Ep. 305 Day 11: After Divorce, New Year’s Resolutions Don’t Work — Here’s What Does

If New Year’s resolutions have never worked for you...especially after divorce, it’s not because you lack discipline, motivation, or follow-through.

It’s because the version of you who survived divorce is not wired to safely become the woman you’re trying to create.

After divorce, most women try to change their lives by changing their behavior.

But behavior never sticks when the nervous system doesn’t feel safe expanding.

In this New Year’s Day episode, we break down why resolutions fail specifically after divorce—and what actually creates change instead.

We talk about:

• Why “New Year, New You” language backfires on a nervous system shaped by loss
• How inherited roles, survival strategies, and emotional suppression block capacity
• The real reason desire alone isn’t enough to create change
• Why your brain will offer a thousand excuses—and why that doesn’t mean you’re failing
• What permission has to do with confidence, worthiness, and follow-through

You’ll be guided through a powerful journaling exercise we call the New Year Permission Slip—not focused on what you want, but on who you’re willing to become to receive it.

Because the woman who calls in a fuller life after divorce:

• has more capacity
• feels safer being seen
• trusts herself more deeply
• and no longer abandons herself to stay comfortable

And she doesn’t arrive by accident.

🎯 Your Invitation

Ask yourself:

• What am I calling in this year?
• And what am I willing to put on the line to become the woman who can hold it?

We believe in you.

The real question is—will you give yourself permission to believe in you too?

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Episode Transcript

SPEAKER_00 (00:00):
Welcome to day 11 of the 12 days of Divorce
Christmas.
We are getting down to it here.
Happy New Year's Day.
We are so excited to be kickingoff a new year with you.
We have exciting things plannedfor this year, and we are just

(00:20):
like gangster about doing itwith you, doing it together,
being on the team together.
Like you have no idea.
We just are so excited.
So, happy New Year's.
Let's dig in.
Let's dig into New Year's NewYear bullshit, right?
Like, let's just get on that.
Get on the wagon.
Let's go.
Oh, get on or get out.

(00:44):
Hi, love.
Welcome to Dear Divorce Diary,the podcast helping divorcees go
beyond talk therapy to processyour grief, find the healing you
crave, and build back yourconfidence.
I'm your host, Don Wiggins, atherapist, coach, integrative
healer, and divorce.
Join me for a fresh approach tohealing grief and building your

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confidence after divorce.
All right, loves.
It is a new year.
And so we're gonna, we're gonnabecome more of ourselves this
year, right?
That is, it's not a differentyou, it's we are gonna become
more of you because there is somany layers of crap that have

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piled up on you.
You were born with the sins ofthe father, right?
You were born with energeticinheritance that was not yours
that was piled on you, and thenyou lived your life in a way
that more crap got piled on you,and then you know, like we gotta
dust off all those layers.
So we are gonna step in andwe're gonna step in strong.
So today's mission is for you tograb your journal and to write

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yourself a new year permissionslip.
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