February 12, 2025 • 22 mins
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Ever found yourself stuck in an endless loop of tasks, yearning for a moment to breathe? Join me, Dr. Patrice Buckner-Jackson, affectionately known as PBJ, on the Disrupting Burnout podcast as we unlock the secret to breaking free through a transformative "rhythm reset." Discover how an intentional pause, distinct from a typical vacation, can help recalibrate your life’s pace and combat burnout. I'll share personal insights from my sabbatical journey, where I initially faced the anxiety of doing nothing, and how tools like the Dwell app can bring spiritual peace, reflection, and a sustainable life rhythm.
The conversation continues with a deep dive into the liberating power of self-care and decluttering. Imagine clearing not just your physical spaces but also your mental clutter, leading to clarity and emotional refreshment. Inspired by Mel Robbins, I reflect on my past year through my photo library, finding gratitude and setting intentional goals for a more balanced life. From managing foot care routines to finding joy in fresh flowers and strengthening connections with loved ones, this episode is your invitation to disrupt burnout and embrace a life filled with purpose and balance. If you're ready to reset your rhythm and find fulfillment in life's simple pleasures, this journey is for you.
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
What do you want to start, what do you want to stop
and what do you want to continue?
And this really set the pacefor me to start this year
intentionally.
Hey friend, welcome back to theDisrupting Burnout podcast,
(00:21):
where we are giving you thestrategies for pouring out
purpose without continuing tolive in the consequences of
burnout.
Listen, if you are new here,I'm Dr Patrice Buckner-Jackson,
but you can call me PBJ, andit's my honor to serve you.
Friend, we're getting rightinto it because last week I
(00:41):
introduced to you this idea of arhythm reset.
One of the reasons why you findyourself overwhelmed, you find
yourself under burnout, isbecause the rhythm of your life
is so overwhelming and soanxious and so fast paced.
You're going from one thing toanother and you can barely keep
(01:03):
your mind still where you arebecause you're already 10 paces
ahead.
Right, so you're trying to doone thing, but you're thinking
about the next 15 things thathave to be done.
Friend, that constant barrageof demands and overwhelm and
that thought stream is going todrive you to the depths of
(01:25):
burnout.
So, in order to mitigate,interrupt that process, I'm
encouraging you to have a rhythmreset Now.
If you are not sure what I meanby rhythm reset.
Go back to last week's episodeand make sure you listen to
watch that one so you can catchup.
(01:46):
But in this episode I want totalk you through what I did
during and after my stop.
So I shared with you last weekthat the first thing I had to do
in order to reset my rhythm isstop.
I had to pause because Icouldn't even think clearly on
(02:06):
what the next step should be.
So it was time for a real stop,a real reset.
And y'all, let me say this I'mnot talking vacation, all right,
this was not a let me go checkout this place and that place
and do this thing and that thing.
I don't know about you, butsometimes I've come back from
vacation exhausted.
This was not vacation.
(02:27):
This was intentional pause,stop, reset.
So here's some of the things.
And I got my phone y'allbecause I wanted to not forget
some of these things.
And y'all, when I was walkingthrough this, I didn't have a
name for it, I didn't know itwas a rhythm reset.
It was weeks in before Irealized oh wow, I am setting
(02:53):
the normal rhythm for my life,I'm resetting my baseline.
It was weeks before I realized.
This will actually help medetermine when I'm getting off
off track and what to come backto.
So I wasn't doing this with theidea of this is the method I
need to take.
But afterwards and towards theend, or doing this, I knew I
(03:18):
needed to share it with you all,so I got my notes today, the
first thing I want to encourageyou to do.
Last week, I told you how tostop.
I want to encourage you to stopand feel.
Let me tell you what I mean.
For me, nothingness was not good.
When I first went away for mysabbatical rest, I thought that
(03:45):
sitting and doing nothing waswhat I needed.
But what I found is thenothingness made space for
anxious thoughts and overwhelmand considering why am I doing
this?
Is everybody OK?
Are they going to be mad, right?
Are they going to be mad, right?
So I and this is just me Maybeyou have, maybe you have
(04:09):
conquered mindfulness and you'reable to sit and do nothing and
think nothing.
But that's, that's not where Iam.
So what I found is I had tostop, but I also had to feel.
So here's some things that Iadded PBJ, I can't stop.
I don't have time to stop.
If I stop, all of this fallsapart.
(04:31):
We're short staffed.
I don't have anybody that cantake my place at work.
I don't have support at home orat work to stop.
Friends, if any of thesethoughts come to mind when you
think about taking a break, youare the person who needs to stop
(04:51):
the most.
I want to offer you our stopplan.
Simple, I want you to use thesame strategies and wisdom and
skills that you use at work, andI'm going to guide you to using
those strategies to plan microbreaks.
I'm not talking about a month'ssabbatical, but can you
incorporate micro breaks intoyour life as a regular rhythm of
(05:17):
rest so that while you areserving, while you are giving,
you can have moments of revival,so that you can live the life
you're living sustainably?
Friend, you need to grab thisstop plan.
Make sure to click the link inthe show notes or wherever
you're watching or listening tothis, so that you can get what
(05:40):
you need right now.
It can't wait.
I know you do a wonderful job,but people don't know what it
costs you to be you, and youknow what the cost has been.
It's time to stop.
Grab the plan today.
I started using the Dwell app.
I love the Dwell app.
(06:01):
The Dwell app is a Bible appwhere you can read the Bible,
but it will also read it to youin the most soothing voices and
they have these ambience behindthe voices, sounds that bring
peace.
It has a daily sort ofdevotional thing that you can
(06:24):
listen to and it leads you tobreath prayer.
I have other Bible apps, butthis app has made a difference
for me because it brings mepeace.
So I started using the Dwellapp every day and this also gave
me some relief of feeling likeI had to be a Bible scholar.
(06:44):
I had to dig in every day andlearn something new Greek and
Hebrew words Just the pressureof what it may look like to some
to be a good Christian.
Using the Dwell app, I was ableto stop and reset, even in my
(07:06):
relationship with God and tounderstand that he doesn't need
my performance.
He's not impressed by it, it'snot needed.
I am learning to just sit withhim, just to be with him and be
in his word.
So the dwell app has beenphenomenal for me.
In my stop I also when I cameback home.
(07:30):
There is a local greenhouse andI love it and I knew it was in
our town.
We've been here for about fiveyears now.
I knew it was there and I hadpassed it a few times and kept
saying, oh, I want to stop thereone day.
Oh, I want to stop there oneday.
Well, in this process I wentand I went weekly.
It is the most lush, beautifulplace and I'm so grateful I can
(07:58):
just.
I don't even have to buyanything.
There's a little grocery storethat's connected to it.
It has locally grown andlocally created I don't know
goodies in the grocery store.
It's the sweetest place to beand it became my sabbatical rest
(08:18):
when I'm at home.
So if I have time or if I needa moment, I'll stop, get in my
car and go, drive to thegreenhouse and I'll just walk
through.
I don't have to say anything toanybody, I can just be in the
oxygen and be in the greeneryand be in the beauty and learn
about new plants I didn't evenknow existed.
(08:40):
So the greenhouse hasdefinitely become a part of my
resetting and as often as I canmy goal is once a week, but as
often as I can I just go andwalk through.
I just go and be there becauseit's a place of peace for me.
I also set up some therapyappointments.
(09:00):
I told you that a boundary ofmine is I will always have a
therapeutic relationship, butthere are some times that I meet
with them regularly andsometimes I'm on the road or I'm
good and I'm not meetingregularly.
And this was a time that Iwasn't meeting regularly.
But I knew that I needed to.
I knew that I needed to, so Ireset those appointments and
(09:25):
even some new appointments andgot back on track with therapy
and it was really good for me.
I visited family and spent timewith friends, and that may seem
like a small thing, but whenyou are constantly running and
serving, you feel like, oh, I'mwith people all the time but,
friend, that's not for you,that's for them.
(09:45):
So you need to be with peoplewhere it's for you.
I had the opportunity to spendtime with family and it was
refreshing to my soul to be withmy people, not just on the
phone, not just on FaceTime, butwith my people.
So I was grateful.
I was grateful for that.
(10:07):
I brought some new plants intothe house.
Now listen, this sister overhere.
She hanging in, but she's notdoing too well.
So we're going to work on thisone, but this one's doing well.
I at one time had so manyplants in my house and through
moving, so we moved for a joband then we moved after my
(10:30):
burnout, and through movingseveral times, in a short amount
of time I've given them awayand we don't feel like moving
all these plants.
So I found myself in a spacewhere I really didn't have a lot
of plants around me and I lovedthem and they fueled me.
So I brought new plants into mylife and I decided that I want
more fresh flowers this year.
(11:02):
I know I love this may seemsimple, but I reset my skincare
routine.
Let me tell you what I mean.
So I had been running so hardthat at the end of the day, the
most I did was wipe the makeupoff my face with a makeup wipe
(11:23):
and throw on some moisturizer.
And then I'm going to bed and Idon't know how I feel about
saying that out loud.
It feels a little embarrassing,but it's the truth.
I had gotten to the point whereI don't even have time to do
the things that my body needscraves, that relaxes me, that
takes care of me and I didn'teven realize it had happened.
(11:47):
I didn't even realize it hadhappened before.
I just stopped In my time awayI was preparing for bed and I
thought, you know, I used tohave toner and I used to have
oils for my face and I don'thave any of that because once
things ran out, I just didn'treplenish them because I was
(12:09):
running so hard.
So in this time I have reset myskincare routine and I've
settled into some products thatare clean and comfortable and
work well for my skin.
And I have a routine.
I have my makeup remover, notthe wipes anymore A shout out to
(12:32):
Jasmine from my glam squad, whotold me to stop doing that.
I have my cleanser and my tonerand my oils and you know, and
the things that work for my skin.
I have those things and I taketime every evening, not just for
shower or whatever, but for myskin care.
(12:56):
I have a wonderful, wonderfulwoman in my life who takes care
of my pedicures Lisa Utabam.
Listen, lisa is everything.
Have y'all ever had a laid downpedicure?
No, I'm talking laying on amassage bed, warm, with a mask
over your eyes, and Lisa issoaking your feet and getting to
(13:20):
work to get them feet right.
Friend, I'm saying all thethings today.
This might be too much for somepeople, but I'm grateful for
Lisa.
A part of my story is I hadsurgeries on my feet when I was
a child, so I've alwaysstruggled concerning my feet and
Lisa is the most caring,detailed, sweetest person I've
(13:42):
ever encountered.
That have made thoseexperiences relaxing for me.
But I also recognize that I'mgoing to see Lisa once a month,
right.
So in between time, what am Idoing for my feet?
I'm on my feet constantly.
What am I doing to take care ofthem?
(14:04):
So I reset some routines totake care of my feet in between
times, so when I go to Lisa shedon't have to work as hard, but
also I just feel better.
I feel better.
These are things.
This is how you reset yourrhythm, friend.
What are those small thingsthat mean something to you?
It might be your hair care, itmight be your meal prep, it
(14:26):
might be how you move your body,it might be your meditation
time, your quiet time.
Friend, where is thelow-hanging fruit?
Y'all hear Bella.
Y'all know she always got tomake an appearance.
Hey, girl, they hear you, butwhere is the low hanging fruit
for what you can do right now totake care of your body and take
(14:48):
care of yourself?
So we're resetting our rhythm.
I cleared some clutter.
Oh, my goodness, it was so goodand so refreshing.
And you know, sometimes youjust get into that mood and the
whole house, everything is aboutto get it.
Everything is about to get itwhen I tell you I went through
closets and I went throughpantries and I went through
(15:12):
cabinets and I went through myoffice and every room in my
house, every room in my house,got a declutter.
Every single room, everythingwith a door, everything with a
door, got a declutter up in here.
And it has been so refreshingand I find myself more able to
(15:34):
think clearly because I don'thave the clutter around me.
And even when I say clutter,what's cluttered to me might not
be cluttered to you.
I am a very systematic person.
Everything has a place, I knowwhere it is and when I start to
build things, keep things.
I don't need stacks.
That's a sign for me that I'moverwhelmed.
(15:57):
And when I tell you I threw outoutdated spices, I went through
the whole pantry and got rid ofeverything that was expired.
I got rid of appliances.
We don't use things that don'twork, we reorganize.
I'm telling you, this place gotdecluttered and it has been so
(16:21):
good to come home.
It's been so good to be at home, to work from home, and I'm not
overcrowded by things that Idon't need.
It's not just about thephysical environment, but as you
are cleaning up your physicalenvironment, it also helps you
mentally, spiritually andemotionally.
(16:44):
And the last thing I'll give youtoday from resetting my rhythm,
I got this from Mel Robbins andMel shared how each year she
opens up her phone and goes toher photos and she reviews the
pictures from the last year.
(17:06):
So if I open up my phone and Igo to my photos and most of us
live by our photos these daysand I search through by, let's
say, search through by months,right, I go back to January 2024
and February 2024 and March2024.
(17:28):
And I went through thosepictures.
One to remind me.
It allowed me to have so muchgratitude, the way that the year
ended.
I have found myself in a placewhere I'm like throw the whole
year away, like let's come on2025.
(17:49):
I probably should have sloweddown, but anyway, come on 2025.
Throw the whole year away.
But what I found is theoverwhelm had crowded my view
and perspective of what the yearwas.
It might sound silly, but Iliterally opened those photos
and said, I published a book inJanuary, my first book.
(18:12):
I did a book tour in January,february and March.
It's amazing how you forgetthings because of the season
that you're currently in.
So Mel talks about going backthrough those photos and finding
things that you're grateful for.
That was so good for me toidentify things that I'm
grateful for throughout thosemonths, but also to identify
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things that were maybe missing.
What I need more of, what Ineed less of.
Evaluate your year according towhat those photos are telling
you and determine how you wantthis year to be different, right
?
So she shared that you can makea start, stop and continue list
(18:57):
what do you want to start thisyear, what do you want to stop
this year and what do you wantto continue?
Say it again what do you wantto start, what do you want to
stop and what do you want tocontinue?
And this really set the pacefor me to start this year
(19:22):
intentionally, right.
So one of the things that Inoticed from last year is there
were not a lot of fresh cutflowers in my pictures, right?
So I determined that I want tosurround myself with more fresh
cut flowers.
That may mean nothing to you,but for me.
(19:43):
It brings me so much joy to seethem, to smell them, to
experience them, to arrange them, so that's a decision that I
made.
I also noticed that there was alot of work in my pictures, but
not a lot of fun.
Now, work is fun to me, thetravel is fun, engaging with
(20:04):
y'all is fun, speaking is fun,so I want to give credit to that
.
But also I'm talking friends,family fun.
There was not enough of friendsand family in my pictures for
me and I want to change that forthis year.
And we started we started inDecember and continuing.
(20:27):
I want to make sure thatthere's more friends and family
engagements, interactions,connections in this year.
So that's something that I wantto start.
So you continue.
What do you want to start?
What do you want to stop andwhat do you want to continue,
based on how your year was lastyear?
(20:48):
So these are just a few thingsthat I did or am doing to reset
my rhythm.
When we come back next week, Iwant to talk to you about some
of the objections that you willhave Some of the PBJ.
This sounds good, but I can'tbecause of this.
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I can't because of kids, Ican't because of work.
I can't because I don't havesupport.
I can't because I don't havefamily close.
I get it.
I'm not saying that this isjust easy peasy.
Just do it today.
What I am saying is it's worthit.
Do it today, what I am sayingis it's worth it.
So, as always, friend, you arepowerful, you are significant,
(21:35):
you are brilliant and you areloved.
You got to reset, friend.
Your current rhythm is notsustainable and if you keep
living this way, it's going todrive you straight to burnout.
It's not a play game.
It's not a game.
Let's do it.
All right, I'll talk to younext week.
(21:57):
Bye, friends.
What do you want to start, what do you want to stop
and what do you want to continue?
And this really set the pacefor me to start this year
intentionally.
Hey friend, welcome back to theDisrupting Burnout podcast,
(00:21):
where we are giving you thestrategies for pouring out
purpose without continuing tolive in the consequences of
burnout.
Listen, if you are new here,I'm Dr Patrice Buckner-Jackson,
but you can call me PBJ, andit's my honor to serve you.
Friend, we're getting rightinto it because last week I
(00:41):
introduced to you this idea of arhythm reset.
One of the reasons why you findyourself overwhelmed, you find
yourself under burnout, isbecause the rhythm of your life
is so overwhelming and soanxious and so fast paced.
You're going from one thing toanother and you can barely keep
(01:03):
your mind still where you arebecause you're already 10 paces
ahead.
Right, so you're trying to doone thing, but you're thinking
about the next 15 things thathave to be done.
Friend, that constant barrageof demands and overwhelm and
that thought stream is going todrive you to the depths of
(01:25):
burnout.
So, in order to mitigate,interrupt that process, I'm
encouraging you to have a rhythmreset Now.
If you are not sure what I meanby rhythm reset.
Go back to last week's episodeand make sure you listen to
watch that one so you can catchup.
(01:46):
But in this episode I want totalk you through what I did
during and after my stop.
So I shared with you last weekthat the first thing I had to do
in order to reset my rhythm isstop.
I had to pause because Icouldn't even think clearly on
(02:06):
what the next step should be.
So it was time for a real stop,a real reset.
And y'all, let me say this I'mnot talking vacation, all right,
this was not a let me go checkout this place and that place
and do this thing and that thing.
I don't know about you, butsometimes I've come back from
vacation exhausted.
This was not vacation.
(02:27):
This was intentional pause,stop, reset.
So here's some of the things.
And I got my phone y'allbecause I wanted to not forget
some of these things.
And y'all, when I was walkingthrough this, I didn't have a
name for it, I didn't know itwas a rhythm reset.
It was weeks in before Irealized oh wow, I am setting
(02:53):
the normal rhythm for my life,I'm resetting my baseline.
It was weeks before I realized.
This will actually help medetermine when I'm getting off
off track and what to come backto.
So I wasn't doing this with theidea of this is the method I
need to take.
But afterwards and towards theend, or doing this, I knew I
(03:18):
needed to share it with you all,so I got my notes today, the
first thing I want to encourageyou to do.
Last week, I told you how tostop.
I want to encourage you to stopand feel.
Let me tell you what I mean.
For me, nothingness was not good.
When I first went away for mysabbatical rest, I thought that
(03:45):
sitting and doing nothing waswhat I needed.
But what I found is thenothingness made space for
anxious thoughts and overwhelmand considering why am I doing
this?
Is everybody OK?
Are they going to be mad, right?
Are they going to be mad, right?
So I and this is just me Maybeyou have, maybe you have
(04:09):
conquered mindfulness and you'reable to sit and do nothing and
think nothing.
But that's, that's not where Iam.
So what I found is I had tostop, but I also had to feel.
So here's some things that Iadded PBJ, I can't stop.
I don't have time to stop.
If I stop, all of this fallsapart.
(04:31):
We're short staffed.
I don't have anybody that cantake my place at work.
I don't have support at home orat work to stop.
Friends, if any of thesethoughts come to mind when you
think about taking a break, youare the person who needs to stop
(04:51):
the most.
I want to offer you our stopplan.
Simple, I want you to use thesame strategies and wisdom and
skills that you use at work, andI'm going to guide you to using
those strategies to plan microbreaks.
I'm not talking about a month'ssabbatical, but can you
incorporate micro breaks intoyour life as a regular rhythm of
(05:17):
rest so that while you areserving, while you are giving,
you can have moments of revival,so that you can live the life
you're living sustainably?
Friend, you need to grab thisstop plan.
Make sure to click the link inthe show notes or wherever
you're watching or listening tothis, so that you can get what
(05:40):
you need right now.
It can't wait.
I know you do a wonderful job,but people don't know what it
costs you to be you, and youknow what the cost has been.
It's time to stop.
Grab the plan today.
I started using the Dwell app.
I love the Dwell app.
(06:01):
The Dwell app is a Bible appwhere you can read the Bible,
but it will also read it to youin the most soothing voices and
they have these ambience behindthe voices, sounds that bring
peace.
It has a daily sort ofdevotional thing that you can
(06:24):
listen to and it leads you tobreath prayer.
I have other Bible apps, butthis app has made a difference
for me because it brings mepeace.
So I started using the Dwellapp every day and this also gave
me some relief of feeling likeI had to be a Bible scholar.
(06:44):
I had to dig in every day andlearn something new Greek and
Hebrew words Just the pressureof what it may look like to some
to be a good Christian.
Using the Dwell app, I was ableto stop and reset, even in my
(07:06):
relationship with God and tounderstand that he doesn't need
my performance.
He's not impressed by it, it'snot needed.
I am learning to just sit withhim, just to be with him and be
in his word.
So the dwell app has beenphenomenal for me.
In my stop I also when I cameback home.
(07:30):
There is a local greenhouse andI love it and I knew it was in
our town.
We've been here for about fiveyears now.
I knew it was there and I hadpassed it a few times and kept
saying, oh, I want to stop thereone day.
Oh, I want to stop there oneday.
Well, in this process I wentand I went weekly.
It is the most lush, beautifulplace and I'm so grateful I can
(07:58):
just.
I don't even have to buyanything.
There's a little grocery storethat's connected to it.
It has locally grown andlocally created I don't know
goodies in the grocery store.
It's the sweetest place to beand it became my sabbatical rest
(08:18):
when I'm at home.
So if I have time or if I needa moment, I'll stop, get in my
car and go, drive to thegreenhouse and I'll just walk
through.
I don't have to say anything toanybody, I can just be in the
oxygen and be in the greeneryand be in the beauty and learn
about new plants I didn't evenknow existed.
(08:40):
So the greenhouse hasdefinitely become a part of my
resetting and as often as I canmy goal is once a week, but as
often as I can I just go andwalk through.
I just go and be there becauseit's a place of peace for me.
I also set up some therapyappointments.
(09:00):
I told you that a boundary ofmine is I will always have a
therapeutic relationship, butthere are some times that I meet
with them regularly andsometimes I'm on the road or I'm
good and I'm not meetingregularly.
And this was a time that Iwasn't meeting regularly.
But I knew that I needed to.
I knew that I needed to, so Ireset those appointments and
(09:25):
even some new appointments andgot back on track with therapy
and it was really good for me.
I visited family and spent timewith friends, and that may seem
like a small thing, but whenyou are constantly running and
serving, you feel like, oh, I'mwith people all the time but,
friend, that's not for you,that's for them.
(09:45):
So you need to be with peoplewhere it's for you.
I had the opportunity to spendtime with family and it was
refreshing to my soul to be withmy people, not just on the
phone, not just on FaceTime, butwith my people.
So I was grateful.
I was grateful for that.
(10:07):
I brought some new plants intothe house.
Now listen, this sister overhere.
She hanging in, but she's notdoing too well.
So we're going to work on thisone, but this one's doing well.
I at one time had so manyplants in my house and through
moving, so we moved for a joband then we moved after my
(10:30):
burnout, and through movingseveral times, in a short amount
of time I've given them awayand we don't feel like moving
all these plants.
So I found myself in a spacewhere I really didn't have a lot
of plants around me and I lovedthem and they fueled me.
So I brought new plants into mylife and I decided that I want
more fresh flowers this year.
(11:02):
I know I love this may seemsimple, but I reset my skincare
routine.
Let me tell you what I mean.
So I had been running so hardthat at the end of the day, the
most I did was wipe the makeupoff my face with a makeup wipe
(11:23):
and throw on some moisturizer.
And then I'm going to bed and Idon't know how I feel about
saying that out loud.
It feels a little embarrassing,but it's the truth.
I had gotten to the point whereI don't even have time to do
the things that my body needscraves, that relaxes me, that
takes care of me and I didn'teven realize it had happened.
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I didn't even realize it hadhappened before.
I just stopped In my time awayI was preparing for bed and I
thought, you know, I used tohave toner and I used to have
oils for my face and I don'thave any of that because once
things ran out, I just didn'treplenish them because I was
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running so hard.
So in this time I have reset myskincare routine and I've
settled into some products thatare clean and comfortable and
work well for my skin.
And I have a routine.
I have my makeup remover, notthe wipes anymore A shout out to
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Jasmine from my glam squad, whotold me to stop doing that.
I have my cleanser and my tonerand my oils and you know, and
the things that work for my skin.
I have those things and I taketime every evening, not just for
shower or whatever, but for myskin care.
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I have a wonderful, wonderfulwoman in my life who takes care
of my pedicures Lisa Utabam.
Listen, lisa is everything.
Have y'all ever had a laid downpedicure?
No, I'm talking laying on amassage bed, warm, with a mask
over your eyes, and Lisa issoaking your feet and getting to
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work to get them feet right.
Friend, I'm saying all thethings today.
This might be too much for somepeople, but I'm grateful for
Lisa.
A part of my story is I hadsurgeries on my feet when I was
a child, so I've alwaysstruggled concerning my feet and
Lisa is the most caring,detailed, sweetest person I've
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ever encountered.
That have made thoseexperiences relaxing for me.
But I also recognize that I'mgoing to see Lisa once a month,
right.
So in between time, what am Idoing for my feet?
I'm on my feet constantly.
What am I doing to take care ofthem?
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So I reset some routines totake care of my feet in between
times, so when I go to Lisa shedon't have to work as hard, but
also I just feel better.
I feel better.
These are things.
This is how you reset yourrhythm, friend.
What are those small thingsthat mean something to you?
It might be your hair care, itmight be your meal prep, it
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might be how you move your body,it might be your meditation
time, your quiet time.
Friend, where is thelow-hanging fruit?
Y'all hear Bella.
Y'all know she always got tomake an appearance.
Hey, girl, they hear you, butwhere is the low hanging fruit
for what you can do right now totake care of your body and take
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care of yourself?
So we're resetting our rhythm.
I cleared some clutter.
Oh, my goodness, it was so goodand so refreshing.
And you know, sometimes youjust get into that mood and the
whole house, everything is aboutto get it.
Everything is about to get itwhen I tell you I went through
closets and I went throughpantries and I went through
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cabinets and I went through myoffice and every room in my
house, every room in my house,got a declutter.
Every single room, everythingwith a door, everything with a
door, got a declutter up in here.
And it has been so refreshingand I find myself more able to
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think clearly because I don'thave the clutter around me.
And even when I say clutter,what's cluttered to me might not
be cluttered to you.
I am a very systematic person.
Everything has a place, I knowwhere it is and when I start to
build things, keep things.
I don't need stacks.
That's a sign for me that I'moverwhelmed.
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And when I tell you I threw outoutdated spices, I went through
the whole pantry and got rid ofeverything that was expired.
I got rid of appliances.
We don't use things that don'twork, we reorganize.
I'm telling you, this place gotdecluttered and it has been so
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good to come home.
It's been so good to be at home, to work from home, and I'm not
overcrowded by things that Idon't need.
It's not just about thephysical environment, but as you
are cleaning up your physicalenvironment, it also helps you
mentally, spiritually andemotionally.
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And the last thing I'll give youtoday from resetting my rhythm,
I got this from Mel Robbins andMel shared how each year she
opens up her phone and goes toher photos and she reviews the
pictures from the last year.
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So if I open up my phone and Igo to my photos and most of us
live by our photos these daysand I search through by, let's
say, search through by months,right, I go back to January 2024
and February 2024 and March2024.
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And I went through thosepictures.
One to remind me.
It allowed me to have so muchgratitude, the way that the year
ended.
I have found myself in a placewhere I'm like throw the whole
year away, like let's come on2025.
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I probably should have sloweddown, but anyway, come on 2025.
Throw the whole year away.
But what I found is theoverwhelm had crowded my view
and perspective of what the yearwas.
It might sound silly, but Iliterally opened those photos
and said, I published a book inJanuary, my first book.
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I did a book tour in January,february and March.
It's amazing how you forgetthings because of the season
that you're currently in.
So Mel talks about going backthrough those photos and finding
things that you're grateful for.
That was so good for me toidentify things that I'm
grateful for throughout thosemonths, but also to identify
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things that were maybe missing.
What I need more of, what Ineed less of.
Evaluate your year according towhat those photos are telling
you and determine how you wantthis year to be different, right
?
So she shared that you can makea start, stop and continue list
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what do you want to start thisyear, what do you want to stop
this year and what do you wantto continue?
Say it again what do you wantto start, what do you want to
stop and what do you want tocontinue?
And this really set the pacefor me to start this year
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intentionally, right.
So one of the things that Inoticed from last year is there
were not a lot of fresh cutflowers in my pictures, right?
So I determined that I want tosurround myself with more fresh
cut flowers.
That may mean nothing to you,but for me.
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It brings me so much joy to seethem, to smell them, to
experience them, to arrange them, so that's a decision that I
made.
I also noticed that there was alot of work in my pictures, but
not a lot of fun.
Now, work is fun to me, thetravel is fun, engaging with
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y'all is fun, speaking is fun,so I want to give credit to that
.
But also I'm talking friends,family fun.
There was not enough of friendsand family in my pictures for
me and I want to change that forthis year.
And we started we started inDecember and continuing.
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I want to make sure thatthere's more friends and family
engagements, interactions,connections in this year.
So that's something that I wantto start.
So you continue.
What do you want to start?
What do you want to stop andwhat do you want to continue,
based on how your year was lastyear?
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So these are just a few thingsthat I did or am doing to reset
my rhythm.
When we come back next week, Iwant to talk to you about some
of the objections that you willhave Some of the PBJ.
This sounds good, but I can'tbecause of this.
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I can't because of kids, Ican't because of work.
I can't because I don't havesupport.
I can't because I don't havefamily close.
I get it.
I'm not saying that this isjust easy peasy.
Just do it today.
What I am saying is it's worthit.
Do it today, what I am sayingis it's worth it.
So, as always, friend, you arepowerful, you are significant,
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you are brilliant and you areloved.
You got to reset, friend.
Your current rhythm is notsustainable and if you keep
living this way, it's going todrive you straight to burnout.
It's not a play game.
It's not a game.
Let's do it.
All right, I'll talk to younext week.
(21:57):
Bye, friends.
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