming at it from a
completely new level.
I shouldn't even say a newlevel, it was more of a new
perspective, of a newperspective.
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And so this ripple effectcontinued into my client
sessions.
The more I trusted my intuition,my insights, my ability to
guide people, the more myclients were able to trust
themselves.
And there's somethingincredibly powerful about
holding space for someone andtruly believing in their ability
to find their own answers.
And this is huge, especially ifthere's any coaches listening
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or other hypnotherapists or NLPpractitioners.
When you let go of the need tofix or direct and simply trust
the process, it allows yourclients to do the exact same
thing.
And this was something that Ialways knew at a kind of like
intellectual level, but now Iwas experiencing it deeply.
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I was trusting in my abilitiesso much, and trusting in my
intuition, my insights, myability to guide people that I
was able to hold such powerfulspace for people.
Having self-trust isn't abouthaving a cookie cutter approach,
right.
In fact, it's the opposite ofthat.
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When I'm working with clients,no two sessions with me are ever
the same, because everyone isunique and because I work
intuitively, pulling from a widerange of skills, I can meet my
clients exactly where they are,and that's what ended up
happening in my client sessions.
When I'm working with someone,I know when a particular
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technique or deep hypnosissession is needed and I trust
myself to bring in the rightapproach at that right moment.
And this kind of flexibility,this ability to adapt and flow
with each client's journey, iswhat makes my work so effective
and deeply transformative.
Because I'm with you, I'mmoving through you.
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My brain is thinking okay, whattechnique could we bring in now
?
What question could I askthat's going to allow you to go
deeper?
It's really about creating asession that's as unique, as you
are right.
That's what makes this work sotransformative.
That's why I had such atransformative experience and
why I ended up leaving my careerto study these skills and start
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this new life for myself.
And it's amazing, becauseself-trust doesn't just give you
permission to show upauthentically.
It invites others to do thesame.
The more I started to embrace myown path and honor my own
intuition, the more I attractedclients who were ready to dive
deep, break down their barriers,unravel their patterns and
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trust themselves too.
It became a shared foundationto my work.
And then something even moreunexpected happened self-trust
started drawing like-mindedpeople into my life, and I began
connecting with other coachesand healers and entrepreneurs,
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people who, like me, were alsocommitted to walking their own
path and living from a place oftruth.
And these connections, theyjust started appearing out of
nowhere.
Because here's the thing whenyou're aligned with who you
truly are, you're naturallygoing to attract other people
who are resonating with thattype of energy.
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And these relationships havebeen priceless for me, because
it's been further validation tostepping into my own truth, to
trusting myself, to trusting myintuition.
And there's also somethingthat's incredibly inspiring
about surrounding yourself withpeople who get it, who are on a
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similar path to me and who areequally committed to living with
integrity and courage.
And now we support each otherand we inspire each other other
and hold each other accountableto keep growing.
And this sense of community, ofbeing surrounded by people who
understand the depth of the workthat I do, is something that I
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wouldn't trade for anything,because when I was living on the
surface, when I wasn't trustingmyself, when I wasn't speaking
my truth, I felt like I didn'tbelong.
I felt like I wasn't trustingmyself.
When I wasn't speaking my truth, I felt like I didn't belong.
I felt like I wasn't connected.
I felt like people didn'tunderstand me.
But starting to choose to trustmyself, this created such a
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ripple in my life that draws inthese experiences, these people,
new opportunities, and thesepeople, opportunities,
experience are aligning finallywith who I am, who I truly am.
So that's the true beauty ofself-trust it's expansive, it
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invites others in, it opens up awhole new level of connection
and possibility.
And I am just so blown away withhow it all evolved and,
honestly, looking back over thelast year, one of the most
surprising parts of this journeyis that pure freedom and joy
that came with it.
Self-trust is incrediblyliberating.
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You're no longer living foranyone else's approval, you're
living for what feels right foryou and there's a joy in that, a
lightness in that.
It's something that, honestly,I have not really experienced
before, and each step I takedeepens my sense of purpose and
my life has just become so muchmore fulfilling.
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And let's be real, it hasn'tbeen easy either.
Now I know I've talked about allthe positive stuff of this
ripple effect, but that wasn'teasy.
Right, that came with a lot ofworry and doubt and
uncomfortable moments and havingto be open when I wanted to be
closed and really speaking mytruth when I wanted to keep it
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in right Like that's the workthat goes into fully trusting
yourself and fully stepping intothis place.
But each time I leaned in andtrusted myself, I felt more
aligned and more in flow, and soI just wanted to keep doing it
right.
The first couple of times feltreally difficult, but when I
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recognized the impact that ithad, when I recognized that the
outcome was fulfilling andpowerful, it almost became
something that I wanted tocontinue doing.
And this is what I say when Ithink in the last episode I said
it felt a bit sneaky, becauseself-trust has really showed me
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that life doesn't have to feelheavy or forced.
It can feel free and expansiveand joyful, and it honestly does
feel like you're cheating, likeyou have some secret hack for
life, because it starts tobecome really easy.
Hack for life because it startsto become really easy.
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So if self-trust could do allof this in my life, imagine what
it could do in yours, whetherit's your career, your
relationships or just how youfeel about yourself when you
wake up in the morning.
I can guarantee you that if youlean into self-trust, it will
create a ripple that reachesevery part of your life.
So I want to leave you with atakeaway, because my prime
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concern really is to help you.
This is why I'm sharing thisinformation on this podcast.
So here's something you can try.
Take a moment to imagine whatyour life could look like if you
fully trusted yourself.
Moment to imagine what yourlife could look like if you
fully trusted yourself.
What would you go after, whatwould you let go of, what
uncomfortable conversationswould you have?
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And you could take out yourjournal and start writing right
now or maybe you've alreadystarted to do so or take out
your voice memo app and sendyourself a message, or you could
write down this journal promptright now.
You could write down.
If I fully trusted myself, Iwould dot, dot dot and I
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encourage you to use this promptas a way to explore what
self-trust could unlock for you.
Just set aside maybe a fewminutes a day this week to write
out your thoughts withoutholding back.
There's no judgment here.
The sky is the limit.
You can say whatever you wantand just imagine the
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possibilities, the changes,small shifts that could come
from fully trusting yourself.
This is what I did Last November.
I sat down and I asked myselfwhat would bring me peace?
That's another journal prompt.
You could ask yourself but whatwould bring me peace?
And I recognized I had so muchinner turmoil going on that I
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needed to create peace in mylife.
And it was my own doing,because I was holding on to all
of this kind of information inmy mind that I wasn't sharing, I
wasn't being vulnerable about,and once I was holding on to all
of this kind of information inmy mind that I wasn't sharing I
wasn't being vulnerable about,and once I brought all that to
the surface, I had peace.
So take the time to do thislittle exercise and I would love
to hear from you.
If you have an aha moment orsomething comes up for you or
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you have a difficultconversation and it really turns
things around, please let meknow.
I would love to hear.
You can send me an email,alanna, at alannabankscom, or
you can message me on Instagramat alannabankscoaching.
I answer all of my directmessages.
Before I wrap up, I just wantto say the journey of self-trust
is one of the mosttransformative paths you can
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take.
It's a commitment to honoringyourself, to living
authentically, to allowing yourtrue self to guide you, and the
best part of it all is thefreedom and the joy that comes
with it.
They're there, they're waitingfor you, so thank you so much
for joining me today.
If you found value in thisepisode or if you have any
reflections from the journalprompt, I'd love to hear about
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it.
If you love this episode or ifyou have any reflections from
the journal prompt, I'd love tohear about it.
If you love this series, pleasesend me a message, write a
review, give me stars, followthis podcast so you can continue
to hear more.
We're going to dive into morepractical ways to build
self-trust and how to navigatethe ups and downs of the journey
in part three, which is goingto drop in a couple of days, and
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I'm going to talk more aboutthe road ahead, about how you
can continue to maintainself-trust as a lifestyle rather
than just like a quick fix.
I'm going to talk about thethings that I've done this year
to maintain this self-trust asI've moved through difficult
parts.
I'm going to do a reflectiveexercise for you guys as well.
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I invite you back for partthree and I'm so looking forward
to it.
So that's it for me today.
I hope you're all having awonderful day and until I speak
to you again, trust yourself.
The possibilities are endless,and that's all for now.
Thanks for listening.
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