238. Decentering Men, Centering Yourself

You've heard people talk about decentering men. But here's the problem: even that conversation still centers men.

In this episode, I share a different approach. Instead of asking "Does he like me?" or "Will he treat me right?"—I teach you to ask better questions: "What do I want? What serves me? Do I feel safe and valued right now?"

This is hard work. We spent our whole lives putting everyone else first—bosses, husbands, kids. But you deserve to be your own priority.

Here's what I mean: You are your own matchmaker. You don't beg someone to text you more. You evaluate if what you want exists in this relationship. If it does, you stay. If it doesn't, you move on. You hold the power.

Think about it this way: Why would you apply to work at McDonald's if you want to study dinosaurs? Yet we do this in dating all the time. We go where what we want doesn't exist, then ask men to change.

Stop that.

Your time, focus, and energy belong to you. Reclaim them. Build momentum toward your real goals. Center yourself first—then watch everything else fall into place.

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