September 11, 2024 • 21 mins
Hey Friend,
Have you ever caught yourself lost in the endless scroll of social media, only to realize that you've let precious hours slip by? That's exactly what happened to me this past Saturday—a day I had set aside for relaxation that instead became overrun by digital distractions. In this week's episode, titled "Transforming Digital Chaos into Mental Peace ," I share my personal journey from mindless scrolling to rediscovering meaningful rest and productivity.
Join me as I recount how I redirected my day towards more fulfilling activities, like spending time outdoors and finally tackling the long-overdue project of cleaning out my kitchen cabinets. This intentional shift not only helped me reclaim my day but also brought unexpected joy and a refreshing sense of mental clarity.
We'll also explore the transformative power of movement and decluttering. Discover the surprising benefits that physical activity can offer as a form of rest and how addressing hidden clutter can significantly enhance your peace of mind. Through the simple act of clearing out old items, I found newfound mental space and sparked fresh ideas for future projects.
Moreover, we delve into the delicate balance between self-trust and spiritual guidance, examining how true rest—both physical and emotional—can lead to greater clarity and more confident decision-making.
If you've ever found yourself struggling to find balance and clarity amid the daily chaos, this episode is tailor-made for you. Tune in to find inspiration and practical tips for transforming your own environment and mindset.
Love Always,
PBJ
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
All right, friend, it's story time.
I've got to tell you about alesson that I learned, or let's
just say relearned, this weekend.
Y'all know I don't mind tellingon myself, so here goes, let's
talk about it.
So this is what happened,friend, if you follow on social
(00:48):
media LinkedIn, instagram,whatever you do, whatever your
social media choice is you mayhave noticed that I've been on
the road for a couple weeks.
A couple weeks ago I was inTopsom Topsom, maine.
Goodness, All right, my friendsfrom Maine, if I said that
(01:10):
wrong, y'all help me out, help asister out, I think I said it
right In the Brunswick area ofMaine and I was able to see the
coast, which was absolutelygorgeous.
And last week I traveled to seesome friends, to share with
some friends, to speak, to do aworkshop in Dayton, ohio, at a
(01:32):
beautiful, beautiful location.
So I've been on the road twoweeks back to back.
This past weekend I said okay,I'll be at home.
Weekend I said okay, I'll be athome, edward will be at home,
we'll spend some time together.
Because I knew on Monday I wastraveling again, just a
turnaround trip, but I knew Iwould be going all day.
(01:53):
So for the weekend, in my mindit was whatever he wanted to do,
that's what we were going to do, well, on Friday night.
So I got back from Ohio onFriday morning, friday night,
edward got an invitation from afriend to do something different
, which is fine, which was great.
(02:14):
I was really excited for himbecause it was something he
wanted to do, and then I thought, oh, this is awesome.
Right, like, don't get me wrong, I love hanging out with my
husband.
He is my best friend, we enjoyeach other and I am truly an
introvert.
(02:34):
So that means, after two weeksof sharing and peopling and
meeting new people and havingconversations and flying and
driving and all the things I wasnot mad at having a Saturday to
myself.
Again, I love my husband, Ilove spending time with him, and
(02:55):
some time alone was veryexciting.
So we kind of pivoted, got somethings together that he needed
for his day and I had all thesethoughts in my head Gosh, I
could go get a massage, I coulddo this, I could do that, like
all I do.
I was just thinking what am Igoing to do with my day?
(03:16):
What am I going to do with myday to myself?
So got up Saturday morningwhile Edward was getting dressed
.
I got some chores done in thehouse.
Y'all know what Saturdaymorning is Get up, turn on your
music, whatever your musicalchoice is, and get your house
clean, right.
So I got up early because Iwanted to get that out of the
(03:37):
way, um, so that by the time hegot going I was done and I could
just do whatever I wanted.
So I got my stuff done thatmorning.
He got out of the house andwent on his way and I said whew,
let me sit down for a fewminutes.
Let me just sit down here andrest for a minute, because I was
(03:59):
working, working.
I was working.
So I said let me have a seatand then I'll figure out what I
want to do.
And I found myself scrolling,scrolling on the news and
scrolling Instagram, justscrolling.
I listened to a couple ofYouTube videos and before I knew
it, a couple hours had passedand I'm thinking what in the
(04:22):
world am I doing with my day?
I am scrolling my rest away.
Have you ever scrolled yourrest away?
Not just social media.
Maybe it's not Instagram orLinkedIn for you, maybe it's
(04:42):
another podcast or anotherYouTube video, or even another
article, or another book oranother work assignment or one
more email to answer.
Have you ever found yourselfGiving away your rest time to
things that really don't matter?
It happened so quickly.
(05:05):
It happened so quickly.
One moment.
I was just sitting down for amoment to rest and the next
thing I know it's a couple hourslater and I had not moved from
that spot.
My phone was in my hand.
That spot, my phone was in myhand, and I realized my day, my
day of rest, my day of whateverI wanted it to be, was getting
(05:27):
away from me and I thought, man,you got to know better than
this.
How did you allow this tohappen?
But I'm here to tell you.
It is so easy, it is so easy tofind yourself scrolling your
rest away.
So I decided in that moment okay, that's enough, I'm not doing
(05:48):
this.
I'm not wasting my day justscrolling on whatever, just
looking at another thing,filling my mind with another
thing, listening to anotherthing.
I decided I'm going to actuallyrest, maybe take a nap.
I went outside, got some freshair, walked the dog, that kind
of thing.
I said you know what, I mightjust take a nap.
(06:08):
So I came back in the house andsat down, but I couldn't get
comfortable.
I was a little restless.
I wasn't comfortable justsitting.
I was a little restless.
I wasn't comfortable justsitting, I was a little antsy.
There are days that I would sayis this am I anxious, like
what's going on?
But I don't think it was ananxiety.
(06:29):
What I decided to do was Idecided to get up.
Now, y'all, hang in there withme, don't judge me.
We're friends, right, we'refriends, don't judge me.
I decided to get up and cleanout my kitchen cabinets.
Now, this is something that'sbeen on the to-do list for a
(06:49):
while.
I travel and I speak mostly tocolleges and universities.
So when I tell you I havet-shirts, I have blankets, I
have coffee cups, I have watercups, y'all know.
Y'all know what it is right andI love it.
I love them.
And my cabinets were so full Icould no longer fit another
(07:09):
coffee mug in my cabinets.
It like no room in the end,right?
So it was on my list Like I gotto clean out these cabinets, I
gotta do it.
And I put it off for a coupleweekends, gotta do it, gotta do
it.
So in this moment, I'm likenow's the time, Now's the time
I'm going to get up and do it,and part of me was judging
(07:31):
myself like girl, like this isyour opportunity to do whatever
you want to do and you're goingto clean out the kitchen
cabinets.
But let me tell y'all whathappened.
What I found was as I got upand started moving around and
got up on a ladder and got tothe highest cabinets and pulled
things out, and then I got a boxand started stacking and
(07:53):
wrapping them and once I finallygot it all cleared out and done
, I reset the cups, the cabinetsand everything that we're
keeping.
And then I took boxes becausewe also I cleaned off our
bookshelf a couple of weeks ago.
Y'all, when I tell you therewere stacks of books around my
house because they couldn't fiton the bookshelf I know I know
(08:15):
y'all promise not to judge me,Okay.
So I cleaned off the bookshelfa couple of weeks ago, so I
already had boxes of books readyto go to be donated.
Now I have the stuff from mykitchen cabinets ready to go be
donated cake plates and mugs andwater cups and all the things.
(08:38):
So then I decided, oh well, wejust going to go ahead and get
this out the house, like I'm notgoing to keep all of this in
the house.
So I put all of those boxes inour little beach wagon I love
that wagon, listen, that wagondoes work around here Took them
to the car, unloaded the boxesinto my car, went to the
donation place, donated all thestuff, got back home.
(09:00):
Then Bella needed a walk.
So I walked Bella again andwhen I got back in the house you
know I have I had broken asweat Like it was a workout.
My watch was saying go girl, doyour thing.
And I realized I felt better.
I felt better after moving mybody and doing something
(09:22):
physical, and what I realized inthat moment was the kind of
rest that my body needed was nota nap, I needed physical rest.
Meaning for the last two weeksI was either sitting at my desk
or flying on an airplane, ordriving in a car or you know,
(09:43):
speaking like my body had beenin certain positions for
extended periods of time, mostlysitting, other than the actual
workshops, other than the actualworkshops.
It was mostly sitting, mostlytraveling, that kind of thing.
And what I have come to learnis there are different types of
(10:05):
rest and sometimes the rest youneed is movement.
And as I moved my body I beganto feel better.
The restlessness went away,some clarity came to my mind,
some things that I was thinkingabout and wanted to jot down.
I had ideas that I needed toput down in my phone because I
(10:30):
moved my body.
So that's the first lesson thatI want to share with you that I
learned this weekend.
Sometimes the rest you need isto get up and move in.
Sometimes the rest you need isto get up and move, especially
if you are a person who has ajob that keeps you sitting at a
desk or sitting in a car orriding along.
(10:51):
You may need your body, may becrying out for movement, and
that movement may be the releasethat you need.
In order to feel rested, inorder to feel at peace, in order
to think clearly, you may needto move your body.
(11:11):
So, in one way, I was kind ofjudging myself Like you got a
full day to yourself and whatyou're going to do with this day
is clean out a cabinet anddonate things.
And here's what it did for me.
One, it gave me rest in movingmy body.
Two, it gave me rest in myenvironment.
(11:34):
It allowed me to clear theclutter.
Even though, if you walked intomy house, you could not see the
clutter.
I knew it was there.
I knew that if you open thosecabinets, I was not happy with
how things were going behindthose cabinet doors.
So this was not aboutimpressing any other person.
(11:57):
This was about the clutter thatI knew I had going on that
could not be seen on the surface, not that a preach.
The clutter that I knew I hadgoing on that could not be seen
on the surface.
I knew it was there and I couldnot rest knowing it was there
(12:18):
and knowing that I had notaddressed the hidden clutter.
So the physical part ofclimbing ladders and wrapping
things and lifting boxes andpulling wagons and all the
things, my body, my physicalbody, was able to just take a
deep breath.
But concerning my environment,knowing that there's clarity,
(12:44):
knowing that we're not holdingon to things that we no longer
need in that area of the houseNow there are a couple more
areas I'm going to hit friend,we're not done but knowing in
the kitchen the things that areleft are actually the things
that we use.
The things that are left areactually the things that we use.
What is left is actually thethings that we use and we have
(13:05):
more than enough room and I'mnot going to fill that empty
space.
I love seeing the empty space.
I love knowing that I can openup two or three cabinets and
there's empty space in thosecabinets because we have
released what we no longer need.
What are you holding on to thatyou no longer need?
(13:27):
What are you holding on to thatis no longer serving you?
What are you saving for one day?
Maybe One day.
Maybe I'll use this thing Oneday.
Maybe it will come in handy Oneday.
Maybe I'll be this thing Oneday.
Maybe it will come in handy Oneday.
Maybe I'll be glad I kept it.
When is that day coming and howis it serving you now?
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So, moving my body, clearing myenvironment, my environment and
my physical space those arelessons that I learned last week
in my day of rest and the lastlesson that I'll share with you,
that I learned in my see my airquotes day of rest.
(14:10):
It was a day of rest though mysee my air quotes day of rest.
It was a day of rest, thoughthe last thing that I learned
was the power of silence.
I realized that I struggle withsilence.
I'm very often having a podcastin my ear or some music playing
(14:33):
, or a YouTube video orsomething.
Constantly there's backgroundnoise to my life.
You know, if I'm doing busywork in my business something
that I don't have to necessarilyconcentrate on normally there's
something playing in thebackground.
If I'm driving normally,there's there's something
playing in the background.
If I'm driving normally there'smusic or something playing.
(14:55):
And what I realized is I'vegotten to the point lately that
I am consuming too muchintellectually, I am taking in
so much that it's difficult forme to hear myself.
Sometimes it's difficult for me, according to my faith, to hear
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God Because there's so manyvoices and so much noise.
So after I did that work andcleared the space and walked
Bella got some fresh air Idecided that I was going to sit
and listen to nothing.
I was going to sit and I wasnot going to add anything else
(15:46):
to my heart, to my head, that Iwas just going to sit with me.
I was just going to sit in thesilence and see what came up for
me.
And in that time of sittingwith me, I gained clarity on
next steps concerning somethingthat I was praying about,
(16:07):
thinking about.
I wasn't really sure whatdirection I needed to go in, but
through giving myself thatsilence I was able to make a
decision.
I was able to make a decision,and often when I hear people say
, well, I don't know what to do,it's very rare.
It's very rare that the personactually doesn't know what to do
(16:30):
.
They've just not been in aplace that they feel comfortable
.
Making a decision, and sittingwith myself in silence allowed
me to finally hear my ownthoughts, allowed me to finally
see pros and cons and allowed meto make a decision of the next
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step concerning that questionthat I've been holding in my
heart over a month.
When was the last time you satsilently with you?
When was the last time youcleared the noise to allow
yourself to hear your ownthoughts?
(17:12):
When was the last time youtrusted you as opposed to
trusting every other voice I'mtalking gurus, experts, coaches,
but even sometimes your bestfriend?
When was the last time youchecked in with your thoughts
first before asking anybody else?
There's a scripture and I knowthat folks listen to this
(17:46):
podcast who may not believe whatI believe.
Believe and I want you to knowthat.
I honor you and I'm glad you'rehere and I also appreciate you
um making space for me and allof me.
I appreciate that.
Thank you for honoring that.
I just want to share this inthis moment.
(18:07):
Um, um.
There's a.
There's a scripture that saysthe heart is deceitful, and a
lot of religious tradition, Ibelieve, have used that
scripture to teach us not totrust ourselves.
However, there's anotherscripture that talks about how,
(18:33):
accepting Jesus, I receive a newheart, how he takes out a heart
of stone and gives me a heartof flesh.
And if he has given me a newheart, then I believe I should
be able to trust that new heart,then I believe I should be able
(18:53):
to trust that new heart and Ishould be able to trust his
spirit in me that guides me.
So I have struggled over theyears of when to make a decision
, how to make a decision, notwanting to make the wrong
decision because I was convincedthat anything that came from my
own mind or my own heart had tobe wrong because the heart is
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deceitful.
But I think when we readscripture in context and
understand the entire context,not just of a chapter, of a
verse, but of the Bible, I thinkwe can get a broader idea of
what he's teaching us, and I'mlearning that most of the time
when I'm struggling withsomething, the answer has been
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right in front of me all along.
I just didn't trust me, I didn'ttrust it, I didn't trust what I
knew, I didn't trust what Ifelt, I didn't trust what I
believed to be the next step.
So in this silence, in thissilence, I learned and I thought
everything was on do notdisturb.
(20:01):
And here's text messages comingthrough.
I don't know if y'all heardthat, but anyway, this is real
life.
Friends, we're going to wrap upthis episode, but in my
Saturday of rest, here's thewrap up.
In my Saturday of rest, Ilearned that sometimes rest is
moving your body.
Sometimes you need to get upand move.
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Sometimes your body needs torelease the tension from the
positions that it's had to hold.
Number two sometimes you needto clear the clutter.
That may be emotional clutterfor you, that may be physical
clutter for you, but clearingyour environment will help you
gain clarity and be able tothink more clearly.
(20:45):
And number three we've got tolearn how to sit with ourselves
and sit in silence and trust.
Trust what's in us, trust thatwe know more than we think we
know, and we need to be able tomake a decision and move forward
based on what we already know.
(21:05):
So I'm going to leave it at that.
I hope, as always, that you gotsomething you can use from my
lessons.
Friend, I know that we were ina series, but I just wanted to
pop in and share that lessonwith you all this week.
Just as I learn, I want toshare, so if it helps you, share
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with somebody else.
Listen, friend, as always.
You know you are powerful, youare significant and you are
loved.
Love always, pj, bye.
All right, friend, it's story time.
I've got to tell you about alesson that I learned, or let's
just say relearned, this weekend.
Y'all know I don't mind tellingon myself, so here goes, let's
talk about it.
So this is what happened,friend, if you follow on social
(00:48):
media LinkedIn, instagram,whatever you do, whatever your
social media choice is you mayhave noticed that I've been on
the road for a couple weeks.
A couple weeks ago I was inTopsom Topsom, maine.
Goodness, All right, my friendsfrom Maine, if I said that
(01:10):
wrong, y'all help me out, help asister out, I think I said it
right In the Brunswick area ofMaine and I was able to see the
coast, which was absolutelygorgeous.
And last week I traveled to seesome friends, to share with
some friends, to speak, to do aworkshop in Dayton, ohio, at a
(01:32):
beautiful, beautiful location.
So I've been on the road twoweeks back to back.
This past weekend I said okay,I'll be at home.
Weekend I said okay, I'll be athome, edward will be at home,
we'll spend some time together.
Because I knew on Monday I wastraveling again, just a
turnaround trip, but I knew Iwould be going all day.
(01:53):
So for the weekend, in my mindit was whatever he wanted to do,
that's what we were going to do, well, on Friday night.
So I got back from Ohio onFriday morning, friday night,
edward got an invitation from afriend to do something different
, which is fine, which was great.
(02:14):
I was really excited for himbecause it was something he
wanted to do, and then I thought, oh, this is awesome.
Right, like, don't get me wrong, I love hanging out with my
husband.
He is my best friend, we enjoyeach other and I am truly an
introvert.
(02:34):
So that means, after two weeksof sharing and peopling and
meeting new people and havingconversations and flying and
driving and all the things I wasnot mad at having a Saturday to
myself.
Again, I love my husband, Ilove spending time with him, and
(02:55):
some time alone was veryexciting.
So we kind of pivoted, got somethings together that he needed
for his day and I had all thesethoughts in my head Gosh, I
could go get a massage, I coulddo this, I could do that, like
all I do.
I was just thinking what am Igoing to do with my day?
(03:16):
What am I going to do with myday to myself?
So got up Saturday morningwhile Edward was getting dressed
.
I got some chores done in thehouse.
Y'all know what Saturdaymorning is Get up, turn on your
music, whatever your musicalchoice is, and get your house
clean, right.
So I got up early because Iwanted to get that out of the
(03:37):
way, um, so that by the time hegot going I was done and I could
just do whatever I wanted.
So I got my stuff done thatmorning.
He got out of the house andwent on his way and I said whew,
let me sit down for a fewminutes.
Let me just sit down here andrest for a minute, because I was
(03:59):
working, working.
I was working.
So I said let me have a seatand then I'll figure out what I
want to do.
And I found myself scrolling,scrolling on the news and
scrolling Instagram, justscrolling.
I listened to a couple ofYouTube videos and before I knew
it, a couple hours had passedand I'm thinking what in the
(04:22):
world am I doing with my day?
I am scrolling my rest away.
Have you ever scrolled yourrest away?
Not just social media.
Maybe it's not Instagram orLinkedIn for you, maybe it's
(04:42):
another podcast or anotherYouTube video, or even another
article, or another book oranother work assignment or one
more email to answer.
Have you ever found yourselfGiving away your rest time to
things that really don't matter?
It happened so quickly.
(05:05):
It happened so quickly.
One moment.
I was just sitting down for amoment to rest and the next
thing I know it's a couple hourslater and I had not moved from
that spot.
My phone was in my hand.
That spot, my phone was in myhand, and I realized my day, my
day of rest, my day of whateverI wanted it to be, was getting
(05:27):
away from me and I thought, man,you got to know better than
this.
How did you allow this tohappen?
But I'm here to tell you.
It is so easy, it is so easy tofind yourself scrolling your
rest away.
So I decided in that moment okay, that's enough, I'm not doing
(05:48):
this.
I'm not wasting my day justscrolling on whatever, just
looking at another thing,filling my mind with another
thing, listening to anotherthing.
I decided I'm going to actuallyrest, maybe take a nap.
I went outside, got some freshair, walked the dog, that kind
of thing.
I said you know what, I mightjust take a nap.
(06:08):
So I came back in the house andsat down, but I couldn't get
comfortable.
I was a little restless.
I wasn't comfortable justsitting.
I was a little restless.
I wasn't comfortable justsitting, I was a little antsy.
There are days that I would sayis this am I anxious, like
what's going on?
But I don't think it was ananxiety.
(06:29):
What I decided to do was Idecided to get up.
Now, y'all, hang in there withme, don't judge me.
We're friends, right, we'refriends, don't judge me.
I decided to get up and cleanout my kitchen cabinets.
Now, this is something that'sbeen on the to-do list for a
(06:49):
while.
I travel and I speak mostly tocolleges and universities.
So when I tell you I havet-shirts, I have blankets, I
have coffee cups, I have watercups, y'all know.
Y'all know what it is right andI love it.
I love them.
And my cabinets were so full Icould no longer fit another
(07:09):
coffee mug in my cabinets.
It like no room in the end,right?
So it was on my list Like I gotto clean out these cabinets, I
gotta do it.
And I put it off for a coupleweekends, gotta do it, gotta do
it.
So in this moment, I'm likenow's the time, Now's the time
I'm going to get up and do it,and part of me was judging
(07:31):
myself like girl, like this isyour opportunity to do whatever
you want to do and you're goingto clean out the kitchen
cabinets.
But let me tell y'all whathappened.
What I found was as I got upand started moving around and
got up on a ladder and got tothe highest cabinets and pulled
things out, and then I got a boxand started stacking and
(07:53):
wrapping them and once I finallygot it all cleared out and done
, I reset the cups, the cabinetsand everything that we're
keeping.
And then I took boxes becausewe also I cleaned off our
bookshelf a couple of weeks ago.
Y'all, when I tell you therewere stacks of books around my
house because they couldn't fiton the bookshelf I know I know
(08:15):
y'all promise not to judge me,Okay.
So I cleaned off the bookshelfa couple of weeks ago, so I
already had boxes of books readyto go to be donated.
Now I have the stuff from mykitchen cabinets ready to go be
donated cake plates and mugs andwater cups and all the things.
(08:38):
So then I decided, oh well, wejust going to go ahead and get
this out the house, like I'm notgoing to keep all of this in
the house.
So I put all of those boxes inour little beach wagon I love
that wagon, listen, that wagondoes work around here Took them
to the car, unloaded the boxesinto my car, went to the
donation place, donated all thestuff, got back home.
(09:00):
Then Bella needed a walk.
So I walked Bella again andwhen I got back in the house you
know I have I had broken asweat Like it was a workout.
My watch was saying go girl, doyour thing.
And I realized I felt better.
I felt better after moving mybody and doing something
(09:22):
physical, and what I realized inthat moment was the kind of
rest that my body needed was nota nap, I needed physical rest.
Meaning for the last two weeksI was either sitting at my desk
or flying on an airplane, ordriving in a car or you know,
(09:43):
speaking like my body had beenin certain positions for
extended periods of time, mostlysitting, other than the actual
workshops, other than the actualworkshops.
It was mostly sitting, mostlytraveling, that kind of thing.
And what I have come to learnis there are different types of
(10:05):
rest and sometimes the rest youneed is movement.
And as I moved my body I beganto feel better.
The restlessness went away,some clarity came to my mind,
some things that I was thinkingabout and wanted to jot down.
I had ideas that I needed toput down in my phone because I
(10:30):
moved my body.
So that's the first lesson thatI want to share with you that I
learned this weekend.
Sometimes the rest you need isto get up and move in.
Sometimes the rest you need isto get up and move, especially
if you are a person who has ajob that keeps you sitting at a
desk or sitting in a car orriding along.
(10:51):
You may need your body, may becrying out for movement, and
that movement may be the releasethat you need.
In order to feel rested, inorder to feel at peace, in order
to think clearly, you may needto move your body.
(11:11):
So, in one way, I was kind ofjudging myself Like you got a
full day to yourself and whatyou're going to do with this day
is clean out a cabinet anddonate things.
And here's what it did for me.
One, it gave me rest in movingmy body.
Two, it gave me rest in myenvironment.
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It allowed me to clear theclutter.
Even though, if you walked intomy house, you could not see the
clutter.
I knew it was there.
I knew that if you open thosecabinets, I was not happy with
how things were going behindthose cabinet doors.
So this was not aboutimpressing any other person.
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This was about the clutter thatI knew I had going on that
could not be seen on the surface, not that a preach.
The clutter that I knew I hadgoing on that could not be seen
on the surface.
I knew it was there and I couldnot rest knowing it was there
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and knowing that I had notaddressed the hidden clutter.
So the physical part ofclimbing ladders and wrapping
things and lifting boxes andpulling wagons and all the
things, my body, my physicalbody, was able to just take a
deep breath.
But concerning my environment,knowing that there's clarity,
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knowing that we're not holdingon to things that we no longer
need in that area of the houseNow there are a couple more
areas I'm going to hit friend,we're not done but knowing in
the kitchen the things that areleft are actually the things
that we use.
The things that are left areactually the things that we use.
What is left is actually thethings that we use and we have
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more than enough room and I'mnot going to fill that empty
space.
I love seeing the empty space.
I love knowing that I can openup two or three cabinets and
there's empty space in thosecabinets because we have
released what we no longer need.
What are you holding on to thatyou no longer need?
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What are you holding on to thatis no longer serving you?
What are you saving for one day?
Maybe One day.
Maybe I'll use this thing Oneday.
Maybe it will come in handy Oneday.
Maybe I'll be this thing Oneday.
Maybe it will come in handy Oneday.
Maybe I'll be glad I kept it.
When is that day coming and howis it serving you now?
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So, moving my body, clearing myenvironment, my environment and
my physical space those arelessons that I learned last week
in my day of rest and the lastlesson that I'll share with you,
that I learned in my see my airquotes day of rest.
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It was a day of rest though mysee my air quotes day of rest.
It was a day of rest, thoughthe last thing that I learned
was the power of silence.
I realized that I struggle withsilence.
I'm very often having a podcastin my ear or some music playing
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, or a YouTube video orsomething.
Constantly there's backgroundnoise to my life.
You know, if I'm doing busywork in my business something
that I don't have to necessarilyconcentrate on normally there's
something playing in thebackground.
If I'm driving normally,there's there's something
playing in the background.
If I'm driving normally there'smusic or something playing.
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And what I realized is I'vegotten to the point lately that
I am consuming too muchintellectually, I am taking in
so much that it's difficult forme to hear myself.
Sometimes it's difficult for me, according to my faith, to hear
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God Because there's so manyvoices and so much noise.
So after I did that work andcleared the space and walked
Bella got some fresh air Idecided that I was going to sit
and listen to nothing.
I was going to sit and I wasnot going to add anything else
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to my heart, to my head, that Iwas just going to sit with me.
I was just going to sit in thesilence and see what came up for
me.
And in that time of sittingwith me, I gained clarity on
next steps concerning somethingthat I was praying about,
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thinking about.
I wasn't really sure whatdirection I needed to go in, but
through giving myself thatsilence I was able to make a
decision.
I was able to make a decision,and often when I hear people say
, well, I don't know what to do,it's very rare.
It's very rare that the personactually doesn't know what to do
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.
They've just not been in aplace that they feel comfortable
.
Making a decision, and sittingwith myself in silence allowed
me to finally hear my ownthoughts, allowed me to finally
see pros and cons and allowed meto make a decision of the next
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step concerning that questionthat I've been holding in my
heart over a month.
When was the last time you satsilently with you?
When was the last time youcleared the noise to allow
yourself to hear your ownthoughts?
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When was the last time youtrusted you as opposed to
trusting every other voice I'mtalking gurus, experts, coaches,
but even sometimes your bestfriend?
When was the last time youchecked in with your thoughts
first before asking anybody else?
There's a scripture and I knowthat folks listen to this
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podcast who may not believe whatI believe.
Believe and I want you to knowthat.
I honor you and I'm glad you'rehere and I also appreciate you
um making space for me and allof me.
I appreciate that.
Thank you for honoring that.
I just want to share this inthis moment.
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Um, um.
There's a.
There's a scripture that saysthe heart is deceitful, and a
lot of religious tradition, Ibelieve, have used that
scripture to teach us not totrust ourselves.
However, there's anotherscripture that talks about how,
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accepting Jesus, I receive a newheart, how he takes out a heart
of stone and gives me a heartof flesh.
And if he has given me a newheart, then I believe I should
be able to trust that new heart,then I believe I should be able
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to trust that new heart and Ishould be able to trust his
spirit in me that guides me.
So I have struggled over theyears of when to make a decision
, how to make a decision, notwanting to make the wrong
decision because I was convincedthat anything that came from my
own mind or my own heart had tobe wrong because the heart is
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deceitful.
But I think when we readscripture in context and
understand the entire context,not just of a chapter, of a
verse, but of the Bible, I thinkwe can get a broader idea of
what he's teaching us, and I'mlearning that most of the time
when I'm struggling withsomething, the answer has been
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right in front of me all along.
I just didn't trust me, I didn'ttrust it, I didn't trust what I
knew, I didn't trust what Ifelt, I didn't trust what I
believed to be the next step.
So in this silence, in thissilence, I learned and I thought
everything was on do notdisturb.
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And here's text messages comingthrough.
I don't know if y'all heardthat, but anyway, this is real
life.
Friends, we're going to wrap upthis episode, but in my
Saturday of rest, here's thewrap up.
In my Saturday of rest, Ilearned that sometimes rest is
moving your body.
Sometimes you need to get upand move.
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Sometimes your body needs torelease the tension from the
positions that it's had to hold.
Number two sometimes you needto clear the clutter.
That may be emotional clutterfor you, that may be physical
clutter for you, but clearingyour environment will help you
gain clarity and be able tothink more clearly.
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And number three we've got tolearn how to sit with ourselves
and sit in silence and trust.
Trust what's in us, trust thatwe know more than we think we
know, and we need to be able tomake a decision and move forward
based on what we already know.
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So I'm going to leave it at that.
I hope, as always, that you gotsomething you can use from my
lessons.
Friend, I know that we were ina series, but I just wanted to
pop in and share that lessonwith you all this week.
Just as I learn, I want toshare, so if it helps you, share
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with somebody else.
Listen, friend, as always.
You know you are powerful, youare significant and you are
loved.
Love always, pj, bye.
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