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In this conversation, you’ll discover how shifting your mindset with the Law of Attraction can create a new trajectory through the toughest parts of divorce, what it means to lean on faith (in yourself and in possibilities you can’t yet see), and why hidden physical blocks—like liver stagnation—might be the unseen reason you feel stuck in a loop.
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Divorce is like being caught in a riptide, being
pulled under by all of thepressures of life.
But what if you could movethrough that tide with more of a
sense of freedom, abundance,control.
Today we're going to talk aboutthat exploring how to turn this
post-divorce journey into adeeply powerful work, reward
(00:24):
experience rather than just thework.
We're going to talk about thelaw of attraction and how we're
not avoiding the work.
We're shifting mindset to findbeauty in the struggle and pride
in the process.
Hi love, welcome to DearDivorce Diary, the podcast
(00:46):
helping divorcees go beyond talktherapy to process your grief,
find the healing you crave andbuild back your confidence.
I'm your host, dawn Wiggins, atherapist, coach, integrative
healer and divorcee.
Join me for a fresh approach tohealing grief and building your
confidence after divorce.
There are three main elementsthat I want to go over with you
(01:18):
today, and the first one isabout how you're approaching
this process and honestly, itwas born out of this beautiful
conversation I had with a dearfriend this week.
But first things first is youwouldn't be climbing Machu
Picchu or training to run amarathon, expecting it to be all
pain and no reward.
Right, and I think that's wherewe fall short.
(01:39):
Often in divorce recovery iswe're anticipating negativity.
So when you approach the workof divorce and divorce recovery
is we're anticipating negativity?
So when you approach the workof divorce and divorce recovery
with the right attitude, you cancompletely transform how you
move through it.
So we're going to talk aboutthe law of attraction and how
your mindset impacts yourefforts and your outcomes.
The second thing is we're goingto talk about faith and its
(02:02):
role in this process, becauseyour mindset either lifts you up
or drags you down.
But also, what if I told youthat your faith believing in
yourself and the universe beforeyou see the outcome is a
significant game changer in yourprocess.
And we're going to talk abouthow having more faith, more
(02:27):
embodied faith, not just like aconceptual faith or an
intellectual faith can give youmore of the freedom and control
you crave.
And then, by the end of theepisode, we're going to talk
about the hidden thing that'sblocking both your mindset and
your faith, that if you're notreally looking at this piece,
you're going to just feel likeyou're freaking, stuck in a loop
(02:48):
.
But many women have said thatthey feel stuck and that their
dreams and their goals are outof reach or that they can't even
visualize their future and whatthey want it to look like.
And very often that's not justa mindset issue, because most of
you have enough experience nowto know that mindset is an issue
and you try to shift yourmindset but you can't.
(03:09):
And the secret, deeperenergetic block is liver
stagnation.
So we're going to unpack thatbarrier to clear thinking,
creativity and forward momentumtowards the end of the episode.
Let's dig in.
So I was recently at the gymlifting heavy things and putting
(03:30):
them back down again.
It's a ridiculous thing I do,but, man, the payoff is
fantastic.
And my trainer is stronglyconsidering a divorce and we
were talking about the processand this and that and pros and
cons and all the things, right.
(03:50):
And she was talking about how,the next steps for her.
Number one, she couldn'tvisualize where she would end up
or what she actually wanted.
And number two, she wasanticipating this horrible,
overwhelming lift pun intended,right and as we were just sort
(04:14):
of chitty chatting back andforth, I was like, okay, but
hang on, like you value hardwork and you value pain that
leads to gain.
So, number one, let's talkabout your liver, friend, we'll
get to that at the end of theepisode.
But number two let's say you andI were hiking Machu Picchu.
(04:35):
We would anticipate that it wasgoing to be grueling.
But in that gruelingness, whilewe may feel pain and we may cry
and we may say, what were wethinking when we were, you know
why did we plan this, why did wewant to do this in the first
place?
But we would be climbing and wewould be taking in the beauty
of the surroundings, we would beanticipating this awesome
(04:57):
reward at the top, we would besort of like finding beauty in
the process and we would befeeling a great, deep sense of
personal satisfaction.
And she was like it, justimmediately, sort of like took
for her.
Right Is that we have to reallylook at the mindset in which we
(05:18):
move through something and howit shifts, the way we experience
the struggle.
And so, from a law of attractionstandpoint, when you're either
trying to initiate a divorce ormove through a divorce, or
finalize a divorce, or recoverfinancially and emotionally and
whatever from a divorce, likeyeah, it's hard work, like
(05:42):
training for a marathon orhiking Machu Picchu, or for my
40th birthday, we hiked to theGrand Canyon and I did a lot of
it, friend, with grace on myback.
It was obscene how painful itwas and it was like the pain was
directly correlated to theamount of beauty and awe we
experienced that day, right.
It was profound, like that wasa profoundly impactful
(06:06):
experience that Grand Canyonhike and I lost toenails a week
later, right, and I feared formy life at times.
So this sort of relationshipbetween risk, reward and mindset
is something we really have totake a look at when you feel
like you're stuck in thatriptide of divorce, constantly
(06:27):
being pulled back down and atthe end of the episode we're
really going to get into, like,if you feel like no, dawn, this
isn't me, my mindset is on point, like I know what you're saying
, dawn, I keep trying to shiftmy mindset and it's not sticking
.
I got you we're going to talkabout that at the end of the
episode.
But from a law of attractionstandpoint, we have to be able
(06:49):
to visualize the future we want,just like we have to when we're
training for a marathon,visualize ourselves completing.
Like what it's going to feellike when we cross that finish
line If we're hiking somethinglike the Grand Canyon or Machu
Picchu.
We got to be able to visualizewhat it's going to be like at
the ascent, and I think thatmost of us have seen enough
pictures of Machu Picchu or ofthe Grand Canyon, or we've
(07:13):
watched enough times peoplecrossing marathon lines, finish
lines, and how emotional it isfor them that we believe, right,
we believe that the reward isthere at the end and I think
that's where it breaks down withthe divorce journey is you
don't believe in your ending asmuch as you believe in these
other outcomes, and so you fallback into self-doubt and you
(07:39):
fall back into that being stuckin the riptide piece, and when
things knock you down, you feelmore knocked down than like, oh
duh, this is just like I need arest day after you know hitting
the gym really hard.
So let's talk about how faithcan help you release some of
that riptide effect, right?
(07:59):
So I think that for a lot ofwomen who are practicing the law
of attraction and they'rewanting to manifest, and they do
have a sense of the future thatthey want, but they literally
feel like they cannot sort ofget out of the riptide.
Very, very often they talk aboutthe weight of responsibility of
being a single woman or asingle mom.
Right, there's just such aweight or a pressure.
(08:21):
I wonder which one you relateto.
I often say pressure, but a lotof women say weight.
Which one do you resonate withmore weight or pressure?
Send me a DM and tell me so.
They talk about the weight orpressure of being a single woman
and very often want thesebeautiful outcomes, like they
(08:42):
want to break the cycle withtheir children.
They want to have financialabundance.
They want to break the cyclewith their children.
They want to have financialabundance.
They want to have a futurerelationship that is beautiful
and safe.
They want to feel peaceful.
They want all these thingsright.
But taking one more risk at thispoint in life feels impossible,
right.
Taking one more leap of faith,moving 1% more out of your
(09:06):
comfort zone, feels impossible,right.
And I think that's where we endup when we're in these sort of
crunch periods of life.
Right, where we're being testedon every front, on every level,
is where we see the limits ofour faith right, where it's like
well, I have faith to a pointright.
I have faith to a point right,and that very often when we're
(09:29):
in these stuck spots, we want tosee evidence before we can take
the next leap, and that oftenis something that holds people
back from their manifestations,because you can want these big,
beautiful things and not realizewhen it's knocking on your door
, because stepping through thatdoor was an invitation to
(09:49):
something that was more scarythan you could tolerate in that
moment.
And so something I've often,often said is that where God
guides, god provides, and I liveand die by that statement.
Just recently we were on springbreak I was having this foot
problem, pain thing, and it'snot actually anything to do with
my foot, it has to do with mykidneys, because long history of
(10:12):
cluster headaches and sort ofrehabbing my body from all of
that right but I was really.
I spent a day of spring breakin a wheelchair.
It was bananas.
It was so hard for me tosurrender to that right.
It was so hard for me tosurrender to that right, but I
ended up getting to go to anacupuncturist this amazing
acupuncturist four days in a rowand she pulled out every trick
(10:36):
in the book it was amazing, fromcupping and red light and
acupuncture and massage andherbs and all the things it's
like.
She made it her life's missionto heal my kidneys and I was so
grateful for her.
And listen, that wasn't in thespring break budget.
It just wasn't, and you canimagine what those four
back-to-back treatments added upto and it just wasn't in the
(10:58):
budget.
But I am so profoundly clearthat what God wants for me is
abundance is health, that whatGod wants for me is abundance is
health, is to be well and to beable to live in my gifts that
were God-given.
And so there was no part of methat considered I can't do four
back-to-back sessions.
I promise you that that moneywas not just available per se,
(11:24):
right, and so it just doesn'tmatter to me.
Like we'll figure it out,because we're God guides, god
provides.
So just I want you to noticewhen you're in, when you feel
like the screws are being turnedto you, when you're in the vice
of all the pressures of life,where are you saying like God
can't guide me through this,like this next thing is not safe
, I can't take that risk becauseGod can't guide me through this
(11:45):
.
He, like this next thing is notsafe, I can't take that risk
because God isn't going to havemy back.
And I think that that's amassive element of the law of
attraction and manifesting thatI don't hear people talk about a
whole lot, that very muchmanifesting in law of attraction
, from my experience, dovetailswith my Christian upbringing and
background and it's a veryfaith-based process.
(12:07):
And that doesn't mean throwcaution to the wind and not be
accountable, like quite to thecontrary.
Right, you can't fake avibration and you can't just
spend all the money withoutbeing vibrationally aligned with
that.
But this is your cue to getvibrationally aligned, to expand
your faith, because you're notgoing to be able to let in the
rest of the blessings and getout of the riptide unless you
(12:28):
start working on this piece.
Now for the woman whounderstands mindset and
understands faith and cannotseem to, no matter how hard she
tries to positively influenceand reach for the positive
thought and reach for thefaith-based solution, she cannot
seem to get the thing to shift.
If you feel like your dreamsand goals and your even capacity
(12:51):
to visualize the future is outof your reach.
Let's talk about your liver Now.
In Chinese medicine we can seehow our lived experience
absolutely matches our organsystem.
So, for instance, people whohave a hard time with
decision-making and they oftenstruggle with indecision,
typically have clogged orsluggish gallbladders.
(13:13):
For people who struggle withinsomnia and resentment and
anger and not being able tovisualize their future.
They have stagnant livers.
For people who struggle withboundaries, they typically have
stagnant kidneys, right.
So these are all things thathave been well-documented in
(13:34):
traditional Chinese medicine,which is thousands of years old
and widely respected, and sowhen you are stuck, very often
the solution is in the body andit's not in the mind.
Now let's think about all thethings that have been slogging
down your liver lately.
Now, first things.
First, anger lands in the liver.
You've had plenty of thatlately, right?
(13:57):
Number two you probably havebeen drinking more, and maybe
you haven't been drinking more,but maybe you've been taking
more CBD gummies to sleep.
Or maybe you've been takingmore supplements because you've
been losing your hair because ofthe stress and your liver has
to process and break down andmetabolize those supplements.
Also, and because you have beenso on and off again, depressed
(14:22):
and anxious, you are probablytaking more pharmaceuticals than
you would have taken in thepast.
You may be doing more screentime, less movement, right?
All of these things.
While none of them areindividually wrong, they have a
cumulative effect over time thatwhen you grabbed for this
solution that was supposed to betemporary, it ended up not
being temporary and now, overtime, your liver has become
(14:44):
sluggish and it feels like youare tired, angry, short-tempered
and stuck, and that is yoursign that we have to really look
at the physical body and startto make some shifts.
And so there are lots ofrecommendations that I make for
(15:06):
folks who want to really startlooking at detoxifying their
liver.
Our next episode will be myfavorite solution and I will
unpack all of that in the nextepisode.
But first things first is Ijust want you to take a look at
what might be stagnating yourliver and look at what maybe you
(15:27):
could start to let go of sothat you can really propel
yourself out of this riptideright Towards freedom, control
and abundance.
And so, believe it or not, asocial media detox can help
cleanse your liver.
More grounding, right Like feetin the grass it's a beautiful
time of the year for that Canhelp detoxify your liver.
(15:47):
Gentle yoga twists, you know.
Castor oil I don't worry aboutthe whole castor oil pack thing.
Right, I call me crazy, but Ijust you know we don't always
have to buy a new thing Like Ijust put castor oil on my liver.
Warm lemon water in the morning, my liver.
Warm lemon water in the morninggreat for the liver Like.
There are so many things youcould do.
Dandelion tea or milk thistletea wonderful for the liver.
(16:10):
I actually am not a huge fan ofherbs as a liver detox.
There are certain circumstanceswhere it's fine, but generally
speaking, I wouldn't go the herbroute.
I used to go the herb route,but once you know better, do
better, right, and so I havesince learned better.
The reason I don't love herbsand I'll talk about this more in
the next episode but you'retypically like forcing a detox
(16:33):
process that the rest of yourorgans aren't prepared to, like
handle that downstream load and,like I said, your liver still
has to metabolize those herbsand it's giving it more work to
do so.
There are just.
There are better ways, right,like lemon water and grounding
and social media, detox andgentle yoga and some sauna, some
walking, like all of thesethings are so massively
(16:55):
supportive and free right, superfree, like sweating walking,
twisting lemon water, likewhat's the lemon cost?
50 cents, I don't know.
Free, right.
So take stock of what's going onwith your liver, see what you
can implement that's currentlyfree, and then catch up with me
in the next episode to talkabout one of my favorite
(17:16):
solutions for liver stagnationand breaking out of this riptide
so that you can finally love,feel like you can implement this
law of attraction, mindset,manifestation and faith-based
work that you really want to buyinto.
Okay, in this episode we talkedabout anger as being an
energetic block that's keepingyou in the riptide of divorce,
(17:40):
but I wonder if there's adifferent emotion that you feel
is holding you back.
But I wonder if there's adifferent emotion that you feel
is holding you back.
If you feel like it's not angerbut it's something else, would
you send me a DM and tell mewhat that other emotional
experience is that you feel likeis holding you back from moving
forward into this ability tovisualize and take these next
(18:01):
steps?
Right, if it's not anger foryou, what is it?
Getting a DM from you isseriously the highlight of my
day.
I cannot tell you how manybeautiful conversations and
relationships have come out ofthe DMs and Instagram.
For me, it is just like myfavorite.
(18:22):
Easiest part of this is to bechatting with you and hearing
where you're at and what's goingon and being that sort of
supportive thing.
You are not weighing me down orburdening me or bothering me.
I freaking love it.
All right, have a beautiful day, send me a DM Peace, peace.
Divorce is like being caught in a riptide, being
pulled under by all of thepressures of life.
But what if you could movethrough that tide with more of a
sense of freedom, abundance,control.
Today we're going to talk aboutthat exploring how to turn this
post-divorce journey into adeeply powerful work, reward
(00:24):
experience rather than just thework.
We're going to talk about thelaw of attraction and how we're
not avoiding the work.
We're shifting mindset to findbeauty in the struggle and pride
in the process.
Hi love, welcome to DearDivorce Diary, the podcast
(00:46):
helping divorcees go beyond talktherapy to process your grief,
find the healing you crave andbuild back your confidence.
I'm your host, dawn Wiggins, atherapist, coach, integrative
healer and divorcee.
Join me for a fresh approach tohealing grief and building your
confidence after divorce.
There are three main elementsthat I want to go over with you
(01:18):
today, and the first one isabout how you're approaching
this process and honestly, itwas born out of this beautiful
conversation I had with a dearfriend this week.
But first things first is youwouldn't be climbing Machu
Picchu or training to run amarathon, expecting it to be all
pain and no reward.
Right, and I think that's wherewe fall short.
(01:39):
Often in divorce recovery iswe're anticipating negativity.
So when you approach the workof divorce and divorce recovery
is we're anticipating negativity?
So when you approach the workof divorce and divorce recovery
with the right attitude, you cancompletely transform how you
move through it.
So we're going to talk aboutthe law of attraction and how
your mindset impacts yourefforts and your outcomes.
The second thing is we're goingto talk about faith and its
(02:02):
role in this process, becauseyour mindset either lifts you up
or drags you down.
But also, what if I told youthat your faith believing in
yourself and the universe beforeyou see the outcome is a
significant game changer in yourprocess.
And we're going to talk abouthow having more faith, more
(02:27):
embodied faith, not just like aconceptual faith or an
intellectual faith can give youmore of the freedom and control
you crave.
And then, by the end of theepisode, we're going to talk
about the hidden thing that'sblocking both your mindset and
your faith, that if you're notreally looking at this piece,
you're going to just feel likeyou're freaking, stuck in a loop
(02:48):
.
But many women have said thatthey feel stuck and that their
dreams and their goals are outof reach or that they can't even
visualize their future and whatthey want it to look like.
And very often that's not justa mindset issue, because most of
you have enough experience nowto know that mindset is an issue
and you try to shift yourmindset but you can't.
(03:09):
And the secret, deeperenergetic block is liver
stagnation.
So we're going to unpack thatbarrier to clear thinking,
creativity and forward momentumtowards the end of the episode.
Let's dig in.
So I was recently at the gymlifting heavy things and putting
(03:30):
them back down again.
It's a ridiculous thing I do,but, man, the payoff is
fantastic.
And my trainer is stronglyconsidering a divorce and we
were talking about the processand this and that and pros and
cons and all the things, right.
(03:50):
And she was talking about how,the next steps for her.
Number one, she couldn'tvisualize where she would end up
or what she actually wanted.
And number two, she wasanticipating this horrible,
overwhelming lift pun intended,right and as we were just sort
(04:14):
of chitty chatting back andforth, I was like, okay, but
hang on, like you value hardwork and you value pain that
leads to gain.
So, number one, let's talkabout your liver, friend, we'll
get to that at the end of theepisode.
But number two let's say you andI were hiking Machu Picchu.
(04:35):
We would anticipate that it wasgoing to be grueling.
But in that gruelingness, whilewe may feel pain and we may cry
and we may say, what were wethinking when we were, you know
why did we plan this, why did wewant to do this in the first
place?
But we would be climbing and wewould be taking in the beauty
of the surroundings, we would beanticipating this awesome
(04:57):
reward at the top, we would besort of like finding beauty in
the process and we would befeeling a great, deep sense of
personal satisfaction.
And she was like it, justimmediately, sort of like took
for her.
Right Is that we have to reallylook at the mindset in which we
(05:18):
move through something and howit shifts, the way we experience
the struggle.
And so, from a law of attractionstandpoint, when you're either
trying to initiate a divorce ormove through a divorce, or
finalize a divorce, or recoverfinancially and emotionally and
whatever from a divorce, likeyeah, it's hard work, like
(05:42):
training for a marathon orhiking Machu Picchu, or for my
40th birthday, we hiked to theGrand Canyon and I did a lot of
it, friend, with grace on myback.
It was obscene how painful itwas and it was like the pain was
directly correlated to theamount of beauty and awe we
experienced that day, right.
It was profound, like that wasa profoundly impactful
(06:06):
experience that Grand Canyonhike and I lost toenails a week
later, right, and I feared formy life at times.
So this sort of relationshipbetween risk, reward and mindset
is something we really have totake a look at when you feel
like you're stuck in thatriptide of divorce, constantly
(06:27):
being pulled back down and atthe end of the episode we're
really going to get into, like,if you feel like no, dawn, this
isn't me, my mindset is on point, like I know what you're saying
, dawn, I keep trying to shiftmy mindset and it's not sticking
.
I got you we're going to talkabout that at the end of the
episode.
But from a law of attractionstandpoint, we have to be able
(06:49):
to visualize the future we want,just like we have to when we're
training for a marathon,visualize ourselves completing.
Like what it's going to feellike when we cross that finish
line If we're hiking somethinglike the Grand Canyon or Machu
Picchu.
We got to be able to visualizewhat it's going to be like at
the ascent, and I think thatmost of us have seen enough
pictures of Machu Picchu or ofthe Grand Canyon, or we've
(07:13):
watched enough times peoplecrossing marathon lines, finish
lines, and how emotional it isfor them that we believe, right,
we believe that the reward isthere at the end and I think
that's where it breaks down withthe divorce journey is you
don't believe in your ending asmuch as you believe in these
other outcomes, and so you fallback into self-doubt and you
(07:39):
fall back into that being stuckin the riptide piece, and when
things knock you down, you feelmore knocked down than like, oh
duh, this is just like I need arest day after you know hitting
the gym really hard.
So let's talk about how faithcan help you release some of
that riptide effect, right?
(07:59):
So I think that for a lot ofwomen who are practicing the law
of attraction and they'rewanting to manifest, and they do
have a sense of the future thatthey want, but they literally
feel like they cannot sort ofget out of the riptide.
Very, very often they talk aboutthe weight of responsibility of
being a single woman or asingle mom.
Right, there's just such aweight or a pressure.
(08:21):
I wonder which one you relateto.
I often say pressure, but a lotof women say weight.
Which one do you resonate withmore weight or pressure?
Send me a DM and tell me so.
They talk about the weight orpressure of being a single woman
and very often want thesebeautiful outcomes, like they
(08:42):
want to break the cycle withtheir children.
They want to have financialabundance.
They want to break the cyclewith their children.
They want to have financialabundance.
They want to have a futurerelationship that is beautiful
and safe.
They want to feel peaceful.
They want all these thingsright.
But taking one more risk at thispoint in life feels impossible,
right.
Taking one more leap of faith,moving 1% more out of your
(09:06):
comfort zone, feels impossible,right.
And I think that's where we endup when we're in these sort of
crunch periods of life.
Right, where we're being testedon every front, on every level,
is where we see the limits ofour faith right, where it's like
well, I have faith to a pointright.
I have faith to a point right,and that very often when we're
(09:29):
in these stuck spots, we want tosee evidence before we can take
the next leap, and that oftenis something that holds people
back from their manifestations,because you can want these big,
beautiful things and not realizewhen it's knocking on your door
, because stepping through thatdoor was an invitation to
(09:49):
something that was more scarythan you could tolerate in that
moment.
And so something I've often,often said is that where God
guides, god provides, and I liveand die by that statement.
Just recently we were on springbreak I was having this foot
problem, pain thing, and it'snot actually anything to do with
my foot, it has to do with mykidneys, because long history of
(10:12):
cluster headaches and sort ofrehabbing my body from all of
that right but I was really.
I spent a day of spring breakin a wheelchair.
It was bananas.
It was so hard for me tosurrender to that right.
It was so hard for me tosurrender to that right, but I
ended up getting to go to anacupuncturist this amazing
acupuncturist four days in a rowand she pulled out every trick
(10:36):
in the book it was amazing, fromcupping and red light and
acupuncture and massage andherbs and all the things it's
like.
She made it her life's missionto heal my kidneys and I was so
grateful for her.
And listen, that wasn't in thespring break budget.
It just wasn't, and you canimagine what those four
back-to-back treatments added upto and it just wasn't in the
(10:58):
budget.
But I am so profoundly clearthat what God wants for me is
abundance is health, that whatGod wants for me is abundance is
health, is to be well and to beable to live in my gifts that
were God-given.
And so there was no part of methat considered I can't do four
back-to-back sessions.
I promise you that that moneywas not just available per se,
(11:24):
right, and so it just doesn'tmatter to me.
Like we'll figure it out,because we're God guides, god
provides.
So just I want you to noticewhen you're in, when you feel
like the screws are being turnedto you, when you're in the vice
of all the pressures of life,where are you saying like God
can't guide me through this,like this next thing is not safe
, I can't take that risk becauseGod can't guide me through this
(11:45):
.
He, like this next thing is notsafe, I can't take that risk
because God isn't going to havemy back.
And I think that that's amassive element of the law of
attraction and manifesting thatI don't hear people talk about a
whole lot, that very muchmanifesting in law of attraction
, from my experience, dovetailswith my Christian upbringing and
background and it's a veryfaith-based process.
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And that doesn't mean throwcaution to the wind and not be
accountable, like quite to thecontrary.
Right, you can't fake avibration and you can't just
spend all the money withoutbeing vibrationally aligned with
that.
But this is your cue to getvibrationally aligned, to expand
your faith, because you're notgoing to be able to let in the
rest of the blessings and getout of the riptide unless you
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start working on this piece.
Now for the woman whounderstands mindset and
understands faith and cannotseem to, no matter how hard she
tries to positively influenceand reach for the positive
thought and reach for thefaith-based solution, she cannot
seem to get the thing to shift.
If you feel like your dreamsand goals and your even capacity
(12:51):
to visualize the future is outof your reach.
Let's talk about your liver Now.
In Chinese medicine we can seehow our lived experience
absolutely matches our organsystem.
So, for instance, people whohave a hard time with
decision-making and they oftenstruggle with indecision,
typically have clogged orsluggish gallbladders.
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For people who struggle withinsomnia and resentment and
anger and not being able tovisualize their future.
They have stagnant livers.
For people who struggle withboundaries, they typically have
stagnant kidneys, right.
So these are all things thathave been well-documented in
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traditional Chinese medicine,which is thousands of years old
and widely respected, and sowhen you are stuck, very often
the solution is in the body andit's not in the mind.
Now let's think about all thethings that have been slogging
down your liver lately.
Now, first things.
First, anger lands in the liver.
You've had plenty of thatlately, right?
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Number two you probably havebeen drinking more, and maybe
you haven't been drinking more,but maybe you've been taking
more CBD gummies to sleep.
Or maybe you've been takingmore supplements because you've
been losing your hair because ofthe stress and your liver has
to process and break down andmetabolize those supplements.
Also, and because you have beenso on and off again, depressed
(14:22):
and anxious, you are probablytaking more pharmaceuticals than
you would have taken in thepast.
You may be doing more screentime, less movement, right?
All of these things.
While none of them areindividually wrong, they have a
cumulative effect over time thatwhen you grabbed for this
solution that was supposed to betemporary, it ended up not
being temporary and now, overtime, your liver has become
(14:44):
sluggish and it feels like youare tired, angry, short-tempered
and stuck, and that is yoursign that we have to really look
at the physical body and startto make some shifts.
And so there are lots ofrecommendations that I make for
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folks who want to really startlooking at detoxifying their
liver.
Our next episode will be myfavorite solution and I will
unpack all of that in the nextepisode.
But first things first is Ijust want you to take a look at
what might be stagnating yourliver and look at what maybe you
(15:27):
could start to let go of sothat you can really propel
yourself out of this riptideright Towards freedom, control
and abundance.
And so, believe it or not, asocial media detox can help
cleanse your liver.
More grounding, right Like feetin the grass it's a beautiful
time of the year for that Canhelp detoxify your liver.
(15:47):
Gentle yoga twists, you know.
Castor oil I don't worry aboutthe whole castor oil pack thing.
Right, I call me crazy, but Ijust you know we don't always
have to buy a new thing Like Ijust put castor oil on my liver.
Warm lemon water in the morning, my liver.
Warm lemon water in the morninggreat for the liver Like.
There are so many things youcould do.
Dandelion tea or milk thistletea wonderful for the liver.
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I actually am not a huge fan ofherbs as a liver detox.
There are certain circumstanceswhere it's fine, but generally
speaking, I wouldn't go the herbroute.
I used to go the herb route,but once you know better, do
better, right, and so I havesince learned better.
The reason I don't love herbsand I'll talk about this more in
the next episode but you'retypically like forcing a detox
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process that the rest of yourorgans aren't prepared to, like
handle that downstream load and,like I said, your liver still
has to metabolize those herbsand it's giving it more work to
do so.
There are just.
There are better ways, right,like lemon water and grounding
and social media, detox andgentle yoga and some sauna, some
walking, like all of thesethings are so massively
(16:55):
supportive and free right, superfree, like sweating walking,
twisting lemon water, likewhat's the lemon cost?
50 cents, I don't know.
Free, right.
So take stock of what's going onwith your liver, see what you
can implement that's currentlyfree, and then catch up with me
in the next episode to talkabout one of my favorite
(17:16):
solutions for liver stagnationand breaking out of this riptide
so that you can finally love,feel like you can implement this
law of attraction, mindset,manifestation and faith-based
work that you really want to buyinto.
Okay, in this episode we talkedabout anger as being an
energetic block that's keepingyou in the riptide of divorce,
(17:40):
but I wonder if there's adifferent emotion that you feel
is holding you back.
But I wonder if there's adifferent emotion that you feel
is holding you back.
If you feel like it's not angerbut it's something else, would
you send me a DM and tell mewhat that other emotional
experience is that you feel likeis holding you back from moving
forward into this ability tovisualize and take these next
(18:01):
steps?
Right, if it's not anger foryou, what is it?
Getting a DM from you isseriously the highlight of my
day.
I cannot tell you how manybeautiful conversations and
relationships have come out ofthe DMs and Instagram.
For me, it is just like myfavorite.
(18:22):
Easiest part of this is to bechatting with you and hearing
where you're at and what's goingon and being that sort of
supportive thing.
You are not weighing me down orburdening me or bothering me.
I freaking love it.
All right, have a beautiful day, send me a DM Peace, peace.
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