Chill

Yes, that's right. The theme of this episode is chill, calmness, relaxation, and being a chilled-out human. Fun!

I offer this short episode in response to a frequent question. It goes like this: "Dude, how are you so chill? I mean seriously, how is it that you're so relaxed?"

The very first thing I can say is that, well, I just am. Now, how can you be more relaxed in your life, and what are the benefits to you if you are? That's the more important question.

This conversation is all about you. Even if your day isn't going as you'd hoped it would, how can you bring just a touch more peace and tranquility to your experience?

One thing I invite you to do is avoid comparative reality. Just because someone else, say the Dalai Lama, appears calmer than you are doesn't mean there is anything wrong with you. It doesn't mean you're doing life incorrectly. Comparisons don't help us; after all, the Dalai Lama has been meditating much longer than most of us!

What are the benefits of being just a bit calmer? For one thing, relaxation helps all of our physical systems immensely. Emotionally and psychologically, when we take the time for peaceful relaxation we begin to notice a gap between stimulus and response. What I mean by that is things that once caused you to fly off the handle may now affect you less, or there's a longer gap between the event and your response to it, i.e. no knee-jerk habitual reaction. This gap opens up mental and psychological space for you to make a different decision.

Over time, this is huge.

So how do you do it? Meditation is one way, so is a walk outside, exercise, yoga, sitting down to read or listening to music, you name it. The right answer is whatever works for you.

Being chill can really, really help you. I invite you give some thought to how you could bring more peace and calmness to your life, then go out and create it.

Please join me.

[And PS: Please enjoy the Air Force jet flyovers at a couple of points in the recording. I have chosen not to edit these out and hereby offer them to you. The flyovers, which are completely random here in the west Phoenix metro area, happened to be very close to the ground on the day of recording, and presented me with an excellent opportunity to remain chill. Things are not always as we'd have them be. Enjoy!]

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Rev. Tomás Garza is a podcaster, spiritual teacher and coach, and a SolePath Certified Mentor. He invites the deeper exploration--you know, the vulnerable stuff--and will happily serve as a safe space and guide for this critical exploration.

He and his wife Cindy are avid hikers and lovers of heat and sunshine. Hence, they live in Arizona. 

For more information and to contact Rev. Tomás, please visit https://tomasgarza.com .

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What brings you a sense of calm? Poolside, Surprise, Arizona