Today’s episode is personal, unpolished, and happening in real time.
This is the first in our new premium series, Behind the Mic—where we take you into the conversations that usually happen off-air. And this week, I’m sharing something I’m still moving through: a recent miscarriage.
Inside this conversation, we talk about how this loss collided with my lifelong pattern of staying in masculine energy—overfunctioning, overproducing, and avoiding vulnerability by handling everything myself. We explore why receiving support still feels harder than giving it, how early attachment trauma shaped that, and what happens to a woman’s nervous system and hormones when softness feels unsafe.
You’ll also hear a candid discussion between me, Joy, and Tiff about suppression, self-sacrifice, and the way so many high-achieving women are conditioned to stay “strong” at the expense of their own bodies.
This isn’t a polished teaching moment. It’s us, in the middle of it, naming patterns as they surface and practicing the very tools we teach—IFS, EMDR principles, nervous system awareness—to move through something raw and immediate.
If you’ve ever carried grief alone, struggled to step out of your masculine, or felt terrified to let yourself be supported, this conversation will land in a very specific place.
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A podcast exploring the journey of life after divorce, delving into topics like divorce grief, loneliness, anxiety, manifesting, the impact of different attachment styles and codependency, setting healthy boundaries, energy healing with homeopathy, managing the nervous system during divorce depression, understanding the stages of divorce grief, and using the Law of Attraction and EMDR therapy in the process of building your confidence, forgiveness and letting go.
Episode Transcript
There's also a real mind fuck in it.
It's like letting go to receive,right?
It's like if we make hardchoices around here for me to
work, air quotes, work less.
What I really mean is produceless.
Like, I don't know, produceless, right?
Can we turn that producing lessinto more?
(02:22):
Yes, but that's paradoxical,right?
It's like I don't that hasn'tfully clicked.
That actually when you let goand you leave space and you
don't overproduce and you don'toverperform and you let the
universe bring in the more, itcomes.
(02:47):
Hi love.
Welcome to Dear Divorce Diary,the podcast helping divorcees go
beyond talk therapy to processyour grief, find the healing you
crave, and build back yourconfidence.
I'm your host, Don Wiggins, atherapist, coach, integrative
healer, and divorcee.
Join me for a fresh approach tohealing grief and building your
(03:07):
confidence after divorce.
I don't think, like, I don'tthink it's that we're supposed
to like divorce ourselves, lol,of our masculine.
I think it's that because of theattachment trauma, the early,
(03:30):
early childhood stuff, right?
We ended up stuck in a gear.
And it's not even just earlyattachment trauma, it's our
society.
Our society does not value thefeminine.
Our society celebrates, and Ithink this is like a World War
I, World War II issue where wesent women to work and we never
brought them home.
And then feminism took root andit and we fucking ran with
(03:50):
feminism, and feminism is acrock of shit.
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