Boundaries, Standards & Cutting the Cord

SHOW #73! Season 3, Episode 4: Welcome to the disSOLViNG fear podcast! Find coaching, free resources, our monthly newsletter community and more at ⁠⁠⁠missalissa.com⁠⁠⁠

IN THIS EPISODE: We're talking about boundaries, standards, and cutting the cord to past resentments, old hurts, or people and experiences that you've already moved on from in life, but you keep thinking about or fixating on in your mind.

If you've been preoccupied or distracted by the past, tune in! Cut ties to anything that's still draining your energy in the new year. The cord cutting meditation starts 11 minutes into the episode, toward the end. You can do the practice anytime. The new year is a great time to cut any cords to things that no longer serve you: anything that weighs you down or feels like a ball and chain.

Cut the cord. Free yourself. Shift your focus in the new year!

Today, we're talking about what standards and boundaries are. I mention the book, "⁠Boundaries⁠," in this episode, so go ahead and click ⁠here⁠ to check out the book! It's been around for a long time and it's quite popular.

I also mention author and researcher Brene Brown. She gives some great advice about boundaries! Here is some of her advice:

1. Make a mantra like "It's better to set a boundary and feel awkward about it, then to have no boundaries and feel resentment about it." Say the mantra to yourself, or write it down.

2. Rehearse setting your boundaries out loud! Just say to yourself "my plate is full" or "I need alone time" or "I've already got enough going on" and rehearse those statements out loud while you vacuum your floor, drive to work, or wash your dishes.

Basically, YOU decide what's ok with you, and what's not ok, when it comes to what you need and what other people (your kids, co-workers, friends, etc) want from you. Prioritize your own needs.

Boundaries are great because YOU decide what to say "yes" to and "no" to. YOU decide when to accept or decline an invitation to go somewhere. YOU decide how to spend your free time, what to focus on, who to talk to, and how often.

If you liked this episode, you'll love my interview with Ashlie⁠ right here⁠⁠⁠ on the disSOLViNG fear podcast back in March, 2024! You can find the interview on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, or any platform by scrolling back to the March, 2024 episodes. Ashlie is a fitness expert and an entrepreneur who left a relationship with a narcissist AND found her tribe, all in one day. You'll love o