May 17, 2023 • 25 mins
Welcome to Disrupting Burnout - a podcast where we beat burnout so that you can love your career again!
Do you feel unfulfilled or overwhelmed to the point where you struggle to make space to dream? Would you like to stop chasing responsibility and identify your unique brilliance?
In this week’s episode of Disrupting Burnout, I’m sharing my personal story of burnout and how it led me to create the Heart Work Academy. It’s time to let go of what's holding you back and be everything that God has created you to be
It’s Time To Disrupt Burnout:
01:00 - Pursue The Heartwork
10:21 - The Cycles Of Burnout
14:00 - Passion vs. Purpose
17:00 - The Process Of Change
Transforming your Crisis Takeaways
● "Where you are, is on purpose and for purpose." - Dr. PBJ
● "Overwhelm is the whisper. Burnout is the demand." - Dr. PBJ
● "Your job is not your purpose. Your title is not your purpose. Your salary is not your purpose." - Dr. PBJ
● "Purpose is the core of your essence." - Dr. PBJ
● "Purpose is how you look like your heavenly Father. It's your spiritual DNA." - Dr. PBJ
● “I made the transition from my full time job to full time pursuing this vision." - Dr. PBJ
● "When you know your brilliance, there's a fulfillment that comes over you.” - Dr. PBJ
This episode is brought to you by HeartWork Academy! If you’ve ever felt like you're marching in place, putting in all of the effort, but not moving forward, this program is for you. If you feel buried and you’re ready to move into brilliance, it’s time to join a community of disruptors who understand and who genuinely want to support you and hold you accountable as you show up in purpose everyday. To join the Heartwork Academy, visit: http://heartworkacademy.com.
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Let me pause here and talk toyou those who feel like you're
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being shaken out of your place.
Those who feel unfulfilled,those who feel frustrated those
who feel pressure, those who areconfused about what's going on,
you're wondering what you didwrong to kind of be in the
mental and spiritual place thatyou're in right now. Job is
fine, you have a job, you have ajob, and you're really good at
it. But something is justpressing down on you, I want to
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encourage you to allow thatvision to live.
(00:51):
Hey, friends, is Dr. Jacksonagain. But you can call me PBJ.
Welcome to another episode ofdisrupting burnout. Friends, I'm
so excited. Last night, I hadthe orientation for our folks in
the heart work Academy. And whenI tell you, when I tell you,
this community is so powerfuljust women who are pursuing
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their purpose in theirbrilliance and breaking the
shackles of burnout andoverwhelm and just surviving and
walking into the freedom thatthey were created for, you need
to come in and join us. Yes, Iknow we have the orientation
last night, but it's not toolate for you, I want to share
that orientation or a piece ofit, I can't give you everything.
But a piece of that time wespent last night I want to share
(01:38):
with you so that you can learnmore about what to expect in the
heart work Academy. And you canconsider if it's something for
you yet, it's not too late, youcan still jump in our first
official meeting is Monday, May22, according to when you're
watching this, but the HEartworkAcademy is ongoing. So whenever
you hear this, you can jump inand join this community and be a
(02:01):
part of the work that we'redoing together. So let me start
just by telling you where thiscomes from for me, and why I
created this community. So youknow, my burnout story, you know
that I was out of work for fivemonths. And due to burnout, I
got to the executive positionand all of my professional goals
(02:24):
were met. And I'm burnt out inthe middle of all of it, and had
to spend some time in recoveryand learning how to one so with
my whole heart, right withoutliving those consequences, but
also not who am I? What did youcreate me for that burnout was
what I call a crisis ofbrilliance, it shook me to my
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core, I thought my life wasfalling apart. I didn't know
what to do. And actually it didfall apart. And it needed to, it
needed to fall apart. It was thefirst time since I started my
professional career that I everconsidered that I would do
something different. I was socomfortable in what I was doing.
And I'm good at it. I'm good atworking with college students. I
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had my network, I've got mypeople, I felt confident I knew
what I was doing. And God cameand shook that whole thing up.
Because I was so comfortable.
And if he did not allow theshaking, I would have never
considered that there wassomething more there was always
this dream in my heart that Iwould travel when I was speaking
I would inspire people. But Ithought that was either outside
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of work, just ministry alone, orsomething that I would maybe do
on the side after retirement iskind of the box that I put that
in. But that wasn't God's plan.
The time was now and I would nothave considered this I would not
be doing this I would not beliving this life, if not for the
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shaking that came in my life. Sowent through that five months
with no job. Not sure what wasgoing to happen. A lot of
prayer, a lot of focus guy, whatdo you want out of me? And he
started allowing me to see thisvision of what I'm walking out
right now. For the first time Istarted considering maybe this
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is not just a ministry thing.
Maybe it's not just a sidehustle. Maybe it's not just
something that I'll do inretirement, but maybe it's
something that needs to happenright now. I didn't know how I
didn't have any methods. Ididn't have any knowledge about
business, but I just knew what Isaw. I knew what I saw. After
five months out. I'm gratefulthat I went back to work. I did
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go back to work on a campus andwhen I took that job I expected
that I would be there for for alittle while while kind of
building this and learning whatthis vision looks like kind of
on the side right that that'swhat I expected that I would be
able to do my work and you knowhave that stable income Men have
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that stable place at work. Butjust be kind of building this
vision on the side. Well, I'mhere to tell you two years in
two years in, my soul was rockedagain and I didn't, you know,
have a burnout period, I didn'tleave because of burnout,
because I hadn't learned a lotabout that by then. But I knew,
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I knew I was being shaken out ofmy place. Let me pause here and
talk to you those who feel likeyou're being shaken out of your
place. Those who feelunfulfilled, those who feel
frustrated, those who feelpressure, those who are confused
about what's going on, you'rewondering what you did wrong to
kind of be in the mental andspiritual place that you're in
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right now. Job is fine, you havea job, you have a job, and
you're really good at it. Butsomething is just pressing down
on you, I want to encourage youto allow that vision to live.
You need to make space to dreamabout it, to talk about it, to
write about it. Because youdon't eyes haven't seen it ears
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haven't heard what that seat isgoing to become. So I want you
to know that you haven't doneanything wrong. And this is not
punishment. But you are in aspace of a crisis of brilliance,
where there's transition comingto your life. And either you
work with the transition, andyou move to the next phase, or
you push against it and thatpressure increases. That's where
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you are right now. And that'swhere I was, I was serving my
students serving my staff. So inmy institution, and the pressure
came, and I just knew I knew inmy spirit that it was time. And
I even prayed about our prayed.
Because at that point I had beenthrough so much that I just
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wanted whatever God wants forme. And that's still where I am.
I just want whatever he wantsfor me. And I pray that I say,
God, whatever you want, pleasetell me, and I'll do it. But I
can't do both. I couldn't keepmy foot in both areas. Both were
so demanding that I had tochoose, I couldn't do my job and
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do this on the side. And Icouldn't do my vision and then
just kind of half my work.
That's not how this works. And Iwas in a place where both had
grown so much that I had to makea choice, I could no longer have
my foot in both worlds. So Iprayed and said, God, whatever
you want me to do, I'll do it.
Can you tell me what you want meto do? And I'll do it. So the
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very next day after I prayedthat prayer, the very next day,
and I was honest, I said, if youwant me to be in this job, I've
got to let this vision just sit.
I can't keep investing there.
Because the two can't existtogether. If you want me to go
all in with this vision, and Igotta walk away from this job.
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But I can't do both. The verynext day, I got two calls. First
of all, people who engage withme don't normally call me. They
contact me through my website,we set up an appointment, I got
two calls. I got two calls. Andeach one of those calls were an
opportunity to work withorganizations and to speak that
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I didn't solicit at an ask forone group. I still didn't know
how they found me. They said Iwant to ask, So how'd you find
me? Oh, a speaker's bureaufriends. I don't work with the
speaker's bureau. So it couldn'thave been a speaker's bureau.
Either way, I got those calls,and they wanted to connect with
me and my services. And I knew Iknew that was the answer. I knew
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it was time. I knew in myspirit. That was a confirmation.
I knew it was time. So I beginplanning my exit. Now I didn't
just you know, walk into my bossthat day and say I quit. I
didn't do that. I didn't dothat. I didn't let I didn't let
my word know until severalmonths after that, because it
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wasn't time. Because once I knewit was time, then I said, God,
what's your timeline? So notjust run and do it. But what is
your timeline? So long storyshort, I made the transition
from my full time job to fulltime pursuing this vision. And
I'm just amazed at what God isdoing. I'm amazed when I look at
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my life right now. I mean,literally right now I'm sitting
in my home, in my home office,with my dog at my feet with my
windows open, sharing my heartwith you all. This was a dream.
And I know this is noteverybody's dream, but this was
my dream. I didn't see this as apossibility for years to come.
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This is what I thought myretirement will look like. And
here I am. Yeah, here I am. So Ineed you To know that where you
are, is on purpose and forpurpose. And if you want
support, and walking through theseason, you need to come into
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the hard work community, becauseI am going to teach you and
support you step by step, andwalking out of the cycles of
burnout. And let's talk aboutthe cycles of burnout, right?
Because folks often ask PBJ, butI'm not burnt out. So can I
join? Yes, absolutely. Frank,you can join because this is not
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just about folks who are burntout, right? This is also about
folks who are in that survivingthings. Surviving is I got it,
things are fine. You know, workis fine, family's fine, we got
income, we're okay. Butsomething is nudging me, there's
pressure on me. And it feelslike everything's squeezing me
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out. And I don't know what I didwrong. That surviving place.
That's your crisis ofbrilliance. That's your purpose,
calling you saying that it'stime to make a transition. And I
know that can be scary, becauseit feels like everything that
you leaned on to this date, youdon't have it to lean on
anymore, like it's falling away.
And I need to, I need toencourage your heart to let you
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know that it has to follow it.
If it doesn't fall away, you'llkeep leaning, you'll keep
leaning, you'll stay therecomfortable. But it's got to
fall away so that you can beeverything that God has created
you to be friend. So I'm here totell you if you are in
surviving. If you know there'smore if you have a vision if
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you're not even clear what itlooks like. But you know,
there's something that you needto get into the heart work
community that I met women lastnight, who are some of them have
a vision, some of them are notquite sure, but they know that
it has to be some other set. I'min rock bottom burnout right
now. PBJ. No matter where youare in the cycles, we can
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support you help you teach youwalk you through it. That second
phase of the cycles of burnoutis overwhelmed and overwhelmed,
your body starts screaming atyou, your mind is screaming at
you, your emotions are screamingthat to your relationships
scream at you, your environmentscreams at you, everything
around you says hey, we can'tkeep doing this. We can this is
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not working. We cannot keepdoing this. You can barely
breathe in overwhelm, you justwant to run away. Like I just
need a break, I need to getaway, you want to run away
because everything in you issaying we've had enough. We've
had enough and we got to dosomething different. But you
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don't know what the differenceis. You don't know how to get
out of that space. It's like aroller coaster, and you want the
ride to stop. But nobody willstop it to let you off. If
you're in overwhelm,you need to join us. It's
critical. It's critical that youlearn how to break that cycle of
overwhelm. Because if you don't,then you find yourself in
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burnout. Overwhelmed as theWhisperer, burnout is the demand
you will stop. Burnout is the involuntary shutdown of something
your body, your mind, youremotions, or relationship, a
critical relationship, somethingbreaks, something breaks and
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burns. And I don't want you tofind yourself there. And if you
are there, I want you to knowthat you can recover. And you
can come back not in a way ofunless go up the hill and down
the hill up the hill and downhere. No, no more down the hill.
No more going back to burnout.
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Let's destroy the cycle. Let'sdisrupt the cycle. So you don't
have to keep going back andforth. So we are serving
everybody, no matter where youare. In the cycles of burnout.
We're serving you. And I want totalk to you about brilliants
because we're going from thecycles of burnout, to
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brilliance. When I saybrilliance. I'm talking about
your purpose. But let me bevery, very clear because I think
we're confused about whatpurpose is purpose and passion
are not the same thing. purposeand passion are not the same
thing. Purpose is your innate,unique brilliance, the gift that
you were given by God created tohouse it and you get it just by
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waking up and breathing purposeswhat you've done all your life
but you've never put value on itbecause somebody has never told
you it's valuable or because itcomes so easy to you you don't
think it's worth anything.
Purpose is the core of your EFSessence. Purpose is how you look
like your heavenly Father. It'syour spiritual DNA. It is the
gift in a unique to you thatflows from you flow freely no
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matter what you do or whatspeech you show it show up in.
That's the purpose. Passions arethe expressions of that. And we
get wrapped up in passionsbecause we define ourselves by
passions. I'm an educator, I'm ateacher, I'm a counselor, I'm a
social worker, I'm a speaker,I'm an author, those are all
expressions, none of those arethe purpose. Your job is not
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your purpose. Your title is notyour purpose, your salary is not
your purpose. All of that areexpressions of the innate,
unique brilliance that you werecreated to house. And you got to
identify your purpose, yourbrilliance from your passions,
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so that you will know that thatbrilliance is secure, it is
never gonna change. That is whatyou bring to the earth, but your
passions, they can change. Youcan add, you can change, you can
transition you can take away,passions are the expression is
how you share your brilliancewith the world. But purpose.
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That's the innate, uniquebrilliance that you were created
to house in the earth. When youknow that brilliance, there's a
fulfillment that comes over you,you don't expect your job to
fulfill you anymore. You don'texpect family members to fulfill
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you anymore. You don't expect tobe filled with anything else
except God,because you know why you're
here. And whether it's a goodday or not. So good day,
you go to bed, knowing that youdid exactly what you were
created to do, because you knowwho you are. And you've got to
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know who you I gotta share onemore foundation with you. This
is a new concept to me, that Godhas recently given me and I'm so
excited about it. This issomething that I write about in
the book. But I just want togive you a brief overview today.
Because in order to seetransformation, in order for
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things to change, there's aprocess of change. And that
process is head, heart, hands,head is the knowledge. Heart is
the belief, hands, the action.
There's a lot that you know,right now that you're not doing.
Knowing is not enough. Justlistening to the podcast is
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knowing. And knowing isimportant, is the first step to
transformation. But it's noteverything. It just leaves it
short, knowing is one thing, butyou got to get what you know,
Dan, into your heart to believeit. You got to start believing
what you know, until you believeis true for you, you will never
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see it in your hands. You haveheard my story over and over and
over. And you are convinced andyou know that it's true for me,
you know that my hope from 2019to 2023. My whole life has
transformed you've watched it,you've been a part of the
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journey, you are convinced thatis true for me. But in order for
it to impact your life, you needto be convinced that is true for
you. You need to know that thetrend for transformation that I
have experienced is true foryou. Not just for me, not just
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for me. And that is what we'redoing in the heart work Academy.
This coaching community is fullof women who are ready to walk
into their God given brilliance.
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So in short, how are we going todo this? We're going to meet at
least once a month, standardonce a month, but every now and
then we'll have an extrasession. We'll meet live. So
this is not me just talking. Andyou can leave comments we're
talking. We're all together onon an electronic platform.
Outside of our meetings. We havea group this is not a Facebook
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group. There's nothing againstFacebook groups. But we have a
group where we can communicateleave messages for each other,
respond to each other, thenwe're continuing to encourage
each other on a journey. Youhave a place to come we have a
tough day, you have a place tocome when you have a great day.
You have a place where you'regoing to be celebrated. You have
a place where you're going to bechallenged. It's not just me.
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But you haven't even met thesewomen that are a part of your
community and women from allover the country literally from
all over the country who havecome with light mind and like
heart to not just walk intotheir own brilliance and as
their brilliance evolves to getto know them. Brilliant, but to
support you and yours. So thiscommunity is pivotal is pivotal.
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And then you're going to getproven strategy I am going to
teach you, I told the folks onsocial media, this is the second
printing of my book. So thefirst printing was just for me
to read it cover to cover. And,and I made edits and changes,
and this printing went out to mybeta readers, right. So a group
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of women who have agreed to readit and give me feedback. But the
folks who are in the heart workAcademy, we are working this
thing, we're working this thing,they don't have to wait until
the book comes out. Becauseevery strategy in this book,
we're walking through ittogether. And not only am I
teaching it, but they are livingout the strategies. They're
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living out the strategies, andseeing the results from these
strategies. So friend, listen, Iwant you to know that this is
your opportunity. This is youropportunity. Well, When is the
deadline PBJ? Join now. Join nowget in now don't get behind.
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Don't wait, what are you waitingfor? At 30 bucks a month. It
won't always be that price isspecifically that price, because
God laid on my heart, that thereare some folks who need to be on
this journey, and need supporton that journey. But they're not
ready to make a huge investmentyet. So it's purposeful, that
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price is not about paying mybills, that price is an entry,
it's an invitation to come inand get what you know you need.
You've been waiting for yours.
You've been waiting for years,some of you have been on my
whole journey with me, andapplauding me along the way, but
not getting what you need. It'stime, this is the opportunity.
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This is the opportunity to comeand be a part of this, of this
community of thistransformation. Get in now. Get
in now, let me just say this toyou all, I won't always be able
to be the coach in mycommunities. And it's probably
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going to happen quicker than Ithink I won't always be able to
be the one doing the coachingand the supporting directly. I
spoke with the woman the otherday, she's like, I can't believe
I'm actually meeting with you. Ithought I was gonna meet with
one of your people. And beforewe got off the phone, she said
you won't be able to do thismuch longer. Friend, while I'm
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able to do this, I need you tocome now. Come now, I don't know
the whole story of what tomorrowlooks like I have a vision. I
have a vision and it's going tobe impactful no matter what. But
if you know you've beenconnected to me and my story,
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you need to join us now. BecauseI can't promise you what, six
months, two months, three monthsfrom now will look like get in,
get in here. Get in here. It'stime. 30 bucks a month. Heart
work academy.com. Heart work.
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academy.com get registeredtoday. We will have our first
meeting on Monday the 22nd. Ifyou're watching this after the
22nd jump in, jump in now, goahead and get connected. Don't
question if you need moreconvincing than this, then maybe
you're not ready. And that'sokay. But for those of you who
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are ready, and those of you whoknow that this is the answer to
your prayer. If when I speak, Isound like I've been in your
prayer closet with you. If whenI speak I sound like I've been
sitting with you in your livingroom having a conversation, then
what are you waiting? What areyou waiting on this podcast
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platform I can share to you butI can't connect with you. You
need to get in a community withme. We need to walk this thing
out together. So that's it. Youmay come on in. That's the end
of the story. Now is the time,now is the time. You do have
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time you make time foreverything else where everybody
else. Make time for you once amonth for a couple of hours.
Once a month for a couple ofhours. You can't do that. If you
can't do that for you're notready. Okay, so let's do this.
Let's get it it's time todisrupt destroy those cycles, no
more cycles. No more cycles,destroy the cycle so that you
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can walk in brilliance. It isyour Turn is your turn. Let's
get it. As always friend, youknow that you are powerful. You
are significant. And you are soloved. You are loved. Do not
hesitate. Heart work.
academy.com Let's go. I'll seeyou in the background.
Let me pause here and talk toyou those who feel like you're
(00:02):
being shaken out of your place.
Those who feel unfulfilled,those who feel frustrated those
who feel pressure, those who areconfused about what's going on,
you're wondering what you didwrong to kind of be in the
mental and spiritual place thatyou're in right now. Job is
fine, you have a job, you have ajob, and you're really good at
it. But something is justpressing down on you, I want to
(00:24):
encourage you to allow thatvision to live.
(00:51):
Hey, friends, is Dr. Jacksonagain. But you can call me PBJ.
Welcome to another episode ofdisrupting burnout. Friends, I'm
so excited. Last night, I hadthe orientation for our folks in
the heart work Academy. And whenI tell you, when I tell you,
this community is so powerfuljust women who are pursuing
(01:14):
their purpose in theirbrilliance and breaking the
shackles of burnout andoverwhelm and just surviving and
walking into the freedom thatthey were created for, you need
to come in and join us. Yes, Iknow we have the orientation
last night, but it's not toolate for you, I want to share
that orientation or a piece ofit, I can't give you everything.
But a piece of that time wespent last night I want to share
(01:38):
with you so that you can learnmore about what to expect in the
heart work Academy. And you canconsider if it's something for
you yet, it's not too late, youcan still jump in our first
official meeting is Monday, May22, according to when you're
watching this, but the HEartworkAcademy is ongoing. So whenever
you hear this, you can jump inand join this community and be a
(02:01):
part of the work that we'redoing together. So let me start
just by telling you where thiscomes from for me, and why I
created this community. So youknow, my burnout story, you know
that I was out of work for fivemonths. And due to burnout, I
got to the executive positionand all of my professional goals
(02:24):
were met. And I'm burnt out inthe middle of all of it, and had
to spend some time in recoveryand learning how to one so with
my whole heart, right withoutliving those consequences, but
also not who am I? What did youcreate me for that burnout was
what I call a crisis ofbrilliance, it shook me to my
(02:47):
core, I thought my life wasfalling apart. I didn't know
what to do. And actually it didfall apart. And it needed to, it
needed to fall apart. It was thefirst time since I started my
professional career that I everconsidered that I would do
something different. I was socomfortable in what I was doing.
And I'm good at it. I'm good atworking with college students. I
(03:11):
had my network, I've got mypeople, I felt confident I knew
what I was doing. And God cameand shook that whole thing up.
Because I was so comfortable.
And if he did not allow theshaking, I would have never
considered that there wassomething more there was always
this dream in my heart that Iwould travel when I was speaking
I would inspire people. But Ithought that was either outside
(03:32):
of work, just ministry alone, orsomething that I would maybe do
on the side after retirement iskind of the box that I put that
in. But that wasn't God's plan.
The time was now and I would nothave considered this I would not
be doing this I would not beliving this life, if not for the
(03:54):
shaking that came in my life. Sowent through that five months
with no job. Not sure what wasgoing to happen. A lot of
prayer, a lot of focus guy, whatdo you want out of me? And he
started allowing me to see thisvision of what I'm walking out
right now. For the first time Istarted considering maybe this
(04:17):
is not just a ministry thing.
Maybe it's not just a sidehustle. Maybe it's not just
something that I'll do inretirement, but maybe it's
something that needs to happenright now. I didn't know how I
didn't have any methods. Ididn't have any knowledge about
business, but I just knew what Isaw. I knew what I saw. After
five months out. I'm gratefulthat I went back to work. I did
(04:38):
go back to work on a campus andwhen I took that job I expected
that I would be there for for alittle while while kind of
building this and learning whatthis vision looks like kind of
on the side right that that'swhat I expected that I would be
able to do my work and you knowhave that stable income Men have
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that stable place at work. Butjust be kind of building this
vision on the side. Well, I'mhere to tell you two years in
two years in, my soul was rockedagain and I didn't, you know,
have a burnout period, I didn'tleave because of burnout,
because I hadn't learned a lotabout that by then. But I knew,
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I knew I was being shaken out ofmy place. Let me pause here and
talk to you those who feel likeyou're being shaken out of your
place. Those who feelunfulfilled, those who feel
frustrated, those who feelpressure, those who are confused
about what's going on, you'rewondering what you did wrong to
kind of be in the mental andspiritual place that you're in
(05:40):
right now. Job is fine, you havea job, you have a job, and
you're really good at it. Butsomething is just pressing down
on you, I want to encourage youto allow that vision to live.
You need to make space to dreamabout it, to talk about it, to
write about it. Because youdon't eyes haven't seen it ears
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haven't heard what that seat isgoing to become. So I want you
to know that you haven't doneanything wrong. And this is not
punishment. But you are in aspace of a crisis of brilliance,
where there's transition comingto your life. And either you
work with the transition, andyou move to the next phase, or
you push against it and thatpressure increases. That's where
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you are right now. And that'swhere I was, I was serving my
students serving my staff. So inmy institution, and the pressure
came, and I just knew I knew inmy spirit that it was time. And
I even prayed about our prayed.
Because at that point I had beenthrough so much that I just
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wanted whatever God wants forme. And that's still where I am.
I just want whatever he wantsfor me. And I pray that I say,
God, whatever you want, pleasetell me, and I'll do it. But I
can't do both. I couldn't keepmy foot in both areas. Both were
so demanding that I had tochoose, I couldn't do my job and
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do this on the side. And Icouldn't do my vision and then
just kind of half my work.
That's not how this works. And Iwas in a place where both had
grown so much that I had to makea choice, I could no longer have
my foot in both worlds. So Iprayed and said, God, whatever
you want me to do, I'll do it.
Can you tell me what you want meto do? And I'll do it. So the
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very next day after I prayedthat prayer, the very next day,
and I was honest, I said, if youwant me to be in this job, I've
got to let this vision just sit.
I can't keep investing there.
Because the two can't existtogether. If you want me to go
all in with this vision, and Igotta walk away from this job.
(07:52):
But I can't do both. The verynext day, I got two calls. First
of all, people who engage withme don't normally call me. They
contact me through my website,we set up an appointment, I got
two calls. I got two calls. Andeach one of those calls were an
opportunity to work withorganizations and to speak that
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I didn't solicit at an ask forone group. I still didn't know
how they found me. They said Iwant to ask, So how'd you find
me? Oh, a speaker's bureaufriends. I don't work with the
speaker's bureau. So it couldn'thave been a speaker's bureau.
Either way, I got those calls,and they wanted to connect with
me and my services. And I knew Iknew that was the answer. I knew
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it was time. I knew in myspirit. That was a confirmation.
I knew it was time. So I beginplanning my exit. Now I didn't
just you know, walk into my bossthat day and say I quit. I
didn't do that. I didn't dothat. I didn't let I didn't let
my word know until severalmonths after that, because it
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wasn't time. Because once I knewit was time, then I said, God,
what's your timeline? So notjust run and do it. But what is
your timeline? So long storyshort, I made the transition
from my full time job to fulltime pursuing this vision. And
I'm just amazed at what God isdoing. I'm amazed when I look at
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my life right now. I mean,literally right now I'm sitting
in my home, in my home office,with my dog at my feet with my
windows open, sharing my heartwith you all. This was a dream.
And I know this is noteverybody's dream, but this was
my dream. I didn't see this as apossibility for years to come.
(09:49):
This is what I thought myretirement will look like. And
here I am. Yeah, here I am. So Ineed you To know that where you
are, is on purpose and forpurpose. And if you want
support, and walking through theseason, you need to come into
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the hard work community, becauseI am going to teach you and
support you step by step, andwalking out of the cycles of
burnout. And let's talk aboutthe cycles of burnout, right?
Because folks often ask PBJ, butI'm not burnt out. So can I
join? Yes, absolutely. Frank,you can join because this is not
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just about folks who are burntout, right? This is also about
folks who are in that survivingthings. Surviving is I got it,
things are fine. You know, workis fine, family's fine, we got
income, we're okay. Butsomething is nudging me, there's
pressure on me. And it feelslike everything's squeezing me
(10:53):
out. And I don't know what I didwrong. That surviving place.
That's your crisis ofbrilliance. That's your purpose,
calling you saying that it'stime to make a transition. And I
know that can be scary, becauseit feels like everything that
you leaned on to this date, youdon't have it to lean on
anymore, like it's falling away.
And I need to, I need toencourage your heart to let you
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know that it has to follow it.
If it doesn't fall away, you'llkeep leaning, you'll keep
leaning, you'll stay therecomfortable. But it's got to
fall away so that you can beeverything that God has created
you to be friend. So I'm here totell you if you are in
surviving. If you know there'smore if you have a vision if
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you're not even clear what itlooks like. But you know,
there's something that you needto get into the heart work
community that I met women lastnight, who are some of them have
a vision, some of them are notquite sure, but they know that
it has to be some other set. I'min rock bottom burnout right
now. PBJ. No matter where youare in the cycles, we can
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support you help you teach youwalk you through it. That second
phase of the cycles of burnoutis overwhelmed and overwhelmed,
your body starts screaming atyou, your mind is screaming at
you, your emotions are screamingthat to your relationships
scream at you, your environmentscreams at you, everything
around you says hey, we can'tkeep doing this. We can this is
(12:18):
not working. We cannot keepdoing this. You can barely
breathe in overwhelm, you justwant to run away. Like I just
need a break, I need to getaway, you want to run away
because everything in you issaying we've had enough. We've
had enough and we got to dosomething different. But you
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don't know what the differenceis. You don't know how to get
out of that space. It's like aroller coaster, and you want the
ride to stop. But nobody willstop it to let you off. If
you're in overwhelm,you need to join us. It's
critical. It's critical that youlearn how to break that cycle of
overwhelm. Because if you don't,then you find yourself in
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burnout. Overwhelmed as theWhisperer, burnout is the demand
you will stop. Burnout is the involuntary shutdown of something
your body, your mind, youremotions, or relationship, a
critical relationship, somethingbreaks, something breaks and
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burns. And I don't want you tofind yourself there. And if you
are there, I want you to knowthat you can recover. And you
can come back not in a way ofunless go up the hill and down
the hill up the hill and downhere. No, no more down the hill.
No more going back to burnout.
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Let's destroy the cycle. Let'sdisrupt the cycle. So you don't
have to keep going back andforth. So we are serving
everybody, no matter where youare. In the cycles of burnout.
We're serving you. And I want totalk to you about brilliants
because we're going from thecycles of burnout, to
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brilliance. When I saybrilliance. I'm talking about
your purpose. But let me bevery, very clear because I think
we're confused about whatpurpose is purpose and passion
are not the same thing. purposeand passion are not the same
thing. Purpose is your innate,unique brilliance, the gift that
you were given by God created tohouse it and you get it just by
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waking up and breathing purposeswhat you've done all your life
but you've never put value on itbecause somebody has never told
you it's valuable or because itcomes so easy to you you don't
think it's worth anything.
Purpose is the core of your EFSessence. Purpose is how you look
like your heavenly Father. It'syour spiritual DNA. It is the
gift in a unique to you thatflows from you flow freely no
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matter what you do or whatspeech you show it show up in.
That's the purpose. Passions arethe expressions of that. And we
get wrapped up in passionsbecause we define ourselves by
passions. I'm an educator, I'm ateacher, I'm a counselor, I'm a
social worker, I'm a speaker,I'm an author, those are all
expressions, none of those arethe purpose. Your job is not
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your purpose. Your title is notyour purpose, your salary is not
your purpose. All of that areexpressions of the innate,
unique brilliance that you werecreated to house. And you got to
identify your purpose, yourbrilliance from your passions,
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so that you will know that thatbrilliance is secure, it is
never gonna change. That is whatyou bring to the earth, but your
passions, they can change. Youcan add, you can change, you can
transition you can take away,passions are the expression is
how you share your brilliancewith the world. But purpose.
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That's the innate, uniquebrilliance that you were created
to house in the earth. When youknow that brilliance, there's a
fulfillment that comes over you,you don't expect your job to
fulfill you anymore. You don'texpect family members to fulfill
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you anymore. You don't expect tobe filled with anything else
except God,because you know why you're
here. And whether it's a goodday or not. So good day,
you go to bed, knowing that youdid exactly what you were
created to do, because you knowwho you are. And you've got to
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know who you I gotta share onemore foundation with you. This
is a new concept to me, that Godhas recently given me and I'm so
excited about it. This issomething that I write about in
the book. But I just want togive you a brief overview today.
Because in order to seetransformation, in order for
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things to change, there's aprocess of change. And that
process is head, heart, hands,head is the knowledge. Heart is
the belief, hands, the action.
There's a lot that you know,right now that you're not doing.
Knowing is not enough. Justlistening to the podcast is
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knowing. And knowing isimportant, is the first step to
transformation. But it's noteverything. It just leaves it
short, knowing is one thing, butyou got to get what you know,
Dan, into your heart to believeit. You got to start believing
what you know, until you believeis true for you, you will never
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see it in your hands. You haveheard my story over and over and
over. And you are convinced andyou know that it's true for me,
you know that my hope from 2019to 2023. My whole life has
transformed you've watched it,you've been a part of the
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journey, you are convinced thatis true for me. But in order for
it to impact your life, you needto be convinced that is true for
you. You need to know that thetrend for transformation that I
have experienced is true foryou. Not just for me, not just
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for me. And that is what we'redoing in the heart work Academy.
This coaching community is fullof women who are ready to walk
into their God given brilliance.
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So in short, how are we going todo this? We're going to meet at
least once a month, standardonce a month, but every now and
then we'll have an extrasession. We'll meet live. So
this is not me just talking. Andyou can leave comments we're
talking. We're all together onon an electronic platform.
Outside of our meetings. We havea group this is not a Facebook
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group. There's nothing againstFacebook groups. But we have a
group where we can communicateleave messages for each other,
respond to each other, thenwe're continuing to encourage
each other on a journey. Youhave a place to come we have a
tough day, you have a place tocome when you have a great day.
You have a place where you'regoing to be celebrated. You have
a place where you're going to bechallenged. It's not just me.
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But you haven't even met thesewomen that are a part of your
community and women from allover the country literally from
all over the country who havecome with light mind and like
heart to not just walk intotheir own brilliance and as
their brilliance evolves to getto know them. Brilliant, but to
support you and yours. So thiscommunity is pivotal is pivotal.
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And then you're going to getproven strategy I am going to
teach you, I told the folks onsocial media, this is the second
printing of my book. So thefirst printing was just for me
to read it cover to cover. And,and I made edits and changes,
and this printing went out to mybeta readers, right. So a group
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of women who have agreed to readit and give me feedback. But the
folks who are in the heart workAcademy, we are working this
thing, we're working this thing,they don't have to wait until
the book comes out. Becauseevery strategy in this book,
we're walking through ittogether. And not only am I
teaching it, but they are livingout the strategies. They're
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living out the strategies, andseeing the results from these
strategies. So friend, listen, Iwant you to know that this is
your opportunity. This is youropportunity. Well, When is the
deadline PBJ? Join now. Join nowget in now don't get behind.
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Don't wait, what are you waitingfor? At 30 bucks a month. It
won't always be that price isspecifically that price, because
God laid on my heart, that thereare some folks who need to be on
this journey, and need supporton that journey. But they're not
ready to make a huge investmentyet. So it's purposeful, that
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price is not about paying mybills, that price is an entry,
it's an invitation to come inand get what you know you need.
You've been waiting for yours.
You've been waiting for years,some of you have been on my
whole journey with me, andapplauding me along the way, but
not getting what you need. It'stime, this is the opportunity.
(22:01):
This is the opportunity to comeand be a part of this, of this
community of thistransformation. Get in now. Get
in now, let me just say this toyou all, I won't always be able
to be the coach in mycommunities. And it's probably
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going to happen quicker than Ithink I won't always be able to
be the one doing the coachingand the supporting directly. I
spoke with the woman the otherday, she's like, I can't believe
I'm actually meeting with you. Ithought I was gonna meet with
one of your people. And beforewe got off the phone, she said
you won't be able to do thismuch longer. Friend, while I'm
(22:45):
able to do this, I need you tocome now. Come now, I don't know
the whole story of what tomorrowlooks like I have a vision. I
have a vision and it's going tobe impactful no matter what. But
if you know you've beenconnected to me and my story,
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you need to join us now. BecauseI can't promise you what, six
months, two months, three monthsfrom now will look like get in,
get in here. Get in here. It'stime. 30 bucks a month. Heart
work academy.com. Heart work.
(23:28):
academy.com get registeredtoday. We will have our first
meeting on Monday the 22nd. Ifyou're watching this after the
22nd jump in, jump in now, goahead and get connected. Don't
question if you need moreconvincing than this, then maybe
you're not ready. And that'sokay. But for those of you who
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are ready, and those of you whoknow that this is the answer to
your prayer. If when I speak, Isound like I've been in your
prayer closet with you. If whenI speak I sound like I've been
sitting with you in your livingroom having a conversation, then
what are you waiting? What areyou waiting on this podcast
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platform I can share to you butI can't connect with you. You
need to get in a community withme. We need to walk this thing
out together. So that's it. Youmay come on in. That's the end
of the story. Now is the time,now is the time. You do have
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time you make time foreverything else where everybody
else. Make time for you once amonth for a couple of hours.
Once a month for a couple ofhours. You can't do that. If you
can't do that for you're notready. Okay, so let's do this.
Let's get it it's time todisrupt destroy those cycles, no
more cycles. No more cycles,destroy the cycle so that you
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can walk in brilliance. It isyour Turn is your turn. Let's
get it. As always friend, youknow that you are powerful. You
are significant. And you are soloved. You are loved. Do not
hesitate. Heart work.
academy.com Let's go. I'll seeyou in the background.
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