Don't Be Afraid of Your Emotions

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What if the most profound act of self-care isn't another wellness trend, but something far more fundamental? 

Learning to accept and manage your emotions is a gift you give yourself and everyone around you.

True transformation begins with a counterintuitive truth: self-discipline creates freedom. By developing simple practices—pausing before reactions, transitioning mindfully between activities, and regularly checking in with yourself—you can prevent emotional spillover and cultivate inner stability. 

In our increasingly chaotic world, the ability to maintain inner calm isn't optional—it's essential. 

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Episode Transcript

Speaker 1 (00:02):
A deep change in the way that we live requires a deep
change in the way that we think.
I'm Carla Reeves and this isDifferently.
I've been thinking aboutsomething lately.
There's been so much buzz inteaching about mindset over the
last years.
So much right, but are wegetting better?

(00:24):
Are we getting mentallyhealthier?
I feel that the gap is inbetween knowing the path and
walking the path.
We know more about our mindsthan we ever have.
We've probably read the booksand tried the things, but are we
doing the work of managing ourminds?
I felt a nudge to do a podcaston this because I've been really

(00:48):
noticing the rush, rush, go, goand even people feeling like
this inability or even desire toslow down, which you might go
back to last week's episode,which is slow down to speed up.
Also noticing the resistanceand the reluctance to do the
things that we know we need todo to feel better, to be better,

(01:09):
to show up more fully in ourlives.
This might be journaling orslowing down to do the important
healing work, the inside work.
It might mean coaching,whatever that means Noticing
resistance and reluctance aroundthat and also noticing people
just not having the time, notfeeling like they have the time,

(01:31):
or they just stay so busy toavoid actually dealing with what
is or what's been stirringinside of them for years.
That's getting in their way,but we're just moving on to the
next thing and the next thing.
And lastly, and I think mostimportantly, I've been feeling
like there is a fear ofexperiencing our emotions in me

(01:55):
too, and I think it's a fearthat they're going to take over
or they're going to consume us,or they're going to take us
somewhere we don't want to go.
Where did we learn to be afraidof our emotions?
Should we be afraid?
These emotions are part of ourhumanity.
They're innate in our design.
The cost of unmanaged emotionsis so big, right, it's our own

(02:19):
mental health, it's ourrelationships and our marriages,
it's our health in general, andunmanaged emotions wreak havoc
on the parts of our lives thatmatter the most.
When we don't manage ouremotions, we react, we say
things we later regret.
We spill it all out onto thosearound us.
We tear things down instead ofbuilding things up.

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We bring separation where wereally wanted connection.
True self-care, my friend, isself-discipline, and it begins
with managing our mind.
Maybe the reason we feel afraidof our emotions is because
we've never been taught how tohandle them, how to manage them,

(03:03):
and what I've seen.
The truth, I feel, is that whenwe are comfortable with our
emotional climate inside, weactually have more control, we
have more peace, we have moreclarity, we know what to do next
.
It can be incrediblystabilizing to know where you're
at, to know your own emotionsand to know how to return to a

(03:26):
state of calm.
This is my life's work helpingpeople take this important
journey and guide them in how todo it until this practice can
become your own.
The cost of unmanaged emotionsis too high.
Think about it for a minute.
Think about the last time youremotions got the best of you.

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What happened and what was theimpact?
My emotions and my feelings ranmy life for years, running me
ragged all over the place.
Friend, get them buckled up inthe backseat.
You will never regret this.
It may not be a once and done.
It's a practice.
I practice it too.
Yes, it's work, but it willproduce goodness in your life

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for years to come.
People sometimes cringe at theidea of discipline, or they feel
like, oh, I'm not a disciplinedperson.
Or you know, yada, yada, yada.
I want to reframe this for youthat self-discipline actually
leads to freedom and choice andpeace of mind.
So how do we start?

(04:30):
Managing our emotions beginswith managing your mind as a
practice, your thoughts and asimple check-in with yourself on
a regular basis is a greatplace to start and that can
begin to shift everythingInterrupting the pace of your
life.
To pay more attention to themore subtle things and again go

(04:51):
back to last week's episode onslow down to speed up, but a
simple pause before reacting tosomething or a situation in your
life, or taking a beat and abreath to transition from a long
day at work to dinner with yourfamily.
These small micro movements canprevent you from dumping your

(05:12):
day onto your family.
It can prevent you fromreacting in a way that creates
damage in a place that mattersmost to you.
There's so much possibilityhere.
It makes me think of the quotepeace.
It does not mean to be in aplace where there is no noise,
trouble or hard work.
It means to be in the midst ofthose things and still be calm

(05:37):
in your heart.
Let's get good at this, friend.
We are in unprecedented times.
The world is chaotic, lifeisn't slowing around us.
In fact, I think the pace ofchange and technology is getting
faster, and I've never feltmore strongly that we need to
get good at managing our ownstate of mind.
A renewed mind leads to arenewed life.

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It requires us to be differentso that we're not at the mercy
of the chaos around us Again.
True self-care isself-discipline and it begins
with managing your mind.
Come learn how.
There are simple tools and thiscan become part of your
lifestyle.

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It's not something else to addto the list.
Join me on August 15th.
I'm doing a free virtual class.
It's called slow down to speedup, and we're going to explore
this counterintuitive idea.
Get you writing and reflectingso that you can make the most of
this new season.
You can save your spot in theshow notes or head to Carla

(06:41):
Reevescom.
That's all I have today.
I'll see you next week.
Thank you for making it all theway to the end and thank you
for listening to differently.
If you enjoyed this episode,will you please go leave a five
star review and share it withsomeone you love.
Goodbye for now.
I'll see you next week.