November 25, 2024 • 29 mins
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Self-trust isn’t a one-and-done achievement. It’s not something you check off your to-do list and forget about. It’s a relationship—a daily commitment to showing up for yourself, especially when life gets messy, uncertain, or overwhelming.
In this final part of my self-trust series, I’m opening up about what it really looks like to sustain self-trust as a lifestyle. This isn’t about perfection—it’s about creating practices that keep you grounded, aligned, and moving forward even when doubt creeps in.
Here’s what we’re diving into:
How I Keep Self-Trust Alive – The rituals, reflections, and daily practices that help me tune into my intuition and confidently navigate challenges.
The Messy Truth About Doubt – Why self-trust isn’t about always feeling confident, but about moving forward even when doubt whispers in your ear.
Living Self-Trust in Relationships – From letting my dog choose our walking route to empowering my kids to make their own decisions, self-trust shows up unexpectedly.
Setting Boundaries with Clarity – How self-trust has made it easier for me to say ‘no’ to what doesn’t align and ‘yes’ to what does, without second-guessing myself.
Shaping the Future with Self-Trust – Why trusting myself has allowed me to dream bigger, take risks, and stay open to whatever comes next.
This episode will guide you through a powerful reflective exercise to envision your life if you lived fully from self-trust. You’ll leave with actionable steps to weave self-trust into your daily life—whether it’s a morning check-in, journaling about your wins, or letting go of control in small but meaningful ways.
Tune in to explore how self-trust can become your foundation, compass, and daily practice.
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
So what does it really take to maintain
self-trust, not just as a choicehere and there, but as a daily
lifestyle?
Self-trust is one of thosethings that we can't just
achieve once and then check itoff the list.
It's something that we have tonurture, especially as life
brings new challenges andopportunities, and so today I'm
(00:22):
gonna share some of the waysthat I keep self-trust alive and
at the heart of everything I do, and I, today, I'm going to
share some of the ways that Ikeep self-trust alive and at the
heart of everything I do, andI'm going to guide you in
envisioning a life led by yourown inner knowing.
So, hi, everyone, welcome backto Cracked Open.
This is Alana Banks, and thisis the third part of my series
all on self-trust, and today I'mtalking about the road ahead.
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What does life look like whenyou make self-trust part of your
lifestyle, and how does itshape your vision for the future
and what can you do toreinforce it on a daily basis?
I'm going to dive into all ofthis in this episode.
So, as you know and I've sharedin the last couple of episodes
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that I've committed toself-trust, and as I've
committed to self-trust more andmore, I've come to understand
that it's something thatrequires constant attention and
nurturing, requires constantattention and nurturing,
especially when I'm steppinginto new territory.
(01:34):
Self-trust isn't something youachieve once and then you have
it forever.
Right, it's an ongoing processand it deepens and shifts as I
continue to grow.
So, whether I'm taking on a newproject, or adjusting to a new
dynamic in my relationship, ormaking a pivot in my business,
or navigating situations with mykids, I've noticed that
self-trust is always tested,especially in the unknown.
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And here's the thing I used tothink that once I trusted myself
, everything would just besmooth sailing.
But the truth is, self-trust isoften the most alive in the
moments of doubt and challenge,and we're human right, we can't
escape these moments.
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Every time I step into a newsituation where I can't see the
outcome or things feel reallyuncertain, I'm given a new
opportunity to trust myself.
And this is the journey.
Right Like this is the process,because it's in these times,
when the path ahead isn't allmapped out and perfect, that I
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get to practice staying centered, staying grounded, listening to
my intuition and moving forward.
Anyway, and this has been oneof the biggest lessons the key
to sustaining self-trust isremembering that it's a journey,
not a destination, becausethere's no point where we're
suddenly done.
And that's actually the coolestpart of it all.
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And, trust me, there aredefinitely moments when doubts
and uncertainties come up, andthat's totally normal and
natural and human.
We can't escape that.
But the difference now is thatI've learned to handle these
moments without letting themhold me back.
Instead of seeing these doubtsas signs that I'm on the wrong
path or I'm not ready or I can'tdo it, I see them as part of
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the process, because self-trustisn't about feeling 100%
confident all the time.
It's about being able to moveforward even when things feel
uncertain.
It's about being resilient.
It's trusting that you have theinner strength and the
intuition to navigate whatevercomes your way.
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So this shift has been huge forme.
Like I used to feel like Ineeded to have everything
figured out, everything had tobe perfect before I could take
the next step, and you mightfeel this way too Many people do
right.
But now I understand thatself-trust gives me the freedom
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to keep going, even when thepath is uncertain or isn't
entirely clear.
It's kind of like having aninner compass that guides you
without needing the full map.
Like you might not always knowthe destination, but you can
trust that you're capable ofhandling the journey.
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That's what self-trust is allabout.
It's knowing that you'recapable, knowing that you're
going to get through it nomatter what, knowing that you
have your back.
So when we have self-trust,then that allows us to embrace
new challenges without needingto control every single detail.
And this is the challengingpart, right, it's partly about
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letting go as well and trusting,taking that leap.
And when you do this, you know.
You know you're fairly certainthat you'll be able to figure
things out along the way, andthat has given me a new sense of
freedom knowing that I can justfigure it out.
I don't have to wait forperfect clarity to take action
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anymore.
I trust myself.
I trust myself to learn toadapt, to grow through each
experience.
In this way, self-trust isn'tjust a skill, it's a powerful
foundation, and that's why I saythat self-trust is the
foundation to living afulfilling, joyful life, because
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this foundation supports you inmoving forward, it supports me
in moving forward no matter whatlies ahead, and that's powerful
and that's freeing and it'sexciting.
So, to keep self-trust alive asa daily practice, I've developed
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some rituals that help me stayconnected to my inner guidance.
But here's the thing there's noone ritual or one size fits all
approach.
It's really personal and it'sabout finding what works best
for you, what helps you connectand deepen that relationship
with your own inner knowing.
But of course, I'm going toshare the ones that work for me
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and feel free to use them, andit may allow you to kind of
explore and figure out somethings that work for you.
So one of my favorite ways tostart each day is with a simple
morning check-in, and I think Italked about this in part one.
Right, I take a few quietminutes.
I might close my eyes, I mightnot.
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I might take a deep breath, Imight not.
I might take a deep breath, Imight not.
I might just simply ask myselfwhat do I need to know today?
And I don't try to force ananswer, I just listen for
intuitive nudges.
Sometimes it's a reminder to bepatient.
Sometimes it's a sense ofconfidence to take a bold action
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.
Sometimes there's nothing and Ihave to trust that.
Sometimes it's a gentle thoughtthat brings some clarity to
something that I've been mullingover.
Honestly, it really depends,and having this practice and
doing this every morning keepsme grounded.
It keeps me intentional abouttrusting my inner voice as I
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move throughout my day, and it'salso an opportunity for me to
continue trusting myself,because you know I've said this
before but the more you check inwith yourself, the more your
inner guidance feels like itmatters that you're listening,
that you're checking in, so themore it will start to serve up
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to you.
Another thing that I do is Imake space to notice signs and
synchronicities.
Self-trust has really taught methat guidance shows up in
unexpected places if I'm open toseeing it right.
So I have to be open to lookingfor signs and synchronicities.
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They don't just come out ofnowhere, so I'm open to it.
I'm not necessarily looking forit, but when I see something
that is a sign or like asynchronicity that makes sense
to me, then that's my cue.
For me, some signs are dimes.
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When I see a dime, Iimmediately think of my dad.
My dad passed away five yearsago and someone told me that
dimes are spirits passed onloved ones, and so I see dimes
everywhere.
And whenever I see a dime, Ijust am like hi, dad, and that's
my cue that I'm on the righttrack, or that he's looking down
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on me, or I check in to seewhat was I thinking about when I
saw that dime.
So that's one.
Another thing I might do is Imight pull a tarot card or an
oracle card for insight.
Sometimes I'll just randomlyopen up a page in a book and
read a passage, knowing thatthere's probably something there
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that's meaningful for me inthat moment.
So these small acts remind methat the answers I need are
often already around me, and itstrengthens my trust in the
process.
So you may have your own thingsright.
That are signs andsynchronicities for you, but
what these symbolize are thatyou're open, that you're open to
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receiving and you're also opento finding what you need in
unexpected places, and you knowthat the answers are always all
around you.
You just have to open your eyesto it and expect it to be there
, and then it will be.
Another ritual for me that'sbeen really valuable is
journaling, but I don'tnecessarily journal about what I
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need to fix or change.
I'm not even really journalingabout like my day.
Instead, I use it to celebrate.
I'll write about moments whereI listened to my intuition or I
made a decision that honored myown voice, and this kind of
journaling shows me thatself-trust is already part of my
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life, even if it feels subtleor quiet.
It just is a reinforcementright that I'm committed to my
own truth, and it's a really funway to look back and really
just nurture that relationshipwith myself and sometimes be
reminded of the things that youknow I leapt towards with my own
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intuition.
And then, of course, as ahypnotherapist, I also like to
spend time practicing,envisioning the future,
practicing envisioning thefuture.
So I often set aside time toquiet the noise in my mind,
close my eyes and just imaginewhat I want to create.
So I think about anything rightRelationships, work, my own
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life, my own personaldevelopment, experiences that
feel most aligned with my valuesand my purpose.
And I picture a life that flowsfrom a place of self-trust,
where I'm connected to my truthin everything that I do, and
this visualization keeps meconnected to the bigger picture.
It reminds me that my journeyis unique and that I don't have
to follow anyone else's path.
So, you know, I bring thesepractices to the forefront
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because they've really becomeessential for me, helping me
stay centered and grounded nomatter what's happening around
me.
And of course, you know I falloff and then I pick back up
again, but these are sort of myanchors to remind me to always
come back to self-trust.
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And, like I said, there's noformula right.
You can do whatever you want,whatever makes sense for you,
but self-trust will grow fromfinding and refining the
practices that resonate the mostwith you.
And when you stay tuned in toyour own guidance and you
celebrate your choices and younotice the signs around you,
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then you're continuallynurturing your life rooted in
self-trust, and that's that'swhere it really works for me.
So self-trust is something thatI use for my own personal
decisions, but I also use it ina way that relates to others.
So, especially when it comes tolike my dog or my kids, I use
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self-trust a lot.
So, for example, some days whenI'm out walking my dog, I let
him lead the way, I let himdecide where he wants to go and
I allow myself to trust that heknows what he wants.
And it might sound simple, butit's actually been a really
powerful reminder for me to letgo of control and just trust the
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process, even in theseseemingly small moments like
walking your dog.
But when I give him the chanceto follow his own instincts,
then I'm giving myself thechance to release any need to
directly control him and it'skind of a fun little practice.
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And it's kind of a fun littlepractice and it's interesting
what comes up for you, becauseoften I'll have in my mind where
I want to take him for a walk,but sometimes he doesn't want to
follow in that direction andsometimes I try to force it, but
what's the point of forcing it?
We're out on this walk for hisbenefit, not mine, and so
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sometimes his intuition is moreon the right track than mine
might be Right.
So it's a really letting go ofthat feeling of needing to
control every situation and it'sa it's.
It's a really, really easypractice to get into.
And it's the same thing withkids, right?
I try to empower them to makechoices and trust what they want
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to do or don't want to do, andsometimes that means letting
them set their own boundaries ormake their own decisions, even
if it's not what I would havechosen for them.
And this requires a lot ofpatience.
Any parents out there that arelistening, I know you're nodding
your head right now.
It takes a lot of letting go ofexpectations, but it's also a
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practice that I'm very committedto, because trusting others
whether it's my dog or my kidsor my clients or my husband.
That's a reflection of my ownself-trust, right?
When I trust them, I'mreinforcing my own belief in the
importance of honoring my innerguidance, and it makes space
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for others to experience thatfreedom too, right?
Often people who don't trustother people it's not that they
don't trust other people, it'snot that they don't trust other
people, it's that they don'ttrust themselves.
So we always have to look backinward.
Like what is it that I'm nottrusting within myself?
Right?
Like why am I not trusting thisperson?
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Like, what part of this personam I not trusting?
But what is that reflectionwithin me?
What am I not trusting withinmyself?
That's what you have to askyourself.
So living from a place ofself-trust has also changed the
way I approach boundaries andcommunication.
I'm a lot more clear and directnow than I ever have been, and
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this is because I'm no longersecond guessing myself or
overthinking right.
I don't waste time on thingsthat aren't in alignment with
what I want or need, and thisisn't selfish, right.
This is not to say that I don'tentertain it, but I'm not going
to invest a lot of time, energyor money into something that
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doesn't really align with what Iam moving towards.
And so having self-trust hasmade me a lot more intentional
about everything that I do right, the conversations that I
engage in, the information thatI'm taking in the actions that
I'm committed to, the projectsthat I'm working on.
And this clarity has allowed meto set boundaries with ease,
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because I'm not afraid to say noto what doesn't feel right
anymore, because I know what Iwant to do.
I have a lot more clarity wantto do.
I have a lot more clarity, andit's also made it really easy
for me to say yes wholeheartedlywhen it is in alignment with
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what I want.
There's this freedom in beingable to focus on only what
aligns with your values and yourpurpose, and self-trust is at
the core of that.
And this has been so empoweringto recognize that living this
way creates a life that feelsreally authentic and in harmony
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with who I truly am.
It's brought so much peace intomy life because everything
feels intentional, right.
Everything feels like somethingthat I want to be doing.
And here's the thing self-trustisn't just about handling
today's challenges right.
It's about setting thefoundation for what I want to
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continue to create, movingforward.
So as I look ahead, I realizethat self-trust allows me to
just dream bigger, to expand myvision and to know that I can
navigate whatever comes my way.
It's really allowed me to shapehow I approach my relationships
, because I'm committed right tobeing open and honest.
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It shapes my work because ithelps me create freely, without
overthinking or worrying aboutwhether I'm doing it the right
way.
It's really given me thefreedom to go after things that
feel expansive, things that feellight, things that feel easy
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and in flow, and it's excitingto know that my path is ever
evolving.
Self-trust means that I can keepmoving forward, even when I
can't see every step ahead.
But the thing is I know that aslong as I stay true to myself,
everything else is going to fallinto place, and this gives me
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the courage to keep following myintuition.
I'm sure many of you have heardabout like following the
breadcrumbs, right.
So these are these littleintuitive nudges, these are the
breadcrumbs that are aligningyou to, ultimately, what you're
going to want.
So this is your opportunity tocontinue to embrace the new
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opportunities, right, that arecoming up for you, and then that
allows you to live like fully,from a place of pure
authenticity.
You might want to go likerewind and listen to that again,
because this is something thattook a while for me to really
understand and really integrateand process.
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So I want to invite you now tohave a bit of reflection time,
and this is an exercise that youcan do whenever you want.
You can come back to this asmuch as you want, but I'd like
to invite you to reflect on whatyour life might look like if
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you fully embraced self-trust.
Just take a moment to imagine aversion of your life where you
listen to yourself first, whereyour inner voice is guiding you
every day, where you take actionon these like crazy things that
come into your mind.
What would that feel like?
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How would you show up?
What kind of relationshipswould you nurture?
What kind of relationshipswould you let go of?
What kind of projects would yoube working on?
What kind of parent would yoube?
What kind of partner would yoube?
So let's go into that just alittle bit deeper and, if you
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can right now, just close youreyes for a minute, take a few
deep, cleansing breaths andpicture yourself living fully
from a place of self-trust,really grounded in your knowing,
really listening.
Imagine that each day, youstart by tuning into what feels
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right for you.
No more overthinking ordoubting yourself or asking
other people what they think.
Really just tuning in andnoticing what feels right for
you, what would bring you peace,joy, fulfillment.
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And I want you to notice what'sdifferent in this version of
you.
How do you carry yourself?
How does it affect yourrelationships?
How might you be at work or theway you make decisions?
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And now reflect on one smallstep you could take daily to
bring more self-trust into yourlife.
Maybe it's the morning innercheck-in, maybe it's a reminder,
a post-it note to follow yourintuition.
Maybe it's practicing,celebrating your decisions that
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come from a place of self-trust.
But I invite you to choosesomething small and easy,
something that helps youstrengthen self-trust every day,
and do this every day for thenext seven days, maybe even 21
days.
So take your time with thisreflection and, when you're
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ready, write down what you saw,what you felt, what you heard,
because self-trust is built stepby step and each small action
adds up over time.
Right?
You've all heard of thecompound effect.
The more you listen in, the moreyou check in, the more you ask
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yourself, the more you makedecisions based on your own
inner, knowing the more you'regoing to trust yourself, you're
going to trust yourself, themore you're going to see
evidence to suggest like, ohyeah, this is good, this feels
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good, this feels grounded, thisfeels like peaceful, because the
goal here is to create a lifethat feels true to you, not one
that you're living for someoneelse, not one that you think you
should be living.
A life that really feels trueand authentic to you and where
you want to be going, one thatyou don't need permission or
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validation to live.
It's 100% yours.
This is freedom.
So, before I wrap up, I justwant to say that self-trust is
something that you keep building, one day at a time, and it's a
way of life.
It's really a lifestyle, if youchoose.
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So if you found today's exercisehelpful, or if you're starting
a new self-trust practice, oryou're going to take something
that I've shared with you, I'dreally love to hear about it.
I really care about all of you.
I'm really passionate aboutthis topic, as you may have
noticed, and I'm here to help.
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I'm here to provide guidance,I'm here to celebrate you.
I'm excited for you genuinely,and so I want you just to know
that you're not alone, and I'mhonestly so excited to see where
your self-trust will take you.
So thank you so much for beinghere with me for this three-part
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series.
I'm really excited that I gotback on the podcast and that
I've reignited some interestshere this corner of the internet
.
I hope it sparked somethingwithin you, maybe an idea, a
nudge, or maybe even just thecourage to trust yourself a
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little bit more deeply.
But this is just the beginning.
I've got so many excitingepisodes coming up where we're
going to go even deeper intotopics like this.
It's not always going to bepersonally about me, but I
really want to share everythingthat I've researched on
self-trust.
I've got some topics coming up,like the myths about personal
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growth that keep you stuck andhow to break free from them, how
boundaries are actuallyself-trust in action and how to
set them without feeling guiltyOoh, that's a good one why
overthinking is holding you backand how to tune into your gut
instead.
So if any of these resonate,make sure you're subscribed,
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because I don't want you to missthem.
So subscribe to wherever youlisten to your podcast you can
listen to this pretty mucheverywhere where podcasts are
streamed and if this series hasinspired you and you're ready to
take the next step in yourself-trust journey.
I'd love to invite you to checkout my course.
It's called Trust Mastering theArt of Self-Trust, and this
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course is where we take theconcepts from these episodes and
we go even deeper.
It's like working with meone-on-one, but at your own pace
.
So we excavate the beliefs, thehabits, the doubts that are
keeping you stuck, and then Igive you the tools to
confidently navigate your life,your relationships, your work,
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your health, towards self-trust.
So inside the course, you getguided exercise to uncover
what's really holding you back.
I give you powerful NLP andhypnosis techniques to rewire
self-doubt into confidence.
I give you a bunch of practicaltools to live in alignment with
your inner wisdom every singleday.
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There are, I think, aroundseven guided hypnotic
meditations that are yours tokeep forever in there.
This isn't just a course, it'sreally a transformation, and the
people who have already gonethrough it are killing it in
life.
They are just trustingthemselves at a deeper level all
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the time, and I'm just blownaway by what they've achieved in
just less than a year.
So if you've been feeling stuckor unsure of your next step,
this, honestly, is your sign tolean in and trust that you're
capable of creating the life youwant.
So you can go to the link in myprofile at Alana Banks Coaching
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on Instagram to learn moreabout my course Trust Mastering
the Art of Self-Trust, and youcan unlock all the modules today
.
If you go there, I'll actuallyput the link to the course in
the show notes as well, so thatyou can just click right there.
And the price you probably wantto know the price.
The price is $197.
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When I'm recording this rightnow, november 20th, I have no
idea if the price will increase,but right now it's $197.
You get lifetime access.
There are six modules.
It's the only course, honestly,that you're ever going to need
when it comes to this issue.
So check that out.
Anyway, enough about that.
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Thank you again for tuning in.
Let's keep growing together.
I love you guys.
Thank you so much for listening.
I just love podcasting and lovebeing here and love sharing my
message with all of you.
So keep on growing, keep ontrusting yourself and I'll speak
to you all soon.
Bye for now.
So what does it really take to maintain
self-trust, not just as a choicehere and there, but as a daily
lifestyle?
Self-trust is one of thosethings that we can't just
achieve once and then check itoff the list.
It's something that we have tonurture, especially as life
brings new challenges andopportunities, and so today I'm
(00:22):
gonna share some of the waysthat I keep self-trust alive and
at the heart of everything I do, and I, today, I'm going to
share some of the ways that Ikeep self-trust alive and at the
heart of everything I do, andI'm going to guide you in
envisioning a life led by yourown inner knowing.
So, hi, everyone, welcome backto Cracked Open.
This is Alana Banks, and thisis the third part of my series
all on self-trust, and today I'mtalking about the road ahead.
(00:43):
What does life look like whenyou make self-trust part of your
lifestyle, and how does itshape your vision for the future
and what can you do toreinforce it on a daily basis?
I'm going to dive into all ofthis in this episode.
So, as you know and I've sharedin the last couple of episodes
(01:10):
that I've committed toself-trust, and as I've
committed to self-trust more andmore, I've come to understand
that it's something thatrequires constant attention and
nurturing, requires constantattention and nurturing,
especially when I'm steppinginto new territory.
(01:34):
Self-trust isn't something youachieve once and then you have
it forever.
Right, it's an ongoing processand it deepens and shifts as I
continue to grow.
So, whether I'm taking on a newproject, or adjusting to a new
dynamic in my relationship, ormaking a pivot in my business,
or navigating situations with mykids, I've noticed that
self-trust is always tested,especially in the unknown.
(01:58):
And here's the thing I used tothink that once I trusted myself
, everything would just besmooth sailing.
But the truth is, self-trust isoften the most alive in the
moments of doubt and challenge,and we're human right, we can't
escape these moments.
(02:18):
Every time I step into a newsituation where I can't see the
outcome or things feel reallyuncertain, I'm given a new
opportunity to trust myself.
And this is the journey.
Right Like this is the process,because it's in these times,
when the path ahead isn't allmapped out and perfect, that I
(02:41):
get to practice staying centered, staying grounded, listening to
my intuition and moving forward.
Anyway, and this has been oneof the biggest lessons the key
to sustaining self-trust isremembering that it's a journey,
not a destination, becausethere's no point where we're
suddenly done.
And that's actually the coolestpart of it all.
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And, trust me, there aredefinitely moments when doubts
and uncertainties come up, andthat's totally normal and
natural and human.
We can't escape that.
But the difference now is thatI've learned to handle these
moments without letting themhold me back.
Instead of seeing these doubtsas signs that I'm on the wrong
path or I'm not ready or I can'tdo it, I see them as part of
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the process, because self-trustisn't about feeling 100%
confident all the time.
It's about being able to moveforward even when things feel
uncertain.
It's about being resilient.
It's trusting that you have theinner strength and the
intuition to navigate whatevercomes your way.
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So this shift has been huge forme.
Like I used to feel like Ineeded to have everything
figured out, everything had tobe perfect before I could take
the next step, and you mightfeel this way too Many people do
right.
But now I understand thatself-trust gives me the freedom
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to keep going, even when thepath is uncertain or isn't
entirely clear.
It's kind of like having aninner compass that guides you
without needing the full map.
Like you might not always knowthe destination, but you can
trust that you're capable ofhandling the journey.
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That's what self-trust is allabout.
It's knowing that you'recapable, knowing that you're
going to get through it nomatter what, knowing that you
have your back.
So when we have self-trust,then that allows us to embrace
new challenges without needingto control every single detail.
And this is the challengingpart, right, it's partly about
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letting go as well and trusting,taking that leap.
And when you do this, you know.
You know you're fairly certainthat you'll be able to figure
things out along the way, andthat has given me a new sense of
freedom knowing that I can justfigure it out.
I don't have to wait forperfect clarity to take action
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anymore.
I trust myself.
I trust myself to learn toadapt, to grow through each
experience.
In this way, self-trust isn'tjust a skill, it's a powerful
foundation, and that's why I saythat self-trust is the
foundation to living afulfilling, joyful life, because
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this foundation supports you inmoving forward, it supports me
in moving forward no matter whatlies ahead, and that's powerful
and that's freeing and it'sexciting.
So, to keep self-trust alive asa daily practice, I've developed
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some rituals that help me stayconnected to my inner guidance.
But here's the thing there's noone ritual or one size fits all
approach.
It's really personal and it'sabout finding what works best
for you, what helps you connectand deepen that relationship
with your own inner knowing.
But of course, I'm going toshare the ones that work for me
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and feel free to use them, andit may allow you to kind of
explore and figure out somethings that work for you.
So one of my favorite ways tostart each day is with a simple
morning check-in, and I think Italked about this in part one.
Right, I take a few quietminutes.
I might close my eyes, I mightnot.
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I might take a deep breath, Imight not.
I might take a deep breath, Imight not.
I might just simply ask myselfwhat do I need to know today?
And I don't try to force ananswer, I just listen for
intuitive nudges.
Sometimes it's a reminder to bepatient.
Sometimes it's a sense ofconfidence to take a bold action
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.
Sometimes there's nothing and Ihave to trust that.
Sometimes it's a gentle thoughtthat brings some clarity to
something that I've been mullingover.
Honestly, it really depends,and having this practice and
doing this every morning keepsme grounded.
It keeps me intentional abouttrusting my inner voice as I
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move throughout my day, and it'salso an opportunity for me to
continue trusting myself,because you know I've said this
before but the more you check inwith yourself, the more your
inner guidance feels like itmatters that you're listening,
that you're checking in, so themore it will start to serve up
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to you.
Another thing that I do is Imake space to notice signs and
synchronicities.
Self-trust has really taught methat guidance shows up in
unexpected places if I'm open toseeing it right.
So I have to be open to lookingfor signs and synchronicities.
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They don't just come out ofnowhere, so I'm open to it.
I'm not necessarily looking forit, but when I see something
that is a sign or like asynchronicity that makes sense
to me, then that's my cue.
For me, some signs are dimes.
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When I see a dime, Iimmediately think of my dad.
My dad passed away five yearsago and someone told me that
dimes are spirits passed onloved ones, and so I see dimes
everywhere.
And whenever I see a dime, Ijust am like hi, dad, and that's
my cue that I'm on the righttrack, or that he's looking down
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on me, or I check in to seewhat was I thinking about when I
saw that dime.
So that's one.
Another thing I might do is Imight pull a tarot card or an
oracle card for insight.
Sometimes I'll just randomlyopen up a page in a book and
read a passage, knowing thatthere's probably something there
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that's meaningful for me inthat moment.
So these small acts remind methat the answers I need are
often already around me, and itstrengthens my trust in the
process.
So you may have your own thingsright.
That are signs andsynchronicities for you, but
what these symbolize are thatyou're open, that you're open to
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receiving and you're also opento finding what you need in
unexpected places, and you knowthat the answers are always all
around you.
You just have to open your eyesto it and expect it to be there
, and then it will be.
Another ritual for me that'sbeen really valuable is
journaling, but I don'tnecessarily journal about what I
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need to fix or change.
I'm not even really journalingabout like my day.
Instead, I use it to celebrate.
I'll write about moments whereI listened to my intuition or I
made a decision that honored myown voice, and this kind of
journaling shows me thatself-trust is already part of my
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life, even if it feels subtleor quiet.
It just is a reinforcementright that I'm committed to my
own truth, and it's a really funway to look back and really
just nurture that relationshipwith myself and sometimes be
reminded of the things that youknow I leapt towards with my own
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intuition.
And then, of course, as ahypnotherapist, I also like to
spend time practicing,envisioning the future,
practicing envisioning thefuture.
So I often set aside time toquiet the noise in my mind,
close my eyes and just imaginewhat I want to create.
So I think about anything rightRelationships, work, my own
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life, my own personaldevelopment, experiences that
feel most aligned with my valuesand my purpose.
And I picture a life that flowsfrom a place of self-trust,
where I'm connected to my truthin everything that I do, and
this visualization keeps meconnected to the bigger picture.
It reminds me that my journeyis unique and that I don't have
to follow anyone else's path.
So, you know, I bring thesepractices to the forefront
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because they've really becomeessential for me, helping me
stay centered and grounded nomatter what's happening around
me.
And of course, you know I falloff and then I pick back up
again, but these are sort of myanchors to remind me to always
come back to self-trust.
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And, like I said, there's noformula right.
You can do whatever you want,whatever makes sense for you,
but self-trust will grow fromfinding and refining the
practices that resonate the mostwith you.
And when you stay tuned in toyour own guidance and you
celebrate your choices and younotice the signs around you,
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then you're continuallynurturing your life rooted in
self-trust, and that's that'swhere it really works for me.
So self-trust is something thatI use for my own personal
decisions, but I also use it ina way that relates to others.
So, especially when it comes tolike my dog or my kids, I use
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self-trust a lot.
So, for example, some days whenI'm out walking my dog, I let
him lead the way, I let himdecide where he wants to go and
I allow myself to trust that heknows what he wants.
And it might sound simple, butit's actually been a really
powerful reminder for me to letgo of control and just trust the
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process, even in theseseemingly small moments like
walking your dog.
But when I give him the chanceto follow his own instincts,
then I'm giving myself thechance to release any need to
directly control him and it'skind of a fun little practice.
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And it's kind of a fun littlepractice and it's interesting
what comes up for you, becauseoften I'll have in my mind where
I want to take him for a walk,but sometimes he doesn't want to
follow in that direction andsometimes I try to force it, but
what's the point of forcing it?
We're out on this walk for hisbenefit, not mine, and so
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sometimes his intuition is moreon the right track than mine
might be Right.
So it's a really letting go ofthat feeling of needing to
control every situation and it'sa it's.
It's a really, really easypractice to get into.
And it's the same thing withkids, right?
I try to empower them to makechoices and trust what they want
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to do or don't want to do, andsometimes that means letting
them set their own boundaries ormake their own decisions, even
if it's not what I would havechosen for them.
And this requires a lot ofpatience.
Any parents out there that arelistening, I know you're nodding
your head right now.
It takes a lot of letting go ofexpectations, but it's also a
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practice that I'm very committedto, because trusting others
whether it's my dog or my kidsor my clients or my husband.
That's a reflection of my ownself-trust, right?
When I trust them, I'mreinforcing my own belief in the
importance of honoring my innerguidance, and it makes space
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for others to experience thatfreedom too, right?
Often people who don't trustother people it's not that they
don't trust other people, it'snot that they don't trust other
people, it's that they don'ttrust themselves.
So we always have to look backinward.
Like what is it that I'm nottrusting within myself?
Right?
Like why am I not trusting thisperson?
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Like, what part of this personam I not trusting?
But what is that reflectionwithin me?
What am I not trusting withinmyself?
That's what you have to askyourself.
So living from a place ofself-trust has also changed the
way I approach boundaries andcommunication.
I'm a lot more clear and directnow than I ever have been, and
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this is because I'm no longersecond guessing myself or
overthinking right.
I don't waste time on thingsthat aren't in alignment with
what I want or need, and thisisn't selfish, right.
This is not to say that I don'tentertain it, but I'm not going
to invest a lot of time, energyor money into something that
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doesn't really align with what Iam moving towards.
And so having self-trust hasmade me a lot more intentional
about everything that I do right, the conversations that I
engage in, the information thatI'm taking in the actions that
I'm committed to, the projectsthat I'm working on.
And this clarity has allowed meto set boundaries with ease,
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because I'm not afraid to say noto what doesn't feel right
anymore, because I know what Iwant to do.
I have a lot more clarity wantto do.
I have a lot more clarity, andit's also made it really easy
for me to say yes wholeheartedlywhen it is in alignment with
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what I want.
There's this freedom in beingable to focus on only what
aligns with your values and yourpurpose, and self-trust is at
the core of that.
And this has been so empoweringto recognize that living this
way creates a life that feelsreally authentic and in harmony
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with who I truly am.
It's brought so much peace intomy life because everything
feels intentional, right.
Everything feels like somethingthat I want to be doing.
And here's the thing self-trustisn't just about handling
today's challenges right.
It's about setting thefoundation for what I want to
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continue to create, movingforward.
So as I look ahead, I realizethat self-trust allows me to
just dream bigger, to expand myvision and to know that I can
navigate whatever comes my way.
It's really allowed me to shapehow I approach my relationships
, because I'm committed right tobeing open and honest.
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It shapes my work because ithelps me create freely, without
overthinking or worrying aboutwhether I'm doing it the right
way.
It's really given me thefreedom to go after things that
feel expansive, things that feellight, things that feel easy
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and in flow, and it's excitingto know that my path is ever
evolving.
Self-trust means that I can keepmoving forward, even when I
can't see every step ahead.
But the thing is I know that aslong as I stay true to myself,
everything else is going to fallinto place, and this gives me
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the courage to keep following myintuition.
I'm sure many of you have heardabout like following the
breadcrumbs, right.
So these are these littleintuitive nudges, these are the
breadcrumbs that are aligningyou to, ultimately, what you're
going to want.
So this is your opportunity tocontinue to embrace the new
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opportunities, right, that arecoming up for you, and then that
allows you to live like fully,from a place of pure
authenticity.
You might want to go likerewind and listen to that again,
because this is something thattook a while for me to really
understand and really integrateand process.
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So I want to invite you now tohave a bit of reflection time,
and this is an exercise that youcan do whenever you want.
You can come back to this asmuch as you want, but I'd like
to invite you to reflect on whatyour life might look like if
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you fully embraced self-trust.
Just take a moment to imagine aversion of your life where you
listen to yourself first, whereyour inner voice is guiding you
every day, where you take actionon these like crazy things that
come into your mind.
What would that feel like?
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How would you show up?
What kind of relationshipswould you nurture?
What kind of relationshipswould you let go of?
What kind of projects would yoube working on?
What kind of parent would yoube?
What kind of partner would yoube?
So let's go into that just alittle bit deeper and, if you
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can right now, just close youreyes for a minute, take a few
deep, cleansing breaths andpicture yourself living fully
from a place of self-trust,really grounded in your knowing,
really listening.
Imagine that each day, youstart by tuning into what feels
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right for you.
No more overthinking ordoubting yourself or asking
other people what they think.
Really just tuning in andnoticing what feels right for
you, what would bring you peace,joy, fulfillment.
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And I want you to notice what'sdifferent in this version of
you.
How do you carry yourself?
How does it affect yourrelationships?
How might you be at work or theway you make decisions?
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And now reflect on one smallstep you could take daily to
bring more self-trust into yourlife.
Maybe it's the morning innercheck-in, maybe it's a reminder,
a post-it note to follow yourintuition.
Maybe it's practicing,celebrating your decisions that
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come from a place of self-trust.
But I invite you to choosesomething small and easy,
something that helps youstrengthen self-trust every day,
and do this every day for thenext seven days, maybe even 21
days.
So take your time with thisreflection and, when you're
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ready, write down what you saw,what you felt, what you heard,
because self-trust is built stepby step and each small action
adds up over time.
Right?
You've all heard of thecompound effect.
The more you listen in, the moreyou check in, the more you ask
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yourself, the more you makedecisions based on your own
inner, knowing the more you'regoing to trust yourself, you're
going to trust yourself, themore you're going to see
evidence to suggest like, ohyeah, this is good, this feels
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good, this feels grounded, thisfeels like peaceful, because the
goal here is to create a lifethat feels true to you, not one
that you're living for someoneelse, not one that you think you
should be living.
A life that really feels trueand authentic to you and where
you want to be going, one thatyou don't need permission or
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validation to live.
It's 100% yours.
This is freedom.
So, before I wrap up, I justwant to say that self-trust is
something that you keep building, one day at a time, and it's a
way of life.
It's really a lifestyle, if youchoose.
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So if you found today's exercisehelpful, or if you're starting
a new self-trust practice, oryou're going to take something
that I've shared with you, I'dreally love to hear about it.
I really care about all of you.
I'm really passionate aboutthis topic, as you may have
noticed, and I'm here to help.
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I'm here to provide guidance,I'm here to celebrate you.
I'm excited for you genuinely,and so I want you just to know
that you're not alone, and I'mhonestly so excited to see where
your self-trust will take you.
So thank you so much for beinghere with me for this three-part
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series.
I'm really excited that I gotback on the podcast and that
I've reignited some interestshere this corner of the internet
.
I hope it sparked somethingwithin you, maybe an idea, a
nudge, or maybe even just thecourage to trust yourself a
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little bit more deeply.
But this is just the beginning.
I've got so many excitingepisodes coming up where we're
going to go even deeper intotopics like this.
It's not always going to bepersonally about me, but I
really want to share everythingthat I've researched on
self-trust.
I've got some topics coming up,like the myths about personal
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growth that keep you stuck andhow to break free from them, how
boundaries are actuallyself-trust in action and how to
set them without feeling guiltyOoh, that's a good one why
overthinking is holding you backand how to tune into your gut
instead.
So if any of these resonate,make sure you're subscribed,
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because I don't want you to missthem.
So subscribe to wherever youlisten to your podcast you can
listen to this pretty mucheverywhere where podcasts are
streamed and if this series hasinspired you and you're ready to
take the next step in yourself-trust journey.
I'd love to invite you to checkout my course.
It's called Trust Mastering theArt of Self-Trust, and this
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course is where we take theconcepts from these episodes and
we go even deeper.
It's like working with meone-on-one, but at your own pace
.
So we excavate the beliefs, thehabits, the doubts that are
keeping you stuck, and then Igive you the tools to
confidently navigate your life,your relationships, your work,
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your health, towards self-trust.
So inside the course, you getguided exercise to uncover
what's really holding you back.
I give you powerful NLP andhypnosis techniques to rewire
self-doubt into confidence.
I give you a bunch of practicaltools to live in alignment with
your inner wisdom every singleday.
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There are, I think, aroundseven guided hypnotic
meditations that are yours tokeep forever in there.
This isn't just a course, it'sreally a transformation, and the
people who have already gonethrough it are killing it in
life.
They are just trustingthemselves at a deeper level all
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the time, and I'm just blownaway by what they've achieved in
just less than a year.
So if you've been feeling stuckor unsure of your next step,
this, honestly, is your sign tolean in and trust that you're
capable of creating the life youwant.
So you can go to the link in myprofile at Alana Banks Coaching
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on Instagram to learn moreabout my course Trust Mastering
the Art of Self-Trust, and youcan unlock all the modules today
.
If you go there, I'll actuallyput the link to the course in
the show notes as well, so thatyou can just click right there.
And the price you probably wantto know the price.
The price is $197.
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When I'm recording this rightnow, november 20th, I have no
idea if the price will increase,but right now it's $197.
You get lifetime access.
There are six modules.
It's the only course, honestly,that you're ever going to need
when it comes to this issue.
So check that out.
Anyway, enough about that.
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Thank you again for tuning in.
Let's keep growing together.
I love you guys.
Thank you so much for listening.
I just love podcasting and lovebeing here and love sharing my
message with all of you.
So keep on growing, keep ontrusting yourself and I'll speak
to you all soon.
Bye for now.
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