October 7, 2025 • 19 mins
Some relationships end, but their patterns keep living in your body long after the divorce papers are signed.
In this rerelease, we talk about the hidden patterns that you thought were love — but were really fear. The ways you chased safety, approval, and control when what you actually craved was connection. The push-pull of attachment styles, codependency, and nervous system survival strategies that kept you looping in anxiety and longing.
If you’ve ever wondered why you keep attracting the same type of partner or why you can’t stop missing someone who hurt you, this episode will help you see what was really happening beneath the surface.
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SPEAKER_00 (00:00):
Hi, love.
We're doing something a littledifferent for the next few weeks
while we work behind the sceneson some really exciting things
for you.
But here's the fun part.
You're getting double episodes,both Tuesday and Thursday,
totally free, getting to trypremium for free for a few
weeks.
And we're going to revisit someof the most powerful dear
divorce diary conversations fromthe vault.
The ones that hit a littledifferently once you've lived in
(00:22):
this post-divorce life a littlelonger.
And if you haven't joined us yetinside Cocoon, it's our free
private community.
Use the coupon code in the shownotes, Magic Drop, to grab your
spot.
We're currently, for a shortperiod of time, gifting access
to our post-divorce roadmapwhere you can download that
immersive journaling program.
And then once you're in there,you can participate in our
(00:44):
weekly Magic Drop giveaways.
We've already had two winners,so what are you waiting for?
All right, let's get into it.
Here's one of those episodesthat still holds the truth every
time you hear it.
Divorce is like being caught ina riptide, being pulled under by
all of the pressures of life.
But what if you could movethrough that tide with more of a
(01:07):
sense of freedom, abundance,control?
Today we're gonna talk aboutthat, exploring how to turn this
post-divorce journey into adeeply powerful work reward
experience rather than just thework.
We're gonna talk about the lawof attraction and how we're not
avoiding the work, we'reshifting mindset to find beauty
(01:29):
in the struggle and pride in theprocess.
Hi, love.
Welcome to Dear Divorce Diary,the podcast helping divorcees go
beyond talk therapy to processyour grief, find the healing you
crave, and build back yourconfidence.
I'm your host, Don Wiggins, atherapist, coach, integrative
(01:53):
healer, and divorcee.
Join me for a fresh approach tohealing grief and building your
confidence after divorce.
There are three main elementsthat I want to go over with you
today.
(02:13):
And the first one is about howyou're approaching this process.
And honestly, it was born out ofthis beautiful conversation I
had with a dear friend thisweek.
But first things first is youwouldn't be climbing Machu
Picchu or training to run amarathon, expecting it to be all
pain and no reward, right?
And I think that's where we fallshort often in divorce recovery,
(02:37):
is we're anticipatingnegativity.
So when you approach the work ofdivorce and divorce recovery
with the right attitude, you cancompletely transform how you
move through it.
So we're gonna talk about thelaw of attraction and how your
mindset impacts your efforts andyour outcomes.
The second thing is we're gonnatalk about faith and its role in
(02:58):
this process because yourmindset either lifts you up or
drags you down, but also what ifI told you that your faith,
believing in yourself and theuniverse before you see the
outcome, is a significant gamechanger in your process.
And we're gonna talk about howhaving more faith, more embodied
(03:20):
faith, not just like aconceptual faith or an
intellectual faith, can give youmore of the freedom and control
you crave.
And then by the end of theepisode, we're gonna talk about
the hidden thing that's blockingboth your mindset and your
faith.
That if you're not reallylooking at this piece, you're
gonna just feel like you'refreaking stuck in a loop.
(03:42):
But many women have said thatthey feel stuck and that their
dreams and their goals are outof reach, or that they can't
even visualize their future andwhat they want it to look like.
And very often that's not just amindset issue because most of
you have enough experience nowto know that mindset is an issue
and you try to shift yourmindset, but you can't.
(04:03):
And the secret deeper energeticblock is liver stagnation.
So we're gonna unpack thatbarrier to clear thinking,
creativity, and forward momentumtowards the end of the episode.
Let's dig in.
So I was recently at the gymlifting heavy things and putting
(04:23):
them back down again.
It's a ridiculous thing I do,but man, the payoff is
fantastic.
And my trainer is stronglyconsidering a divorce.
And we were talking about theprocess and this and that and
pros and cons and all thethings, right?
(04:43):
And she was talking about howthe next steps for her, number
one, she couldn't visualizewhere she would end up or what
she actually wanted.
And number two, she wasanticipating this horrible,
overwhelming lift, pun intended,right?
(05:05):
And as we were just sort ofchitty chatting back and forth,
I was like, okay, but hang on.
Like you value hard work and youvalue pain that leads to gain.
So, number one, let's talk aboutyour liver, friend.
We'll get to that at the end ofthe episode.
But number two, let's say youand I were hiking Machu Picchu.
(05:29):
We would anticipate that it wasgoing to be grueling.
But in that gruelingness, whilewe may feel pain and we may cry
and we may say, What were wethinking when we were, you know,
why did we plan this?
Why did we want to do this inthe first place?
But we would be climbing and wewould be taking in the beauty of
the surroundings.
We would be anticipating thisawesome reward at the top.
(05:52):
We would be sort of like findingbeauty in the process, and we
would be feeling a great deepsense of personal satisfaction.
And she was like, it it justimmediately sort of like took
for her, right?
Is that we have to really lookat the mindset in which we move
through something and how itshifts the way we experience the
(06:17):
struggle.
And so, from a law of attractionstandpoint, when you're either
trying to initiate a divorce ormove through a divorce or
finalize a divorce or recoverfinancially and emotionally and
whatever from a divorce, like,yeah, it's hard work, like
training for a marathon orhiking Machu Picchu, or for my
(06:38):
40th birthday, we hiked theGrand Canyon and I did a lot of
it, friend, with Grace on myback.
It was obscene how painful itwas.
And it was like the pain wasdirectly correlated to the
amount of beauty and awe weexperienced that day, right?
It was profound, like that was aprofoundly impactful experience,
(06:59):
that Grand Canyon hike.
And I lost toenails a weeklater, right?
Um, and I feared for my life attimes.
So this sort of relationshipbetween risk, reward, and
mindset is something we reallyhave to take a look at when you
feel like you're stuck in thatriptide of divorce, constantly
(07:20):
being pulled back down.
And at the end of the episode,we're really gonna get into like
if you feel like no, Dawn, thisisn't me.
My mindset is on point.
Like, I know what you're saying,Dawn.
I keep trying to shift mymindset and it's not stick
sticking.
I got you.
We're gonna talk about that atthe end of the episode.
But from a law of attractionstandpoint, we have to be able
(07:42):
to visualize the future we want,just like we have to when we're
training for a marathon,visualize ourselves completing
like what it's gonna feel likewhen we cross that finish line.
If we're hiking something likethe Grand Canyon or Machu
Picchu, we got to be able tovisualize what it's gonna be
like at the ascent.
And I think that most of us haveseen enough pictures of Machu
(08:03):
Picchu or of the Grand Canyon,or we've watched enough times
people crossing marathon lines,finish lines, and how emotional
it is for them that we believe,right?
We believe that the reward isthere at the end.
And I think that's where itbreaks down with the divorce
journey is you don't believe inyour ending as much as you
(08:24):
believe in these other outcomes.
And so you fall back intoself-doubt and you fall back
into that being stuck in theriptide piece.
And when things knock you down,you feel more knocked down than
like, oh duh, this is just likeI need a rest day after, you
know, hitting the gym reallyhard.
(08:45):
So let's talk about how faithcan help you release some of
that riptide effect, right?
So I think that for a lot ofwomen who are practicing the law
of attraction, they're wantingto manifest, and they do have a
sense of the future that theywant, but they literally feel
like they cannot sort of get outof the riptide.
(09:05):
Very, very often they talk aboutthe weight of responsibility of
being a single woman or a singlemom, right?
There's just such a weight or apressure.
I wonder which one you relateto.
I often say pressure, but a lotof women say weight.
Which one do you resonate withmore?
Weight or pressure?
Send me a DM and tell me.
Um so they talk about the weightor pressure of being a single
(09:28):
woman and very often want thesebeautiful outcomes, like they
want to break the cycle withtheir children, they want to
have financial abundance, theywant to have a future
relationship that is beautifuland safe.
They want to feel peaceful, theywant all these things, right?
But taking one more risk at thispoint in life feels impossible,
(09:54):
right?
Taking one more leap of faith,moving one percent more out of
your comfort zone feelsimpossible, right?
And I think that's where we endup when we're in these sort of
crunch periods of life, right?
Where we're being tested onevery front, on every level, is
where we see the limits of ourfaith, right?
Where it's like, well, I havefaith to a point, right?
(10:18):
And that very often when we'rein these stuck spots, we want to
see evidence before we can takethe next leap.
And that often is something thatholds people back from their
manifestations because you canwant these big, beautiful things
and not realize when it'sknocking on your door, because
(10:39):
stepping through that door wasan invitation to something that
was more scary than you couldtolerate in that moment.
And so something I've often,often said is that where God
guides, God provides.
And I live and die by thatstatement.
Just recently, when we were onspring break, I was having this
foot problem pain thing.
(11:00):
And it's not actually anythingto do with my foot, it has to do
with my kidneys because longhistory of cluster headaches and
sort of rehabbing my body fromall of that, right?
But I was really, I spent a dayof spring break in a wheelchair.
It was bananas.
It was so hard for me tosurrender to that, right?
But I ended up getting to go toan acupuncturist, this amazing
(11:22):
acupuncturist, four days in arow.
And she pulled out every trickin the book.
It was amazing from cupping andred light and acupuncture and
massage and herbs and all thethings.
It's like she made it her life'smission to heal my kidneys.
And I was so grateful for her.
And listen, that wasn't in thespring break budget.
(11:45):
It just wasn't.
And you can imagine what thosefour back-to-back treatments
added up to.
And it just wasn't in thebudget.
But I am so profoundly clearthat what God wants for me is
abundance, is health, is to bewell and to be able to live in
my gifts that were God given.
(12:05):
And so there was no part of methat considered I can't do four
back-to-back sessions.
I promise you that that moneywas not just available per se,
right?
And so it just doesn't matter tome.
Like, we'll figure it outbecause where God guides, God
provides.
So just I want you to noticewhen you're in, when you feel
(12:27):
like the screws are being turnedto you, when you're in the vice
of all the pressures of life,where are you saying, like, God
can't guide me through this?
He, he, like, this next thing isnot safe.
I can't take that risk becauseGod isn't going to have my back.
And I think that that's amassive element of the law of
attraction and manifesting thatI don't hear people talk about a
(12:49):
whole lot.
That very much manifesting inlaw of attraction from my
experience dovetails with myChristian upbringing and
background.
And it's a very faith-basedprocess.
And that doesn't mean throwcaution to the wind and not be
accountable.
Like, quite to the contrary,right?
It's you can't fake a vibrationand you can't just spend all the
money without beingvibrationally aligned with that.
(13:11):
But this is your cue to getvibrationally aligned to expand
your faith because you're notgoing to be able to let in the
rest of the blessings and getout of the riptide unless you
start working on this piece.
Now, for the woman whounderstands mindset and
understands faith and cannotseem to, no matter how hard she
(13:32):
tries, to positively influenceand reach for the positive
thought and reach for thefaith-based solution, she cannot
seem to get the thing to shift.
If you feel like your dreams andgoals and your even capacity to
visualize the future is out ofyour reach, let's talk about
your liver.
Now, in Chinese medicine, we cansee how our lived experience
(13:55):
absolutely matches our organsystem.
So, for instance, people whohave a hard time with decision
making and they often strugglewith indecision, typically have
clogged or sluggishgallbladders.
For people who struggle withinsomnia and resentment and
anger and not being able tovisualize their future, they
have stagnant livers.
(14:17):
For people who struggle withboundaries, they typically have
stagnant kidneys, right?
So these are all things thathave been well documented in
traditional Chinese medicine,which is thousands of years old
and widely respected.
And so when you are stuck, veryoften the solution is in the
(14:38):
body and it's not in the mind.
Now let's think about all thethings that have been slogging
down your liver lately.
Now, first things first, angerlands in the liver.
You've had plenty of thatlately, right?
Number two, you probably havebeen drinking more.
And maybe you haven't beendrinking more, but maybe you've
(14:58):
been taking more CBD gummies tosleep.
Or maybe you've been taking moresupplements because you've been
losing your hair because of thestress, and your liver has to
process and break down andmetabolize those supplements
also.
And because you have been so onand off again, depressed and
anxious, you are probably takingmore pharmaceuticals than you
would have taken in the past.
(15:19):
You may be doing more screentime, less movement, right?
All of these things, while noneof them are individually wrong,
they have a cumulative effectover time.
That when you grabbed for thissolution that was supposed to be
temporary, it ended up not beingtemporary.
And now over time, your liverhas become sluggish.
And it feels like you are tired,angry, short-tempered, and
(15:49):
stuck.
And that is your sign that wehave to really look at the
physical body and start to makesome shifts.
And so there are lots ofrecommendations that I make for
folks who want to really startlooking at detoxifying their
liver.
Our next episode will be myfavorite solution, and I will
unpack all of that in the nextepisode.
(16:10):
But first things first is I justwant you to take a look at what
might be stagnating your liverand look at what maybe you could
start to let go of so that youcan really propel yourself out
of this riptide, right?
Towards freedom, control, andabundance.
(16:31):
And so believe it or not, asocial media detox can help
cleanse your liver.
More grounding, right?
Like feet in the grass.
It's a beautiful time of theyear for that, can help detoxify
your liver.
Gentle yoga twists, you know,castor oil.
I don't worry about the wholecastor oil pack thing, right?
I call me crazy, but I just, youknow, we don't always have to
(16:51):
buy a new thing.
Like I just put castor oil on myliver.
Warm lemon water in the morning,great for the liver.
Like there are so many thingsyou could do.
Dandelion tea or milk thistletea, wonderful for the liver.
I actually am not a huge fan ofherbs as a liver detox.
There are certain circumstanceswhere it's fine, but generally
(17:11):
speaking, I wouldn't go the herbroute.
I used to go the herb route, butonce you know better, do better,
right?
And so I have since learnedbetter.
The reason I don't love herbs,and I'll talk about this more in
the next episode, but you'retypically like forcing a detox
process that the rest of yourorgans aren't prepared to like
handle that downstream load.
(17:32):
And um, and like I said, yourliver still has to metabolize
those herbs and it's giving itmore work to do.
So there are just there arebetter ways, right?
Like lemon water and groundingand social media detox and
gentle yoga and some sauna, somewalking, like all of these
things are so massivelysupportive and free, right?
Super free.
Like sweating, walking,twisting, lemon water.
(17:54):
Like what's the lemon cost?
50 cents?
I don't know.
Free, right?
So take stock of what's going onwith your liver, see what you
can implement that's currentlyfree, and then catch up with me
in the next episode to talkabout one of my favorite
solutions for liver stagnationand breaking out of this riptide
so that you can finally love,feel like you can implement this
(18:16):
law of attraction, mindset,manifestation, and faith-based
work that you really want to buyinto.
Okay, in this episode, we talkedabout anger as being an
energetic block that's keepingyou in the riptide of divorce.
But I wonder if there's adifferent emotion that you feel
(18:37):
is holding you back.
If you feel like it's not anger,but it's something else, would
you send me a DM and tell mewhat that other emotional
experience is that you feel likeis holding you back from moving
forward into this ability tovisualize and take these next
steps, right?
If it's not anger for you, whatis it?
(18:59):
Getting a DM for you from you isseriously the highlight of my
day.
I cannot tell you how manybeautiful conversations and
relationships have come out ofthe DMs and Instagram.
For me, it is just like myfavorite, easiest part of this
is to be chatting with you andhearing where you're at and
(19:20):
what's going on and being thatsort of supportive thing.
You are not weighing me down orburdening me or bothering me.
I freaking love it.
All right, have a beautiful day.
Send me a DM.
Peace.
(19:46):
You can find more atmycoachjohn.com.
Hi, love.
We're doing something a littledifferent for the next few weeks
while we work behind the sceneson some really exciting things
for you.
But here's the fun part.
You're getting double episodes,both Tuesday and Thursday,
totally free, getting to trypremium for free for a few
weeks.
And we're going to revisit someof the most powerful dear
divorce diary conversations fromthe vault.
The ones that hit a littledifferently once you've lived in
(00:22):
this post-divorce life a littlelonger.
And if you haven't joined us yetinside Cocoon, it's our free
private community.
Use the coupon code in the shownotes, Magic Drop, to grab your
spot.
We're currently, for a shortperiod of time, gifting access
to our post-divorce roadmapwhere you can download that
immersive journaling program.
And then once you're in there,you can participate in our
(00:44):
weekly Magic Drop giveaways.
We've already had two winners,so what are you waiting for?
All right, let's get into it.
Here's one of those episodesthat still holds the truth every
time you hear it.
Divorce is like being caught ina riptide, being pulled under by
all of the pressures of life.
But what if you could movethrough that tide with more of a
(01:07):
sense of freedom, abundance,control?
Today we're gonna talk aboutthat, exploring how to turn this
post-divorce journey into adeeply powerful work reward
experience rather than just thework.
We're gonna talk about the lawof attraction and how we're not
avoiding the work, we'reshifting mindset to find beauty
(01:29):
in the struggle and pride in theprocess.
Hi, love.
Welcome to Dear Divorce Diary,the podcast helping divorcees go
beyond talk therapy to processyour grief, find the healing you
crave, and build back yourconfidence.
I'm your host, Don Wiggins, atherapist, coach, integrative
(01:53):
healer, and divorcee.
Join me for a fresh approach tohealing grief and building your
confidence after divorce.
There are three main elementsthat I want to go over with you
today.
(02:13):
And the first one is about howyou're approaching this process.
And honestly, it was born out ofthis beautiful conversation I
had with a dear friend thisweek.
But first things first is youwouldn't be climbing Machu
Picchu or training to run amarathon, expecting it to be all
pain and no reward, right?
And I think that's where we fallshort often in divorce recovery,
(02:37):
is we're anticipatingnegativity.
So when you approach the work ofdivorce and divorce recovery
with the right attitude, you cancompletely transform how you
move through it.
So we're gonna talk about thelaw of attraction and how your
mindset impacts your efforts andyour outcomes.
The second thing is we're gonnatalk about faith and its role in
(02:58):
this process because yourmindset either lifts you up or
drags you down, but also what ifI told you that your faith,
believing in yourself and theuniverse before you see the
outcome, is a significant gamechanger in your process.
And we're gonna talk about howhaving more faith, more embodied
(03:20):
faith, not just like aconceptual faith or an
intellectual faith, can give youmore of the freedom and control
you crave.
And then by the end of theepisode, we're gonna talk about
the hidden thing that's blockingboth your mindset and your
faith.
That if you're not reallylooking at this piece, you're
gonna just feel like you'refreaking stuck in a loop.
(03:42):
But many women have said thatthey feel stuck and that their
dreams and their goals are outof reach, or that they can't
even visualize their future andwhat they want it to look like.
And very often that's not just amindset issue because most of
you have enough experience nowto know that mindset is an issue
and you try to shift yourmindset, but you can't.
(04:03):
And the secret deeper energeticblock is liver stagnation.
So we're gonna unpack thatbarrier to clear thinking,
creativity, and forward momentumtowards the end of the episode.
Let's dig in.
So I was recently at the gymlifting heavy things and putting
(04:23):
them back down again.
It's a ridiculous thing I do,but man, the payoff is
fantastic.
And my trainer is stronglyconsidering a divorce.
And we were talking about theprocess and this and that and
pros and cons and all thethings, right?
(04:43):
And she was talking about howthe next steps for her, number
one, she couldn't visualizewhere she would end up or what
she actually wanted.
And number two, she wasanticipating this horrible,
overwhelming lift, pun intended,right?
(05:05):
And as we were just sort ofchitty chatting back and forth,
I was like, okay, but hang on.
Like you value hard work and youvalue pain that leads to gain.
So, number one, let's talk aboutyour liver, friend.
We'll get to that at the end ofthe episode.
But number two, let's say youand I were hiking Machu Picchu.
(05:29):
We would anticipate that it wasgoing to be grueling.
But in that gruelingness, whilewe may feel pain and we may cry
and we may say, What were wethinking when we were, you know,
why did we plan this?
Why did we want to do this inthe first place?
But we would be climbing and wewould be taking in the beauty of
the surroundings.
We would be anticipating thisawesome reward at the top.
(05:52):
We would be sort of like findingbeauty in the process, and we
would be feeling a great deepsense of personal satisfaction.
And she was like, it it justimmediately sort of like took
for her, right?
Is that we have to really lookat the mindset in which we move
through something and how itshifts the way we experience the
(06:17):
struggle.
And so, from a law of attractionstandpoint, when you're either
trying to initiate a divorce ormove through a divorce or
finalize a divorce or recoverfinancially and emotionally and
whatever from a divorce, like,yeah, it's hard work, like
training for a marathon orhiking Machu Picchu, or for my
(06:38):
40th birthday, we hiked theGrand Canyon and I did a lot of
it, friend, with Grace on myback.
It was obscene how painful itwas.
And it was like the pain wasdirectly correlated to the
amount of beauty and awe weexperienced that day, right?
It was profound, like that was aprofoundly impactful experience,
(06:59):
that Grand Canyon hike.
And I lost toenails a weeklater, right?
Um, and I feared for my life attimes.
So this sort of relationshipbetween risk, reward, and
mindset is something we reallyhave to take a look at when you
feel like you're stuck in thatriptide of divorce, constantly
(07:20):
being pulled back down.
And at the end of the episode,we're really gonna get into like
if you feel like no, Dawn, thisisn't me.
My mindset is on point.
Like, I know what you're saying,Dawn.
I keep trying to shift mymindset and it's not stick
sticking.
I got you.
We're gonna talk about that atthe end of the episode.
But from a law of attractionstandpoint, we have to be able
(07:42):
to visualize the future we want,just like we have to when we're
training for a marathon,visualize ourselves completing
like what it's gonna feel likewhen we cross that finish line.
If we're hiking something likethe Grand Canyon or Machu
Picchu, we got to be able tovisualize what it's gonna be
like at the ascent.
And I think that most of us haveseen enough pictures of Machu
(08:03):
Picchu or of the Grand Canyon,or we've watched enough times
people crossing marathon lines,finish lines, and how emotional
it is for them that we believe,right?
We believe that the reward isthere at the end.
And I think that's where itbreaks down with the divorce
journey is you don't believe inyour ending as much as you
(08:24):
believe in these other outcomes.
And so you fall back intoself-doubt and you fall back
into that being stuck in theriptide piece.
And when things knock you down,you feel more knocked down than
like, oh duh, this is just likeI need a rest day after, you
know, hitting the gym reallyhard.
(08:45):
So let's talk about how faithcan help you release some of
that riptide effect, right?
So I think that for a lot ofwomen who are practicing the law
of attraction, they're wantingto manifest, and they do have a
sense of the future that theywant, but they literally feel
like they cannot sort of get outof the riptide.
(09:05):
Very, very often they talk aboutthe weight of responsibility of
being a single woman or a singlemom, right?
There's just such a weight or apressure.
I wonder which one you relateto.
I often say pressure, but a lotof women say weight.
Which one do you resonate withmore?
Weight or pressure?
Send me a DM and tell me.
Um so they talk about the weightor pressure of being a single
(09:28):
woman and very often want thesebeautiful outcomes, like they
want to break the cycle withtheir children, they want to
have financial abundance, theywant to have a future
relationship that is beautifuland safe.
They want to feel peaceful, theywant all these things, right?
But taking one more risk at thispoint in life feels impossible,
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right?
Taking one more leap of faith,moving one percent more out of
your comfort zone feelsimpossible, right?
And I think that's where we endup when we're in these sort of
crunch periods of life, right?
Where we're being tested onevery front, on every level, is
where we see the limits of ourfaith, right?
Where it's like, well, I havefaith to a point, right?
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And that very often when we'rein these stuck spots, we want to
see evidence before we can takethe next leap.
And that often is something thatholds people back from their
manifestations because you canwant these big, beautiful things
and not realize when it'sknocking on your door, because
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stepping through that door wasan invitation to something that
was more scary than you couldtolerate in that moment.
And so something I've often,often said is that where God
guides, God provides.
And I live and die by thatstatement.
Just recently, when we were onspring break, I was having this
foot problem pain thing.
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And it's not actually anythingto do with my foot, it has to do
with my kidneys because longhistory of cluster headaches and
sort of rehabbing my body fromall of that, right?
But I was really, I spent a dayof spring break in a wheelchair.
It was bananas.
It was so hard for me tosurrender to that, right?
But I ended up getting to go toan acupuncturist, this amazing
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acupuncturist, four days in arow.
And she pulled out every trickin the book.
It was amazing from cupping andred light and acupuncture and
massage and herbs and all thethings.
It's like she made it her life'smission to heal my kidneys.
And I was so grateful for her.
And listen, that wasn't in thespring break budget.
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It just wasn't.
And you can imagine what thosefour back-to-back treatments
added up to.
And it just wasn't in thebudget.
But I am so profoundly clearthat what God wants for me is
abundance, is health, is to bewell and to be able to live in
my gifts that were God given.
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And so there was no part of methat considered I can't do four
back-to-back sessions.
I promise you that that moneywas not just available per se,
right?
And so it just doesn't matter tome.
Like, we'll figure it outbecause where God guides, God
provides.
So just I want you to noticewhen you're in, when you feel
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like the screws are being turnedto you, when you're in the vice
of all the pressures of life,where are you saying, like, God
can't guide me through this?
He, he, like, this next thing isnot safe.
I can't take that risk becauseGod isn't going to have my back.
And I think that that's amassive element of the law of
attraction and manifesting thatI don't hear people talk about a
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whole lot.
That very much manifesting inlaw of attraction from my
experience dovetails with myChristian upbringing and
background.
And it's a very faith-basedprocess.
And that doesn't mean throwcaution to the wind and not be
accountable.
Like, quite to the contrary,right?
It's you can't fake a vibrationand you can't just spend all the
money without beingvibrationally aligned with that.
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But this is your cue to getvibrationally aligned to expand
your faith because you're notgoing to be able to let in the
rest of the blessings and getout of the riptide unless you
start working on this piece.
Now, for the woman whounderstands mindset and
understands faith and cannotseem to, no matter how hard she
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tries, to positively influenceand reach for the positive
thought and reach for thefaith-based solution, she cannot
seem to get the thing to shift.
If you feel like your dreams andgoals and your even capacity to
visualize the future is out ofyour reach, let's talk about
your liver.
Now, in Chinese medicine, we cansee how our lived experience
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absolutely matches our organsystem.
So, for instance, people whohave a hard time with decision
making and they often strugglewith indecision, typically have
clogged or sluggishgallbladders.
For people who struggle withinsomnia and resentment and
anger and not being able tovisualize their future, they
have stagnant livers.
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For people who struggle withboundaries, they typically have
stagnant kidneys, right?
So these are all things thathave been well documented in
traditional Chinese medicine,which is thousands of years old
and widely respected.
And so when you are stuck, veryoften the solution is in the
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body and it's not in the mind.
Now let's think about all thethings that have been slogging
down your liver lately.
Now, first things first, angerlands in the liver.
You've had plenty of thatlately, right?
Number two, you probably havebeen drinking more.
And maybe you haven't beendrinking more, but maybe you've
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been taking more CBD gummies tosleep.
Or maybe you've been taking moresupplements because you've been
losing your hair because of thestress, and your liver has to
process and break down andmetabolize those supplements
also.
And because you have been so onand off again, depressed and
anxious, you are probably takingmore pharmaceuticals than you
would have taken in the past.
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You may be doing more screentime, less movement, right?
All of these things, while noneof them are individually wrong,
they have a cumulative effectover time.
That when you grabbed for thissolution that was supposed to be
temporary, it ended up not beingtemporary.
And now over time, your liverhas become sluggish.
And it feels like you are tired,angry, short-tempered, and
(15:49):
stuck.
And that is your sign that wehave to really look at the
physical body and start to makesome shifts.
And so there are lots ofrecommendations that I make for
folks who want to really startlooking at detoxifying their
liver.
Our next episode will be myfavorite solution, and I will
unpack all of that in the nextepisode.
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But first things first is I justwant you to take a look at what
might be stagnating your liverand look at what maybe you could
start to let go of so that youcan really propel yourself out
of this riptide, right?
Towards freedom, control, andabundance.
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And so believe it or not, asocial media detox can help
cleanse your liver.
More grounding, right?
Like feet in the grass.
It's a beautiful time of theyear for that, can help detoxify
your liver.
Gentle yoga twists, you know,castor oil.
I don't worry about the wholecastor oil pack thing, right?
I call me crazy, but I just, youknow, we don't always have to
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buy a new thing.
Like I just put castor oil on myliver.
Warm lemon water in the morning,great for the liver.
Like there are so many thingsyou could do.
Dandelion tea or milk thistletea, wonderful for the liver.
I actually am not a huge fan ofherbs as a liver detox.
There are certain circumstanceswhere it's fine, but generally
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speaking, I wouldn't go the herbroute.
I used to go the herb route, butonce you know better, do better,
right?
And so I have since learnedbetter.
The reason I don't love herbs,and I'll talk about this more in
the next episode, but you'retypically like forcing a detox
process that the rest of yourorgans aren't prepared to like
handle that downstream load.
(17:32):
And um, and like I said, yourliver still has to metabolize
those herbs and it's giving itmore work to do.
So there are just there arebetter ways, right?
Like lemon water and groundingand social media detox and
gentle yoga and some sauna, somewalking, like all of these
things are so massivelysupportive and free, right?
Super free.
Like sweating, walking,twisting, lemon water.
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Like what's the lemon cost?
50 cents?
I don't know.
Free, right?
So take stock of what's going onwith your liver, see what you
can implement that's currentlyfree, and then catch up with me
in the next episode to talkabout one of my favorite
solutions for liver stagnationand breaking out of this riptide
so that you can finally love,feel like you can implement this
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law of attraction, mindset,manifestation, and faith-based
work that you really want to buyinto.
Okay, in this episode, we talkedabout anger as being an
energetic block that's keepingyou in the riptide of divorce.
But I wonder if there's adifferent emotion that you feel
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is holding you back.
If you feel like it's not anger,but it's something else, would
you send me a DM and tell mewhat that other emotional
experience is that you feel likeis holding you back from moving
forward into this ability tovisualize and take these next
steps, right?
If it's not anger for you, whatis it?
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Getting a DM for you from you isseriously the highlight of my
day.
I cannot tell you how manybeautiful conversations and
relationships have come out ofthe DMs and Instagram.
For me, it is just like myfavorite, easiest part of this
is to be chatting with you andhearing where you're at and
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what's going on and being thatsort of supportive thing.
You are not weighing me down orburdening me or bothering me.
I freaking love it.
All right, have a beautiful day.
Send me a DM.
Peace.
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You can find more atmycoachjohn.com.
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