May 21, 2025 • 12 mins
Marianna and Makoda explore relationship dynamics, focusing on the most fundamental connection we have—the relationship with ourselves—and how it forms the foundation for all other interactions in our lives.
• The relationship with self is often overlooked but impacts every other connection we make
• Self-relationship involves how we talk to ourselves, trust ourselves, and spend time with ourselves
• Being comfortable doing activities alone (dining out, watching movies) nurtures self-relationship
• Self-reflection question: When was the last time you did something enjoyable just for yourself?
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Welcome to the Dynamics Show.
I'm Marianna, your host andguide, here to help you
reconnect with the life you'remeant to live every single day,
and that's why the day inDynamics is capitalized to
remind you that livingdynamically isn't a one-time
(00:22):
choice.
It's a daily commitment toyourself.
Here we believe there's noone-size-fits-all approach to
life.
Instead, we explore endlesspossibilities to help you design
a life that truly supports you,your evolution, your expression
, your preferences and whatserves you best in each moment.
(00:43):
You're here for a reason andtogether we'll uncover what that
is.
Today is our discussionrecording, and I'm so blessed to
have a guest with us.
You've heard her voice before.
Let me introduce her Makoda.
Nice to be here, thank you.
(01:04):
If you don't know who Makoda isat this point, you can go to
dynamicseriescom and go underAbout Us, meet Us and you'll
learn all about her adventures.
If you've heard her, then youknow exactly a bit of her
background and everything thatshe's done to support both
Dynamics Series and Kid Dynamics.
(01:24):
So we thank you for that,makota, thank you.
Yeah, the discussion we'reexploring today in the subject
matter is relationship dynamics.
Now, if you've been followingus along, we've been focused
this year on all the dynamicsthat we have and don't know what
(01:44):
all the dynamics are, thenplease just go to the website
dynamicsseriescom and then hitdynamics at top and it'll share
all of the different dynamicsthat we are slowly going through
.
We've had a few of them so fargratitude, yeah, we're doing the
relationships well, we'recoming up to beliefs, and then
wealth after that, and then Ithink there was one more that
(02:07):
I'm just oh, health.
I think we did the health, yeah.
So, like I said, we're gettingthrough them every month and we
just think it's important tofocus on that, since it is
dynamic series and it's so.
It's a series of the differentdynamics in our life.
I can't wait to do dynamiceducation at some point with you
.
That'd be very fun.
(02:27):
Or education dynamics I'm notquite sure what I'm going to
call it yet.
We're doing this because it'spart of the dynamic series and
we feel like relationships arehuge.
So to start, makota, we'll justquickly ask you a question.
When you think of the wordrelationships, what do you think
(02:49):
of?
Many things, I think about therelationships you have with
people and with yourself andwith, like, that could be nature
(03:11):
, that could be the bed thatyou're laying on, that could be
the people that are in your life.
That could be your job, that,like, we're always relating to
something.
Oh and at this time, before weget really into it, and we set
the tone for this time together,I just want to also mention
that I had the opportunity to doa video a vehicle video with my
(03:32):
sister.
Now we may make that into apodcast, but if we don't, then
you will see the link that Iwill put on this podcast itself
and you can go watch it.
It's just me on camera.
She wasn't 100% comfortableright away, but that's okay.
We heard her voice and so oneof these days we'll get her on
(03:52):
camera.
She feels better about it.
Relationships are big, aren'tthey?
Like they just encompass somuch.
Speaker 2 (04:00):
Yeah, everything in your life is a relationship
really.
Speaker 1 (04:03):
Yes, so let's just set the tone, and we always
remember what we focus onexpands.
So let's take a moment just tocenter ourselves, be fully
present and listen with an openheart and mind.
Given that you know the titleof the show Relationship
(04:26):
Dynamics can you relate to thatOne, yeah, one topic of
relationship that you have?
What would you pick, makota?
Speaker 2 (04:35):
I think the relationship with myself really.
Speaker 1 (04:39):
I mean that's a great answer.
I mean there is no right orwrong answer, it's just
whatever's relevant right now inyour life.
When I was looking up, oh, allthe different styles of
relationships, I think I foundlike at least 20 or 21 of them,
but none of them saidrelationship with yourself.
Speaker 2 (04:54):
Wow, I think that's the most important really.
Speaker 1 (04:57):
Yeah, you're never necessarily taught that.
Unless you have a householdthat has more of a focus on that
, you know, to make it.
Take care of yourself, have arelationship with yourself.
You know how do you talk toyourself, how do you relate to
yourself, yeah, so what we'regoing to focus on today is
(05:22):
talking to Makota about, again,her answer to the question what
you think is the most importantrelationship that you have, and
you said the one with yourself.
So why don't you just sharewhat that means and why it's
sort of like your number onepriority for you when it comes
to relationships?
Speaker 2 (05:41):
Well, I think that it's the most important one,
because every other relationshipthat you make relies, in my
opinion, on your relationshipwith yourself.
If you're not having goodemotions about yourself and
you're not able to talk toyourself about certain things,
then it makes it a lot harder tohave a positive relationship
with even objects or people.
If you talk to yourselfnegatively and you don't trust
(06:03):
yourself and you don't believein yourself, then it's hard to
want to believe in other peopleor other concepts that are
outside of yourself.
Speaker 1 (06:11):
Yeah, that's so true.
And now, what do you do tonurture the relationship with
yourself, Makota?
Like, what do you do?
Because people don't understandthe importance of like how they
do self, like how you do so,like how you talk to yourself,
how you think about yourself andyou look at yourself as you
know.
You would look at, maybe, yourrelationship with your parent or
(06:33):
relationship with your lovedone, or relationship with your
friends and how you treat them.
Do you treat yourself the same?
Like you know what?
What is your feedback on that?
Speaker 2 (06:43):
Well, I think the best way to nurture yourself is
to be able to be OK withspending time on your own and
being able to be OK with yourown thoughts and your own
emotions without having to focuson the relationships with other
people.
Speaker 1 (06:56):
Yeah, yeah, that's a really good point because when I
was 17, I was like the Power ofyour Subconscious Mind was one
of the major books that I readfirst.
When it came to getting intothis whole empowerment stuff out
on a date, when have you like alot of times like going out
just to the fast food and adrive through, but when have you
(07:23):
actually like gone to arestaurant by yourself or gone
to the movies by yourself?
Or do you do journaling, or doyou talk nice to yourself?
Do you do affirmativestatements to yourself?
What happens?
You know something negative ishappening and how do you deal
with that in your life?
Speaker 2 (07:42):
Yeah, I think it's very important to be able to.
If you crave wanting to go outto the movies or going out to
eat, and your first idea is thatyou have to do it with someone
else, well, there's nothingstopping you from doing it on
your own and there's no pressureto maybe eat something that you
think they might like, or toshare the bill or any of those
pressures, or having to watch amovie that you don't want to.
It's all things that you thinkthey might like.
Or to share the bill or any ofthose pressures, or having to
(08:02):
watch a movie that you don'twant to.
It's all things that you wouldlike to do and you're able to
express those feelings and thoseemotions on your own and
usually have a nice time with it.
Speaker 1 (08:12):
So yeah, definitely.
And then if you don't know, allthe relationships stuff we have
, uh, I believe two blogs on itand then, like I, the vehicle
video that you'll see the linkfor and then you can look at all
, because there's, you know,we're talking about the
relationship with ourself, butthen there's the real, you know,
the parent relationship, theteacher relationship, your
(08:34):
significant relationship,whether it's boyfriend,
girlfriend, husband, wife and inevery other version of
relationship around that.
There's the relationship withnature, there's the work
relationship, there's the, itsaid, there's teacher, student
or student, teacher, like that'sjust a few of them, but I mean
there was 20 or 21 of them.
(08:55):
So, you know, like I said,because we're in relationship
with everything, we're even inrelationship with our thoughts,
because no one else thinks ourthoughts, and so you have to
have a relationship.
There's a financialrelationship, there's your
health relationship.
There's all of these thingsthat you don't even realize that
you're in relationship with.
Yes, exactly so it's a very bigtopic, very big topic, like most
(09:18):
of the dynamics topics are.
Yeah, so is there anything elsethat you want to say about this
?
Because we've we've capturedquite a bit already and with the
other, you know resources thatwe are offering around this
theme?
Then, is there anything as faras last minute thing about
relationships and and asking ouraudience, you know, basically
(09:38):
to think about something or ifthey can relate to something
around relationships?
Speaker 2 (09:47):
Yeah, I think that it'd be really important for you
to have a good relationshipwith self is to just think about
the last time that you weretruly doing something on your
own and that you enjoyed it, andwhat was it and how did it go,
and what prompted you to takethat leap to do it on your own,
because it's very easy to dothings that you want to wait for
people to do it with.
You know, going to the movies,eating, maybe, playing a game or
(10:07):
watching a show but when's thelast time that you just sat
there, not thinking about anyoneelse, and just did something
for yourself?
Speaker 1 (10:14):
and if you haven't in a long time, then maybe look at
doing that to see how it feelsyes, and it might be
uncomfortable a little bit atfirst, but if it's not, then I
mean, if it is, then that's okay, because you're realizing
you're consciously aware of itnow after listening to this
podcast that it might feel alittle uncomfortable and it
(10:35):
might not like you might becompletely okay with it, but the
relationship with yourself issuch an important thing and I'm
so glad that you were able toshare it with us.
Thank you, well, thank you,thanks for being part of our
podcast today.
And so what have you?
What has resonated with youmost in today's episode?
(10:56):
So just take a moment toreflect and then ask yourself
okay, what's the next step?
What can I take from thispodcast that can actually make
me have more of a dynamic lifeand make me feel like I have
alignment and balance and peacearound relationship?
Now, if it's otherrelationships, then again ask
(11:18):
yourself the same thing what canI do to reflect on those and
what is the next step?
And we have other resources onour website as well.
So we challenge you to takethat next action share this
episode with someone else maybesomeone that might need it and
explore the other recordingsthat we have DynamicsShowinfo or
(11:40):
DynamicsSeriescom MultimediaPodcast.
Dive into the content.
There's also that link aboutdynamics and exactly what that
means of a person.
And a quick reminder allmaterials shared on the show are
copyrighted, are meant forinformational purposes only.
So, again, thank you, thank you.
Thank you, makota, for beingpart of this podcast.
(12:04):
Thank you for having me.
Yeah, always a pleasure foryour feedback and insight.
So until next time again, thankyou, thank you.
Thank you for tuning into thisdynamic show and make it a
dynamic day.
Make it a dynamic day.
Welcome to the Dynamics Show.
I'm Marianna, your host andguide, here to help you
reconnect with the life you'remeant to live every single day,
and that's why the day inDynamics is capitalized to
remind you that livingdynamically isn't a one-time
(00:22):
choice.
It's a daily commitment toyourself.
Here we believe there's noone-size-fits-all approach to
life.
Instead, we explore endlesspossibilities to help you design
a life that truly supports you,your evolution, your expression
, your preferences and whatserves you best in each moment.
(00:43):
You're here for a reason andtogether we'll uncover what that
is.
Today is our discussionrecording, and I'm so blessed to
have a guest with us.
You've heard her voice before.
Let me introduce her Makoda.
Nice to be here, thank you.
(01:04):
If you don't know who Makoda isat this point, you can go to
dynamicseriescom and go underAbout Us, meet Us and you'll
learn all about her adventures.
If you've heard her, then youknow exactly a bit of her
background and everything thatshe's done to support both
Dynamics Series and Kid Dynamics.
(01:24):
So we thank you for that,makota, thank you.
Yeah, the discussion we'reexploring today in the subject
matter is relationship dynamics.
Now, if you've been followingus along, we've been focused
this year on all the dynamicsthat we have and don't know what
(01:44):
all the dynamics are, thenplease just go to the website
dynamicsseriescom and then hitdynamics at top and it'll share
all of the different dynamicsthat we are slowly going through
.
We've had a few of them so fargratitude, yeah, we're doing the
relationships well, we'recoming up to beliefs, and then
wealth after that, and then Ithink there was one more that
(02:07):
I'm just oh, health.
I think we did the health, yeah.
So, like I said, we're gettingthrough them every month and we
just think it's important tofocus on that, since it is
dynamic series and it's so.
It's a series of the differentdynamics in our life.
I can't wait to do dynamiceducation at some point with you
.
That'd be very fun.
(02:27):
Or education dynamics I'm notquite sure what I'm going to
call it yet.
We're doing this because it'spart of the dynamic series and
we feel like relationships arehuge.
So to start, makota, we'll justquickly ask you a question.
When you think of the wordrelationships, what do you think
(02:49):
of?
Many things, I think about therelationships you have with
people and with yourself andwith, like, that could be nature
(03:11):
, that could be the bed thatyou're laying on, that could be
the people that are in your life.
That could be your job, that,like, we're always relating to
something.
Oh and at this time, before weget really into it, and we set
the tone for this time together,I just want to also mention
that I had the opportunity to doa video a vehicle video with my
(03:32):
sister.
Now we may make that into apodcast, but if we don't, then
you will see the link that Iwill put on this podcast itself
and you can go watch it.
It's just me on camera.
She wasn't 100% comfortableright away, but that's okay.
We heard her voice and so oneof these days we'll get her on
(03:52):
camera.
She feels better about it.
Relationships are big, aren'tthey?
Like they just encompass somuch.
Speaker 2 (04:00):
Yeah, everything in your life is a relationship
really.
Speaker 1 (04:03):
Yes, so let's just set the tone, and we always
remember what we focus onexpands.
So let's take a moment just tocenter ourselves, be fully
present and listen with an openheart and mind.
Given that you know the titleof the show Relationship
(04:26):
Dynamics can you relate to thatOne, yeah, one topic of
relationship that you have?
What would you pick, makota?
Speaker 2 (04:35):
I think the relationship with myself really.
Speaker 1 (04:39):
I mean that's a great answer.
I mean there is no right orwrong answer, it's just
whatever's relevant right now inyour life.
When I was looking up, oh, allthe different styles of
relationships, I think I foundlike at least 20 or 21 of them,
but none of them saidrelationship with yourself.
Speaker 2 (04:54):
Wow, I think that's the most important really.
Speaker 1 (04:57):
Yeah, you're never necessarily taught that.
Unless you have a householdthat has more of a focus on that
, you know, to make it.
Take care of yourself, have arelationship with yourself.
You know how do you talk toyourself, how do you relate to
yourself, yeah, so what we'regoing to focus on today is
(05:22):
talking to Makota about, again,her answer to the question what
you think is the most importantrelationship that you have, and
you said the one with yourself.
So why don't you just sharewhat that means and why it's
sort of like your number onepriority for you when it comes
to relationships?
Speaker 2 (05:41):
Well, I think that it's the most important one,
because every other relationshipthat you make relies, in my
opinion, on your relationshipwith yourself.
If you're not having goodemotions about yourself and
you're not able to talk toyourself about certain things,
then it makes it a lot harder tohave a positive relationship
with even objects or people.
If you talk to yourselfnegatively and you don't trust
(06:03):
yourself and you don't believein yourself, then it's hard to
want to believe in other peopleor other concepts that are
outside of yourself.
Speaker 1 (06:11):
Yeah, that's so true.
And now, what do you do tonurture the relationship with
yourself, Makota?
Like, what do you do?
Because people don't understandthe importance of like how they
do self, like how you do so,like how you talk to yourself,
how you think about yourself andyou look at yourself as you
know.
You would look at, maybe, yourrelationship with your parent or
(06:33):
relationship with your lovedone, or relationship with your
friends and how you treat them.
Do you treat yourself the same?
Like you know what?
What is your feedback on that?
Speaker 2 (06:43):
Well, I think the best way to nurture yourself is
to be able to be OK withspending time on your own and
being able to be OK with yourown thoughts and your own
emotions without having to focuson the relationships with other
people.
Speaker 1 (06:56):
Yeah, yeah, that's a really good point because when I
was 17, I was like the Power ofyour Subconscious Mind was one
of the major books that I readfirst.
When it came to getting intothis whole empowerment stuff out
on a date, when have you like alot of times like going out
just to the fast food and adrive through, but when have you
(07:23):
actually like gone to arestaurant by yourself or gone
to the movies by yourself?
Or do you do journaling, or doyou talk nice to yourself?
Do you do affirmativestatements to yourself?
What happens?
You know something negative ishappening and how do you deal
with that in your life?
Speaker 2 (07:42):
Yeah, I think it's very important to be able to.
If you crave wanting to go outto the movies or going out to
eat, and your first idea is thatyou have to do it with someone
else, well, there's nothingstopping you from doing it on
your own and there's no pressureto maybe eat something that you
think they might like, or toshare the bill or any of those
pressures, or having to watch amovie that you don't want to.
It's all things that you thinkthey might like.
Or to share the bill or any ofthose pressures, or having to
(08:02):
watch a movie that you don'twant to.
It's all things that you wouldlike to do and you're able to
express those feelings and thoseemotions on your own and
usually have a nice time with it.
Speaker 1 (08:12):
So yeah, definitely.
And then if you don't know, allthe relationships stuff we have
, uh, I believe two blogs on itand then, like I, the vehicle
video that you'll see the linkfor and then you can look at all
, because there's, you know,we're talking about the
relationship with ourself, butthen there's the real, you know,
the parent relationship, theteacher relationship, your
(08:34):
significant relationship,whether it's boyfriend,
girlfriend, husband, wife and inevery other version of
relationship around that.
There's the relationship withnature, there's the work
relationship, there's the, itsaid, there's teacher, student
or student, teacher, like that'sjust a few of them, but I mean
there was 20 or 21 of them.
(08:55):
So, you know, like I said,because we're in relationship
with everything, we're even inrelationship with our thoughts,
because no one else thinks ourthoughts, and so you have to
have a relationship.
There's a financialrelationship, there's your
health relationship.
There's all of these thingsthat you don't even realize that
you're in relationship with.
Yes, exactly so it's a very bigtopic, very big topic, like most
(09:18):
of the dynamics topics are.
Yeah, so is there anything elsethat you want to say about this
?
Because we've we've capturedquite a bit already and with the
other, you know resources thatwe are offering around this
theme?
Then, is there anything as faras last minute thing about
relationships and and asking ouraudience, you know, basically
(09:38):
to think about something or ifthey can relate to something
around relationships?
Speaker 2 (09:47):
Yeah, I think that it'd be really important for you
to have a good relationshipwith self is to just think about
the last time that you weretruly doing something on your
own and that you enjoyed it, andwhat was it and how did it go,
and what prompted you to takethat leap to do it on your own,
because it's very easy to dothings that you want to wait for
people to do it with.
You know, going to the movies,eating, maybe, playing a game or
(10:07):
watching a show but when's thelast time that you just sat
there, not thinking about anyoneelse, and just did something
for yourself?
Speaker 1 (10:14):
and if you haven't in a long time, then maybe look at
doing that to see how it feelsyes, and it might be
uncomfortable a little bit atfirst, but if it's not, then I
mean, if it is, then that's okay, because you're realizing
you're consciously aware of itnow after listening to this
podcast that it might feel alittle uncomfortable and it
(10:35):
might not like you might becompletely okay with it, but the
relationship with yourself issuch an important thing and I'm
so glad that you were able toshare it with us.
Thank you, well, thank you,thanks for being part of our
podcast today.
And so what have you?
What has resonated with youmost in today's episode?
(10:56):
So just take a moment toreflect and then ask yourself
okay, what's the next step?
What can I take from thispodcast that can actually make
me have more of a dynamic lifeand make me feel like I have
alignment and balance and peacearound relationship?
Now, if it's otherrelationships, then again ask
(11:18):
yourself the same thing what canI do to reflect on those and
what is the next step?
And we have other resources onour website as well.
So we challenge you to takethat next action share this
episode with someone else maybesomeone that might need it and
explore the other recordingsthat we have DynamicsShowinfo or
(11:40):
DynamicsSeriescom MultimediaPodcast.
Dive into the content.
There's also that link aboutdynamics and exactly what that
means of a person.
And a quick reminder allmaterials shared on the show are
copyrighted, are meant forinformational purposes only.
So, again, thank you, thank you.
Thank you, makota, for beingpart of this podcast.
(12:04):
Thank you for having me.
Yeah, always a pleasure foryour feedback and insight.
So until next time again, thankyou, thank you.
Thank you for tuning into thisdynamic show and make it a
dynamic day.
Make it a dynamic day.
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