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August 30, 2022 20 mins

The line between friendship and a romantic relationship blurs when sex comes strutting into the room. How do you navigate the complications of going from buddy to booty call?

Thankfully, we’ve got an expert with the answers: Dr. Justin Lehmiller. He’s a social psychologist, Kinsey Institute Research Fellow, and the creator of Sex and Psychology

Justin was part of a team that conducted a year-long study of 200 friends-with-benefits relationships. And what he found can help us all unweave this type of messy, sexy, and downright “oh my god what have I done??” relationship.

A few curiosities you’ll uncover in this episode:

  • How FWB relationships can help close the orgasm gap
  • Why it’s so difficult to transition an FWB relationship into a romantic one
  • What’s so special about the one-year mark for FWB?

Did You Know?

According to the study Justin worked on, 25% of subjects hoped their friend-with-benefits relationship would turn into a romantic relationship. However, friends-with-benefits relationships play out how people want them to only 17% of the time.

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Curious State is a Quick and Dirty Tips podcast hosted and produced by Doug Fraser.

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