October 9, 2024 • 14 mins
Hey Friend,
Ever found yourself with a full calendar, caught between the exhilaration of passionate work and the challenge of maintaining your inner equilibrium? This week, I, Dr. Patrice Buckner Jackson, dive into that very experience, sharing personal anecdotes, including a heartwarming reunion with a former student that reminded me of the joy found in genuine connections.
In this episode titled "Protecting Your Brilliance: Balancing Passion and Self-Care," I explore not just the dynamic of pouring through passion, but also the critical importance of safeguarding your unique brilliance. It's vital to ensure it stays vibrant, even under the pressures of a hectic schedule. We'll discuss how separating passion from identity is essential for maintaining balance and avoiding burnout, especially for introverts who require quiet emotional and social rejuvenation.
Join me as I reveal strategies for integrating self-care into your life as a non-negotiable element of sustaining your brilliance. Reflect on the power of surrounding yourself with a supportive community to help fill your own cup and continue sharing your gifts without depleting your reserves. Through intentional choices, like choosing rest over social obligations, we'll uncover how to protect our inherent power and significance.
Let’s embark on this journey of self-reflection together and rediscover the love and support that truly surround us. Remember, our brilliance isn’t just a byproduct of our passions—it’s a core part of who we are.
Love Always,
PBJ
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Speaker 1 (00:01):
Hey friend, I got a question for you what are you
doing to protect your brilliance?
Doing the hard work is not justabout getting out of burning
out or out of the cycles ofburnout, but it's also about
staying out of burnout.
Come on, friend, let's talkabout it.
Welcome back, friend.
(00:48):
I am Dr Patrice Buckner-Jackson, but you can call me PBJ.
Welcome to another episode ofDisrupting Burnout, where we are
giving you the strategies forpouring out purpose without
living through the consequencesof burnout.
And I'm here just to share aquick little, shorty episode,
friend, we are no longer in ourdisplaced place, we are back in
(01:15):
our home, we have power, we havewater so thankful I know so
many people are still dealingwith the effects of Hurricane
Helene and, as we are watching,the threat of Hurricane Milton.
So all the things are happening.
But we are safe, we are good.
But I am coming to you on theroad.
(01:39):
I am on the road all week thisweek and honestly, I'm grateful.
I'm grateful for this littlepiece of normal.
I'm grateful to be able tocontinue my work and my purpose
and my brilliance and all thethings.
But I had a thought that Iwanted to share with you, just
(02:01):
to make sure that you areprotecting your brilliance.
How are you protecting yourbrilliance?
So, this particular week, I hada keynote yesterday, I have a
keynote and a fireside chattomorrow, and then I have
(02:23):
another keynote on Thursday, andon Friday I have my final
keynote of the week in adifferent location.
So it's unusual for me to havethis many deliveries in one week
, but I have one, two, three,four, five, five workshops,
(02:46):
slash keynotes, slash deliveriesthis week, and I'm so excited
about it.
I've been leaning forward,looking forward to this week
ever since I knew what it wasgoing to be, because this is
just where I thrive.
This is the work that fuels myheart and I absolutely love it.
(03:06):
I love even the travel.
I love interacting with newfolks.
Yesterday, I had the opportunityto be in a room where a person
identified themselves as one ofmy past students when I served
as dean of students.
So I went and I gave my speechon disrupting burnout and during
(03:26):
the Q&A session, this personstood and said you were my Dean
in 2013.
And, the cherry on top, y'allthis person came up to me
afterwards and showed me apicture of us back in 2013.
So when I was Dean of Students,I did this thing called Talk
(03:47):
with the Dean and I would set upall over campus just different
spots where students were justto be accessible to them, to say
hello to them, to get to knowthem.
And this particular day I wasriding our transit system on
campus.
So I was riding the buses, justriding from one stop to the
next, talking to students, and Imet this particular student on
(04:11):
one of our buses, took a picturewith them and yesterday we got
the opportunity over 10 yearslater, we got the opportunity to
recreate that picture.
So y'all work is just it'samazing.
It's amazing that I get to dothis and I am fully aware and
(04:33):
have learned that I have to workhard to protect my brilliance.
So if you've heard me teachabout brilliance, you understand
that speaking is notspecifically my brilliance,
that's a passion.
That is how I express mybrilliance in the world.
Right, it's one of the waysthat I express my brilliance in
(04:54):
the world.
I love speaking.
I absolutely love doing it.
People respond well when Ispeak, but if I were, for any
reason, not able to speakanymore, although it would be
painful, I would not strugglewith my identity because I know
my brilliance is intact even ifa passion changes and I
(05:20):
recognize that, as I am assignedto pour out so much brilliance
this week, I have to be veryintentional about protecting
that brilliance.
So, for example, after mykeynote yesterday, the kind
folks that invited me here andthe folks that I've been working
with this week there was asocial event in the evening that
(05:47):
many or several of the folkswere attending to spend some
time together, kind of as aclosure of the conference, and
they invited me and said hey,you're welcome to come, and I
appreciate that so much and Iknow how much pouring I'm going
(06:08):
to do this week.
I know that Not only do I haveto speak, not only do I have to
prepare my slides and all thethings, but when I speak it's
not just the speaking, it is thepouring out, the vulnerability,
the listening, the receiving ofothers' stories and experiences
(06:31):
and continuing to encouragethem and pour into them Even
after the speech is over.
I know what this week is goingto cost me and I am 100%, fully,
all in head first, ready for it, and I know I need to be very
(06:52):
wise and very careful withmyself to make sure that I have
what I need in order to pour outthis week.
So, although I appreciated theinvitation, I did not take them
up on that invitation.
Not that I did not want tospend time with them, not that I
(07:14):
did not appreciate them, but Iknow what the rest of the week
is going to cost me.
So this week it is importantfor me to not just physically
rest, but emotionally rest, restsocially.
Being an introvert, a personwho gathers my energy from being
(07:35):
alone, I know that being in asocial space cost me.
So I have to make decisionsthis week to protect my
brilliance.
Another thing that I did or amdeciding this week is today is
(07:56):
sort of my transition day, so Ihad no speaking today.
Today's the only day of thisweek that I have no speaking.
And you know, sometimes whenI'm in a new place, especially
if I'm going to be there a fewdays, I like a day to get to
know the town, to get out alittle bit.
But today I decided I'm goingto be in today.
(08:18):
I have walked down the hall,I've gone downstairs just to get
some fresh air, to move my body, but I am not leaving this
hotel today because I know thatthis is my replenished day.
I know that this is the timeand space that I have this week
to myself.
So I'm going to give myselfthat gift of solitude today.
(08:43):
I also thought about so manyfolks that I owe a phone call or
could call and check on orhaven't spoken to in a long time
.
I got a list, y'all.
I got a list of people that Ineed to catch up with and I
thought, well, gosh, this wouldbe a good day to catch up with
some people.
But again, I know what thatcosts me and I know what the
(09:04):
rest of my week looks like.
My people may not know, andthey don't know my folks who
invited me to the social lastnight.
They don't know my people in myfamily, my friend group.
They don't know right.
They don't know what I'm beingcalled to this week.
So I, as the person who knows Iam responsible for protecting
(09:30):
my own brilliance this week.
I am responsible for makingsure that I can serve every
person and every group and everyevent.
I want to give the same amountof energy that I gave yesterday.
I want to be able to give thaton Friday to those folks that
(09:51):
I'm going to be speaking to.
I want to be able to give it onWednesday and on Thursday and
on Friday.
So in order to do that, I haveto take steps to protect my
brilliance.
Friend.
How are you protecting yourbrilliance?
What are you doing to ensurethat you can continue to do the
(10:15):
work that you've been called todo?
What are you doing to ensurethat your cup is full, so that
you are sharing from youroverflow and not from your
deficit?
What are you doing to protectyour heart, your mind, your will
, your emotions, your body?
(10:35):
What are you doing to ensurethat the pace of your life is at
the pace of grace and that youare not running so fast and so
hard that you're going to findyourself spent in a moment, in
an opportunity where you shouldbe full and giving.
(10:57):
Moment and an opportunity whereyou should be full and giving.
It is our responsibility toprotect our brilliance.
You are your first advocate.
No one else is responsible forknowing what you need before you
, not even a spouse or a partneror a family member.
Nobody else should know beforeyou and nobody else should take
(11:19):
the initiative to take care ofyou before you.
I know I get it.
I know I grew up with thisconditioning and this idea that
you serve and you give until yougive out.
And what I've experienced andwhat I've witnessed over and
(11:40):
over and over, is that givingout serves no one, that giving
out doesn't honor God, itdoesn't honor your people, it
doesn't honor you, that givingout is not the place that we
want to be.
And in order to do that, youmust protect your brilliance.
(12:07):
Yes, it is important, in orderto disrupt the cycle of burnout,
to know your brilliance anddiscover your brilliance.
And once you've discovered yourbrilliance, you got to take care
of it.
Friend, you got to know whatyou need.
So some of that may be you mayneed some quiet time.
(12:28):
You may need some solitude.
You may need a physicaltherapist to help you stretch,
or a chiropractor or a massagetherapist.
You may need to move your body.
You may need a coach, a mentor,a counselor, a pastor, someone
to disciple you.
What do you need in order toshow up fully in your brilliance
(12:56):
, sustainably?
Pause and ask yourself somequestions.
Pause and consider how you fillyour cup and what works for you
, and then take action tosurround yourself with the care
community that you need so thatyou can continue to pour out the
(13:18):
brilliance that you werecreated to give.
It's time for you to protectyour brilliance friend.
And with that, I am going toclose this episode and go
continue protecting mybrilliance.
I thought about not even doingan episode this week.
I thought about not even doingan episode this week.
(13:38):
However, this came to my mindand you all know that as I learn
and as God gives me revelation,I'd love to come and share it
with you all.
So here we are Protect yourbrilliance friend.
All right, until next time.
You know, as always, you arepowerful, you are significant
(14:01):
and you are brilliant and youare loved.
Love always, pbj, thank you.
Hey friend, I got a question for you what are you
doing to protect your brilliance?
Doing the hard work is not justabout getting out of burning
out or out of the cycles ofburnout, but it's also about
staying out of burnout.
Come on, friend, let's talkabout it.
Welcome back, friend.
(00:48):
I am Dr Patrice Buckner-Jackson, but you can call me PBJ.
Welcome to another episode ofDisrupting Burnout, where we are
giving you the strategies forpouring out purpose without
living through the consequencesof burnout.
And I'm here just to share aquick little, shorty episode,
friend, we are no longer in ourdisplaced place, we are back in
(01:15):
our home, we have power, we havewater so thankful I know so
many people are still dealingwith the effects of Hurricane
Helene and, as we are watching,the threat of Hurricane Milton.
So all the things are happening.
But we are safe, we are good.
But I am coming to you on theroad.
(01:39):
I am on the road all week thisweek and honestly, I'm grateful.
I'm grateful for this littlepiece of normal.
I'm grateful to be able tocontinue my work and my purpose
and my brilliance and all thethings.
But I had a thought that Iwanted to share with you, just
(02:01):
to make sure that you areprotecting your brilliance.
How are you protecting yourbrilliance?
So, this particular week, I hada keynote yesterday, I have a
keynote and a fireside chattomorrow, and then I have
(02:23):
another keynote on Thursday, andon Friday I have my final
keynote of the week in adifferent location.
So it's unusual for me to havethis many deliveries in one week
, but I have one, two, three,four, five, five workshops,
(02:46):
slash keynotes, slash deliveriesthis week, and I'm so excited
about it.
I've been leaning forward,looking forward to this week
ever since I knew what it wasgoing to be, because this is
just where I thrive.
This is the work that fuels myheart and I absolutely love it.
(03:06):
I love even the travel.
I love interacting with newfolks.
Yesterday, I had the opportunityto be in a room where a person
identified themselves as one ofmy past students when I served
as dean of students.
So I went and I gave my speechon disrupting burnout and during
(03:26):
the Q&A session, this personstood and said you were my Dean
in 2013.
And, the cherry on top, y'allthis person came up to me
afterwards and showed me apicture of us back in 2013.
So when I was Dean of Students,I did this thing called Talk
(03:47):
with the Dean and I would set upall over campus just different
spots where students were justto be accessible to them, to say
hello to them, to get to knowthem.
And this particular day I wasriding our transit system on
campus.
So I was riding the buses, justriding from one stop to the
next, talking to students, and Imet this particular student on
(04:11):
one of our buses, took a picturewith them and yesterday we got
the opportunity over 10 yearslater, we got the opportunity to
recreate that picture.
So y'all work is just it'samazing.
It's amazing that I get to dothis and I am fully aware and
(04:33):
have learned that I have to workhard to protect my brilliance.
So if you've heard me teachabout brilliance, you understand
that speaking is notspecifically my brilliance,
that's a passion.
That is how I express mybrilliance in the world.
Right, it's one of the waysthat I express my brilliance in
(04:54):
the world.
I love speaking.
I absolutely love doing it.
People respond well when Ispeak, but if I were, for any
reason, not able to speakanymore, although it would be
painful, I would not strugglewith my identity because I know
my brilliance is intact even ifa passion changes and I
(05:20):
recognize that, as I am assignedto pour out so much brilliance
this week, I have to be veryintentional about protecting
that brilliance.
So, for example, after mykeynote yesterday, the kind
folks that invited me here andthe folks that I've been working
with this week there was asocial event in the evening that
(05:47):
many or several of the folkswere attending to spend some
time together, kind of as aclosure of the conference, and
they invited me and said hey,you're welcome to come, and I
appreciate that so much and Iknow how much pouring I'm going
(06:08):
to do this week.
I know that Not only do I haveto speak, not only do I have to
prepare my slides and all thethings, but when I speak it's
not just the speaking, it is thepouring out, the vulnerability,
the listening, the receiving ofothers' stories and experiences
(06:31):
and continuing to encouragethem and pour into them Even
after the speech is over.
I know what this week is goingto cost me and I am 100%, fully,
all in head first, ready for it, and I know I need to be very
(06:52):
wise and very careful withmyself to make sure that I have
what I need in order to pour outthis week.
So, although I appreciated theinvitation, I did not take them
up on that invitation.
Not that I did not want tospend time with them, not that I
(07:14):
did not appreciate them, but Iknow what the rest of the week
is going to cost me.
So this week it is importantfor me to not just physically
rest, but emotionally rest, restsocially.
Being an introvert, a personwho gathers my energy from being
(07:35):
alone, I know that being in asocial space cost me.
So I have to make decisionsthis week to protect my
brilliance.
Another thing that I did or amdeciding this week is today is
(07:56):
sort of my transition day, so Ihad no speaking today.
Today's the only day of thisweek that I have no speaking.
And you know, sometimes whenI'm in a new place, especially
if I'm going to be there a fewdays, I like a day to get to
know the town, to get out alittle bit.
But today I decided I'm goingto be in today.
(08:18):
I have walked down the hall,I've gone downstairs just to get
some fresh air, to move my body, but I am not leaving this
hotel today because I know thatthis is my replenished day.
I know that this is the timeand space that I have this week
to myself.
So I'm going to give myselfthat gift of solitude today.
(08:43):
I also thought about so manyfolks that I owe a phone call or
could call and check on orhaven't spoken to in a long time
.
I got a list, y'all.
I got a list of people that Ineed to catch up with and I
thought, well, gosh, this wouldbe a good day to catch up with
some people.
But again, I know what thatcosts me and I know what the
(09:04):
rest of my week looks like.
My people may not know, andthey don't know my folks who
invited me to the social lastnight.
They don't know my people in myfamily, my friend group.
They don't know right.
They don't know what I'm beingcalled to this week.
So I, as the person who knows Iam responsible for protecting
(09:30):
my own brilliance this week.
I am responsible for makingsure that I can serve every
person and every group and everyevent.
I want to give the same amountof energy that I gave yesterday.
I want to be able to give thaton Friday to those folks that
(09:51):
I'm going to be speaking to.
I want to be able to give it onWednesday and on Thursday and
on Friday.
So in order to do that, I haveto take steps to protect my
brilliance.
Friend.
How are you protecting yourbrilliance?
What are you doing to ensurethat you can continue to do the
(10:15):
work that you've been called todo?
What are you doing to ensurethat your cup is full, so that
you are sharing from youroverflow and not from your
deficit?
What are you doing to protectyour heart, your mind, your will
, your emotions, your body?
(10:35):
What are you doing to ensurethat the pace of your life is at
the pace of grace and that youare not running so fast and so
hard that you're going to findyourself spent in a moment, in
an opportunity where you shouldbe full and giving.
(10:57):
Moment and an opportunity whereyou should be full and giving.
It is our responsibility toprotect our brilliance.
You are your first advocate.
No one else is responsible forknowing what you need before you
, not even a spouse or a partneror a family member.
Nobody else should know beforeyou and nobody else should take
(11:19):
the initiative to take care ofyou before you.
I know I get it.
I know I grew up with thisconditioning and this idea that
you serve and you give until yougive out.
And what I've experienced andwhat I've witnessed over and
(11:40):
over and over, is that givingout serves no one, that giving
out doesn't honor God, itdoesn't honor your people, it
doesn't honor you, that givingout is not the place that we
want to be.
And in order to do that, youmust protect your brilliance.
(12:07):
Yes, it is important, in orderto disrupt the cycle of burnout,
to know your brilliance anddiscover your brilliance.
And once you've discovered yourbrilliance, you got to take care
of it.
Friend, you got to know whatyou need.
So some of that may be you mayneed some quiet time.
(12:28):
You may need some solitude.
You may need a physicaltherapist to help you stretch,
or a chiropractor or a massagetherapist.
You may need to move your body.
You may need a coach, a mentor,a counselor, a pastor, someone
to disciple you.
What do you need in order toshow up fully in your brilliance
(12:56):
, sustainably?
Pause and ask yourself somequestions.
Pause and consider how you fillyour cup and what works for you
, and then take action tosurround yourself with the care
community that you need so thatyou can continue to pour out the
(13:18):
brilliance that you werecreated to give.
It's time for you to protectyour brilliance friend.
And with that, I am going toclose this episode and go
continue protecting mybrilliance.
I thought about not even doingan episode this week.
I thought about not even doingan episode this week.
(13:38):
However, this came to my mindand you all know that as I learn
and as God gives me revelation,I'd love to come and share it
with you all.
So here we are Protect yourbrilliance friend.
All right, until next time.
You know, as always, you arepowerful, you are significant
(14:01):
and you are brilliant and youare loved.
Love always, pbj, thank you.
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